How Rami Finally Quit Porn (Step by Step)

Today we will be going over how my student Rami managed to quit porn and masturbation forever. Rami's longest streak before doing the Effortless Method was only 2 weeks. Yes, 14 days. And now he's completely free. He's getting married very soon, and he plans on starting a family right after that. So in this video, I will explain to you the exact steps that he took within the coaching program in order to quit permanently so that you can actually apply them to your own situation by just watching this video. Now, Take some notes because I'm going to give you the exact blueprint that helped him and my other students to quit permanently. And if you want to learn how to really quit porn and masturbation forever through our one-on-one coaching, then click the first link in the description and book a call with me. On that call, we will see if this approach is the right fit for you. And if either of us feels like it's not the right move, I'll just give you some tailored resources so that you can start making progress on your own. And if you want to watch the full interview, then click the second link in the description. Anyways, let's get into it.

I tried, you know, putting my— like, eliminating the source, putting my phone in a different room, uh, and then all of a sudden I'm watching porn on the laptop. Yeah, I tried to, you know, increase my spirituality to pray, which did help for a little bit, but then as soon as I forget to pray or I'm not in the right mood to pray, then I found myself watching porn again. I also tried a few, what do you call them, the porn block apps.

Yeah.

And I mean, they helped, like I said, for a day or two, and then You'll get to a point where, okay, I'll use the other device that doesn't have the porn block. And all of these methods, you know, they always felt very, they in a way magnified the issue for me rather than try to solve the issue. And a lot of them even tried to be, you know, from a religious approach. Which I thought was, you know, interesting in the beginning. Like, yeah, God does not want you to do this. Sex is not made this way. Sex is made for something more beautiful. But even with that, in certain moments when I was alone, I would still find a way to watch porn. So yeah, these are most of the methods that I tried. I tried the mindset of like, oh, when you feel the urge, just talk to someone, or Go exercise. And that would work 1 out of 5 times. It's very hard to upkeep. It's very hard to have people who are, you know, available to call anytime. And then it's also hard to, you know, step out of the room because the second I used to step in into watching porn or looking at pornographic images or whatever, it was— there's no coming back. Like I'm gonna keep watching until I release or until I fall asleep. So yeah, those, those are pretty much the methods I've tried. So I can tell I tried a lot of them, if not all of them.

Now, as you can see, Rami went over the techniques that he tried. And like he said, I think many people, you watching this, probably tried a few of them. And a big misconception that a lot of people have is that the desire to PMO is something that is natural to them, and therefore they will have to essentially fight it for the next few years or maybe for the rest of their lives until they're either married and they have constant intimacy or when they will essentially have no sexual drive whatsoever. And because of that, they go on a journey of constantly fighting off their own desires, which impacts their focus, impacts the progress in other aspects of life. It sometimes prevents them from really pursuing a real relationship, a real marriage to then build a real family. But it really doesn't have to be that way. Because when you really use a band-aid approach to your problems, meaning you fight off the urges, you try that technique where you put your phone outside of the bedroom, you go and try to be busy, be around other people, which are great things overall. I'm not saying that they're negative, but I'm saying you're really using short-term solutions. It's like you have a disease and all you do is you mask the symptoms and make you feel like the problem is not going to be there for the next few minutes or hours. But we all know that the disease is still there. And so this is why we really want to tackle the disease itself, AKA the root. And that is 80% at least of the process. When you really understand why do you have that desire in the first place, what's the real deep reason why? I'm not talking about loneliness. I'm not talking about this lack of purpose. I'm not talking about a lack of intimacy or a lack of excitement or because your life is boring and so on. I'm really talking about why do you have the desire in the first place? And when I did that with Rami right from the start, what I really did is what I call the subconscious alternation, which is understanding what's going going on in their mind unconsciously or subconsciously. That way you can really understand why does this person really want to watch porn, not on a surface level, but really on a deep level that they've never been conscious of. And this is personal to every individual because oftentimes what is in the unconscious, what is in the subconscious is linked to previous learnings, previous experiences, previous beliefs, and so on. And so with our one-on-one coaching, we really go and dive deeper into their personal situation, not a general understanding of what is the root cause of or why people have this specific desire, no, but for them specifically, because every individual is different at the end of the day. And when we really dive deeper into why they have that specific desire and they suddenly become aware of that through our one-on-one coaching sessions, it's like something just lights up in their minds and they're like, oh yeah, this is why I've been PMOing all of this time. Now that I'm really aware of it, I realize that it doesn't make sense anymore. Yes, it did make sense maybe back then because I was maybe younger or I didn't have the same information and I wasn't the same person, but now it doesn't. But because those those reasons were still unconscious, they were just operating based on them without really knowing why. And that instantly changes the desire for porn and masturbation. And as a byproduct, their desire really dissolves. Talking about like feeling like you're in control, can you go over like the things that really helped you the most when it comes to quitting porn? Like what we went over and overall what you found was like the most valuable to your situation?

Yeah, yeah, I think for me it was, you know, realizing that I'm in control. That was like the first, the entry to my rationalizing process. And then yeah, being able to rationalize, well, okay, do I really want to watch porn? What is porn gonna give me today? It's not gonna help in any of my problems. My problems are still gonna be there. It's not gonna help me love my wife better, or soon-to-be wife. It's not going to help me be a better person or be a better dad. And being able to look at the benefits. Okay, if this girl online looks very cute, does she actually? Is it real? Does she really want to be intimate with me? Because as human beings, we We have a natural tendency to seek intimacy, but you know, how we seek it is something that God made very clear for us. And I think, you know, a lot of people agree on that too. But regardless if they don't, porn is not providing that intimacy.

Now, right before this, we just went over why we don't have to fight our desires. Now, it's really important to understand that in the beginning, naturally, as you've practiced a certain habit for all of these years and you've been you're doing it for specific reasons, let's say for example, you've been wanting to escape life. And the moment you tell yourself, I'm not going to watch porn anymore, I'm not going to masturbate, I'm not going to engage in lust overall. And these things were the tool that you used in order to escape. Then what's going to happen is you might still desire those things because you might want an escape as you now face life and you have to face life and you can't escape. And that might feel uncomfortable. You might automatically think, oh yeah, well, watching porn used to be the thing that I could use in order to escape. So I should just do it again. And that's totally normal. Most people make the mistake of panicking and thinking that there's something wrong with their brain and maybe it's just because of the brain changes. And because of that interpretation alone, it makes it harder for them to even quit in the first place because then they interpret their own desires, their own desires that are just passing by as a battle to be fought whilst you can just interpret it as a passing by desire that has no power over you. And this is really where being able to rationalize and really feel like you are in control is crucial. And when we really think about it, when we look at other behaviors which are considered to be bad or addictive, like video games, like junk food, like certain types of entertainment, and so on. There were no battles to be fought where you would lose control over your own self. At least you didn't interpret it that way. And instead, you took the approach that you were in control, that you could rationalize, no, maybe I shouldn't eat junk food because I just learned that eating junk food might cause this disease. And on the flip side, it might give me all of these benefits which I really care about. And so when you were presented with the option between eating junk food or eating something healthy, you didn't think, oh no, I'm going to lose control because junk food is much more appealing from an evolutionary perspective. You didn't really think like that. Same thing with video games, which are basically, in my opinion, the best example of something that will be made in order to really hijack your dopamine system, as video games developers literally make the game as appealing as possible so that we constantly play it. But yet when it comes to leaving video games behind, we just rationalize, no, I don't want to play video games anymore because, or when we're presented with the opportunity to play, let's say we're bored and we have nothing to do and we think, yeah, maybe I can play video games. It will be nice. It will be fun. It used to be fun back in the days. We just rationalize, oh yeah, I mean, I could play, but I rather maybe work on this other thing. It's more pleasurable to me. It's more meaningful to me. But why is it that we don't do that with PMO? That's the question. And this is where NoFap really changed your perspective around quitting porn and made it a battle to be fought rather than an effortless choice. So what I tell I tell my students like Rami is to say, look, if you have the desire to do it, do not interpret that as a sign of failure or a sign that you're on the wrong path. And don't think, oh no, that means that I might fall again because I'm having the desire to do it again. I shouldn't do this. I'm going to feel shame. And essentially you start panicking in order to really avoid a potential relapse. Instead, your internal dialogue could be, yeah, I'll be honest. I do want to PMO right now. I do want to watch these videos. I do want to do it again. And you stay calm. You're like, this is just a desire I have. but let me ask myself, like, why do I even want to do it? And being honest with yourself. And then you might be like, okay, well, I feel lonely. I feel like I'm never going to have a partner in my life. And I feel like I'm unworthy right now because I haven't achieved anything. And then when you really have like the real reasons and why you want to do it, because you're honest with yourself, it's going to be so much easier for you to just think, well, okay, but PMO is not going to help me with that. And your desire is just going to boom, dissolve like this. And you're also probably, just because you're rationalizing, going to think of other options which are going to make you feel better instantly. So for example, if someone's like, oh yeah, I don't know if I'll get intimacy, I'm just there lonely, I don't have anything that I can do with my life, I feel like I've achieved nothing. If he's rationalizing, he's like, okay, yeah, I do want to PMO for that reason. But actually, if I were to maybe look at other options, maybe I can I can go to the gym and build my physique, which is probably going to increase the likelihood that I actually get a partner as I will be able to attain a certain physique. Or maybe I'm going to start this project that might change my life if I were to really focus on it. And then he's like, oh, well, because I have these options now, PMO is even more irrelevant because sadly, and this is a hard pill to swallow, and this is not me trying to be passive-aggressive, I do want to tell you this and I do want you to really apply this. It's not about feeling shame or trying to put yourself down. But there's no such thing as you losing control over your own desires to PMO. There's no such thing such as you losing control over your own desires to PMO. So many times I go on Reddit, I go on the internet and I see people saying, I really wish I could stop this, but it's like, it overpowers me. I lose control of my own self and I act like an animal. And it might feel that way. I do sympathize with you on that. It used to feel that way for me too. But what's really happening is because you believe that, you act according to that. It's a simple self-fulfilling prophecy. And once you break that illusion, you realize you were always in control. You made the decision to lose control. And again, this is not me trying to be passive-aggressive. In that situation, I can ask you a simple question that's going to really change your perspective. Let's say that you do lose control over yourself oftentimes and you feel like PMO essentially overpowers you. The triggers, they force you to relapse. Let's say that's the case. If I were to say I'll give you $10 million, but the catch is you can't even watch porn for another second of your life, for the rest of your life, literally $10 million. And of course, let's say that you care about money and you really want that money. Would you really end up watching porn again and end up losing that $10 million because you lost control over yourself? Or in that situation, would the concept of losing control be something that's not even a possibility? And so I'm saying this because objectively, you do not lose control. Sure, if you add a mental illness, then that's different, but that's not That's not the case for pretty much 99% of people that are trying to quit porn and masturbation. And when you really ditch that mindset, what's going to happen, like Rami said, is that you're going to be able to just look at the benefits of not PMOing, of doing something else that would be more productive or better for you overall, and you'll only end up winning. And you'll overall just have a much easier time quitting PMO, just like any other habits.

Once I realized that what's, what's attracting me to the porn is what I think of the porn and not the porn itself. And I remember when you first said that, you know, our brains, as amazing as they are, God's best creation probably, they can only process one thought at a time. And when you said that the first time, my brain blew up. And realizing in that moment that I think, okay, I want to watch porn, the second thought would be like, okay, why do I want to watch porn? And as soon as that kicks in, I'm like, oh, I have no proper answer. I have no benefit if I watch porn right now. But on the other hand, I have tons of benefits that if I don't watch porn, what am I able to do? I'm able to work out instead of wasting 15-20 minutes watching porn. I can do a 15-20 minute workout and sweat. I can go do something to improve my current situation, to look at my finances, to spend quality time with my, you know, fiancée, to read, to pray. So just realizing that I never actually wanted to watch porn, I was just escaping everything in my life through porn, and realizing that, you know, porn is not going to help me in any way.

Like Rami said, the meaning of porn is not the video itself, it's what you think you can get from the video. The meaning of porn is not the video itself, it's what you think you can get from the video itself. So what we did by obviously going over his root cause straight from the start in our one-on-one coaching sessions, we realized that one of the major reasons why he really wanted to watch porn, aka the meaning he was giving to porn, was that he wanted to escape something specific in his life, which was part of the root cause. And so one key to really understanding your subconscious is looking at what did you learn early on from your porn consumption. Specifically, what did you believe that porn or masturbation was giving you back then? Not just right now, but back then. So I saw across different coaching sessions that he would always bring up a specific topic in regards to his past. And I'm not just talking about trauma or something, but something that happened at the same time that he started to watch porn. And so there was a connection. And with that, we were able to start working on devaluing the behavior so it's not as appealing anymore.

Anymore.

So because he was overall using porn mostly as an escape for these specific things, not only did I explain to him the single thought concept, which you might have come across before, which is that your mind can only think of one thought at a time, it cannot have two thoughts at the same time. And that's really useful to know because it means that the stress relief, the emotional relief, and overall relief itself from specific problems, challenges, adversity that you face in life doesn't happen because of certain chemicals within a substance or PMO or or even as people think the release that occurs. The real relief happens because you go from thinking of this one thought, which is, for example, you think about this stressful event that happened at work, and now you're trying to escape from that. The relief happens not because of you releasing or you masturbating or you watching porn, but because you switch your focus from that specific stressful event that you're thinking about constantly to anything else. The relief happens because you switch your focus from this specific thing to anything else. If someone is stressed out because of this specific stressful event, He can relieve his stress by binging on food, by reading a book, by going on a run, by hanging out with some of his friends, by taking a walk. Essentially anything that is going to take your focus away from this. And once you understand this, you understand that porn is not a special escape because of dopamine, nor masturbation is, nor fantasy is, nor masturbation is. I mean, you could literally be stressed out of your mind and feel a lot of emotional pain, feel depressed, and then suddenly you decide to just entirely focus on fantasizing about intimacy. And you'll see that you won't feel that same depression anymore. You're going to feel whatever you're thinking about because emotions comes from how we think of things. When we think about, they don't come from specific external factors, specific external triggers like that stressful event. They come from how we think of that stressful event. And Rami really realized, okay, well, PMO is just me going from thinking about this thing that's stressing me out or that's causing emotional distress to anything else. Oh, to thinking about intimacy or the video that's in front of me or the sensations of masturbation, whatever. And On top of that, with the use of personalized videos, which are videos I make for my students based on specific things that they need help with, based on what I think they need help with, and based on their questions that they have themselves, I make 10 to 20 minute videos just for them based on their situations. So for Rami, what I did specifically is I really changed his perspective around escaping from his problems through using porn. What I did based on knowing him and various one-on-one coaching sessions, as well as a specific process that we have in order to really get specific information based on the situation of our students. What I did is I increased the perceived value of not escaping true porn by aligning whatever he desired the most, which was around becoming a better husband, becoming a soon-to-be good father, and overall expressing himself and having that confidence, which are 3 of the things that matter to him the most. What I did is I presented the option, the decision to not escape, as something that would directly help him with those specific things that he desired, the goals I just mentioned of becoming a better husband, being more confident, becoming a better soon-to-be father, and so on. And you do that through presenting evidence, logic, sometimes studies, research, and tangible potential outcomes. And that creates that strong conviction that, oh yeah, it is a no-brainer for me now to escape again with PMO because I'm going to gain so much from not escaping.

So-called post-nut clarity that I was a huge fan of, I realized I can obtain that clarity without I can literally obtain that without having to, you know, think about the porn. And if I do think about it, be able to debunk its importance and its value. And that to me was a game changer, is that I am in control of this. It's not— yes, the devil works in a lot of ways, but it's not the devil attacking me. It's not those girls inviting me, even though the ads pop up on every screen. It's me who is in control of all of this.

Talking about the post-nut clarity myth, most people think you can only feel relieved if you actually have a release through masturbation or intimacy. And so what happens is a lot of people fantasize constantly. PMO or just intimacy as a whole is constantly on their minds, or what other people call lusting. It might even get to the point where they're in public and they just can't stop looking at women, and that impacts their focus because that's all there is on their mind. They can't even really work on their projects and what matters to them, and they can't really think clearly. And so they come to a conclusion rationally, even though they might not want to admit that this is rational, but they think, well, look, I'll just PMO, or I'll just masturbate, let's say. Or even they might go to a point of intimacy through specific outlets that are going against their morals and values because they think at this point it's better to have mental clarity and to really satisfy that desire and not have to deal with it, with it constantly being on my mind, it being the only thing that I really think about. But the truth is you don't even need to release in order to remove that sexual tension. Because as I teach my students, sexual relief is not entirely dependent on external factors like a physical release. It is actually mostly dependent on internal factors, meaning you make the decision to fantasize. You do make the decision to think about sex all day long. I'm not saying this in a passive-aggressive way. Instead, I want to help you realize that you are actually the one initiating that, and therefore you are in control of that. Because on the flip side also, you can watch porn, masturbate, engage in all type of lustful behaviors constantly, frequently, and yet still think about intimacy a few minutes after you're done and have it on your mind constantly. Because how are sexual desires work is that yes, we have a natural desire for intimacy. Yes, we have a natural predisposition to want to be with the opposite sex in order to reproduce. We have similar instincts like animals do, but we have the cognitive, meaning we get to decide with our own mind, unlike animals, to take a decision to act according to what we believe would be best or what we believe to be true. So we have complete control over over how we decide to use that natural desire for intimacy. And the truth is, this is what I personally preach, is you can have the desire to be with women and want intimacy naturally, okay? Like, you're motivated to actually work on yourself so that you can, for example, be married and really reproduce at one point, have a family, engage in real intimacy. And that's going to drive you. You can have that internal drive for that without having to constantly fantasize about it or think about it. It's like that internal drive, that desire to be with women, is going to be there anyway. Ways. Just like you might have the desire to help your parents, that doesn't mean you need to constantly fantasize about what it's going to be like the moment you give them money, for example. Instead, you focus on the action to get to that outcome. And you can do the same exact thing with intimacy.

With these personalized videos, um, you know, they were very motivational at first, and that external motivation was very necessary for me to find that intrinsic motivation, which we spoke about and its importance, because, you know, the key for all of this is for you to not want to watch porn. If the whole world wants you to stop watching porn, but you don't want to stop watching porn, then this won't help. But being able to, you know, intrinsically motivate myself very, you know, calmly instead of forcing myself or suppressing pressing myself from not watching it or throwing my phone into the other room. Um, intrinsically being motivated, be like, oh, okay, I feel this urge— if you want to call it an urge, it's just a thought.

Yeah.

Um, I have this thought, I want to watch porn, but the second thought is, okay, do I really want to? And then you're able to, you know, as simple as it sounds, talk yourself out of of it and be motivated to do other things that will relieve some of the problems you have, face some of the problems you have, or just use your time wisely. And once I was able to do that, it became much easier. Yes, I'm still a human being. I get horny. I think of sex, but I don't have to act on it. And you know, God is able to help you out of these temptations once you're able to acknowledge the temptation itself and what it is that you're actually feeling, you know. So that's what helped me the most with those personalized videos, being able to look at the history that I've had with porn, the perception that I had of porn, which is very important, and also Why did I like watching porn? Or why did I— like I used to tell you, I automatically go to porn. Um, so those were the things that helped the most.

Again, with the personalized videos, which are something that my students love, as Rami mentioned, we can create that intrinsic motivation because we're aligning whatever they desire, whatever they are personally intrinsically motivated to do. I can align with these personalized videos, for example, the decision to not watch porn, and that makes you want to actually not watch porn anymore because you just see so much value, see so many reasons to not watch it when they are presented, especially with whatever you desire internally. To give you an analogy, imagine when you were younger and your parents would always tell you, you need to eat the veggies, you need to really eat the broccolis, the carrots, they're good for you, son, like you really need to eat them. You might know that, yeah, objectively, like they're probably better than ice cream, but you still want to eat ice cream, you still want to eat desserts, you don't want to eat the veggies. But then as you grow up, or as you come across information around eating veggies and why it's actually better for you and how it might align with specific goals that you have. So for example, to give you a personal anecdote, I've went to an extreme with diets because at that time one of my goals was to get rid of my acne that I had, which I believe impacted my confidence and my ability to attract the opposite gender. And because of that, I was so motivated to eat healthy that I, I would basically never cheat on my diet, that my intrinsic motivation was so strong, nothing was going to shake it off because I really, really wanted to be confident and really attract the opposite gender. And I that eating healthy would be the only way. So guess what? It went from my parents telling me, yeah, you should eat healthy, you should eat the veggies, you should eat this and that. So now I really want, and I wouldn't eat them, obviously. So now being like, yeah, I really want to eat the veggies, and I really have that internal conviction that this is what I want to do. And you can do the same exact thing with any behaviors. This is what actually we coach our students once they quit porn and masturbation. We really look at other aspects of their that they want to tackle as well.

When you and I had the conversation, it was very different, and I still had doubts about like, how, how will you— how will this help me, you know, fix the physiological, physiological changes that happened to my brain that they used to talk about?

Yes.

And I also had other doubts of like, how will I be able to be intimate with my wife again? You know, my fiancée? How will I be able to be intimate with her if all I think about is porn and porn is, you know, taking over my life? And then think about all these so-called studies of like, your body needs to ejaculate every 20 days or whatever. or how many times per month. So yeah, those were the doubts of like, okay, physiologically and biologically and true intimacy, like those are the things where, you know, as a human being I was very scared for. But I feel like those doubts were very easily cleared up.

The Journal of the Public Library of Science in 2013 showed that the reduction in gray matter in specific regions regions of the prefrontal cortex actually reversed over several months of abstinence. And now we're talking about drugs like hard drugs, heroin, cocaine, alcohol, and so on. They went back to normal baseline after 6 to 12 months of abstinence. But what's actually really interesting is that the gray matter volume actually continued to increase beyond baseline after those 6 to 12 months, because abstinence obviously requires some type of sustained and consistent cognitive repetitive efforts. So just to simplify this, the study really showed that your brain changes. Yes, that happens with anything that you repetitively do. We're going to go into neuroplasticity soon, but your brain goes back to normal anyways after 6 to 12 months. And we're talking about hard drugs which are ingested in the body, meaning that they do have real bodily effects, but that after going back to baseline, going back to normal, the brain actually continued to develop in a positive way where the brain actually grew. And so in our coaching program, we really explain how neuroplasticity works because a big fear that people have is the famous picture of your normal brain and then your brain on drugs and then your brain on porn. And it shows that your brain on porn is apparently worse than your brain on drugs. But then people just take that on the surface and take, oh look, that shows that I'm essentially in big trouble. But they don't understand the full context. They don't understand what's really happening and what that actually means. Brain changes are not something to be scared of. Brain changes are simply there in order to facilitate the process of doing the behavior again, and they do not cause the behavior. They do not trigger the behavior. Think about it like this. There were studies actually on, for example, taxi cab drivers in London, in the United Kingdom, where they had brain changes, to simplify it, because they had to remember so many different streets that they had to work on their memory essentially. And that actually, with brain scans, they showed that there were certain parts of the brain that were more developed, that changed the same way that our brain changes. Now, of course, your brain might change faster with emo, as oftentimes there's different factors involved. For example, if emotions are involved, then it can have an impact on how fast those brain changes occur and how strong they can be. But at the end of the day, your brain changes are there again in order for you to spend less mental energy, spend less time, and make it more automatic for you to do the behavior again the moment you choose to do the behavior again, not a trigger. The brain will just— won't just like trigger you, it will just facilitate the process of doing the behavior again. So for example, the first time you walk watch porn. If you were to go back, and even when it comes to masturbation, it's like you do it and you spend a lot of time, you're not sure which videos to click on, you scroll, you don't know how the website works. And now after years of doing it, you know it like in a millisecond, like which website to go on, how to do the whole routine without going too much in depth. And you can do it like that rather than having to spend all of that mental energy into figuring out, okay, which website should I go on? Okay, how would I PMO again? Which position? Whatever. Then Rami mentioned the famous Harvard follow-up study that found that men that ejaculated 21 times a month had a lower relative risk of being diagnosed with prostate cancer compared to those that did it 4 to 7 times per month. And Rami, like many people, used to believe that. I used to believe that, to be honest, when I was younger, despite the fact that we know, according to maybe our morals and values, that God essentially forbade masturbation. So there's somewhat of that contradiction in, in our minds. So in our coaching programs, we have videos directly debunking that exact same myth so that you can really be assured that no, this is no big deal. And there's, there's misconceptions that we can tackle about that. There's different ways to really understand what actually prevents prostate cancer and what's really the relationship with that. So you really have that internal conviction that, yeah, I don't need to actually release. And on top of that, I explained to him through videos, the natural process, what we call this a self-cleansing mechanism that the body has in order to release on its own anyways through natural emissions, aka wet dreams. And if semen isn't ejaculated, the body will naturally break it down and reabsorb it. And this happens through a normal biological process called phagocytosis.

And then definitely feeling like, you know, our conversations and our way of communication did not feel like, you know, you were commanding me or forcing me to do things. Matter of fact, you were just helping me learn more about myself and about what would work for me and how I'm able to be in control of all of this. So it was a proper form of guidance and mentorship, which I feel like is very necessary for a lot of people in life, not just with, you know, porn or masturbation or any of the problems, but helping people find the truth within themselves. And that's something I was very, very grateful to.

As Rami just explained, the way that I coach students is not telling them, no, you shouldn't do this. Oh no, you failed again. Let's motivate you so that you don't do this bad habit again. Matter of fact, I tell my students, it's not even about success or failure. We're not even playing that game. We're not playing the NoFap game. And that ironically makes it easier to succeed according to NoFap standards or according to, to the overall recovery ideology and their definition of success, which is most oftentimes complete abstinence. So what we really went over is essentially understanding the individual on a deep enough level so that we can really present quitting porn as not only a decision to be made, which can be completely effortless, but also aligned with that individual. Because everything is personalized, it makes sense to them and they can really understand it. And they end up saving all of those years of mental struggle and trying to figure out and trying the new techniques and so on. And they can straight go to the root and straight go through a process that is personalized to them, which will make it much faster and much easier for them to quit porn, masturbation, and the fetishes permanently. Now, of course, I didn't just coach him over one coaching session. We had various coaching sessions about once a week on average.

I feel like this program was something that I wasn't, you know, expecting. And due to the media and how it portrays porn, and being able to realize that, you know, porn is just another thing that you can decide to not do, not watch.

Yes.

So yeah, I really, really like this program, and I don't think I can recommend it enough.

And you and I have talked about this before, where where, you know, I feel like this message is very important that I'm willing to share with others and let them know that, you know, a lot of people don't want to talk about porn or lust or PMO. And a lot of people treat it like, oh yeah, we're all men, we all want to do this, we all have this problem, and just, you know, sweep it under the rug. But I think it should be exposed, it should be talked about, and this is the right way to talk about it. Because, you know, everything comes from within. So yeah, I am more than happy that I'm able to do this, but I'm also, you know, looking forward to spread this message with any certain person who wants to actually quit porn.

And as you can see, quitting PMO can be a simple decision. And of course, that decision really sticks when the right changes are put in place. And when that happens, quitting porn doesn't feel like a constant fight anymore because it was never meant to be that way anyway. Anyways. And also it really leaves much more time, mental energy, focus on becoming the person that they want to become and really achieving their goals and pursuing their dream lives. And Rami is one of the best examples of this. He's officially getting married in about 2 months at the time of recording this video. He's planning on starting a family very soon. He's got a new job. He increased his confidence and his ability to express himself by a ton compared to when I first talked to him. And his life is just going up and up and up. And you can do the same thing. It's not that hard. If you really want to learn how to quit PMO for the rest of your life through our one-on-one coaching program, then click the first link in the description. You can book a call with me. We'll see if you're the right fit. And if not, I'll again, just give you some tailored resources that will be useful to your situation that you can take a look at on your own. And if you want to watch the full interview that I did with Rami, then you can click the second link in the description.