How to Finally Quit Porn in Just 10 Hours

This is a course I made after coaching hundreds of men to quit porn, masturbation, and lust for good. It took me over 50 hours to build this in-depth course, which now includes over 8 hours of powerful content plus 2 hours of bonus videos covering everything you need to break free. Inside the course, I go deep into topics like how to eliminate urges from the root, removing sexual tension, desexualizing your mind, dealing with loneliness, understanding dopamine, dealing with fantasies and fetishes, rewiring your self-image, learning how to wait until marriage with ease, using your desire for intimacy as a weapon for growth, and finally, how to break free forever, giving you everything you need so that you can not only quit for a few weeks, a few months, but forever, effortlessly. And this is not surface-level advice. This is the exact blueprint that helped my students like Josh, Julio, who are some of the people I've coached that are now over 500 days free, or people like George and Raul who went on and started a second business, traveled the world, planning to start families. And we have many more students that we interviewed like Lee, Joey, David, and much more. We currently have a 90% success rate for those that actually complete the program. And I didn't stop there. We added a new 2.0 course with numerous extra bonus videos. And now I'm personally creating for every student custom video breakdown, tailored written documents to guide you through your specific journey. But these are things that our students that paid for the mentorship have access to. But I wanted to give you guys the 8-hour course that I gave them, that they paid me for, for free today because my goal is to help 1 million men quit porn forever. And I know that this course, if you take it seriously, it can be your first major step and you can not only make a ton of progress but quit forever if you take it seriously again. Because what is the difference between you and my successful students? The information, the process, and your willingness to go all in. Now, of course, my students have access to, to so many other things such as unlimited one-on-one help, personalized advice, a personalized blueprint, and so many other things that are personalized to their own situation where I personally do it for them. So with this course, watch it carefully, take notes, turn off all distractions. And if you have any questions, DM me on Instagram and I'll personally respond back to you. And if you wanna know more about my one-on-one coaching so that you can learn how to quit porn, masturbation, and lust forever, as soon as possible, in a matter of a few weeks, then click the first link in the description so that you can get more info. Now guys, let's jump into the video. Grab some popcorn and focus. Guys, welcome to the first video of this course. And this video, I'm not gonna lie, okay? This is what changed my life outside of like all of this, these things about quitting porn, quitting masturbation, lust. This is actually like very important that you understand this, okay? Because if you don't have this already, then It's literally not, porn aside, right? And masturbation aside and lust aside, it's literally one of the reasons why you sometimes don't feel good throughout the day, right? Now, I'm not saying not feel good. I'm saying you're not the man that you want to be, okay? That you're not nowhere near, you're not even putting in the action in the first place, okay? And this is what I meant by not feeling good. So you know that you could get to another level in your life, whether that be you want to get married, whether that be you want to start a family, whether that be you want to become best man so you can become a role model so that women look up to you, so that your community look up to you, but you don't because of this, because if you haven't been able to do that properly, if you've tried it, yeah, maybe you've tried it, but it wasn't proper. And this is very important that you do, okay? I'm actually, I have the workbook. As the time I'm recording this, it is not yet launched. I just sent it to my editor so that can edit it, but you guys will soon have access to that and will be sent straight to your door. Within a few days, okay? Straight from Amazon. It's gonna be just for my clients, okay? For you, my students. Now look, you're gonna be able to write it on that workbook, but I also want you to write it on a Google Doc. If you write it more than once, it's actually beneficial, okay? And this changed my life forever, man. It made me go from the guy who just did self-improvement, just did a bit of improving there and there, doing meditation, feeling lonely, doing, facing challenges and basically almost crying about it, feeling pain, all of those things, feeling just down bad. And even sometimes going back to porn and masturbation, to be honest, at that time when I didn't have those things, right? When I was also, I mean, I was struggling with porn and masturbation, but it was the time where I was not really just, it was way less. I decreased it a lot at that time, right? But I was still, I was still, it felt like something was missing. And this is what you're gonna learn. You're gonna learn what is missing and how to actually add that to your life. It's gonna help you so much with life that as a byproduct, obviously this course will be way easier for you because you're gonna see it's one of the fundamental reasons why some people succeed in life and why some people don't. And just to give you some context, just so you think, oh no, but you're just a NoFap coach and you don't have much to show off. And I don't wanna show off, but I've been able to do many things where I literally went from the guy who thought I would never attract a woman in my entire life. I thought that I was just too ugly, that no one would want me, that also that I was getting bullied even when I was improving myself, right? Working out, doing all of those things, I was getting bullied. I was just down bad. I was quote unquote depressed, even though I don't believe in depression. I was overall just, my life was bad. Like my life was bad in a sense that obviously I thought about suicide many times. I was so lonely. I literally had no friends. I literally had no friends. And when I'm saying no friends, I'm genuinely saying zero friends. Okay. Spending my entire day just reading books about self-improvement, proving myself. At that time I dropped out of college. And I was just doing the same things over and over again. And then even when I went to college, I couldn't relate to the people because it was just a life of being dangerous and doing nothing with their life. So I just dropped out and I was lonely even at college, right? And my life was just in shambles, right? For over almost 2 years, I had no friends, right? And man, I wasn't getting respect from anyone too, right? It wasn't like, oh, you want to be my friend? People didn't want to really be my friend that much, right? And there was many things I was so weak, I was fragile. If someone said something to me, I would be feeling, I would feel mad and also I would feel, I mean, I was fragile basically. But everything changed and trust me, everything changed once I implemented this and followed it. Let's talk about it. And this will allow you to really change your challenge, face your challenges and adversity in a masculine way, meaning that you're not gonna be crying about it, but you're actually gonna be comfortable and you'll be able to just go through your challenges and grow from them, okay? You'll naturally get rid of things which don't align with that vision, okay? You'll naturally get rid of those things that are bad for you, whether that be like you feel weak, whether that be that day to day you, for example, look at women with lust, right? And even though there's a video on this specifically, whether that be that you don't push yourself at the gym and you just sometimes stay lazy, whatever, right? Small things that add up to a big thing, such as being able to attract, for example, a partner that you're gonna have a romantic life with and being able to be a family, right? Me, myself, I'm not married yet. I'm still young, as you probably know, I'm 20, almost 21. But I can tell you that Ever since I changed, I changed, I applied this, okay? And trust me, it changed my life forever. Ever since I changed this, like, I literally had many women that wanted to be with me, okay? And I'm not saying this to brag, right? But I'm just saying this from going from a guy that thought that would, that literally never had any, no woman would be attracted to me. Only talked to 2 women in high school and then everything changed. Ever since that happened, women actually because of this specifically actually are attracted to me because no, let's be honest, okay? I know I'm going on attention, but I don't care. No woman, I mean, no men nowadays really have this. Just think about it, okay? Not many men, except if they're very successful, right? But other than that, not many men have this. Like I'm saying, maybe 1%. I'm genuine, right? When I talk to people in real life, I always ask them questions based on that, which we're gonna cover. And they literally don't have it, okay? And you literally just change your life, right? And you know I'm talking about the vision and the reason why, but the vision, okay? And this is not just goal setting, but when you have that and you're so focused on that, I'm not saying that you force yourself, it's just you naturally are focused on that. Women just love it because it's like you're not just wanting to be in a relationship and you're doing a bit of habits to improve yourself. You're literally going towards something so big, whether that be in terms of meaning, whether that be in terms of achievement, that it's attractive. I mean, it's the equivalent of you wanting a feminine woman. She wants a masculine man that actually follows someone, right? And that's how I attract a woman even though I literally talk to like one woman a month. I mean, I don't talk, I don't date or anything. And look, I can cold approach, talk to women, but I don't, from my own lifestyle, I don't date. But I can tell you that the women I do meet are all attracted to me, right? And again, I don't want to brag. I don't want to seem this like, oh, Samir's just trying to make him feel like he's big, right? No, I'm just, I'm genuine, right? Women always attracted to me nowadays because of that. Once they know about that, obviously. If they don't know, then it wouldn't make sense. Okay? Now look, you'll be so hyped with the vision that you won't care as much about failures and what other people think. And I'm not saying those things as in to hype you up even though it's not really real or it's too exaggerated. It's actually the truth. You'll literally stop caring about what other people think because you're going to be so aligned and hyped that anything that goes against that is not really going to take too much of your mind's power. I mean, your mind space because Think about it, okay? If you, if you really just— let's say, let's say for example something very good happens to you, like you win the lottery, right? You're not really going to think about the people that bullied you in the past, right? You're not going to think about those things right now. Obviously I'm not saying that's impossible, but I'm just saying that naturally you'll want to just focus on whatever you have in front of you, aka the money, for example. Now if you have the vision, it's the same thing, but the vision always stays. Money Winning the lottery is not like the same. Yeah, you get the feeling once you win it and then the next few weeks, but this literally always stays at a base level that makes you feel way more hype. You can sleep less and you'll literally feel better. It's that powerful. It's not even a joke. It's that powerful. You'll push yourself in your daily life to another level. Yes, you'll literally go and because, okay, imagine that you will work out just because you want to look better and be more healthy. Cool. I mean, these are good reasons. But if you want to work out because in your vision you want to have a family with 6 kids and a woman that looks up to you and you're the leader in your community, and so you want to have a good physique so that you can basically be more of an authority and show your leadership and inspire people and impact people, then look, going to the gym is not going to hit the same. Going to the gym will be way more fun. It will be something that you push yourself to and you'll want to be able to go to the gym because you'll want to be having a family with these kids, right? That's why I never miss a gym. I mean, obviously if I can't not go to the gym, then I won't go. But if I can, I'm always going to the gym, right? I love it because I'm like, oh, I want to become so jacked. So when I have my future kids, they're going to be able to look up to me. And even the dark benefits, right? My woman will be more sexually attracted to me. My woman won't be able to keep her hands out of my body, right? That's how I see it, right? Like out of my body. I mean, she's always going to want to touch me and that, yeah, okay, I want that. Yeah, maybe it's ego, but look, it's not just motivation, it's drive and anger, which becomes drive and anger doesn't just disappear. You'll naturally want to do the work in order to get there. That's how you change your life. That's how you go from, I don't want to wake up today, I don't really want to work, to, man, I want to accomplish this stuff, right? You'll add meaning in everything you do. You'll literally— because look, I mean, if you're doing something, just you're eating healthy just to eat healthy, but bro, it's not, you know, okay, cool, you know, you're gonna die. So what's the point of eating healthy? But if you eat healthy because you want to be fertile, so when you have kids, you have the best kids, and when you have the best kids, you're able to just live your best life, whatever, right? You see what I mean? You eat healthy, maybe you want to be able to teach your kids to eat healthy, maybe to have a better physique, and it all ties back to the vision. That's the power of this. It all ties back to the vision, okay? And it's not like you're putting yourself in a cage by following the vision. It's the opposite. You put yourself in this kind of like natural drive towards that vision where it's like you just want to do it. It's not even like I got to, it's like you want to. You'll naturally become more of a role model for others because look, if you're going somewhere and 99%, and when I say 99%, I know it's cliché, whatever, everyone says this in the self-improvement space, but look, I'm saying like literally 99%, literally 99%. And I'm pretty sure if there were statistics, that would be the case, right? People do have goals, right? People do have goals like, oh yeah, I would want maybe to become a millionaire. I would want to maybe have a family, but People, first of all, don't put in the work because they don't have clarity. They don't have clarity. They don't know why. They don't know where exactly they're going and why. So when you have that, you're literally ahead of all of these people. And women will like you more because you're following your vision, purpose, goals. You'll be more masculine. I've been told again by women, they've told either people I know or they've told me that it's the fact that you really follow your purpose, your vision, your goals, and you don't care about anything else is attractive and they respect that, okay? It's really that simple, guys. It's not like rocket science, okay? But you need to do it, okay? I mean, you need, I mean, if you want to, okay? But look, you need clarity. Make a short-term vision and a long-term vision, okay? It's like, imagine that you go towards life, okay, with this, okay? Imagine that your goal right now is to go on a vacation Not a vacation, sorry. You want to go to a specific end destination, right? Let's say that you want to go from Florida to California. Okay? Now going from Florida to California, yeah, by car. Yeah. I mean, it's going to take quite, I think maybe 3 days, right? Now let's take the time side, right? Let's just say that we have a starting point, which is your home. Okay? Your home where it's comfortable, where it's what you know, where it's like you've been living there your whole life. It's, it's basically you, okay? And then you have that end destination, which is like Maui, which is like the Maldives, like, which is like the best place on Earth. Or maybe we can say Florida, right? In that, in that sense, okay? And that's your, that's your end destination, right? It doesn't have to be like a specific place. I'm just saying metaphorically, you have an end destination, right? If you, okay, and you get the map, whatever, right? Now, if you go and say, you know what, I'm going to go to that destination. And you don't really even know where the end destination really is. You don't really even have directions. You don't even know why you're going there in the first place besides for some shallow reasons. And you just overall kind of like say, you know what, I'm going to do it because everyone else is doing it, because everyone else yeah, I kind of want to do it, right? Or I got to do it. And then you compare that to someone who says, okay, the end destination in this specific place at this specific time with all of these details. And the reason why I want to go there. And you have specific sets of reasons that makes it like you need to go there almost, right? That you saw it's deep within you that you really want to go there. And that it's just something that, okay, you really, you had the directions too, right? Because you've made up a plan because you really wanted to go there. Between those two scenarios, between those two people, who do you think is going to give up when there's going to be obstacles and challenges in front of them? Who do you think is going to give up when he gets lost? Who do you think is going to give up and go back to his home and what's the end destination is quote unquote vision, his future self, right? It's the person he wants to become with the achievements, with how he's going to feel, all of those things, what he's going to do, what he's going to bring to this world. That's the end destination. Who is going to actually get to the end destination and who's going to actually just stay home? Because the thing is, when you don't have that vision, when you don't have that reason why, what happens is you just adventure yourself and then you face obstacles, you face challenges and you're like, this is not comfortable and my house is comfortable. Let me go to what is comfortable, AKA what you always have been in life. And I'm not saying this to shame you, right? You're a good human being. I mean, you have many good things about yourself, right? But when you know where you're going. And that doesn't have to be like, oh, you're gonna have supercars, you're gonna have a mansion, whatever. It's just things that matters to you, right? It's just what is the end destination? What actually matters to you? Because if it doesn't matter to you, first of all, and you don't even know exactly where you're going, then look, I mean, your home, where you've been all of your life and staying in the same position is gonna look extremely attractive. But on the opposite side, when you really know the end destination, all of those things, you're willing to face those challenges, you're willing to face adversity, you're willing to get lost in order to get to end destination because you know these obstacles, those challenges are just literally tools in the sense that you can use those challenges to grow and go even further and faster towards the end destination. Okay? It's really that powerful. Now the end destination is so much, attractive that the own who you used to be is not even attractive anymore. Like it's that powerful, okay? This is not goal setting, it's much deeper. Take a good amount of time, this will help you tremendously in life, like tremendously, okay? Here's a few examples, okay? So this is mine, as you can see here, okay? Because me personally, I love like having a vision. It's just been something that's been a part of my life for I think maybe a year now, right? And look, okay, I basically, and I've been able to achieve a lot of things because of that, okay? What happens is also with the vision is naturally you gravitate towards it. It's like subconsciously you just go towards it. It's like you give yourself a specific, you give yourself clarity to your own mind so that now you know exactly where you're going. And so unconsciously you kind of do the things in order to get there and you attract those things. I'm not saying like law of attraction, I'm just saying like, you naturally, like your actions are aligned, your thoughts are aligned, your feelings are aligned. So it just becomes natural, right? It's not anything magical. It's just like if you do a certain action, you're gonna get a certain result, right? So the thing is, okay, be specific. Character traits, okay? This is why I like to have my character traits, okay? Or you could, for me, it's consistent, fearless, focused, masculine. Body type and style, okay? My haircut, my dress, my accessories, My body type, my grooming, achievements. So maybe the money, maybe the impact you want to have, maybe a specific number. Obviously be as specific as possible. Maybe, for example, done 10 martial arts fights, a book, whatever, right? It's anything, okay? Become a father, start a family, achievements, okay? Mentors, like people that you want. I mean, mentors, to be honest, you can disregard it. It's just me, personally. An image. So who are you? Like, who are you, right? And you don't have to have a specific timeframe. I like to kind of just say this is short-term and this is long-term, but long-term is always gonna be your best option though. But if you have short-term, it helps you see the long-term. I mean, it helps you take action towards the long-term and the short-term obviously, right? And this is a manifesto, right? And man, this manifesto, like just basically writing you as if it was like a Wikipedia page at your peak of your life, right? This is me, it's not clear, right? But in terms of the time, but if it was something, it's maybe between 25 and the age of 40, right? Because I want to have 8 kids, a minimum, right? So obviously I'm not gonna have 8 kids by 25, but look, you see what I mean, okay? So that's basically, you can just write, it's a manifesto. So who have you became? Who are you? Don't say, I wish I have that, or, I want to have that. Say I have that. But you guys gotta understand that you cannot just go about life being like, oh, I kind of want to have that. Yeah, I would like, I mean, that would be awesome. So you're just saying that you're not gonna achieve it basically. That's essentially what you're saying, right? So that's what you need to understand, okay? So maybe it's your achievements, it's the same things I feel, right? Who are you? What have you achieved? What are you focused on? Your family, your purpose, the way you dress, all of those things. And what matters to you basically at the end of the day, okay? And don't say, oh, I wish to have that. I would like to have that. Be very specific and say, I have those things, okay? Reasons why, okay? Now I wanted you to just like go and take a pause and really just write down your vision and even send it to me if you want. Maybe if this, places that you don't really feel comfortable sharing in your vision, you can remove the names and these specific parts and send the other parts to me. But be specific with that vision and let me know if you have any questions on that because it's very, very important. Now, reason why, okay? Goals are useless if you don't have meaning. You want to build a family, that's cool. But what's the point of building a family just to build a family? What's the point of building a family just to have kids? What's the point of having kids just to just to have people to anger, right? There's like surface level, there's no point, right? And if it's how you see things, then you're not really going to— yeah, it's cool to have kids, right? Just to have kids. But cool. I mean, that's it. Like, you just want to have kids to have kids. You want to have a family to have a family. You want to have a partner to have a partner. No. You want to have money just to have money. You want to have money to get paper. You want to have money to get numbers. No, you gotta actually tap in the real reason why you want those things, okay? And that's what actually pushes you towards it. That's what actually makes people really just become savages, like relentless, I mean, towards whatever they want, okay? So think of it, think about it, okay? Let's say you have like 3 goals, okay? Take 3 goals, okay? And I want you to become aware. So if let's say for example, you want to build a family because it seems like the right thing to do. Cool, man. Okay, that's awesome. But if you want to build a family to give your children the best upbringing you wish you had and to leave a legacy behind so that you can make God proud at the end, who do you think is actually going to just naturally put in more action in order to get a family? That's actually going to improve himself way, way faster and way more efficiently and way more overall than, I mean, in order to have a family. Think about it, right? Yeah, you might be like, no, but I know the reasons are, but look, you need to know them by like this, right? Because if your reason why is just like, oh, I want to build a family so I can I have kids and that will be fun because I'll be able to do activities with them. Cool. Okay, that's it? No, you got to tap into the real, sometimes it can be dark, sometimes it can be like heaven, those two. If it's dark or if it's light, it doesn't matter as long as it is a strong reason why. Because for example, me, when I said to myself, okay, I want to build a family. It was at the end, okay? I said, ask myself, okay, but why do I want to build a family? Okay? And this is what we're going to do. Take 3 goals of your vision, ask yourself why at least 5 times, right? Let me give you an example. Like basically I think it was mine, I'm not sure. It was, oh yeah, this is one of my students who did that, right? Said, okay, you want to become a role model. Okay, but why? Because I never had a strong father figure. Okay, but why do you want to become a role model because you never had a strong father figure? Because I want to make my kids live their best life. Okay, but why do you want to make your kids live their best life? Because I want to leave a legacy. I want to leave this world knowing that I have a role model that was a role model for them and they will actually carry on my legacy. Wow. Okay, that's awesome. Right? That's not building a family just to build a family. That's building a family because you want to leave a legacy and you want them to become a role model so that they can have the best childhood. I mean, but why do you want that? Because I know I will make God proud like that. Boom. Okay, you see what I mean? It's not just I want to build family because I want to be a role model. It's like I want to build family because of such a deep reason why that I'm willing to do anything in order to get there. And it's not like it's going to be painful. You're going to do so much work, whatever. First, if you're scared of that, then what can I do for you? It's you. Okay? If you were willing to put in the work in order to get something, Just do it, right? But if the thing is, it's not even about like you're gonna feel so forced and so be so disciplined to put in the work. It's actually you're gonna feel like you want that thing every day because you're not doing something just for the sake of it. You're doing something for such a strong reason why that it just becomes something that you naturally wanna do, okay? That's why it's important. So here's the action plan. Print out the vision with the reason why. Write it down, take your time. Now don't procrastinate, okay? but really write it down and take your time and really read it every day. It's gonna take you like 30 seconds every day, okay? And naturally that's how you kind of like implant, you kind of put it in your quote unquote mind, your brain, whatever it's semantics, but like you're able to just naturally go towards that and want to do that, okay? If you read it every day and this is gonna change your life. It's the only really exercise that you'll have to carry on for long in this program. It's literally the only exercise. The other exercises are just questions and small things to implement, like right now, for example. So do that. Come back to me with your answers on WhatsApp and take your time. This is not just a video that you watch and then you go on to the next video. This is actually, you need to take your time for this. And this is very important. So if you have any questions, DM me on WhatsApp, guys. That don't mean something that is forced upon you, but things I highly recommend. So first, never feel like you're letting me or yourself down. I see many people time and time again, obviously I help them through this when it comes to my own coaching or when it comes to other people's coaching. It's a very common phenomenon where people, for example, if you don't watch a video and you were supposed to watch it because you told yourself that you were going to watch it and you don't, and you don't basically listen to your word, then basically that can be a problem in a sense that you just end up not even doing the work just because one time you didn't do what you were supposed to do based on your own expectations, right? So don't feel like you're letting yourself down because it's also normal in the beginning that if you've been living a certain life for a certain number of time, I mean, it might feel weird at first to change, right? And especially when you know that you can actually change. So yes, it's gonna be easy to change. It's gonna be very easy once you watch the videos, once you, if you wanna read the book, if you wanna get personalized videos, get personalized coaching, which I offer right in this course. But you're gonna see that at first, if you don't, for example, watch the videos, yes, obviously I want you to watch the videos, but don't feel like you're letting myself down because at the end of the day, I'm not gonna judge you. And I want to help you. So we can just always work through it, okay? Second, be honest of where you're at in terms of videos and learning, right? Don't be like, oh, I watch all of the videos, but then you don't even understand a single thing, okay? And that also goes for understanding, right? You don't want to just be there and be kind of lying just to feel like you're— just to tell me that you're making progress. Because in reality, I'm not really— obviously I'm gaining from this in the sense that I want to help people. And it's going to fulfill me. I'm going to have a better reputation from my side. But from your side, you have so much to gain that it's not that you need to, it's that I highly recommend you do those things. So just listen to the videos and be honest of where you're at. Be honest in terms of your understanding. Bombard me with questions from day one. When I'm saying bombarding, yeah, okay, I might be busy, not answer you straight away, but That doesn't mean that I'm going to not reply to you or for example, to not answer your questions or be annoyed. Not at all, right? I want people to answer questions because it also benefits me from my side because I'm able obviously to help you, but I'm able also to gain more of an understanding of what people are looking for and what people need help with, right? Which is extremely important for me. In my overall coaching. And whenever you don't understand something, send me a message or ask me if you want personalized videos based on that. Don't be shy. I see when I used to start at first, I tell people bombard me with questions, but they'll be shy and they'll be like, oh no, but I know you're busy so I don't want to take too much of your time. But don't worry, I don't, yeah, I might be busy, but I put my students first and they are always the first people I respond to. And the quickest if you were to look at how I respond to people, I literally try to respond the second they send me a message before my students. If not, it might take a few hours, right? Max, right? It usually doesn't take more than 24 hours. I mean, I don't even know if it ever happened. Now the thing is with this course, be open to new thoughts and perspectives, right? Don't just be close-minded and be like, oh no, this is not going to work because it is different, right? No. This is very, very different, obviously, right? It goes like opposite to what you've been told your whole life. But you want to be just open to new thoughts and perspective and don't put your own beliefs onto that. Be ready to challenge your own belief, right? And don't also just believe what I say blindly, right? Don't just be like, oh yeah, this is true. Oh yeah, this is true. Oh yeah, he said this about addiction. Oh yeah, I mean, that's true because he knows about it. No, I actually seek to understand. Okay, come to your own conclusion. This is the most important thing. If you don't seek to understand, if you don't try to be like, oh, okay, so this works like this because of this, and you really reflect on it. If you don't do those things, then it's going to be kind of hard. Because to be honest, it's so easy, right? It's effortless. This course is effortless, meaning that you don't need to do all of the work of having different techniques and going and changing your life, your habits. You don't need to do any of that. All you need to do is understand. All you need to do is let you understand and come to your own conclusion. And then choose if you wanna watch porn or not. It's really, really that simple. But we've been told that, oh no, it's gonna be harder than you think, but that's all bullshit, okay? So what do we follow? There's no such thing as success with this process, okay? Because success in a sense of quitting porn would be based on NoFap ideology, which is inherently false, okay? Success you need to understand that if there's just one criteria of quote unquote success in that sense is to just understand, okay? Understand the information because you realize once you understand that there's no such thing as success or failure, okay? That I'll just tell you straight away that it's just a choice. So once you understand that it's truly just a choice throughout this video and why it's a choice and how can you make a better choice if you want to, you'll realize that there's no such thing as success, right? There's no such thing as Oh, I'm relapsing, I'm going back to it. Oh, there's no such thing as those things. And also they won't happen if you don't want them to happen. It's gonna be really that, that simple. All you have to do is understand the information, no lifestyle changes on your habits to develop. Imagine that you're reading a book about business, but in order to be successful, all you have to do is fully understand the book, not apply it. This is literally how effortless it is. This is what we're doing. So remove this, okay? Remove for a second the shame, guilt, and the fact that you think that this is just, porn is evil entity and that masturbation is evil. Just put those things to the side for now. And instead, just accept that you like porn for certain reasons, okay? I want you to do this right now. Accept that you like porn. You probably watched one of my videos on YouTube that I explained how you need to like, to accept that you like porn, right? If you haven't done so already, do it now. Accept that you actually like porn, okay? And we will uncover those reasons so that you don't even feel like wanting to watch porn anymore, okay? You're gonna see. So in the next video, we're gonna talk about how to unbrainwash yourself from NoFap. This is gonna be very crucial and stick around. All right guys, unbrainwashing yourself. Let's get into it, okay? So this is how it works. The thing is most people think we act with our brain, but the reality is we have our mind. Okay? Now our mind is like something that is not tangible, but just think about it. Okay? If you didn't have any thoughts, if you didn't think, what would you be? What would you be? You'd literally just be a lifeless meat like that. Just act on instincts like a robot. We have a mind right now. Our brain, there's neural pathways, there's different parts of the brain. Now, the brain is simply something that receives information from the mind. So the mind gives signals to the brain and the brain looks at the environment and acts, I mean, reacts, right? So then the environment gives feedback to the brain, which the brain gives feedback to the mind. So at the end of the day, it all comes down to the mind. Okay? That's what we say, it ends and starts in the mind. The point is to just mark it, okay? Porn is, they say porn is the cure to your loneliness and boredom. They say that will provide you with sexual satisfaction that you're not getting. They said that it's so pleasurable, you never find something more pleasurable in your life, that it's secretive, that it's a valuable habit in order to escape from life. Tell you all of those things, right? Which is just inherently false, okay? The thing is they do this, they say you're an addict then, okay? Because they also have the porn recovery space, which is like, oh, you're an addict, you're pretty much doomed. You will go into deeper and deeper jars of porn. You're constantly relapsing, your brain changing now, and now it will be hard. You do it because of the things you lack in life, right? And these are all false. I mean, quitting porn masturbation is actually easy in the first place. It's not even a question of hard or easy, it's just a question of it's a choice. So it's like, it's not how do you make the choices, do you want to make the choice? Look, here's the things, and this is, I took it from one guy I kind of learned from called Charlie Morgan. It's not about porn recovery, it's more about business and mindset. Now he said, this is not he said, but this is something he used. We have our beliefs, assumptions, judgments, convictions, principles, ideas, ideologies, views, understanding, theories, knowledge, faith, Assumptions, models, hypotheses, guesses, stance, positions, all of those things that influence our life. So here's your life, right? And use the as an example for money, for business. But here's your life. And okay, here's how it starts. It starts at the paradigm. Paradigm means your perception. Okay? You have your paradigm, which influences how you see or perceive what you're thinking about. How you see and perceive what you're thinking about influences your thoughts. Your thoughts influences your options. Your options influences your decisions. And your decisions influences your actions. And your actions influences your life, basically. It's just that, right? And that's the thing. What we need to understand, it all comes down to your perception at the end of the day. That's why I'm making all of these videos. It's all purely about change your perception about something with new information because it influences everything down there, right? It doesn't mean that your actions become 100% aligned, but they do become influenced. And it's like, imagine that your paradigm is that you can choose in life and you compare that to someone else's paradigm, which is like you cannot choose anything and everything is forced upon you. then obviously their life is going to be different. One is going to start a business, one is going to stay in the same position. One is going to start a romantic relationship, one is going to stay in the same situation because of his belief, because of his paradigm, his perception. And that's the thing. This is basically, again, this is from Charlie Morgan, but this is basically what they say. I mean, how we quit, because look, the truth is, If you see the truth, you basically, it will set you free. Okay? Now this guy, let's call him Mr. Universe. He said, tell me the true color of this square on Canva and I'll give you anything you want in life. You see these two guys. One guy has red glasses, rabbi glasses, red glasses, my bad. And one guy has blue glasses. Okay? Now the thing is, now that they see this black square, but they see it through their own lens. One guy says it's a blue square. Obviously it's a blue square. I mean, that's how I see it. Another guy says, no, it's actually a red square, right? It's actually a red square because that's just a red square. That's how I see it. And then Mr. Universe says, both of you are wrong. You'll never get what you want in life. But then you're like, no, you're lying. I see it as blue. The other guy, no, no, you're lying. I see it as red. Both are fully convinced that one is blue. I mean, one guy is fully convinced it's blue. One guy is fully convinced it's red just because they have these glasses, these lens, which metaphorically represents your own perception that you've given to whatever you learned about. Okay? Many people quit overnight, right? But when we have those glasses of NoFap, for example, we don't see the black square. We see people that just struggle and think that we're going to struggle and that's going to take years. Right? That's your glasses. I have some of my friends and I repeated this many times that one guy, for example, wanted to start a business, wanted to change his life around. They even watched like NoFap videos and just left porn because he said, you know what? He reasoned that it's not worth it anymore. Right? And that he never saw himself as an addict. Another guy wanted to get closer to God and didn't watch any, you know, 5 videos, didn't think he was addicted and just left it overnight. Like, not overnight as in like, look, he's so successful, he did with one try. But it's like he just left it. He made the choice, right? It is that simple. I mean, video games, many people like me play video games for so many years for such a long time, for me, it meant a lot to me, man. It meant like literally a place where I could make progress, a place where I could be feeling more confident. But then that was the main thing for me. It was like being able to be confident, being able to dominate in video games meant a lot to me. But then I realized that I could do the same thing in real life and I would actually be dominating in real life compared to video games where it's like you're not dominating. Yeah, you're talking with other people, over the microphone, you go on missions, you can beat them, whatever. And yeah, you feel confident because you can be confident, you can talk as loud as possible. They don't see you through the screen. So it's like, I was like, video games, it's just like, look, I mean, I knew that at one point. At one point I realized, look, I can be confident in real life if I just improve myself, if I just go and do these new habits I just learned about. I can be dominating people, quote unquote, and winning competitions if I just go and do those things in real life. I can just go experience life. I can do whatever I want. And video games doesn't even provide me with the dominance and confidence that I want in real life. So why not just be real life? That was just how I thought, right? People do this with drugs too, right? A lot of people were vaping, they stopped. A lot of people were smoking weed, they stopped. They do this with all of those things. Okay? But the thing is, because we've been playing the wrong game, now we need to remove those glasses because the glasses are filled with lies. But we will instead remove those lies and see the objective truth, the real colors. And remember that the truth always sets you free. Think of this, okay? This is the Allegory of the Cave from Plato. Now, Plato made this after his mentor Socrates died, right? Let's not get into too much details. There's 3 phases to this. Okay? The first phase is people look at the shadows that they see on this cave and think that this is all there is to reality, right? Think that there's like, this is the objective truth. It's like if you try to go out there and try to go out of the cave, for them, it's not even an option. It's like, no, these the shadows are the truth, right? And we have here the people who literally cast the shadows. We can't say in society that that would be the kind of people that are never open to change anything. And not just they're not open to change anything, they just see things for the objective truth and don't challenge it, right? They just see things as like, oh, look, I'm addicted to porn, so that means that I have an addiction and I cannot stop, right? They just see it that way, right? Be open to maybe a new perspective that would actually allow them to be free forever. Now we have these guys here and they're kind of adventuring out, right? They were in the cave all over their life. They're like, why not adventure out and see maybe what is out there? And the reason why he is like this, right? He's like this trying to cover his eyes from the sun is because the sun represents the truth. The sun represents freedom, basically. Right. And because of that, because it represents freedom, because it represents the truth, he cannot really handle the truth as much because he's been living in a cave his whole life. So he's not really adapted. He's got to still cover the sun. And sometimes, and this is more advanced in this allegory, but they go out when the moon is out, right? When the moon is out and try to experience it, right? So the light is less strong. And that's also like something related to metaphor. Now they experience them. And then there is the level 3, guys, where you see the vase here, right? There is a vase here, like you can see in the shadows. Now they see the real vase. They don't see the shadows anymore. They realize what Life is not about the cave. If life is not about, I'm a porn addict, I cannot change that, I'm out of control, it's going to be hard, it's going to take years, I have trauma, that's why I watch porn, I'm always going to watch porn, I'm going to always lust, I'm going to always masturbate, it's based on biology. And these are your perceptions and your beliefs that you all want to be true. It's like looking at the shadows in the But then when you adventure and look at the reality at what is actually true, and also you experience life, for example, and you go out there and live your life, you see there is so much more than what you've been told to believe. Not only that there's so much more, but you actually see the truth. You actually see the real vases. You don't see just a representation of the vases. You can use that allegory in so many ways, right? I'm passionate talking about this because, man, if you see this right here, okay, if you see these people looking at shadows, what happens is these people go there and they're like, wow, life is— there's all of this to life. This is the truth. Not being in the cave looking at shadows of representations of the real life, but this is the truth, right? They're like, wow. okay, this is way more meaningful. So what they do sometimes is they go back and they tell the people there. And what do they tell them? And this is parallel to the NoFap space. It's like you see the objective truth, you realize that porn is actually easy to quit. It's not an addiction, it's not because of dopamine, it's not because of novelty, it's not because of the fact that you don't have sex, it's not because of all those things. So you become free and you realize there's way much more to life. The truth is you can choose to watch porn or not at any time. And then you're like, you know what, let me tell other people. And you go to the NoFap space, you go tell people that buy into the NoFap ideology and the addiction ideology, and you tell them, look, you can also quit and you can become free. Just leave this cave with me, right? Just leave this cave. What happens? These people are like, no, that's not the truth. You're lying. You don't know. That's how leaders get killed. Leaders sometimes they want to help by providing the truth, the true solution to their whatever, like society. But they get killed because these guys are close-minded and they're like, and these guys I'm saying, they can be us, right? We're like, oh no, but I'm addicted, I cannot change. And if someone tells me otherwise, he's just bullshitting because apparently experts told me so. And these are the experts basically. These are the experts casting shadows saying, look, this is objective truth. You cannot change that. And they just keep on looking at shadows for the whole time. Just keep on looking at shadows, thinking that this is reality. They are given this representation of reality, not knowing that the true reality is there. And another metaphor is when these people look at the sun, their eyes get damaged at first. And the eyes get damaged represents— because, okay, they'll say that their eyes get damaged, and then they'll go back in the cave, and say, look, there's actually light out there. And then these guys will be like, look, haha, you damage yourself. You think you damage your own eyes, but they don't know that there's actually life there, right? There's actually real life. And the metaphor, I mean, the parallel to that is that when you go and you say to other people, look, you can actually become free forever and you're going to actually have such a huge change in mindset. And perception when you realize that, for example, you're not addicted because of porn, you watch porn because of other reasons and you can become free easily. And it's actually just a choice and it's actually just something that you can leave behind like this. And people are not gonna believe you, right? The people in the NoFap space, right? Or people that believe in addiction ideology in the first place. And they'll say, look, your eyes is damaged because your eyes being damaged is like, you basically changing your whole belief system and all of those things about you. And they'll be like, look, hi, you need to go back in the cave. This is reality. Why are you saying that there's a reality? Look, you just damaged your eyes trying to go out, right? And they don't realize that this is what they've been buying. So they've been buying to the quote unquote experts on NoFap saying that if you don't watch porn for 50 days, you get a flatline. and then you'll get biological urges and all of those things. They have this fixed belief that they're not willing to change because they believe that it's an objective truth. But then the objective truth is not there. The objective truth is there, right? You see the sun, you see the light, you see the real trees, you see the real vase, you see the real birds. You don't just see them here. You see what I mean? That's what happens. So the key things, be open-minded to new thoughts and perspective. Don't just listen to the videos or texts, seek to understand it and ask questions to further understand. Bombard me with questions, especially when you don't understand. Don't just believe me blindly, come to your own conclusion, okay? For example, many of my past students, they would watch more frequently, more than once a day before joining the mentorship. But then after getting simple information and new knowledge, which they were open to and asked me some questions and listened, They became free overnight and never went back to it. Okay? The simple analogy I can give you is remember how you used to believe that Santa Claus was real. The moment you changed your perception about Santa Claus with proof and reasoning, you never went back to believe that he existed. This is the same end result we'll achieve. It's like imagine you still believe Santa Claus exists for multiple years. It's like looking at these shadows, but then you look at real life and you see, okay, look, Santa Claus doesn't exist, but whatever, you don't need to make the cookies anymore. You don't need to put the milk or be not sleeping because you want gifts and you think it's going to go down your chimney, which you don't even have a chimney. You see the point. So really guys, video games and E&LT, for example, I played video games for the past 10 years, 4 to 16 hours a day easily. But then I realized that life was a better game to play than video games. Or for example, I learned that eating healthy was way better in terms of benefits and that eating unhealthy had no benefits and was costly. It's going to give you disease, whatever. It was that simple. My bad. My bad. So we have a mind, we have a developed consciousness, and that means that you can learn and adapt to anything. You can change anything you want about you, especially if it's internal, like porn or masturbation, because they're internal in the sense that they are things that you are fully in control of that you can choose, okay? Imagine you didn't have thoughts, you didn't have a conscience, what would you be, okay? Remove the shame and guilt. You're not a monster, you're not diseased, you're not weird. I know it's a mole for you. And forgive yourself for the past attempts of trying to quit and apparently it didn't work. But shame right now is currently why you even wanna watch porn in the first place. Remove the shame and guilt for now so it can allow you to actually quit. Like literally, it's not remove the shame and guilt so that you can do it without shame and guilt, is that remove the shame so that it can help you realize the real reason why you wanna watch porn, which will in turn help you quit forever. And so you won't have to just like, you know, commit this quote unquote sin, right? In this video, I'm gonna show the root cause, Stay tuned. All right guys, so what's the root cause of porn? Okay, root cause is desire, right? You probably already know this, but you want to watch porn for two reasons. Let me add the third reason because, um, this is something else that can be very helpful for you guys. Okay, there's the emotional needs, um, the perceived, uh, perceived emotional needs being met. Okay, so These are the 3 reasons. Okay? Now, the thing is about these 3 reasons is that they're inherently false in a sense that even if you have a belief about watching porn, even if you have a benefit that you attach to porn, even if you have an emotion you attach to porn, all of these, porn cannot give you. Porn is an object. Object, right? Object. I'm not saying the phone, right? I'm saying literally the video. It's a 2D video. It's lifeless. Yeah, okay, it's a video, but it's not like if you watch a video of two people eating food, is it going to satisfy your hunger? No, you're not going to get benefit. Only thing you're going to get is maybe you might, and it doesn't mean it's going to happen all the time, but you might look at it and be like, interpret it in a way that, oh, look, I want to eat that food. That's it. You don't feel satisfied. You don't feel a huge amount of pleasure by looking at it. You don't feel an arousal. You know what I mean? You don't feel relieved by looking at videos of people eating food. No, none of that. But still, eating food is a survival need, right? When you're hungry, you could watch these videos, but you know it's not going to do anything. And most of the time, yeah, if we come across it, we might look at it, but doesn't mean we're going to obsess over it. Okay, look, there's a list of reasons. Okay? Pleasure, emotional relief, stress, anxiety, frustration. Emotional pain relief, escape, sexual relief, loneliness, boredom relief. And then there's the beliefs, addiction myth, manhood, testosterone, libido, urges myth, biology, triggers, sex, listen to women myth, masturbation myth, brain changes myth, dopamine myth, trauma myth, health myth, fetishes myth, blue balls myth. We have all of these reasons and we're going to actually tackle them with videos, with coaching, with the book, all of this. And obviously there's also the emotional needs being quote unquote met because they're not actually being met. But for example, that might be you attach love, you attach validation, you attach affection, you attach things that in the past you wanted when you used to watch porn a lot, you want it and you thought that porn could give you, right? So it's really a self-fulfilling prophecy because porn cannot give you those things. You give yourself that own feeling. You basically, yeah, I mean that's what happens. You basically give it to yourself and then you're like, oh, porn can give me that. But you're not aware of the real reasons emotionally why you wanted to watch porn. And because you're not aware, you always end up watching porn for emotional reasons, right? So the root cause, okay, porn objectively is a video with moving colors and pixels. Like, okay, let me just go on YouTube. Not to show you porn, right? But let me go on Instagram, for example, right? So I have a video here, a capybara video, okay, on Instagram, right? Okay, I like— let's say I like capybaras. Is it going to be something that, like, you know, okay, I see a capybara, am I going to be like, wow, a capybara, oh my God, man, I feel on top of the world, this is so much pleasure? Maybe I can feel like this. Okay, I can, right? I can, of course. But other people, for example, that don't know what a capybara is, are going to feel like nothing. I mean, they're just going to be like, what is this? Right? Because based on their beliefs and knowledge and perceptions, right? Or I can like capybaras, but I can see no point in watching videos of capybaras. Maybe I'll just want to see capybaras in real life, right? Maybe I don't watch videos of gorillas, but if I go to the zoo, you can bet that I'll be looking at gorillas for like an hour straight because for me it's fascinating, right? It's really just based on your preference, right? But this is just a video, right? It's like it could be a fake capybara and it could be just a robot capybara and I wouldn't realize, right? Because at the end of the day, it's just a video. It's moving colors and pixels. It can be a drawing that looks like a capybara and I thought that it's a real capybara and actually moves, but actually it's a drawing, but it's moving colors and pixels, right? It's based on my interpretation. Okay. And then porn subjectively though, for people that based on the past consumption, based on what they've been fed is euphoria and immense amount of pleasure, it satisfies your reproductive and intimacy needs. A relief from all of your life problems, a killer of loneliness and boredom, a video that injects your brain and makes you feel good. That's what people think porn can give you, okay? But the thing is, it's subjective, meaning that you adopted those beliefs and perceptions. And because they're learned, that means that they're all in your mind. And that means you can easily change them if you desire to, okay? That's the beauty, okay? Just like you might have been lazy, a couch potato, You used to watch Netflix all day, look at YouTube videos. Now you go to the gym every week instead of doing that. You don't even want to go to be a lazy couch potato except when you sleep, right? Like you went from playing video games every day, all day to now constantly doing productive and healthy things or eating junk food almost every day to eating healthy and focusing, right? It's like eating healthy is just the new normal for you, even if everyone eats junk food around you. Okay? You read about how being lazy is useless and how being active and working hard would be the best thing for you. You watch videos about video games being useless and a waste of time that gives you nothing and that living life is way better, that eating junk food gives you nothing beneficial and that eating healthy is the key to living a happy life, right? So the framework to become free, if you see little to no perceived value in a behavior, right? Which we're gonna, That's what this course is about. And also a lot of perceived value in opposite behavior. This is freedom. It's not freedom as in you need those things in order to be free. You're always free, okay? This is one thing we're gonna tackle. You're always free. You're always choosing because you're just choosing based on what you think. Now, if you want to leave porn behind and not really feel like you need to watch porn, that you want to watch porn, then this is what you can do, right? And you'll just, look at the truth of what porn actually is, you'll realize it's really just a video that you can choose, but that gives you nothing. So that just makes you look at it for what it is. And because it's the truth, the truth always sets you free. So that's what happens, right? No value in porn, value not watching porn. That's it. So it's all in the mind. We will uncover the beliefs and benefits. That way you won't perceive any value in porn. And also the emotional side of things, right? That we've been using in the past and that we still hold on to this day. It's not about eating trauma, it's just about realizing the emotional kind of reasons that you lacked in the past that you try to use porn for and you still think porn can solve that even though it never did, right? And we will go through a process so that you can see immense value in not watching porn, right? That simple, guys. And look at the workbook. What are the benefits that you link to porn? What do you genuinely think that you get out of porn? Okay, really just ask yourself this question, right? And you'll get answers. Like, you'll see it's way easier than you think. Just what are the benefits that you need to it? What do you genuinely think that you're going to get? Right? Next video, we're going to debunk addiction, guys. Guys, basic mindset principle. Okay, this is going to be very important that you understand the very, just like, it's very basic, yet it's like so important. And we have this kind of belief, I think, in this society that whatever is simple must not work, but whatever is complex must work, right? But you'll see that this is not true, okay? The growth versus the fixed mindset, right? If you read some books about self-improvement or you read the Freedom Model, whatever, it talks about this, right? Now the thing is, okay, there's a huge difference between those two mindsets that needs to be talked about often, okay? Because most people are not aware, but most people often end up in a fixed mindset. And I'm assuming that it might be the case for you. It might not be, but I don't want you to be not honest and be like, no, I have a growth mindset because I'm a G. No. Instead, really make sure that You're honest. And if you're, even if you have a fixed mindset, cool. I mean, you could change that if you want to, right? So the thing is, okay, the growth mindset against the fixed mindset. You will see here, for example, the fixed mindset will say failure is the limit of my abilities. The growth mindset will say failure is an opportunity to grow. Now remember, we don't have such concepts such as failure because here it's a choice to quit PMO or not, right? But here we're mostly talking about life in general, for example, and also just overall You know, learning, for example, right? Maybe you don't understand something, for example. Okay, I'm either good at it or I'm not, or I can learn to do anything I want. I see this with people that say that they have problems with focus. It's like, oh no, but you know, I'm not good at focusing. So they just never even try to focus, right? This is what the study shows. And like, or for example, like, oh, you know, this is something that is too hard to learn, for example, in this course, or I I cannot change my life because I'm not good at doing those things. And the growth mindset literally just simply says, I can learn to do anything I want. There's a huge difference in actions, right? My abilities aren't changing, challenges help me to grow, right? Because for example, someone, let's say that he gets rejected by a woman because of, and he doesn't really know the reason, maybe the woman doesn't like him, Maybe the woman doesn't respect him, whatever. The fixed mindset will be like, oh no, but you look, I cannot really improve myself beyond that. This is because I'm the prom, so I'm going to stay the prom. The growth mindset is like, oh look, she rejected me so I can use that as an opportunity to grow so I can even become someone that is more attractive to a woman, for example. Okay? You see the point. I don't like to be challenged. I can either do it or I can't. My efforts and attitudes never determines my abilities. Like guys, it's really simple, but it's so important that you actually understand this, right? I like to try new things. I stick to what I know, right? It doesn't mean that you go and try a different ice cream, but it just means that sometimes people hold onto that NoFap ideology instead of trying something new, right? Like this basically, okay? So there was research, okay? The lower IQ, that had a growth mindset beat the one that had a higher IQ and a fixed mindset. The one with the growth mindset actually performed better in relationships because for example, if they got rejected, they see it as an opportunity to grow. For example, whereas the fixed mindset would see it as a limit of his abilities because he took it as a personal rejection, for example. And the growth mindset performed better in academic pursuit, even if they had lower IQ. Okay. And it's really simple to understand why. Because if you have someone that is like, I can learn anything, then he's going to try to learn that thing that can be hard, for example. Right. Or failure is an opportunity to grow. Then even if he failed, he's going to learn to be better next time. Or challenges help me grow. Then you see the point, right? Like challenges help me grow. So he's going to literally go towards the challenges, whereas the fixed mindset is not. Right. And the challenges where the reward might be, whether that means a relationship, whether that means academic pursuit, whatever, right? And research shows that simply giving information about neuroplasticity, basically the ability to change your brain through learning new things, shows that they have higher IQ score and academic gains just by telling them about the fact that your brain can adapt to anything and you can change anything if you learn new things, for example, and you repeat new behaviors. So students who didn't know about it simply remained the same in terms of results. Okay? The recovery industry tells you that you're an addict because that's the thing. They give that fixed mindset that you're an addict and that you're doomed. It's like determinism saying that everything happened and now you're doomed, you cannot change that, right? And your environment dictates your actions, whatever. But the truth is many studies show that most drug addicts leave their drugs forever, right? There were studies for cocaine and heroin, I don't remember exactly which year, but the success rate, I mean the recovery rate, meaning that they just left it, was over 95% for these drugs, right? If you look here, for example, we see that the lifespan of drugs usually really decreases with time, right? Whereas when they're 25, 34, that's typically when people have it the most. But yet that doesn't mean that they literally, and that's the thing, doesn't mean like the age means that you're gonna be consuming that drug, right? It's just that people learn with their environment, with, with the media at that age, that, you know, this is the best thing to do. Now, after— okay, here the brain changes. This is very, very important, um, study. And sorry if I'm talking fast, you can put in 0.5x. But the, the, the studies were the ones that took meth. Okay, these were meth users, right? Heavy users. And this is the brain when it's normal, okay? This is the brain when, you know, they, they use the drug. Now we know why, right? Because they repeat the action. Neuroplasticity means— if you haven't watched my videos, I mean, there's going to be videos on that— but you know, when you repeat a behavior, it's going to change the way your brain is structured so that you can repeat the behavior again in a more easier way, so with less resistance when you want to do the behavior. It doesn't force you, it allows you to change because it's an habit, right? Obviously you need to change your brain just like the piano player is going to change his brain, how his brain is structured so that he can play the piano in a faster way. When it's like when he wants to play the piano, he doesn't have to think too much about should I click on this or this? What? Because he knows already, right? Where, for example, the notes are. So the thing is these in this study, they were 14 months. Okay? They did this study over 14 months and these meth users were at the peak of their brain change, at the peak of their drug use, and they managed to quit for 14 months just for the study alone, right? And they left it, right? So for the study alone, they had to wait 14 months. So that means that even after the peak of their brain change, they still managed to literally leave it behind. And here we see currently resolved drugs addiction, we see the percentage is extremely high, right? So the difference, drugs is literally just inside of the body. Porn is a video you look at. Masturbation is simply stimulating your genitals or part of your body. They both are empty by nature compared to drugs will enter your body and produce real effects. Porn is the same as a video, as a movie or a video game or TV show. What matters to you is not the video itself because you won't watch gay porn. You won't watch porn that you find kind of disgusting, but the personal meaning you give to it. Okay? And it's easy. Okay? Because at first you probably felt like porn was weird, not enjoyable, right? I just remember my first time, it was just like, what is this? Right? This is shocking. It wasn't nothing about sexual relief or pleasure or this is so enjoyable. No, it was just like, I'm curious, what is this? It's shocking. Why are these people doing this? And it's not because you're shocked that you're going to stop doing that thing because you've also been told throughout society that, even if you're shocked, you've been told by society that this is something that has some form of value, porn itself, that people watch it. And you kind of reason like, oh, if they watch it, then that means that there must be something about it. And yes, you don't obsess over it at first because you don't even attach that much value to it. But you still, can watch it if you want to. But with time, you learn to like it, right? With time, you learn to like coffee. I mean, at first you probably didn't like coffee, black coffee, but with time you learn to like it, right? You maybe didn't like the taste, but then you were like, oh, but coffee gives me this, it gives me energy, it makes me feel better, it makes me feel more happy, whatever. So you started liking coffee. And naturally, when we're convinced of leaving a behavior like porn, we easily leave it. Like people do with video games so many times. I used to play 16 hours a day. Left it easy. Not easy as in like, oh, it was hard, I could have failed again. No, it was just like, okay, I want to stop playing video games. I'm going to do something else with my life. My thought was, I'm going to play video games in real life instead. I'm going to upgrade my character in real life. And it was so cool back then, but it was literally what made me want to quit, right? It was just watching one video about a guy saying that you can play video games in real life. The same way that you play video games right now. Right. Movies with TV shows, food. I mean, I used to binge watch, not binge watch. I used to watch anime and meant a lot to me because of the story, whatever. And I would watch it like 6 episodes per week on the weekend. And then one day I was like, you know what? I don't want to watch this cartoon anymore because I'd rather do the same things that they're doing but in real life. That was literally, I was like, I'm going to go practice martial arts. I'm going to go and do those things. And I never really watched it since, maybe like once or twice, but then I just left it because I didn't like it that much anymore. I was like, what's the point of wasting my time on this when I can do something else? It's not to say that you shouldn't watch anime. It's just saying my own personal experience. Okay, you can learn to unlike them and leave them. Okay, so reflect. Just reflect. Okay, what is one habit that you've left behind in the past that people consider to have a lot of dopamine and novelty. Something that you left easily. Maybe it's video games, maybe it's a TV show, maybe it's movies, maybe it's a drug even, right? Anything, right? And just think of like how you just left it effortlessly and how there's, you know, people will say, and how sometimes people would get hooked on it too, right? So just think about it and you have your notebook so you can just write it down. Your answers here. So debunking addiction, okay? This is very important if you don't know about debunking addiction, obviously. Old definition of addiction was doing something you love to an excess. People will get addicted to love, for example. Now it's not a disease. This is the problem people have is that they think that it's a disease. Even people think that the brain is wired differently now and they now have a disease. But if we look at research mentioned in my book, for example, disease goes up with time, right? Whilst addiction goes down with time. Typically drug addiction only lasts for about 5 years and above 95% of drug addictions are resolved, okay? Based on actual research. What is it then? Okay, it's simply something you learn to like. You have inflated with it so much value in your own mind like we do with many other things in life. Just look at the emo girl who does cuts on her arm with a knife and feels addicted to it. And when she feels down, she didn't like it at first, but she learned to like it by giving it personal meaning and value, okay? And based on studies, okay, there was literally 150 young males who took opiates for the first time. And out of those, okay, these were people that didn't take the drug before, out of those, only 3 wanted to repeat, okay? I myself, the first time I watched porn, I didn't just repeat it like this the day after, right? I felt a shock, right? It was like, what is this? Right? So the thing is, okay, for example, also they gave candies to a primitive tribe and they found that the taste was weird. And imagine candies are filled with sugar, which is apparently linked to survival, right? Actually linked to survival. At least you're consuming it because we think, oh, porn is linked to reproduction. So it's a survival need, for example. Which is not even a survival need, simply a desire, right? So the thing is, we need to understand that it's really just in the mind, okay? At the end of the day, because it's not the substance itself, it's not the candies with so much sugar that it's going to help them with survival. They found the taste was weird, right? So usually we think, oh, it's going to give a lot of pleasure to eat sugar because it's going to help us with survival. It's natural, whatever. But it didn't even happen. Here, right? Drugs, opiates, right? Painkillers. Only 3 wanted to repeat it, okay? The problem is we get told to stop watching porn by NoFap before we even examine why we want to watch porn. So we get motivated by external reasons, and external reasons, they don't motivate us. I mean, look, it's like saying, it's like your mom telling you to dress nicely, but you're like, you know, you don't really see the point, right? So you're like, yeah, you might, of course, I mean, you might be like, okay, you know what, I'll just dress nicely for you. But a few days later, you're like, nah, I mean, this is useless. I just want to dress the way I want to dress. But then one day you learn about how dressing better is going to help you attract more women, and how dressing better is going to make you feel better, and it's going to make people respect you more. And you're like, oh, I actually want to dress better. And then you start dressing better. Like, it's really that simple, okay? But if we're internally convinced, and I come to my own decisions and what, just like the example I told you about, you will easily follow through because you would You would actually be convinced of it. Why don't people do this? Okay, if it was true about addictions and chemicals, then why do most people just stop after one session for the day? Most people or whatever, they might do it once, one session and then do it a few hours later or once a week, for example. Whilst others do it 3 times in a row. Others literally do it 3 times in a row. But I'm saying most people, they watch it once And they're like, ah, you know what? I don't want to do this anymore. And they don't even feel like doing this anymore. For example, for a whole week, for a whole month, or for a whole day, for a few hours, whatever, right? And it's really just like, it goes like this. It's not like a set of like, oh, people watch it once every day for the rest of their life. Some people never watch it. Some people watch it once every 4 months. Some people watch it once every 2 weeks. It's very different for everyone. It's not the same thing. And some people do it 3 times in a row. Some people binge it 5 times in a row, literally. And there's misconceptions that we have that like, oh, there's many misconceptions that we have about porn addiction. It's like, oh, we're deviant and other sexual behaviors, we increase usage and then we can't stop. We say, oh, these are the reasons why I actually have addiction, for example. And even why did we go from a simple jar to another jar? Okay. Because that's what most people don't understand is they take all, I'm going to go into this jar and it's going to be somewhat whatever. For example, most people start with like homemade porn because the reason why is because it's more close to reality, right? That's what the porn industry is good about, like making things familiar to the user. But the thing they also do, and this is something I talk about in my book, and I'm going to talk deeper into this course, they also show you representations of things that they know that you want, that you're sometimes not even aware of. For example, love, attention, emotional support, all of those things. So what happens is you watch it, and you attach the emotion of feeling love because you see that woman, for example, being just like a, for example, you see the guy, the guy just looks kind of like you in a sense, not physically, but in a sense of overall his life. He looks like a normal dude, for example, maybe he works as a pizza man, whatever. And then you're like, wow, okay, this is a normal dude. This is not just a fictional character. This is a normal dude. And he gets all of this quote unquote love because that's how they presented. They're like, look, this guy's getting so much love and affection in the way that they just do everything, right? The story and they portray it as like, oh, this guy's receiving a lot of love, emotional support, affection. And you're like, wow, okay. Like this is something I wanted all of my life. And then they tell you that if you watch porn, it's like you're going to be able to feel that. So what What happens is it's not that you actually feel it because obviously you don't feel it just by looking at a video on your screen. Obviously not. Obviously not. You don't just feel it by looking at a video. It's like saying that, oh, if I look at my favorite supercar, I'm going to get my favorite supercar. No, it doesn't work like that. But they tell you over and over again. And at some point it's like virtual reality. You're like, oh, look, It's like, look, I'm going to watch porn. But the thing is that you don't understand is that feeling love doesn't come from a video or from an object, right? It can come from the human being because it's a new human being, right? Something alive. It doesn't come from a lifeless object like porn, masturbation, whatever. It comes— and lifeless object, obviously not for porn, but it's not for masturbation, but it comes from you. Even if you masturbate and you've and you perceive and you think that it cannot make you feel love, it cannot make you feel better, then you won't feel better. You won't feel better because what you need to understand is that with your own mind, emotions are a cognitive product. So you think a certain way in order to feel a certain way. So if you think of a situation where a woman gives you love, then you're going to feel love. right? Because you think, or if you think of a situation where you love yourself, for example, then you're going to feel love, right? Because what's going to happen is that's the thing we do with porn is we look at porn and it's not even porn that is so fantastic about all of this. It's that we in our own mind act as if whatever is happening in the video and we just say, oh, look, this is happening to me. We kind of do it to ourselves. And the truth is it's not even porn itself because we also do it without porn, right? And this is something I'm just going to get more in depth in another video. But it's really important that you understand it's not porn that's going to give you the love, right? Porn is just a video. It's like a lifeless object. What's going to give you love is your own self. You're literally giving— because in order to feel emotion, you need to think that emotion by yourself. And then you feel that emotion. Just like, for example, you might feel fear if you start thinking about something scary that you've experienced in the past. For example, like a moment where you almost died. Or you might feel love the moment you think about something, someone that showed you a sign of love in the past. It's really like that when you just think back on something. And that's also why a lot of people just quit porn and masturbation naturally without any NoFap bullshit because at some point they watch it over and over again and then they're like, wait, but I'm not even getting any of those things. Real life can actually give me those things and boom, they move on. I'm not saying it should be what you need to do, whatever, and to just realize that porn is not going to give you love. Obviously those things are very simple to understand and it's not like you need to force yourself to understand those things. But it's just really to see that porn cannot give you whatever you want, okay? And for example, being deviant, what happens is you attach those emotions of love, you attach those benefits to porn, and then porn presents you a new jar because obviously it's in those videos, it's in the kind of like the website, and it presents you with a new jar and you're like, and they portray the new jar as, something obviously that is taboo. And taboo means for you that, oh, if someone is willing to do something so taboo for someone else, then that means it might be love, right? So you want that love, and then you attach that love. It's like The Matrix, right? It's like you're putting false ideas on a video and you're saying, look, I feel love because of this video in that moment being. But in reality, you don't, okay? Think of it, okay? Think of doing the same exercise for years at the gym. You could do it, but you would be bored. Because the thing is, you also get curious. It's natural, right? You could do the same exercise for a year, but you'll be bored at one point, right? But you're always curious to try new exercise. Same exact thing with porn. The drawings you watch in the past means nothing. It's simply a desire you've built for a lifeless object. Imagine giving value to any object. This controller for me means something to me. Last time I didn't have it and I was kind of angry because I really needed to have it, right? It wasn't because of how the materials is made and how there's this color here and how there's these buttons like these, right? It's because of how I can use it for something that matters to me. For example, my lights that I use to record videos, right? And I can use it to change the light. So that's what the value I was giving. It's the personal meaning. I'm just giving personal meaning, right? Now, am I weird because I'm angry when I don't have a controller? No, we all know it's because of the value and the personal meaning attached to it. That's why I got mad. It's not because of literally the video of porn, for example, the controller. Okay? So please, we've been watching porn based on false ideas, based on the porn industry, based on the oversaturated society, which puts a lot of glory on sex. And then we started watching these these, what we call weird jars, even though they're not weird, they're just a video. And we just think, oh, we're deviant, right? We're monsters. But in reality, it's a video. It's a lifeless object, right? But also, it's not that you're a monster, that something bad happens to you. It's all in the mind. Because even if you give homosexual porn to most people in front of them, they won't even watch it, first of all. Or if they do look at it with their eyes, they're not going to feel anything. And the reason being is just that they don't have built-in desire for that. And you can also unlearn to like any desire. That happens time and time again. When my students, for me, for example, okay, let me just give you an example. I used to be so obsessed with thinking of receiving a blowjob. And a blowjob, obviously, receiving oral sex. I used to be so obsessed with that that I was like, when I'm going to get married, I'm going to get that. But at the same time, in the back of my mind, I was like, what if I don't get this? I'm going to feel like a loser. I'm going to feel like I'm weak, whatever. And then with things I'm going to show you in these videos, I just decided, you know what? And not based on the fact that I don't want a blowjob, but based on the fact that I might feel not satisfied if I don't get it. But based on the fact that I just wanted to look at women with more love, I was like, I just changed my preference. And now like blowjob, okay, if I receive it or not, I don't really care, right? Once I get married, I don't really care because it's just about the value and personal meaning you give to it. I realized that I was giving personal meaning to blowjobs because for me, a blowjob based on the knowledge I received from all of this media and all of the way that it was portrayed basically was a woman giving love to a man, right? A woman willing to submit to a man that was masculine. So I was like, if I get a blowjob, then that means I'm masculine. But the reality is it might not be the case, right? So I kind of debunked that. I was like, okay, you know what? I don't really need all of these jars. I mean, all of these quote unquote finishes, right? Yeah, of course I can. I have the preference and I don't mind when I'm getting married, but it's not like the most important thing in the world for me. It's just something that I've learned to just devalue. And once you devalue things, man, life is beautiful because you don't look at this controller with like, oh, it has the superpowers. It makes me mad sometimes. It makes me feel good sometimes, whatever. It's just like, oh, this is a controller. I can use it because I want that. If I don't want that, then I'm not really gonna use it. But even then I can change my light, I can choose a different light, I can choose a different setup, whatever. So it doesn't really matter, okay? That's how you see it. Now increase usage, right? This misconception. Think of something that you like, for example, playing basketball. At first, maybe you played once in a while, right? Or maybe you loved to like it straight from the beginning, you wanted to play a lot. But then maybe you've fallen in love with it as you play it, and then you start playing every day, you increase your usage. Is that an addiction or is that that you just liked it? You learned to like it more and more. Maybe you started attaching more personal meaning because you went on, you started playing basketball and there you met a friend and that friend became your best friend. So now you attach more personal meaning and that friend made you feel better. Or you played basketball and a girl looked at you and made you, and was impressed by your skills. Now it means more to you, right? You see, it's really just a personal meaning. Or maybe you play basketball and you played for years and then at one point you were like, ah, I mean, I want to pursue something different with my life. I want to maybe play another sports or I want to just pursue another project and stop playing sports for a while, right? And you stop maybe. So that's how it works, okay? And that doesn't mean you're going to complete abstinence from playing basketball because if that's your goal, then you can, But if that's not your goal, then yeah, maybe you're gonna play once in a while, right? But then it's about playing basketball, okay? Not about watching porn, okay? Because to play basketball, you need to go and really physically do it. To not watch porn, it's different, right? So same thing with porn. Even if we feel like shit afterwards, like the cost, we are willing to pay the cost in order to get the benefit of something we like. Just imagine a runner whose body is destroyed after his run, Yes, it continues to run more and more. I know many people that run every single day. We, they simply see value doing so, right? Whatever it means to them, we simply see value in porn, and because of that, we want more and more, which is totally normal. If you can't stop, it's not that you can't stop, it's that you don't see the value in leaving porn behind, okay? Sorry for the mistake here. Again, we get told by NoFap to quit before even examining why we should quit, right? Why we want to quit. It. Okay? Like the benefits, what we're going to get. And the thing is, what happens is we get so— I used to do this where I would watch NoFap videos or I would— all these NoFap thoughts in my mind of like, oh, am I succeeding? Am I going to relapse? I have these urges. Do I need to fight it off? Let's not watch it today. Let's watch it today. Whatever. I think all of these thoughts basically blocks you from just like clouds you from just experiencing life and seeing if life is better without porn. And that's when real changes happen because for example, if you go and take a new path in school. So for example, if you're studying medicine and then you want to try something new. So for example, you want to try business, for example, at school. Now the thing is, if you go into business and you just start worrying about, oh, am I going to make a lot of money in business? Am I going to do this? "Am I going to fail this class? Am I going to succeed?" And you just start worrying and you don't even think about the class or the fact that you might even enjoy the class, then you're not going to enjoy the class, right? Because you don't even think, you don't even get to experience because you're always in your mind just worrying about those things. But if you were to actually experience this and then you see, "Oh, look, I have these great people. Oh, I can actually gain this from doing business. Oh, I can actually really just live my life. Now you can make an informed decision and be like, actually, I want to pursue business, or actually, I want to pursue maybe something else. You see? And that's the thing. You decide to watch me because of the benefits you were trying to get out of it, but they just tell you, oh, you can't stop. Come on, man. They just force you to stop. And then when you don't stop, they're like, oh, look, he has a problem. And that you just— he has an addiction because he can't stop. And apparently everyone that watches porn is an addict, right? Everyone that watches porn is an addict based on NoFap ideology. So you're not even internally convinced, but externally convinced. So obviously you're not gonna stop. It's like imagine that your parents force you to eat healthy, but you don't really want to, right? It's like, I mean, bro, I just wanna eat McDonald's hamburger, right? But the moment you watch videos and educate yourself on the benefits and they tell you about how eating healthy will help you be more attractive to women, whatever is important to you, and all of these benefits. Now it's like, wow, okay, I'm going to eat healthy. I really want to eat healthy, right? And it's effortless, right? It's not like you can't stop eating junk food. It's simply that you were not mentally convinced to stop eating junk food and eat healthy, for example. Okay, so the brain changes because this is the biggest misconception. It's like, oh, here's LT volunteers. They just, they never watch porn even though 99, 98% of people are paying to watch porn, whatever. I mean, I don't think it's 98% exactly. I'm not sure the number. It's not everyone that watches porn. Women especially are lower on the statistics, but they're like, oh look, here's LT volunteers and here's you on porn. And apparently everyone has the same brain scans And also apparently no one knows what those brain scans even mean, okay? And here's your brain, here's your brain on heroin, and here's your brain on porn, which scares people and they're like, oh look, I need to now buy this addiction recovery program from this random NoFap coach that will tell me how to get rid of this or else I'm gonna be doomed. But what doesn't even make sense about this is that, okay, so if that recovery coach the addiction recovery coach can basically just like live his life and, you know, without porn, and he was as addicted as you, then why is he able to do this? And then he tells you that you cannot control yourself because of your brain, but why was he able to quit, right? Why is he able to do all of those things with his quote-unquote addicted brain, like quitting porn, like, you know, like doing, you know, living his life, but you can't? Like, they're just, it's obvious they're just lying, okay? So brain changes, neuroplasticity, process that occurs in the formation of any habit or skills. If you repeat any behavior, your brain will be rewired so that there is less resistance when you want to do the behavior again. So essentially it takes less mental effort. You use the short-term memory instead of long-term memory. Remember the first time you watched porn, you felt a lot of resistance to load up that site. It was like, "No, should I do it? Should I not do it? My family is next to my room, whatever." And then clicking on that, it was stressful. It was like you had to think a lot about doing it before even doing it, whatever. But with time, it became effortless. You didn't even have to think much about it. You just went, you know what type to search, you know how to scroll, you know all of those things because you repeat it often and often. It's not that you're forced to do it, it's just that you are able to do it in a more effortless way when you want to do it. Okay? So here's a piano player. Okay? You see his brain changes. Guys, don't get caught up into this kind of fixed mindset that your brain changed and now you cannot do anything about it, that you're going to be craving again because craving is false when it comes to that. Right? You're not craving the phone, right? You're just craving what? You're craving not even the video, craving what it means. You want what it means. So that's what happens. Here, the piano player changes his brain. The taxi driver changes his brain. Because what? They just repeat. They repeat, so they need to change their brain in order to repeat. I mean, they change their brain. It's natural process of neuroplasticity. The reality is that it's a learned concept, okay? Addiction is a learned concept. You cannot find it in your body, right? We falsely attribute that concept to things we experience or feel, right? So for example, it's the same thing as an individual withdrawal. You might feel bad one day and you're like, this is the flatline or this is withdrawals. But in reality, you felt bad because you didn't sleep well that night, for example, right? And you expected NoFap, quote unquote, to give you unlimited energy at every single day, even though you slept like for 2 hours. Like it's really, guys, like when you believe into the NoFap ideology and you make it your whole life, that's what happens. You start associating whatever positive or negative happens in your life with NoFap. And when something negative happens, you're like, oh look, it means I need to watch porn. It's just a pure self-fulfilling prophecy that can easily be debunked, okay? And again, if we take a look at the story of Japan, which you know, they did the same thing with addiction that they did with addiction with depression. Because like I said, in 1950s addiction, the rate of addiction was so low. But in the 1990s, Japan literally had the same thing where it was like 0.005% of people that had depression. Now when they use the concept of— when they use whatever concept that they added in the culture, which was the concept of the soul at that time, They said that the soul could catch a cold and that whenever they were experiencing negative or positive, what happened is they started to literally associate whatever they felt throughout the day to depression. Oh, and you felt bad, depression. You felt good, depression, whatever. Right. It was really just like that that they did. Right. And they educated people. They had books about depression. They add advertisements. Guess what? With NoFap, there's your brain on porn. There's all of these books that constantly say, oh, look, this is going to happen. Or all of these social media posts where someone says, this is what's going to happen, so you need to quit porn now. And here's my solution, right? This is what's going to happen when you watch porn. You're going to ruin your marriage, you're going to ruin your life, you're going to ruin all of this. And the worst thing is they don't even give you a solution. They just say, I have the solution. And it's not to mock them because obviously I respect them for putting themselves out there, but it's just to show that it's just a business. Addiction is a business. Addiction is not something, it wasn't even there in ancient times, right? It wasn't like, oh, you were addicted because you drank too much, right? It wasn't, oh, you're addicted because you took drugs too much. They saw it as a choice, right? Yeah, maybe they labeled it, other people as maybe they're using it too much, whatever, and they're bad for it. But look, the truth is, at the end of the day, okay, when you put people in fear, you say, oh, look, porn is going to ruin your life, it's going to ruin your potential, you're not going to be able to do anything. And obviously, I'm not saying that porn doesn't come with any consequences, but I'm saying that when you put people in fear and you associate whatever negative things happens to them and you tell them, look, that's why you haven't made any progress in your life, that's why you're still single, that's why you're still this, when in reality it's just that you haven't been taking actions. It's not because of porn, just you haven't been taking actions. Now you start associating all of your life problems and you're like, oh, look, it's because of porn. Now you feel worse because now you watch porn and you know in the back of your mind that you're going to ruin your life even more. So it's like, it's a kind of this cycle of, look, I'm watching porn, it's ruining my life and I know it. So if I watch porn again, I'm gonna ruin my life even more. So now my chances of being with a partner is gonna be even more low. When in reality, there's many people that watch porn and have a partner. There's many people that have a successful business and watch porn. I'm not saying that you should watch porn or not watch porn. I'm saying that it's really up to you and blaming all that's happening in your life to one problem is just an easy way to take less responsibility for your life, but also, by taking less responsibility for your life, you don't really make as much progress, right? So it's really up to you. What do you want more in life? What is more beneficial to you? What do you feel would be more happy? Is it taking responsibility or not taking responsibility? I'm not trying to coerce you. I'm not trying to say take responsibility for your life. You can be better that way. Look, it's up to you. You can really reflect. Do you want to take responsibility or do you want to just not take responsibility and maybe blame something else like porn, maybe your past, whatever? Right? So that's what happens, okay? And you're covering pharmaceutical industry, they want to make money. If they can create one fake problem and sell solution, then they want, okay? And I want to show you like posts on Instagram, but at the same time, I don't want to get into drama or trouble, but they say like, oh, look, your brain change, or look, porn is worse than drug addiction, or look, porn ruined my life, or look, porn did this and that. When people, some people watch porn infrequently and live a normal life. And I'm not saying that it should be the case for everyone to just watch porn infrequently or watch porn frequently. You can easily leave it behind. A lot of people also don't even watch porn a single time or just left porn forever. I know many people that left porn forever and their life has gotten way better since because they've been able to pursue what they really wanna pursue in the first place. They've been able to experience life, okay? What habits do you do? Okay, did you do? What did you do in the past that would be considered addiction that you left behind in Fortis? What was different compared to PMO? Okay, really reflect on this, okay? Because if you can reflect on this, you'll be able to understand really just like why you haven't been able to quit yet with this, what kind of false ideas and beliefs that have been kind of like holding you back, okay? So in the next video, we're going to debug every single benefit. So deconstructing the self-image of an addict, this is very important when you want to just overall detach from these ideas of recovery. Because if I give you the example of watching porn, usually people when they want to watch porn but at the same time don't, what they say basically, I mean, it's not that they don't, just that they'll feel shame. They don't want to feel like they've lost something, whatever. So the thing is, they kind of have this image that like, oh, but I'm an addict, so that's why I'm feeling the urge to watch it. That's why I want to watch it. It's kind of like that belief that is not only false, but it's based on a self-fulfilling prophecy, a self-image that you've adopted on your own self that kind of is feeding into this what we call the license to misbehave. Anyway, I'm gonna just explain, okay, how it's formed. When we see porn as this unrighteous and high-cost behavior, we think, "Wouldn't a right man watch porn over and over again?" Right? We see ourselves as deviant monsters that indulge in weird fetishes, right? And that's the problem, right? We see ourselves as monsters, this shit, right? We're deviant, whatever. So the logical conclusion is that we have no control over ourselves, and something else is causing that behavior and we're going to feel compelled to do it again because we've done it in the past few days, right? You can just ask someone like, when do you usually go back to porn? And they'll say like, at day 7. And why? Oh, because of withdrawals or because of urges, right? And it's really the addict self-image that you have withdrawals. We don't even see ourselves as normal humans being anymore. We see ourselves as monsters, as deviant, as addict. Because we've literally watched porn a few times in the past. Obviously, a few times, I'm saying like, yeah, maybe you watch it every day for like years, multiple times a day, whatever, like many other people. And people attempt to quit because, except the general public, the ones that matters to you plus NoFap, disapproval of the addiction and wants to remove himself from that category. It's like, imagine that you have someone that you love and they say like, oh, people that watch porn, they're weird. right? You'll be like, obviously if you love that person, you'll be like, no, no, but you don't want to associate yourself with that category. It's that simple, okay? So what about these behaviors? Okay, there's many behaviors which are high cost, yet we don't think we have a problem with addiction. Staying in an abusive relationship, paying for an expensive car, which we don't even have the money for. I mean, and can put us in debt, right? And put us in even more problems because of that. Going over the speed limit with your car and sometimes being near crashing, eating junk food over and over again, having toxic friends that basically make you feel worse, fighting martial arts where you can get hit on the head, right? And all of those things, I'm not saying they're necessarily bad, right? Obviously, junk food, for example, is not healthy, whatever. But the thing is, there is cost to them. There is downsides, but none of these behaviors is caused by a broken brain or because of addiction or because of a loss of control. All of these choices were made again over and over based on perceived benefits. Okay? If you look at the guy that fights martial arts, maybe he wants to protect his family and him being hit on the head and killing neurons. Doesn't matter that much because he wants to have, for example, being able to protect his family, for example, and feeling masculine. Right. That might be the benefit. Someone that stays in an abusive relationship, maybe he believes that he's going to feel loved when the woman or the man is going to calm themselves down and not be abusive anymore. Right. He wants that benefit. Right. He wants the benefit of love. Maybe that's his belief. Okay. Or maybe going over the speed limits, it's like, oh, maybe you feel better. Maybe you feel like this is an adventure that you cannot feel anywhere else. So you're like, okay, I'm willing to even potentially one day pay the cost of dying just for that. That's how people see it. Obviously they don't want the downsides. No one wants downsides, but benefits is what motivates us. Okay? So we use the self, and this is the benefit of having an addict self-image. We use the self-image of an addict to feel less shame about watching porn masturbate. Right? And again, I'm not saying those things because I want to say, oh, look, you say that you're an addict, you think that you have the self-image of an addict so that you can watch porn, right? And you shouldn't do that because you cannot watch porn, right? Obviously, this course, I'm not saying do this or do that in a sense of don't watch porn or don't masturbate, right? I'm not saying those things. I'm just giving you the information so that you can make an informed decision if you want to even quit in the first place or not and make the choice if you want to quit or not, right? But that's the thing with the self-image of an addict, how we used to use it before. For example, if you're religious, you don't just want to admit that you like porn and take responsibility for that because people will tell you to stop and feel shame, right? People will tell you you're dumb, right? Like, why are you even doing this? Why are you even committing this sin, right? And I'm religious. You guys know I'm religious. So I'm not attacking religion by any means. I'm just saying that you want to use the self, I mean, you won't say, oh, I love watching porn, I love masturbating, that's why I do it, right? Because if you were honest, when you used to be with the NoFap stuff and when you used to watch porn, you'd quote unquote enjoy it. Obviously you enjoy it for illusionary reasons, which we're going to debunk, but you enjoyed it. So it's like you didn't want to just say it, right? Maybe you said it to your friends multiple times of like, yeah, I watched this model, whatever, she's amazing. right? That was in the past. So when we say to ourselves and to other people, I watch porn because I'm addicted. I want to stop, but I can't. You already know the reaction is going to be way different for the same exact people, right? You simply blame something else, addiction, urges, brain changes, withdrawals, whatever, in order to do what you want to do in the first place, which is to watch porn for the perceived benefits, which we're going to tackle in the course. We watch porn for the benefits we think it's going to give us. I am not being passive-aggressive, okay, by any means. Forcing you to stop doing such behavior, I'm not doing that. I'm not forcing you to stop doing anything. I just want to make you aware of such possibility. I just want to make you aware that maybe you've been kind of saying that, oh, I'm an addict because you want the benefit of not having responsibility. But even then, it's like you can have not, I mean, it's not because you say that you're something that life is going to just stop giving you responsibilities. You might still have responsibilities. You just can distract yourself from the fact that you have responsibilities. And there's a video on distraction because distraction, you're just distracting your own self when you're watching. It's not porn that's distracting you. It's not literally a lifeless video on the screen. It's your own self. Okay? So that's what you need to understand. Okay? So the problem is you never end up knowing why you even want to watch porn in the first place. You just blame addiction and you want to do it, right? Statistics shows that 11% of men and 3% of women feel addicted to porn. Without NoFap, people don't label themselves an addict and the frequency of watching is based on the choice, not irresistible urges or addiction. And most of the time they just do it like infrequently or maybe sometimes it can be a bit more frequent, whatever. But their mindset is way different when you don't label yourself as an addict. Right. And also every single person I've heard that left porn forever instantly when they chose to, after the reasoning to do it was literally just overall not seeing themselves an addict. They just saw it as like something they did a bit too much. But then NoFap tells you, no, but if you see yourself as you're just doing it a bit too much, then that means that you're going to go back to it and that you have a problem, you just cannot see it. That's just like they put you in fear, man. They just put you in fear because that's what they believe to be true. And it's not really their fault, it's just that they believe in the recovery ideology, which recovery ideology is based on a business model. So without NoFap, what happened is if someone just labeled himself as an addict, he moves on easily. I mean, he wants to make a change in his life and feels like porn won't be valuable anymore. So that means that he decreased the value and he makes the choice to leave porn behind with conviction and internal want, meaning that's a perceived value because it's like, oh, look, I'm going to be able to have more time, I'm going to be more focused. I want to start this business. I want to get closer to God. It's going to help me with those things. This is going to be amazing. I'm going to feel better, whatever. And then he doesn't even see much value because it's like, oh, that's not aligned with that. But also, porn is kind of boring. I mean, it's just like watching two people have sex on the screen. It's like, I'd rather just even be celibate than doing that. It's really like that. People don't see it from this lens of like, oh, this is the greatest thing on Earth, and also it's going to destroy my life. Like, they don't see it that way. They just see it as like, okay, something that I've been doing because other people told me so. Now I just want to make a change in my life. I don't need it anymore. There's no point in doing it, whatever. And then you move on actually just like any other behavior. But it's important to actually move forward because when I talk to people, one of the number one mistake they made is they just look at porn masturbation and they try so hard to just debunk it and try to just basically make it so that they don't even feel like watching porn masturbating. But if you actually have a vision, which we talked about in the beginning, And you move forward, meaning that you just go and live your life. Don't even watch porn. You don't even watch videos on how to quit porn. You just move on and you change your life because you're moving forward towards something instead of just staying at the same place. Because if you just debunk it, debunk it, debunk it, you're just staying at the same place. You're just doing the same things over and over again. And you don't even have a reason, even the smallest reason to move forward besides feeling a bit better, feeling a bit happier. right? So it's better if you know exactly what you want and your vision, where you're going, so that you can just change your life by moving forward and not by going back to what you used to be or what you are right now. Okay? So, and I'm not saying like what you are right now, what you used to be is necessarily bad. I'm just saying that with PMO is something that was attached maybe to your identity, your lifestyle. I mean, if you just move forward and you have a new vision, it can be that simple, okay? The problem is we don't feel like, you know, don't feel like you need or should change your preference for porn masturbation. Instead, look at why you want to, okay? What do you actually want to do? And simply devalue PMO. Nothing is forcing you to watch porn. It's not because you watched porn in the past that you'll come back to it. You might just attach some values to it, certain beliefs, and choose it based on that. It's really that simple, right? Which are things we're going to tackle, but it's like you might just attach some value to it. You have some beliefs that are false, but that you believe in about PMO and it's like, oh yeah, maybe I need to watch porn because of plastic cancer or whatever. And then you choose to do it based on that. It's not like you're forced to do it, just you choose to do it. Because even if let's say you really, really, really, really want to quit porn, right? The same way as if you haven't ate food food for like 7 days and that you need to eat food, you could still choose to not eat the food, right? You could still choose. You could still choose to not PMO, whatever, right? Even if you really want. But we know that we want something based on the benefits, and the want comes from us, not from something external or from our chemicals, right? So the happy vision. What would your life look like if you left PMO behind? Take time, write it down. Be honest. Don't lie or force yourself to see benefits. Because this is really just like the number one thing. I'm going to ask you multiple times to do this because I want you to really be set and clear and be aware of what you can actually gain right now from quitting PMO so that you can just see if this is something you even want to quit in the first place. And this is going to change your life if you really just basically learn those things. So write it down, be honest. I mean, you have the workbook, you can do it there. and in the next video, we're gonna learn how to reject the addict label. All right, guys, so rejecting the addict label, okay? This is important because it really plays with the addict's self-image and how you've basically learned to give yourself that self-image that you're an addict, right? Which is very detrimental in the process. So look, okay, first, the playground effect. Now, the playground effect states, okay, Just imagine this. Kids are playing on a playground, right? There's a parent here. Now, if the kid plays in a playground and let's say that kid exactly falls on her knees, right? Falls on her face, for example. Right now she's going to be a bit hurt and she's going to look maybe there's going to be a wound, whatever. She's going to be hurt, there's going to be pain, but she's just going to brush it off and continue playing most of the time, right? If no one intervenes, right? She's going to be like, oh, you know what? It's okay. But the moment an adult sees the same exact thing happening where she falls on her knees or face, whatever, now it starts being worried and starts being like, are you okay? I think you hurt yourself very badly. You should be careful. Look, I think you might have done something bad to yourself. And the adult looks worried, right? And it looks a bit like, okay, something bad just happened. Something really bad. Now the kid is worried. Now the kid is like, oh, maybe there's actually something bad happening with me. There's maybe something bad that just happened and I really need to be worried about, right? And that reaction Wouldn't have happened if the kid just brushed it off and there was no adults, right? But the kid didn't brush it off because the adult looked worried, even though it's the same thing happening. Okay, this is the playground effect. And we pimmo with position. Okay? And this is something that people don't understand is you're never out of control. Imagine someone walks up on you in the middle of watching it. Are you still out of control? Imagine the only porn you could watch was almost sexual porn. Would you still watch it because you're out of control? Imagine that it was the only one. Imagine you were out of control. Would that mean that you would binge porn 8 times in a row because of it? Obviously not, right? You know you won't do those things. It requires thinking. If you want to PMO, okay, you make the choice to do it with precision. You make sure no one is around, for example, or else you'll probably make the choice to not watch it. Even if you feel like PMOing, you can still decide to think and act differently Through reasoning. It's not like porn is out to get you and you gotta run and hide from it. It's a simple question of, should I go to the steakhouse or to the fast food joint? And you reason, okay, but maybe the steakhouse today is better because of there's gonna be more people or, oh, maybe I want to feel better and fast food gives me a good, it tastes better than steaks, whatever, right? You see, use reasoning. You're like, what do I want and what do I think is going to give me the best? And then you reason which one you like more. It's really that simple. With porn, we do the same things, but with porn, we make the analyzation with false ideas, which we're going to cover. But because of these false ideas, because of these false things, we just look at porn with shame. We're like, oh, should I not watch porn or should I watch porn? I don't want to feel shame, but at the same time, I want to watch porn. It's really just overall not good because we just base our actions and thoughts based on false beliefs and ideas. Okay? And the consequences don't matter. Okay? It's not that you're an addict who does it despite consequences and costs and downsides of watching porn. It's that you do it based on your preference that you've built. Okay? Just like there's many people that drink coffee, black coffee every single day. They like it. At first didn't like it. It's rare that people actually like the taste of black coffee. And at first they didn't really like it, but then they learned to like it because they were feeling better when they were working and all of those things. And maybe even at first, the first time they drank it, they even feel better, right? But with time, they've learned to like it. They've learned to attach value. They say, oh, it gave me more energy, it makes me awake, whatever. And now because of that, they're ready to do it despite if there's consequences. Maybe the downsides of coffee can be like, oh, your stomach hurts often, or maybe it's like you go to the toilet often, whatever. And you don't really care about those things because you're willing to pay the cost in order to get the benefits. You do it based on your preference. And you can change if you actually want to change. And I'm not saying this to coerce you or force you to change. I'm just saying if you want to. And costs and downsides can matter, but not as much as benefits do. Obviously, no one wants for you to, I mean, you probably don't wanna waste your time, right? If you watch porn, it's like you probably don't wanna spend 1 hour a day doing that and you wanna do something else. I understand, right? You don't want that, that costs and downsides. But we see it as, and we're gonna cover this, but we see porn as something that is like we're willing to pay the cost for. Okay? So what is this addictive self-image? Okay? It's like imagine you get injured and you think that something bad happened to your leg, but in reality, nothing bad happened. You just feel a bit of pain. But the doctor and your loved ones try to convince you that you cannot not walk and you need to live in a wheelchair. And then you try standing up and they scream in worry. So you never experience the freedom to just walk and live your life normal again. That's what the porn recovery industry told you to believe. It's literally that, right? You can go and live your life without porn. It's really that easy, okay? And the porn industry and also the NoFap and the porn recovery industry, but I mean the porn recovery industry, my bad, right? And a part of it is the actual porn industry, but the porn recovery industry has led you to believe that, no, you need to stay in your bed or in your wheelchair because you cannot walk, even though you can actually walk pretty easily and you can adapt even if you're, if you're in pain, right? And that's what people don't understand. Just look at alcohol. Study shows that 25% of consumers of alcoholic beverages will be considered addicts, yet by age 30, only 6 to 7% of them will be considered alcoholics because the label of an alcoholic is very, very broad. And I don't want to, you know, this is not a course on how to quit alcohol, so I don't need to get into like the whole debunking, you know, addiction and alcohol. But we see also in other regions of the world where they don't see alcohol as a potential addiction, they drink wine with every single meal and don't think I am addicted or act like one or show any signs of dependence. The same thing happened with the coca leaf in Peru. And people move on easily. Many people do this with PMO and many other things in life, even with drugs. I've heard many people told me this. For example, they say, I used to watch porn and I want to change. And do better things in my life. And they move on because they want to change. They're not forced to. They think clearly, they don't buy into the recovery ideology and the addiction ideology, the NoFap ideology. They just make the choice themselves and move on from it, okay? Just like you probably lived a life with video games, with laziness, you didn't believe in God. And then one day you started taking new information in, you decided to change those things about your life. You started to go and do uncomfortable things like going to the gym, build new projects, working a job, quitting those habits, it wasn't hard because that's what you wanted to do and you believed you could actually do, right? It's really that simple, right? So if you saw, for example, I'm not saying that I'm for or against people like Andrew Tate, right? But if you saw people like Andrew Tate and the number of people that started going to the gym, the number of people that started taking interest in religion, the number of people that actually became religious, for example, the number of people that started businesses because of that and really just basically went and did the opposite of their lifestyle that they had. None of the people that instead of acting in a, let's say feminine way, they started acting in a more masculine way, which are things that can be considered hard because building businesses is not just doing nothing. And for example, going to the gym, every day or whatever, multiple times a week is not also doing nothing. And they just, they love it. And that's for them, that's something, it's not even discipline. They just want to do it way more than they want to be lazy. And it's just that the new intake of information, they've watched some of Andrew Tate's videos and whatever. And again, I'm not for or against Andrew Tate. I'm pretty neutral on this, but you see what happens and that can happen with anyone at any time just with intake of new information. When we get marked, we think, oh, I can't, if we say I can't control it, I can't move on from porn, it's not an addiction, I simply decide to watch porn, let me do something else. You'll start getting response from NoFap and recovery coaches saying like, look, he's addicted, he just can't control himself, he has a problem that he's unaware of. The one with the most trauma is the one who denies the trauma. Things of that nature, they will say. And if you quit easily, we just say, oh no, no, but you know, he wasn't an addict, he just didn't have trauma, right? The recovery ideology is a business, which they created awareness of the disease of addiction, right? The addiction is learned the moment a recovery expert tell us we're hooked, right? This is an expert called Alfred Lindsmith that saw this with quote unquote addictions to drugs and things of that nature that like, you know, people, where basically the moment that they start being worried and basically addicted is the moment that an expert or someone like a loved one told them, you're hooked, man. And that's what happened. Okay? And why didn't it work in the past? It's because you feel like you have to or that you should. And then you try quitting with this mindset that it doesn't work, right? So they tell you, look, you relapse. It's like a failure. But the past choices were based on NoFap ideologies, not on the truth, but on false information. But you don't have an handicap, you don't have a weakness, you don't have a lack of ability to change. That's all a lie. It's just that the NoFap space is so uninformed on how humans work basically. And they just try to force you by making you scared of porn and making you scared of the downsides. They just try to coerce you so that you can just going full abstinence and it doesn't work. You go on these forums. Last time I was on the forum, it said a guy was in his form 9 years ago and still struggles with porn, right? And it's not that he struggles with porn, it's just that there's many things which he didn't tackle. Like why does he even want to watch porn? And if he can just live a life that is better, right? Just to make it simple, Jordan Peterson, There was an interview where he said that people move on from addictions when they just find something else better to do with their lives. I mean, I'm not saying that this course is about finding something else better to do with their lives, but it just shows it's really that simple. And obviously Jordan Peterson, I don't know if it's that the actual truth, but it makes sense because when you really just understand how simple it is, you don't see really yourself as an addict and you really go and live your life because you see more value and you feel more happy just going about life and you don't just sustain under these NoFap videos and constantly worry about that, then what happens is instead of being consumed by all of this information about quitting porn, about porn is bad for you and all of those things being on social media, you're actually able to experience life. That's the problem in societies that we have, in the society that we have, right? With technology, I'm not saying that technology is inherently bad, but with technology, people spend so much time inside of their house, just scrolling, scrolling, scrolling, which again, I'm not saying this is inherently bad, but the thing is when they spend most of the time just on technology, what happens is they never even get to experience how beautiful is life, right? They never get to experience, even if let's say you're so lonely, you have zero friends like I used to do in the past, you never experience, for example, going in nature. You never experience, for example, whatever, right? Spending time with yourself, finding deep things about yourself, finding new hobbies. They never experienced life in general. They just think life is dull. Oh, look, I'm going to watch porn again. I feel scared. And I'm not saying that the cure to stop watching porn is just to go and be busy and just go outside and just stay in nature. I'm just saying that it's really simple. But if we just constantly think that, oh, look, I need to watch the next video to quit porn, and then I'm going to be able to experience life. No, that's not how it works. You need to experience life right now because it's not that you need to, it's just that it is beneficial for you. You're able to experiment and see what you actually like. Because look, I've quit video games just by watching a few videos about saying that video games are useless, you don't need them. And then I was like, you know what? Let me just see what life is about. Let me just go. Because my thought process was like, I can just play video games but in real life. And I went out there and did that. And it doesn't mean that you start achieving things from day one, but just being able to just progress day to day, running, going and improving myself, reading books. I was like, man, this is awesome. I'm literally building my GTA character in real life. And boom, I never want to go back to video games. And it's not like I'm playing the battle of, oh, am I going to go back to playing video games or not? Because we didn't have this quote-unquote recovery mindset with video games. So loser face against growth mindset, which I talked about already. But look, even though this course is worthless, I don't want you to feel scared if you struggle a bit in the beginning or feel like you want to PMO. And that's another thing with like, you need to just go and live your life because the thing is, if you just stay in your house and it's not to say that if you just stay in your house, you're going to watch porn because you don't take drugs even if you stay in your house for like 30 days straight and see no one, right? But even if you feel a bit like you desire it, because this course is really about debunking that desire so that you don't even desire it, right? But even if you feel a bit like that in the beginning, don't worry, okay? If you worry, the problem with worrying is just like you don't analyze anything. You just go and and basically you feel like you're out of control when in reality it's just that you choose to worry based on how you used to react. And you think that, oh, I'm gonna feel shame if I watch porn, so let's not watch porn. But you don't look at why you even wanna watch porn in that moment. And study shows time and time again, those who see struggle as normal and also an opportunity to grow, they end up succeeding in every aspect of life way more than those that just See it as, oh, this is the limit of my capabilities, right? If you see it as a show, I'm not saying that this course is like, oh, look, you're going to battle urges. We're going to debunk urges, but it's not that you're going to go and live your life and be like, oh man, this is going to be hard. I'm going to go and fight off porn, whatever. We're not fighting anything, right? We're just understanding ourselves and why we decide to watch porn, okay? So fixate against growth mindset. Look, even though this course— why? Okay, sorry guys for just repeating this. I just didn't realize. But again, studies show also those who have a growth mindset. So like mistake help me, mistakes help me learn. Feedback is valuable and prove it practice. I won't give up. Is this my best work? It's just being able to just look at what is in front of you and just being able to learn and just like, it's not necessarily about achievement, it's just being about learning about this. Because let's say for example, you feel like you wanna watch porn for some reasons, right? If you see it as an opportunity to learn why you even wanna watch porn in the first place and say it's like, for example, you're like, okay, wait, so let me put my emotions aside and let me see why do I even wanna watch porn? Then you're like, oh, it's because, of I think that if I watch porn, it's gonna give me love and right now I feel lonely. And then you analyze and then you're like, oh, so that's why. And then you gain from it, right? You gain because instead of seeing it the quote unquote, it's not even a struggle to want to watch porn. It's just that you want to, right? It's not like something bad or good, it's just that you want to, okay? So when you see it that way, you're literally able to learn and then you're like, oh, Samir, so last time I kind of felt a bit like I wanted to watch porn. "but it was like I wanted to feel love and I thought that porn could give me love, but then I realized porn is not really linked to love because I felt a bit lonely." Boom, now I can just give you a personalized video. Now I can just help you with that, just to debunk that and really help you with those things. A good example, the growth mindset based on studies that shows that those who have a lower IQ outgrow those that have a higher IQ with a fixed mindset. Just with the growth mindset. When a fixed mindset person struggles, he sees it as a limit of his abilities, he gives up. They thought they were gifted, that some people had it and some people don't. Those with a growth mindset took classes with bigger and more challenging goals. The fixed mindset took the easier ones. The growth mindset puts more effort, problems equals challenges for them, opportunities for growth, right? And here we're talking about like tests, right? We're talking about like exams, for example. We're talking about like relationships where it's like there's actually an act of like succeed. It's not just a choice. It's not like, oh, let me make the choice of succeeding because it's not really 100% in your control when it comes to watching porn. It's the opposite. We are actually able to choose. So it's even easier. Okay. I mean, it's not even easy or hard. It's just like, you know, it's up to you. But these guys are able, imagine just with a growth mindset to just, Live life and change. It's really that simple, guys. And even in relationships, those with a fixed mindset, when faced with rejection, they thought, "Oh, I'm just not good enough. Relationship wasn't meant to be." It's like saying, "Oh, I couldn't go to the gym, but I don't have the genetics." Like, you didn't even go to the gym. It's really that kind of mindset. Whilst the growth mindset sees it as a challenge and an opportunity to improve if they get rejected. For example, or for example, if they say that they might think that they have bad genetics, but let me maximize those genetics because I can grow to the point where it's like, even if I have bad genetics, I can have a better physique than 99% of people that have good genetics because they don't even work out. Right. It's really that simple, guys. And there's more neuroplasticity because study shows again and again that after learning of neuroplasticity, so that means that Neuroplasticity is when your brain changes based on you repeating a certain behavior or thought so that it can become easier, AKA that there's less resistance when you do the behavior or thought again, right? And people with a fixed mindset are able to change after learning about neuroplasticity. And neuroplasticity, it's like your brain can now adapt to learn new things and when you repeat those things. Just like the taxi driver who learns to remember almost every street and changes his brain structure because of that, or you learning to play the piano at a high level also changes your brain. So it becomes easier for you to think and act faster the next time you play piano instead of being like, oh, but where is that note? Where is that note? Where is that note? And instead of just thinking for quite some time, Instead, you're just like, oh, let me play that note. And it's fast, right? It's like you don't even need to think that much. Yes, you do need to think a little bit, but it's way faster. It's like you're playing flawlessly, right? That's what happens. Okay, this is no persistence. We can adapt to anything. Change usually comes from thinking differently than you have in the past. This is called cognitive appraisal, okay? Simply gaining knowledge about the things in this course allows you to be able to think differently. Of course, understand the knowledge, right? Don't just skim through it. And you're never out of control. It's not like you're driving a car that you've lost control over. And even if you're trying, it does nothing and that it would crash even if you don't want to. It's not that, right? We're gonna talk about a few rules so that you can really learn because if you want to not watch mine, if you really want to, then you're not gonna watch mine, right? If you want to not watch mine. Nothing will force you. When you talk with friends for just a few minutes since you gotta go, you say, "But I have something to do." But you end up talking for 3 hours. Is it that you lost control and you were addicted to talking with friends? No, it's just the truth is you probably enjoyed it and you were like, "Oh, this is actually amazing. Let me keep talking to them." Or maybe it was just a belief like, "Oh, if I go, they're gonna insult me." right? It's really that simple, guys. It's things of that nature. So what if I face pain? First, you're not an addict or ruled by something called urges. These are all misinformation from the recovery ideology, okay? Like opiates drugs only became addictive when the idea of addiction was invented and propagated, okay? Literally. Now, I don't want to go into drugs because I'm going to confuse you, but that was a concept that was created in the 1800s, okay? In the past, you probably used the license to misbehave, For example, if you got rejected by a woman that meant a lot to you, or you lost a family member, or you got insulted, or something bad happened to you, you might have gotten frustrated, sad, and pain thinking, why would God allow you to go through this? And you start questioning your faith. Sorry for the mistake here. Your faith and reason. Look, I'll just go back to porn then, right? Now, obviously that reaction, that's, you know, it's not a reaction as in like, you know, oh, this happens. So this would happen, right? It's not like, okay, A girl rejected me, so I'm gonna watch. No, it's reasoning, right? It's like a girl rejected me. So then you reason, oh, but why would God do this to me? And maybe it's like, oh, a girl rejected you and you're like, but that was the reason I wanted to quit porn. That's why I quit it in the first place. So then you go back to porn because you still see value in porn. Even if maybe it's like a lower amount of value, you still see value somehow. So that's what happens, okay guys? So that's what you need to understand, okay? You reason through this, you're like, oh, but they're gonna reject me, so that means that I need to go back to porn because maybe I'm not gonna have a sex life. You always find reasons based on your beliefs and your knowledge, right? And obviously we're gonna change that knowledge, we're gonna change those beliefs so it makes it so that you don't even want to. But the thing is, You gotta be aware that you're not forced to do something based on an event. You just choose to do based on your interpretation of that event and what you think is better to do, okay? Because if you debug this event, first of all, if you believe that short-term pain means that God doesn't love you, then I want you to think again because how are you gonna grow and be a man, for example, that wants to be in a relationship if you don't face pain? right? Let's say that you wanna be in a relationship, you wanna be masculine, you wanna be able to lead, and you're just a guy who has life easy, who doesn't go through any challenges, who's just a bit fragile and weak if something bad happens to him, right? And then you get in a relationship and your woman doesn't like that, and now it creates problems in relationship. Did God serve you by giving you challenges that you can learn from and opportunities, I mean, an opportunity to face that pain, to face that rejection so that you can grow mentally and look at ways that you can change your life, right? That's what you need to understand. It's not because, and another thing, okay, it's like God gave you free will. God gave you, if you're talking about any religion that is Abrahamic religion, right? So Judaism, Christianity, and Islam, like God gave you free will. So if God gave you free will, then, How is it that God is obviously not just going to give you something and you're not going to do— by not doing nothing, you're not going to be sitting in your bed and a woman will just start going, knocking on your door out of nowhere, right? Yeah, it can happen, but you see my point, okay? So it's not like a lot of people like to blame God for whatever happens to them. And I'm not trying to shame you for doing so, But God gave us free will, right? God is not going to choose what we do. It's up to us. Now, obviously, he can help us, but we need to understand that we shouldn't just put the blame on God and be like, oh, God didn't give me this, so I'm going to take revenge by worshiping, by doing this sin, right? It doesn't work like that, okay? Because that's just a really— not a defeatist mindset, but a negative mindset because when you face pain, when you face challenges, that's how you grow by slaying the dragon, right? By literally, it's like the story of like, imagine that the princess got stolen and your village got basically almost all killed by a dragon. Now if you face that dragon and say, you know what, I'm going to train so that I can kill that dragon and this never happens and I can protect that village, that's when real changes occurs because You're literally facing that pain. So if you don't have that pain, then how is life gonna be meaningful in any sense? How are you gonna be able to grow? You need those rejections, you need that pain. I'm not saying that you need to go and seek it, but I'm just saying that you should be able to embrace it. And obviously you might not feel good at first when you see those challenges in front of you, but it allows you to just, it's an opportunity to grow. Then ask yourself, have you ever learned and improved your life so much after going through a painful event. Me, when I was bullied multiple times over and over again, it is what literally allowed me to just do everything I do today when it comes to even this business of coaching people, of going to the gym 6 times a week, 3 times a week, whatever, of training martial arts, of improving myself so that women are actually now attracted to me. Things of that nature, right? It's what allows me. If I didn't get bullied, I probably just would've been a guy that was normal and followed whatever society told me to do, right? So I'm grateful. Okay? So for example, also, if you watch a certain genre of porn, for example, okay, this is something that people really need to be aware of. Okay? If you watch a certain genre of porn that you feel regret about, maybe it's something that is very, very taboo. Maybe there's something that society doesn't accept. Maybe it's just something that your morality doesn't accept, right? Here's a way to think about it. You can instead reframe this. Instead of being like, oh, I watch this, now my life is doomed, right? Instead, you can be like, I was so low in my life that I watched those jars of porn in the past, but because I was so low, when I will transform my life, it will be even more meaningful and I'll be able to help those that watch the same jars. Now, the problem people have is they just look back at their past and whatever happened to them or whatever they chose to do, which they feel regret about, and they never look forward. They never look to improving themselves. We're not even talking about self-improvement. We're talking about just like things that could change your life so that you can actually do what you want to do, which will make those past mistakes or make those past events not just irrelevant, but something that you can use to your advantage to say to people, look, I've experienced this. and I'm grateful because this is where I'm at right now in life. You need to see it as an opportunity. Okay? Just like when I was bullied, just like I was bullied sometimes, physically bullied, right? Getting hit in the face, whatever. And it's like, you use that as a story for your kids, for example, right? Use that because people in the West, and I'm going to make a video on this, but people in the West, I have this mindset that if something bad happens to me, then it's the end of the world, right? It's like, why did this happen to me? This is the worst thing on Earth. I feel bad about this, whatever, right? And we can get some form of value out of thinking that way. That's what happens in the West. It's like, oh, this guy experienced this. This guy had this in the past, so let's treat him better, right? That's what happens usually. So obviously it makes sense to just ruminate on problems, but the problem with ruminating on problems is that it creates more problems and it creates what? A lack of action. And action, I'm not saying that in terms of create a business and putting in all of that work, but I'm saying in terms of things that would actually move the needle forward and actually experience life in the first place. Because if you're just ruminating about your problems, you're never going out there living your life. You're never going out there building things that you want to do. You're never out there living the life that God designed for you, then you're just gonna be in this rabbit hole of looking back at your past, not taking a step forward, and looking back at your past and feeling even worse and worse and worse, right? Which is just a never-ending cycle. So to fix myself, well, we think, oh, I've done this in the past, I was this kind of part in the past, that means that I'm deviant, no one will like me. And we only see the surface. But for example, for me, When I watch the most weird videos and fetishes, which I don't even want to mention to that point, but obviously you can know what I'm talking about. For example, the kind of like transgender porn. For example, what was it? Like the porn where the girl is really tied up, whatever, with all of these disgusting things. I didn't let that define me, right? I just presented myself with the information that the videos I would watch were only a video that didn't define me, okay? They didn't define me because I looked at it as if it was my old self. I used to do this in the past, but now I work so that I can look forward, right? I used to be bullied. Now obviously I use that as motivation, but the thing is that's me in the past. I changed now. How did I change? By changing, by doing things that will allow me to change. If I just stayed there and be like, I got bullied, man, cannot do much about it. Why did I get bullied? When I'm going to be in a relationship, I'm going to have to say to my partner that I got bullied and she's probably going to think I'm weak and she's probably going to think that I'm a victim. Whatever. Now it's like, yeah, of course you're going to feel like a victim and weak. But if you're actually moving forward with your life, that's why I said to build a vision. If you're actually experiencing life, then you're literally building a new self, right? You're building yourself and you're like, naturally you're like, okay, you're detaching from the old you, right? Which is normal. It's like you probably don't associate with yourself when you were 10 because it's like you were someone else. Entirely different, right? But you can do the same at any age with any past events and past self, okay? You can change. We all change, okay? Never blame God. God gave us free will. We can choose to be mad, to watch porn, to give charity, to help others, to fight someone, whatever. We can choose that. We can choose all of those things. He's not controlling us in terms of our choices and actions, okay? We have a choice, but God doesn't make you do a choice. If God was choosing for you at every single second, then what would be the point of living life? What would be the point? You're not even conscious. You're just like, basically, your hands are not moving by your own will. Your hands are moving and you cannot do anything about it for your whole life. It's like an animal who just lives off instincts, but even worse because you really don't do anything. Okay? You never have problems in your life. You have challenges. That's something that will change your life if you think about it that way. We get so, so focused again in the West and the media that like, I have this problem, I need to go to this therapy, problems, problems, problems, problems, problems, problems, problems. And we have like, we almost base our worth based on the problems that we face. Now obviously you can use that to your advantage in the sense that, oh, I've faced those problems so I can help other people that are facing those problems. Or things of that nature. But ruminating on problems is just— I'm not saying this so that you can just man up and just be more tough, but I'm just saying this so that you can actually move forward and see what life is about, right? See what life can bring to you and see how you can just change yourself. Okay? The moment you look at whatever happens in life that you think is negative as a challenge, you can actually overcome to become stronger, to learn, to give a lesson to your future kids, wow, you'll be grateful, man. You'll always be grateful. If I get rejected by a woman, this is a story I can tell to my kids, right? Let's say I want to be married and a woman doesn't like me. I can be like, okay, okay, if she doesn't like me, it was because of this reason. Let me improve that about myself. Boom, I'm better now, right? Like, if you face something, a thing I always do, it's like I used to write down a plan of like how I can learn from this. And man, I was grateful. I went from almost crying sometimes because let's say, for example, something bad happened to me, to, oh, this is actually the greatest thing that happened to me. Literally, I'm not kidding, and start being happy. That rejection from one girl becomes a story you can tell your kids or learning lesson that you can use to help others who face the same thing. Even if you struggle, stop worrying. It doesn't mean something isn't for you again and that you will not go back to PMO You might struggle a little bit because you were used to feel trapped all of your life. You can choose your self-image, look at your vision, and start associating yourself with the man you want to become. Things will flow naturally. Remember, it's a choice, not a battle. You don't have a weakness or an handicap. You can learn anything new and adapt to it, right? Just like you maybe might have went from being lazy, a couch potato, to wanting to improve yourself all day and work all day, right? And you can easily unlearn anything. And move on to that new self-image, okay? So I want you to reflect, forgive yourself for a moment. The past struggles with PMO was because of the misinformation that you were not aware of. You had the best intention and wanted to quit PMO, you wanted to do it for God, but NoFap and the recovery ideology made it a battle against your own self and made you basically blind to the fact of why you're even doing the behavior in the first place and how life can actually bring you more things. Okay, so take a minute here and just forgive yourself. Understand that it actually wasn't your fault so that you can just be more clear-headed. Okay, so that's it for the video. In the next video, we're going to talk about debunking withdrawals. All right guys, debunking withdrawals. So what are withdrawals? Okay, when an unknown toxins from a substance comes to the body, the body got to adapt to those, right? It creates a tolerance. It creates not a desire to come back, but just a physical reaction, which can be fatal sometimes, right? And that's why we always give this example of a guy that takes opiates in the street compared to a guy that takes opiates in an hospital. Even if they take the same amount of the same drug, there's going to be complete different reactions, but the physical reaction will remain the same. But the psychological, meaning in the mind, is gonna be different, okay? Drugs and PMO. PMO is not ingested into the body like drugs, alcohol, or smoking. The theory from NoFap is that we load so much wrong stimuli that your body gets to adapt to it, just like it adapts from the toxins of a drug. And then we use brain changes to prove it, which makes zero sense, literally zero sense, okay? Where are the withdrawals then, okay? First of all, why don't we have withdrawals from watching too many Netflix? Netflix shows or playing too much video games. Why don't we say, oh, I look at withdrawal now, I feel compelled or forced to play again? No one ever talked about withdrawals from these, yet they provide a lot of stimuli. I mean, a Netflix show, there can be sex scenes even. Playing video games, there can be sexual characters. I mean, there can be, there's a quest, there's a tribe, there's missions, there's achievements, there's progress. There's all of these things that we can do in real life that humans have always, I mean, evolved to do. Yet we don't say, oh, I have a withdrawal for video games, I need to play again. Because the concept is flawed, right? There's the story of this ex-opiate user, okay, that was literally, she was hooked on opiates, right? She said that she used to have an addiction to opiates and that if she took one sip of it again or she consumed it again for even like, really tiny amount that she would get hooked again, right? That was her belief. So she had a surgery and that surgery, at the end of the surgery, she was like awake and in so much pain that she needed something to relieve her pain, right? And opiates are known to relieve pain as a drug. Now she needed something. So the doctor went and usually because they consume opiates in different forms, but he went and took a liquid form of, opiates, which she couldn't recognize as opiates. And she gave it to the patient. And she literally consumed it. Her pain was relieved. And because she told the doctor to not give you opiates before, and she was like, thank you for respecting my choice. And I'm so grateful for giving me whatever you gave me to relieve the pain. And it wasn't opiates, right? She taught her mind that it wasn't opiates, even though it was. And she went out and lived her life and didn't go back to opiates, didn't feel any withdrawals, right? Didn't feel any quote-unquote cravings to go back, which shows that it's not about the actual withdrawals or whatever, right? It's not about those things. It's about how people perceive it, okay? How people think, oh, look, I have an opiate in my body, Oh, look, I've watched porn in the past, so now I'm going to have withdrawals, right? It doesn't work like that. Withdrawals are so broad also. You cannot define them when it comes to porn. Because even if there was withdrawals that people say, oh, look, I feel light-headed, I feel less energy, but how do you know it's because of porn? It could be because of anything else. And people always say different things. One guy says, I have less energy. One guy says, I have too much energy. One guy says, I feel bad, I feel angry. One guy says, I feel whatever, frustrated. It's really different from everyone, right? Just like the hospital user and recreative user, right? The guy on the street feels like he needs to do it again. Yet the guy who takes the same things at hospital feels like it's just a sickness, right? The way he interprets it is the physical feeling that both gets when the guy in the street interprets it as a compelling kind of sign that they need to do it again. Whilst the hospital users sees it as like, oh, this is just whatever. This is just a sickness. This is toxins that my body will adapt to. They don't see it as like, oh, I need to do it again in order to relieve that. They literally don't see it like this. You just see it as a sickness. Alfred Lindsmith, about how withdrawals are created— this is an expert in the 20th century— explained how there's 3 things that need to happen. First, to experience the withdrawal, the physical phenomenon. So that means that you feel something. It can be like anything. It can be like low energy. It can be feeling sick. Maybe it can be You add Earth, whatever. Second, concern over that withdrawal. So cognitive phenomenon, right? It's like, oh, you know, oh, I'm feeling that way. You know, this is something, maybe I need to go back to porn because if I watch porn, I'm gonna be able to relieve that, right? It's just, you know, it's withdrawal. And then third, engage in the drug again to avoid the withdrawal. So that means, for example, if they feel stressed out and that's their physical phenomenon and they get worried about the fact that they get stressed out, And they engage in it. Now they obviously will relieve the stress, quote unquote, and we're going to talk about this. They don't relieve the stress because of porn, but because they're distracted. They're distracting themselves while they're watching porn. And then they're like, look, I just relieved that stress. This is the behavioral phenomenon. And people misattribute the physical side effects of the concept of withdrawals creating craving. Okay, that's the thing. And what happens with PMO is if you see value and give it personal meaning, you might feel driven to do it again under certain situations. Just like the guy that loves playing basketball might feel like playing again. Or let's say he's been playing basketball for like 1 year or like a few weeks, whatever. He might feel like playing again if he actually likes it and gives it personal meaning under certain situations. So that means if, for example, playing basketball is 1 hour away from him, and yeah, it gives a personal meaning, but at the same time, it's not that important for him, he's probably not going to play. He might not play for like a year, right? Even if he likes it, right? Then he would play every day if it was nice to him, right? Because you reason, you reason, okay? For example, you might be stressed one day and you might think it's because of porn masturbation. This is the physical phenomenon. And then you feel concerned about that. This is a cognitive phenomenon. Then you engage in porn again to relieve that, behavioral phenomenon. So you stress, which was maybe caused by other things in your life, and attributed that to withdrawals of porn. And because of that, you feel like porn will restress, and then you're motivated to want to watch porn again, right? Think about what is the moment before coming to the NoFap ideology that you left porn for multiple days without thinking about it, right? For me, for example, I went on a 3-day trip with school to New York when I was like 15, 15. So it was at the peak of— I loved porn by then for some reasons, right? I was consuming it and I just maybe not compulsively, but it was something that I looked forward to at the end of the day. And I didn't even think of watching porn until 3 days when I was in New York. Was it because I'm busy? Okay, cool. Yeah, I'm out. But when we were back at the hotel, I could have easily watched it, but I didn't want to. Right. Even then it shows that there's no withdrawal because even if I'm busy, that means that if I'm busy, that means I'm focused on something else mentally, not necessarily physically because it's not like hunger, right? Which hunger is like, even if you're busy, you're gonna physically feel it, right? And you're gonna want to eat in order to survive, right? So reflect and write it down. Think back of a moment where you left porn for multiple days without thinking about it. Anyway, in the next video we're gonna talk about debunking finishes And this is gonna be a good one because this is how you can really just let go of these lustful ideas that you think that you're gonna bring in your marriage. For example, you think you're gonna bring in your relationships and that you don't want to bring in your relationship. I'm brainwashing you. All right guys, I'm brainwashing yourself from NoFap. So let's just get into it, okay? There's two opposite scenarios, okay? You and me wanted to improve our lives. We came across NoFap and we got told immediately to just quit porn. Porn no matter what. And that if you watch porn again, that it will be shameful and disgraceful, right? But then we have guys that want to improve their lives. They heard a bit about how watching porn is useless and that not watching porn is actually better. And they tried and felt better and never went back to it. And they never really watched porn again, right? And it's not the first time that I've heard about those stories. I've seen it multiple times happen again and again. And it's just a normal reaction, right? It's just normal. Like if you just went about quitting something from an internal decision compared to an external one, there's a huge difference, right? And most people think, no, but I want to quit porn, right? Even if NoFap wasn't there. But the truth is no, like you started and yes, you might somewhat want it, right? But most of the time you want it either for shallow reasons or it's just something that you've been kind of trying to adopt the beliefs from the NoFap ideology and put them on you. And so you're like, no, look, I want it, right? So that's what we need to be aware of, okay? Guys, we need to brainwash yourself from NoFap. We need to brainwash yourself from the recovery ideology because it's a false one. And not obviously, if it's false, it's very detrimental because false ideas only bring, you know, bad results. Okay, so why this happens? There's two problems here. Okay, when you get told that you shouldn't do something and you attach a lot of shame to that behavior, you never look at why you even do that behavior in the first place. That's the most simple explanation. It's like you cloud that behavior with, you have this cloud of the reasons why you watch it and you're like, I mean, the cloud representing shame and you're like, oh, look, I don't want to watch porn, right? And it's just because of that, right? Because we literally claim the reason, I'm not claiming, we cloud the reason why we watch porn with shame. And then we're like, oh no, but like, and then when we're about to watch porn, all we think about is, no, no, but like, I'm going to feel shame. It's going to be bad. I'm going to regret this, right? You don't think, oh, what am I going to get out of it? What do you think? Why do you even want to watch porn? You think, I don't want to feel that shame. I don't want to feel like that way. And obviously it doesn't work. Okay. Because I mean, if you tried shame many times before, I mean, it would've worked if you tried it so many times, right? But it never does. Okay. So that's the thing. We need to be aware of how we've been brainwashed by NoFap ideology so that we can actually quit. Recovery institutes will always inflate a problem or even create a problem in order for them to buy into their message of recovery or treatments. It's simple business. Because when you go on Instagram and you see all of these posts about porn is gonna ruin your life, porn is gonna do this, porn is gonna do that. Now you look at porn with shame and it's obviously there's a morality side of things, which I understand the shame can be like part of it, right? But what we need to understand is all of these NoFap gurus and coaches, if they want, and this is coming from someone who knows a lot about marketing, If they want someone to buy the product, you think they will just say, "Oh, not watching porn can be cool. I can give you those benefits." No, they need to say something shocking to grab their attention first of all, to put them in fear. When they're in fear, they cannot really make a logical, rational decision. Rather, it's going to be an emotional one, which is just sales 101. That's how sales work. And look, that's what happens. It's just business. They just put you in fear. They tell you you're going to have those things. They tell you that if you quit though, your life is going to be changed forever. But right now it's going to ruin your life, right? It just puts you in fear. And obviously you want to get away from that and you think, oh, but these guys probably have the solution because they've helped other people, whatever. It's just simple business. But the problem is we believe in what they say as objective truth. Okay? So it's some of this internal. If you get told by something, internal, like a community, a person, loved ones, to do something which you give personal meaning to, most of the time you'll stop for just a few days, right? Here I meant if you get told by something external, right? What you need to understand, okay, let me just fix it first of all. So when we get told by something external to us to stop doing something, but usually they usually try to coerce or tell you that you should do that thing, whatever, which you already— it's something that you give personal meaning to, meaning that you like. Most of the time you might stop for a few days if they gave you somewhat credible reasons or they kind of force you. But then at one point you're like, I just want to do that thing, right? Whatever it is that you give personal meaning to. It's like imagine you're playing basketball and then you stop playing basketball because someone told you that you could hurt your ankles. I mean, would you stop entirely or would you continue? The thing is, it's not because something, quote unquote, "ruins our lives" also that we want to stop doing it because of that. Now, the thing is that we need to understand is there's many costs that comes with different behaviors. People play extreme sports. Sports where you can get injured, for example, MMA, martial arts. But they're willing to do it in order to get the benefit, whether that benefit is for them, for example, of being a strong man, a strong father figure, for example, or being able to protect other people, being able to be a leader, whatever. Right? You see what I mean? Okay, so it's not because you can hurt your ankle that you're going to stop playing basketball. Obviously not. Okay, so realize this. Okay? The reason why Some people will just leave porn and never come back to it. Or sometimes it goes in moderation because moderation usually is the default way that people would consume porn if they don't get told by porn that porn is like the best thing on earth. And that by NoFap, that quitting porn is impossible and that you're addicted. People will just moderate, right? I remember when I was, I think 11, maybe you can say, oh, it's because I didn't know much about porn, but I was literally just, watching it maybe once a month, once every 2 months back then, right? When I was 11, it was just something I would do randomly when I felt curious, whatever, or I felt like I wanted to watch it. So that's what you can realize, okay? Because I didn't have all of this brainwashing of like, no, but I'm addicted because I watched it once, or it's going to give me euphoria, it's going to be the best thing on earth. Not at all. I was just watching porn. I wasn't even masturbating back them, right? So because you're internally convinced to do the right thing, and that's when people quit, right? When they're internally convinced that this is actually the right thing, meaning that actually reason why not watching porn is better overall compared to watching porn. But the thing is, when we get into the nofap space, we get told what to believe. We don't reason anything. We're just internally convinced that we just feel shame for that behavior. And we're convinced that, you know, it's gonna be hard to quit, that we're addicted, that dopamine is somewhat controlling us, all of those things. So we never truly look at why we even watch porn in the first place because we put that reason why that we watch porn onto other false ideas such as, oh, I'm controlled by dopamine, I'm controlled by addiction, oh, it's because of a biological urge, which are all things we're gonna cover in this course to debunk it so that you can easily move on from that. And we look at the real reason And, you know, because of that, NoFap tells us to quit porn, but we never reason if you even wanna quit porn in the first place and how it could be better for us, right? So we are in a state of I should or I need to quit porn instead of I want to quit porn. And yes, you can say I want to quit porn and you can say no, no, but actually I want to. But the thing is you have not been self-aware most of the time. 99% of the cases, you know, I've been self-aware You say that you want because you think that you want, but if you look at how you talk about porn and you struggle with porn, it's most of the time is I should or I need to quit porn, right? For example, if I work, okay, when I used to play video games like 10, 16 hours a day sometimes, it was like I want to play video games, right? But now that I left video games, it's like I want to not play video games. I mean, I want to live life instead. I want to do something else with my time. I genuinely want to do better things, right? And the thing is I want to work hard, which most people would say, no, but it's harder physically to go to the gym and work on a business and do all of those things. Okay, yeah, maybe physically, but I want to do those things, right? You can want to do anything, to be honest. You can want to do, I mean, you can go in the most extreme cases to the most simple cases. You can want to do anything. But the thing is, if you feel like you should or you need, then that means that just comes from external that you've been told to do it and that you don't even want to do that thing in the first place, right? And obviously there comes a question of discipline, whatever. But even then, if it's a choice, literally porn is a choice, right? Because if you don't make the choice of watching porn, then you're not watching porn. There's not going to be another human being forcing you, right? If you make the choice, okay, okay, to quit porn, it's, you know, if you want to leave it like basically like other people left it easily without ever going back to it, it's just that they wanted to quit porn. They were not at a place of like, I should or I need to, okay? That's what makes it like hard, okay? Now look, focusing on the cost, NoFap just tells you to focus on the negatives of porn, focus on how the porn industry is bad, How it ruins your life, how it's going to ruin your relationship, how it's going to ruin your potential. But they never address what makes you see so much value in porn that you're willing to pay these costs. Just like me in the past, probably watch these articles of like, oh, the porn industry is bad because they do this to the actress and they do that and they have immoral things. And yes, okay, the porn industry is bad, it's evil, 100%. But then you will still watch porn afterwards because The thing is you haven't addressed why you're willing to even pay those costs, what the kind of value you see in porn in the first place, okay? Because look at life in general, people are willing to pay high costs in order to get something of value to them. Most people are not aware of this, but I mean, it's simple. People are willing to pay an expensive car, which sometimes they don't even have the money to really finance it, or sometimes they do, but it's like all of their money. Or they're willing to pay big houses, to pay new phones when they don't even have the money. Or again, or maybe they actually have the money, but just in order to get that benefit that they want. It's not like there's no cost to an expensive car, to a big house, to new phone. Sometimes the cost can be long-term. For example, like for a big house, you can pay for like the next 40 years, but people are willing to pay that cost in order to get the benefit, for example, owning a house and having, uh, a comfortable place that they can call home, uh, a place where they can have children, uh, a place where it would make them more respected by their friends and their peers, whatever, right? You see what my point, okay? So then exposing NoFap. NoFap was created a few years ago by a non-religious man who saw a study about how not masturbating increases your testosterone by 145%, okay? You can look, look this up if you if you want. Now imagine this, if NoFap just told you, you can quit porn, it will be beneficial to you, would it really catch your attention? Hey, let's be honest, not really, okay? But when you exaggerate and instead say quit porn because it's ruining your life, your brain, your relationships, and you read a book like Your Brain on Porn, now you're like, oh look, all of these people, their sex life has been ruined because of that. They haven't been able to go out of the house because of porn. They haven't been able to achieve anything in life because of porn. Porn. But the reality is that's them, it's not porn. Okay? We put so much importance on porn and the value that porn first of all gives us, but also the fact that we think that porn is going to rule every aspect of our lives when in reality we're the ones that are just lazy and then we blame porn. Okay? Which I'm going to get into, right? What we need to realize is that, you know, they put fear inside of us and then they attribute the problems that we face in our day-to-day and say, oh, that's because of porn. I mean, you feel angry today, it's because of withdrawals. Oh, you feel pain? Oh, it's because whatever, it's because of porn again, or it's because of masturbation because you've been masturbating too much. Now you feel sad. No, that's what they tell you. Now you're like, oh, okay, so I need to quit porn, right? And it's not even like you want to. That's the worst part. It's not like even you want to. Because you still feel so much pleasure from it. You still feel that relief from life. You still feel like this is your secret habit that makes you enjoy life for once, whatever. So you're still willing to pay that cost, right? Now the other person starts being worried and then he hears about a parent study that confirms this of like, oh, porn addicts are most likely to get a divorce. Porn addicts are like this, right? And I'm not saying that this is not the case, right? Like porn addicts, like people that watch porn, Can I have a divorce because of porn? Of course, 100%, right? But exaggerating the claims by saying now your brain has changed, so you're going to be seeking, for example, casual sex and you're going to be cheating and you're going to do all of those things. There's literally no cause and effect relationship, yet people still say there is. Okay. And saying that, oh, because of that you're going to have depression and then because of that you're not going to be able to talk to people in real life because your brain changed. Now you're going to keep on watching porn compulsively, whatever, which is pure BS. Because if your brain changed and because of that you're going to use porn compulsively, then why are these coaches free? Why are these coaches that have their brain changed and used it compulsively, like, why are they free now? Is it because they got a magical cure? That's the thing with NoFap is they tell you like it's going to be extremely hard, it's going to take long because obviously they want members inside of their community, okay? And it just puts us in fear, okay? When you're in fear, you usually don't really use your reasoning or thinking, right? Just think, imagine that there's a beer in front of you, right? All you care about is the beer in front of you. You don't care about thinking through the fact that it might be a fake beer or thinking through the fact that you can actually survive if you climb that tree or if you hide behind that thing. I mean, yeah, you might think like, very fast, but usually you just think and react based on the situation. And now, I mean, you're feeling fear, right? So you can't really use reasoning or thinking in that situation. Now, with porn, they do the same. So when you're about to watch porn, you literally think in fear. You're like, no, no, but if I do this, I'm gonna feel shame. But then on the flip side, you're like, but if I do this, I'm gonna get so much pleasure for once, and then I'm gonna stop. So, and that's the problem with fear, okay? If you're in fear, you don't use reasoning or thinking. So that means you cannot really problem solve. And because of that, you kind of accept whatever message is fed on you in order to get out of that fear, right? So that means maybe buy my recovery 1-year program, 120 days program that all of these low fat coaches tell you about. And this is not obviously a course to expose them because What's the point where I'm trying to help you quit it? They won't even watch these videos. But it's just to say that it's really just a business at the end of the day that people use. And here I'm literally helping you deprogram yourself from that business. That's as crazy as it is. And obviously from society, obviously from other things that you're not even aware of and the overall porn industry and the brainwashing that they gave you. But the porn recovery ideology and these NoFap gurus, it's all a huge part of why we've been feeling stuck when it comes to watching porn. Okay? Because they put you in fear. They tell you, man, your brain changed, you're fucked. I mean, you're addicted. Most people see addiction, people that are addicted as people that are like crackheads and that they have nothing going on their lives and that have ruined their lives. So when we put a label onto ourselves, what do you think? How do you think we're going to act? Obviously, first of all, in fear, because we're like, no, I don't want that label. And you think you're not normal, so you're going to not take normal actions. And you think that you have the self-image that you're deviant, that you're weird because you're watching these weird fetishes. So it's like, oh, so you're going to act according to that. I mean, it's just a self-image. If you see yourself a certain way, you're going to act according to that on an unconscious and conscious level, okay? So what we need to understand is if you're in fear, like yes, they can control you, not control you as in like you literally, they're literally like having your mind and they can choose whatever thoughts you have, but rather they persuade you in a sense that they tell you, look, you should feel fear, feel fear right now because look, your brain is gonna change, your brain change because you're a dopamine junkie, because your marriage might just completely, I mean, your future marriage, for example, might completely get ruined, or no one will accept you because of the fetishes that you watch, or you're not going to be able to achieve any of your dreams. Fear, fear, fear, fear, fear. Okay? So please just put that fear aside and just relax. Porn is not that big of a monster. We're going to tackle it. We're going to tackle it in a way that you're going to realize it's all purely effortless. Okay. Let me give you the story of Japan because this is probably interesting and I'm going to not talk about it just once. Okay. The story of Japan, to give you a quick background, and I talk about this in my book, but in the 1950s, there was 0.005% of people who had depression. Imagine 0.005%. And then In the year 2000, the number went from 0.005%, which is literally, I don't know the exact number, I think it's like 10 in 1 million people, something like that, right? To literally 10% of the population in the US, 10%, 100,000 out of 1 million people had depression. What happened in 1960s is there was a company called Merck, which was the biggest pharmaceutical company. And there's a book that talks more in depth about this, but they literally went and bought 50,000 copies and sent them to experts, to physicists, whatever, to people that treat other people, I mean, patients, whatever, with their mental health, with their overall health. And they gave them those, those copies and they read and it was a book talking about educating people on depression and saying that the mood swings that you might have in your daily life, you know how sometimes you feel good, sometimes you feel bad, sometimes you feel on top of the world, sometimes you feel the worst, whatever. They said that these were signs of depression. These were signs of a newfound disease called depression. And it was like your brain having chemicals or whatever that your brain was basically having like added disorder. And that's how the number was up because of what happened in the 1960s. People now started attributing whatever was happening to them to depression. They said, oh look, I don't feel good today. I want to feel good, but I don't feel good. So it's depression, right? It's depression. And then what was the purpose? I mean, to sell antidepressants. Because when you sell, when you have a product that is also placebo, because if you look at studies, antidepressants literally, and there was a meta-analysis, meaning like a combination of many studies that shown that literally antidepressants literally add almost, if not the same results as the actual drug of antidepressants. I mean, the placebo of antidepressants are the same result. So placebo meaning like an empty pill, that they told the patients that there was actually antidepressants in, had the same results. So that means nothing had the same results as antidepressants or very similar. You can see how powerful they've been able to just influence such an industry in order to make money. Okay. Japan had the same thing because in the 1990s, Japan like didn't really have a concept of depression. It wasn't really popular. It was like something that only like very few rare people had. And what they did, because it couldn't be into Japan just like this, right? You can just sell antidepressants, put it inside of the markets. Because if you put it inside of like a store, you put antidepressants, but they don't even know what it is and they don't even know why they should use it, then obviously they're gonna sell zero, right, of it. Now they use the concept of the soul which I don't even remember the name in Japanese, but they use the concept of the soul in their culture. And they said that their soul could catch a cold, which was quote unquote a metaphor saying that you're going to have depression. And they use again the highs and lows of life to associate depression to. And then they told that they have the solution. Look, we have the solution though. When you feel bad or when you feel like these mood swings, This is a problem called depression. Here's the solution, antidepressants. And now everyone was in fear because it's like, oh, I have a disease called depression. My brain is broken. That's why I'm feeling that way. And then they got educated on the signs of depression saying, oh, you felt angry that day, you felt bad and then you felt good and then whatever, the mood swings, which were obviously something that everyone experiences day to day. And they just said, you know what, here's the antidepressant spider, right? This is going to solve your disease, your problem, right? And the recovery and pharmacology industry, they want to make money. If they can create or inflate a problem and sell a solution, then they want, because that's what they're doing. They just either create a problem, like they say, oh, here's depression, right? It's a broken disease that it's a disease that you have, right? Or do they say, oh, look, porn. Oh, look, you're addicted. Let me come into this recovery program, right? Because to be honest, yes, okay, the porn industry makes money, but if you look at it deeply, porn industry and the NoFap literally plays together in that sense. I'm not saying that they actually play together, but they go well together because if you tell someone that porn is the greatest thing on earth through the marketing of the porn industry, And then on flip side, you tell someone that you're addicted and that you're going to lose control and that you have these biological urges that you're going to satisfy through porn and masturbation, then what do you create? You create someone that is just going to binge on porn, right? If they adopt that self-image, if they think that this is true. So obviously, porn industry, I mean, do you think they want someone that just watches it occasionally, watches it like once a month, whatever? And watches it rarely? Or do you think they want someone who literally feels addicted and starts binging on it and starts paying sometimes because they think that they lose control and that they just have these such strong biological urges that they're not able to satisfy in real life so that they're going to do it through porn? Just think about it. It's just a business. Okay? Many things are a Okay? NoFap told you that, oh, you consume a bit, you consume porn for a bit of time. I mean, you're addicted right now. You see yourself as an addict, and that comes with a lot of consequences, right? So everything negative that happens in your daily life is not connected to you anymore, to your actions, to your responsibilities, but instead to your consumption of porn. You can't approach a girl. Oh, it's because of porn, man. It's because you're not going to be confident because of porn because it kills your drive to do anything in life and it kills your dopamine, whatever. In the past, you were like an event because you watch porn. That's a sign of addiction. You watch those dirty jars, well, your brain is rewired forever. You're going to seek that forever. That's what they tell you. Fear, fear, fear, and fear. The reason why the guys I know personally and many other people quit PMO effortlessly, meaning that they just watch a few videos, not 4 or 5 videos, but they just They just want something else better with their lives. Most of them never even watched a video on quitting porn. And they just watched, I mean, not watch, but they decided to do something else with their life. That's what happens. They're like, "Oh, I want to start this business," or, "I want to get closer to God." Maybe because they, I don't know, maybe they decide, "You know what? My religion is the truth, so let me focus on that." And I'm convinced of it. So they just said, you know what, let me leave porn behind as a byproduct, right? I know people that do this with music, for example, for religion. I know people that do this with many things, such as, for example, eating habits. Eating habits is the number one thing. Not for religious purposes, but I mean for just health in general. If you read one book about health, they are so good at convincing you that eating unhealthy is like useless and the worst thing on earth, and that eating healthy is like the best thing and that it's going to change your life forever. So it becomes so effortless. I mean, I've read multiple books that I was literally obsessed with eating healthy. I loved it. And I still to this day eat very, very clean because of that. So the thing is, when they quit is that they're not in fear. They don't get told to adopt limiting beliefs regarding their past usage. And instead of reasoning properly, they problem solve it with their mind. And they make the choice to either continue watching porn, to moderate. Moderate is usually rare because of the morality, right? Because people were like, if I can't quit porn, let me just quit, right? But some people, like people that are not even aware that NoFap is a thing, for example, they might just decide to watch it less, maybe once every 3 months sometimes, right? Once a year. I don't know. Sometimes it's really like that, right? Sometimes they just completely leave it behind, right? So they realize that it's just an habit. The ones that completely leave it behind do it with conviction and not fear, okay? The ones that leave it behind do it with conviction and not fear. And they don't get caught up in thinking that they're an addict or that they need to quit or watch videos to learn how to quit, okay? That's the thing, okay? They never watch these videos, okay? And they just leave it effortlessly, okay? This is NoFap and this is the furthest way, okay? NoFap is like this. It's like, oh, you're jumping off a cliff and you try to just fly. Like, you really think it's going to work? No, right? Because you're not even playing the right game. I mean, this is not supposed to— you're not just supposed to jump off a cliff again and again and again and think that you're going to just survive and fly. No, obviously not. But if you go about it the Fortis way, the Fortis method, it's like jumping off the same cliff but with a paraglide. So guess what? You're going to literally want, I mean, it's like the success rate is like 100% because we're not even playing the same game anymore. It's not even success as in like, oh, am I going to jump off the cliff and survive? It's like, obviously, this is the paraglider, it's going to work, right? It's like going on the plane, right? So that's how it works, okay? No fear. We will look at porn, masturbation, orgasm, lust, fetishes for what they are. It won't force you to leave those things, but rather give you the information so that you can make an informed decision to leave those things as you wish. There is no how-to, just like you don't need a how-to get up your bed because you know how. But the question is, do you even want to get up your bed? Okay guys, so reflect. If I were to give you $1 million, but you couldn't watch porn on my screen anymore, or else if you do, you'd lose that $1 million. Would you end up PMOing because of urges? Just ask yourself that, okay? Reflect on it, write it down. If you have the workbook, write it down. And I'll see you in the next videos, guys. Know about NoFap to quit, right? So look, do you want it? Let's say that PMO actually gave you insane amount of pleasure, okay? Like an insane, like you feel on top of the world just because of PMO, right? Even though we know it's not true, just imagine it was true, okay? You could realize that not indulging in sexual pleasure could be way more pleasurable day to day. For example, the priest. Okay. Yes. Okay. Some of the priests might not even see that much pleasure in sexual behaviors. I mean, there's asexuals, for example, right? But some of them do probably, right? Because I mean, they're human beings and based on their perceptions, right? But then they find so much enjoyment in just being able to be pure, helping others, feeling closer to God, waking up with pure intentions, whatever, right? All of those, it's like pleasurable to them. But for us, we just see it as a sacrifice to make for a future goal. Because I've talked to people in the past that were like, oh, because I want to quit when I get in a relationship with the opposite sex, right? When I have intercourse, when I'm married. But it's like, Okay. Yeah. So that's a goal you have in the long term, which you don't even know if it's going to happen. Obviously you have this belief that it's going to happen. And I hope for you too. I have the same belief for when I'm going to get married. But the thing is, it's still in the future. You don't know what's going to happen. And because it's not like you can have it right now with the click of a finger, but it's something that obviously you can influence a bit. right? So the thing is, if you think of, for example, being in a relationship, or you might think of the Day of Judgment, which is a very powerful reason, which is obviously very, very important, right? Or for example, making more money. But these reasons are in the future, right? They're not in the present moment, right? Except if something happens. So they're always in the future. So instead, okay, this is long-term versus short-term. The problem with long-term goals is that you haven't achieved them yet. Then you'll feel frustrated and disappointed. Because if you're doing something for a specific reason and you haven't achieved that or something bad happens regarding that, like for example, a woman rejects you and she doesn't want to be married to you. Or for example, I don't know, like you want to make money and then your business gets shut down, whatever. And you link those goals to quitting PMO and it's like the only reason why you want to quit PMO, then of course you might be saying, well, I don't have those things right now. Value. So let me do something that gives you value still. PMO, right? And obviously if you debunked everything, even if the worst happens, it's just going to be a choice of do you want to watch two people on a sex app screen? Maybe yes, maybe no, right? It's really up to you because the thing is, at the end of the day, you want short term, you want to enjoy the process. You think the athletes don't want to play the sports? You think that they're forced to do it? I mean, Well, they make money. They could stop any day, right? They had their own contracts. They could just stop after their contracts. You think the guys that go to the gym, you see them every single time they go there for hours. You think that they don't even enjoy going to the gym? They just do it out of pure discipline? No, they enjoy it. This is the biggest myth in the self-improvement space of like, yeah, it's going to be very hard, but there's intrinsic and then there's extrinsic. If you're doing something from an internal standpoint and you really want because you enjoy it and you see so much benefits in it, then it's going to be easy. Okay? It's going to be easy. And as I said, obviously you're going to still have to lift the weights, but it's going to be something that you actually want to do, right? Compared to doing it because you've been told that it's the best thing on earth and you've been told that you should feel shameful if you do it, if you don't do it, for example. Right? So that's the thing. Okay? So athletes are not forced. I mean, they enjoy the competition, they enjoy the— obviously there's parts they don't enjoy, right? Just like with PMO, there's parts you might like in the past, right? Because obviously our goal is not to 100% just hate PMO and not even want to do it for a single second. Obviously that can come as a byproduct of you debugging. But the thing is there's still things that when you used to PMO, even without NoFap, that you might have not liked. Maybe you might have not have liked the time that you wasted and that you spent too much time and then you felt stressed, whatever, right? You might not have liked that, right? But the thing is, you can still enjoy, for example, not PMOing as much as these athletes enjoy the sports, right? It's not like you have to force yourself. It's just write it down. Look, okay, let me explain. Enjoy the process to get there. What are the benefits you'll get from stopping PMO in the short term? What are the benefits that you'll get, like, immediate? Okay, how would you feel differently day to day? What other things will it allow you to do day to day? Why would you feel happier? Why is it going to be more enjoyable every day to be pure before marriage? Why is it going to make you feel better even in times of loneliness and pain? You need to be aware of those things, not necessarily to read them every single day, right? Obviously that's not the goal. If you have the workbook, write it down, okay? There's a question on that because you want to see what is your life going to be like without PMO? Okay. Even if you answered already, I want you to answer it again because this is really going to allow you to just be like, okay, actually maybe quitting PMO could be a better option. I could do all of those things. But one thing, make sure to not force these benefits on you and make sure to not be like, oh, I would feel confident. I'll talk to anyone. And if you believe that it's not going to be true, then obviously don't do it. But the importance of having that quote-unquote happier vision is to realize that you could actually be happier doing that. And as crazy as it sounds, yeah, most people think, oh, if I do NoFap, I'm gonna be feeling better. But the thing is, some people don't like, for example, the quote-unquote urges, the quote-unquote withdrawals, which are just created by them wanting to watch porn because they don't have that pure vision in the first place. So that's what you need to understand. People feel kind of bad, like, oh, I'm going to struggle with an urge. So you know what? Let me just stop it. Let me PMO instead, right? That's how they reason because it's like they don't feel good with that journey. You could first of all debunk completely urges and not even feel like watching porn, masturbating, which is something that you could do if you debunk it. But I don't recommend that you see it as like, oh, I need to do this and make sure I don't even crave a single second of those things. Because you'll just start thinking too much about it and there's no point in just worrying about something. And then the other part is like if you, for example, because if you really would urge us, if you really just see it as like something that, okay, yeah, it can happen in the beginning, man, I've been watching it for so long. It's not even an urge at the end of the day, right? I'm using the urge as in like if I was someone that was in this NoFap bullshit, but if it's like, okay, you want a bit of it, right? You want a bit of porn in the beginning. Maybe that's your perception. You're like, oh, maybe I'll want a bit of porn and maybe that's cool. Maybe it's going to be an opportunity for me to just ask myself what I want to get out of that, right? You can think of it that way. It's like, what do I want to get out of that? Okay, because you've been watching porn for so long, you might think, okay, you might want it, you might not even want it, but you might also want it a little bit in the beginning. And then when you move on, trust me, by the end of this course, by the end of everything you learn, it's like you're just going to go on and live your life and wanting it or not wanting it is not even going to be on your mind. You're not even going to worry about it. So it's like, what do you want? If you want it a little bit, don't worry about it because you can use that to your advantage to be like, oh, what am I trying to get out of? I mean, What do I think porn is going to give me? What do I think masturbation is going to give me? Then boom, you have those benefits. You can send that to me and say, look, I think it's going to give me those benefits. Or you might think like, you might debunk it yourself, whatever, right? And that's how it works. And you can answer these questions in depth with me, I mean in depth by yourself if you want in your workbook or with me on a coaching call, okay? But be aware, don't just force yourself to feel these benefits because we've been told to quit porn that we need to, that we should. So we almost kind of say, you know what, I'm going to feel, I need to feel those benefits. And look, it's better for you to just not even think there's any benefits than forcing yourself to have benefits. Okay? Because look, objectively there is benefits. You just got to be aware. Okay? There are benefits because benefits, first of all, can be subjective and objective. So the subjective benefits can help you as much as the objective benefits can help you. Instead, you can just be aware for a few days. Just be— we call this the abstinence experiment. Just be aware for a few days. How do you feel? Oh, is it better? Are you happier? Are you actually getting benefits? Don't try to say, oh, look, I'm feeling confident and try to pump yourself up. No. Instead, just look at how's life different without judging, without putting shame, without putting anything on it. Just look, okay, I haven't watched porn. How do I feel? Right? Obviously don't count the days because there's no point in counting days. But how do you feel? Okay, I've been without porn now for quite a few time. I mean, for quite some time. How's life different? Right? It doesn't mean it's going to be exaggerated because people think that your life is going to be unicorns and rainbows when they quit porn. Right? And think that nothing bad will happen to them. Obviously you'll feel better if that's something that you believe is going to happen and you're going to have more time to do the things that you actually want to do that might make you feel better. But don't expect it to be like rainbows and nothing bad is going to happen to you. All of your problems are going to be erased because life comes with challenges and it comes with problems, right? And porn is not a coping mechanism to it because porn, you're distracting yourself. Porn is not distracting you, right? And all of the benefits you're doing to your own self. So it's not a coping mechanism. You're the answer, you're the solution. But could you be happier? Just ask yourself when you're abstaining, how's life different? Just be aware because we caught up in thinking like, oh, I need to feel like this. In order to be— because if you feel like you deserve to feel like on top of the world when you don't watch porn or masturbate, you're also saying that you just slayed a huge monster and now you're able to just get the reward. But in reality, we got to stop pedestalizing porn in the good and the bad way, right? Because if we think that really just stopping watching a video on our 2D video on pixels with moving images and colors, which is a lifeless object. If we think that this is going to change our lives forever, yes, it's going to help us a lot, right? It changed my life in the sense that I had more time, I had more energy, I had more attention, whatever. But don't think that it's literally going to make you a pro with women out of nowhere. What it's going to allow you to do is have more time, attention, focus, energy, all of those things that are objectively there that's going to help you in order to really just go and do those things. If for example, it's approaching women, if it's for example, building a business, if it's for example, putting yourself out there, if it's for example, being confident around other people, you're gonna build yourself up naturally because you'll be not in your house just jacking off, you'll be doing something else. You see what I mean, right? It's don't expect too big benefits and then feel disappointed when you don't have them because you need to force yourself to feel them. Because then you think, oh, but look, I mean, what's the point of doing this? Then whatever, right? Just write what you think is going to happen and also how do you feel? I actually experienced it, okay? And just analyze. We get caught up. Why am I repeating this? Okay? Because the thing is, you'll be surprised that even if you just keep on an open mind and maybe even if you might not enjoy the choice to not watch a porn, which probably won't happen, but let's say that was the case, it's still better like that because you actually become convinced of your choice because people see it as like, oh look, if I end up liking porn or not liking porn, then that means that I lost the battle and I'm going to go back to it. I'm going to lose control. That's the NoFap mindset, right? The reality is if you experience something and you actually like it, or maybe you can find ways to like it without forcing yourself. You can just find ways. You can reason why you like it without forcing yourself. Again, allows you to just really become convinced of it, right? It's really that simple, guys. There's not much you need to do. Many people just quit by saying, oh, you know what? I want to change my life. And I also know that porn is just useless when it comes to changing my life. So let me just leave porn behind. And let me move on. They didn't watch videos on how to quit porn because watching videos on how to quit porn, it's like saying, how can I drive my vehicle when you already know how to drive your vehicle? The question is, do you want to use your vehicle? So that's how it works. So then we're going to debunk pleasure. Pleasure, pleasure, and pleasure. Pleasure is literally the number one thing that people usually not struggle with, but you see my point. They think that, Porn has so much pleasure. But take your time with this video. Make sure that you actually write down how you would feel, like, add your vision in your workbook. And if you, for example, want to experiment this, just be aware, right? Obviously, don't make your whole life about, like, oh, today I'm going to see how I feel about not watching porn or not masturbating. Don't do this, right? Just be like, oh, do I feel right? From time to time, whatever, and experiment this, right? Me personally, I just liked feeling the drive and hunger I had every day back then because it was just like, oh, I'm way more focused. I'm not taking breaks to go and watch porn or masturbate. I'm not like constantly thinking about it and instead I'm just focused, whatever, right? And that's what I liked. So yeah, maybe you'll like this too. All right guys, so debunking every single benefit. Very important. This is literally like the bulk of this whole course is just about debunking, to be honest. Right. It's one of the most important things. It's the second phase, but it's really one of the most important things. So the thing is, what truly happens is we don't watch when we feel good, right? But when we feel bad. So a lot of people come in with this argument that's like, oh, I don't have a partner. That's why I watch porn. I don't have a girlfriend. Oh, it's because I'm not reproducing. I'm not having intimacy. It's because of biology that I'm watching porn or that I masturbate. But it's like we don't even want to watch porn or masturbate when we feel happy, when we feel truly happy. Like the moment that, I don't know, something good happened in your life or you just generally feel happy, you don't even want those things. But when we feel bad, like depressed, anxious, stressed, bored, lonely, frustrated, emotional pain, sexual sensation, that's when we're like, oh, it makes more sense to do it. It's more when we want to actually do it. It's not an urge, it's just that you want to get it as if it was medicine. That's what happens. Because we have a problem and we are looking for the solution, like pain relief. It's really that simple. But the thing is, porn cannot relieve any of those things for you. Porn cannot go and relieve that pain for you. Porn cannot go and we live like any of those things. It's just at the end of the day, it's just that we think, oh, there's a problem, we have stress, we're looking for a solution for that stress. It's like medication. How stress happens, okay, let's just debunk it. Because how stress happens is stress is simply an assessment of the situation or future situation in which you think you might get harmed or lost. Armed or lose something, right? It's all in the mind. So the way we relieve stress is by not thinking or simply letting go of that situation or realizing that that situation doesn't matter as much, right? That's how it works, right? If you don't think about social situations— wow, I'm so bad. If you don't think about a stressful situation, you won't feel stressed because it's cognitive, meaning it's in the mind first and then it goes to the brain, right? And then you feel the stress, you decide to stress, right? So for example, give the example of like, let's say that for example you failed an exam, right? And you fail an exam and then you feel bad, you feel, I'm going to— my future is ruined. I'm never going to be Good. I'm never going to have a good job. But then one guy, maybe you, let's say, for example, in that exact same situation, might feel bad and for the same reasons, be like, my future is ruined. But then he starts thinking through. Okay, that's the thing. We reason. We always reason. We always find a solution when we think. Okay, it starts thinking, oh, but I failed this exam, but maybe "it's just time for me to just go all in in my business," for example, basic example. Now he's like, "Oh, okay." Now he feels motivated to actually, now he feels more happy. Or you might be like, "Oh, I failed this exam, but it wasn't that important because I can still do a formation for the job I wanna apply for." So it doesn't matter as much. So his reaction just became different and how he felt became different because he started thinking differently about the situation. That's the thing is most people think like, oh, whenever something bad happens to them, they need a distraction. That's what the Western media is like because it's a capitalistic society. So they always sell a solution to a problem, right? So they think, oh, They basically make you believe that you cannot solve problems and you always need that new object, right? So the thing is, you face a problem in your mind. I mean, you have problem-solving abilities, right? We all know this. You can solve problems in your mind just by thinking about them. You can just think and start thinking like, okay, for example, for me, right? I remember one time, So one time I was like, I did a cold approach for the first time in my life. That was when I was actually cold approaching and doing all of that stuff and I got rejected. It hurt me a lot, right? And it was just right before work. So during work I could have focused because I was working in a clothing store and a clothing store, it's like in the morning there's not many people coming. So I was just really analyzing what happened, right? And I did feel bad. I felt like Why did this girl reject me? For me, personally, it meant a lot to me because it was like, look, I'm not attractive. I've worked all of these, I've been working on myself for so long to become attractive, attract women, and she just rejected me. And she literally said to me, I need to go to work. When I say, I told you you're beautiful, can I get your number? In a very non-confident way, which was quite funny, she said, No, I need to go to work. And that hurt me, right? But the thing is, when I started thinking through this, yeah, I was hurt, but I was like, okay, but this is just an opportunity for me to be more motivated to work even harder. This is an opportunity for me to have that story that I can tell other people when they face the same problems, right? This is an opportunity because I've literally put myself out there and did the thing I was the most stressed about so I can become more comfortable doing it. And now my social skills have gotten way better because of that. Now I feel happy, I feel grateful, I don't feel bad, stressed out, anxious, right? And I learned a lot from that event, right? So the thing is, okay, for example, you feel stressed about your job, so you go for a walk and you relieve your stress. The reason you relieve your stress is not because— I mean, the reason you relieve your stress is because you stop thinking about the situation in front of you, aka your job, and how stressful it is. Whatever, for whatever reason, you might lose or get harmed, you might lose your job, you feel stressed. But if you go for a walk, you mentally shut down. You choose to shut down your mind. Obviously, you could still think about the stressful situation when you walk and feel stressed, but because you decide to mentally let go of that routine of working and feeling stress, and instead doing something else, you let go of the stress, right? It's really that simple. You release stress just with the intention of relieving stress. But let's say during the walk again, you could still think about the stressful situation and feel stress again. You can't release stress with anything. You can read a book and you let go of the thought of that stressful situation and do something else. Because it's like, imagine I'm here and I'm like, no, no, I'm going to lose my job. And then I'm stressed out, right? But then I say, you know what, let me do something else. And then I'm like, okay, what can I do? I'm like, I mean, if I go to the gym, then I'm like, the moment I decide to go to the gym, I just decide, not I'm at the gym, I decide to go to the gym. Stress is relieved because I'm like, you know what, let me stop thinking about this situation. I'll take care of it afterwards. For now, let me focus on the gym and have fun there. It's not even because I'm listening to music. It's just the moment I decide to go to the gym, I don't even have headphones on or anything. And I'm like, okay, I'll just let go of the situation and boom, you let go. Okay, you can go play sports, you can talk to someone, you can study, you can think of something else. I mean, you can start just thinking about— you can start meditating and think of nothing, for example, and relieve your stress. I mean, you can start. And that's the problem people have. It's like, oh, but meditation doesn't work because sometimes I do it and still feel negative emotions, right? And I'm not really someone that meditates really anymore. I used to meditate a lot. But what I can tell you is when you meditate, sometimes you start thinking again about something, right? And maybe because you want to, right? So it's not like meditation is— I'm just saying when you don't have thoughts, you just don't feel stressed. Now, you can't think of anything. I mean, literally, If I talk, for example, of my goals in life, sometimes the stress will just— because I'll just be so— if I become so focused on the goals now, I just boom, like the stress or my future, for example, and what I want to accomplish, it's just like I'm not focused on the stressful situation anymore and instead I'm like daydreaming about what I want to achieve and I'm feeling better. It's really how it works. It's not because those activities relieve your stress by making you relax by releasing chemicals. Okay? Because look, I mean, I go to the gym and feel more stressed at the gym when I was doing, for example, squats, because I was scared of whatever, like, feeling with all of the heavy weight on me, right? Like hurting myself, basically. I was scared of that. But it was stress. It was stress. But because I thought I could lose or get hurt. Right now, the thing is, I still go to the gym to wind down, to just be like, you know what, let me wind down. That's okay. It's not you wind down when you do the activity, you wind down the moment you say, let me wind down. It's literally that how it works. But most people are not aware. And when I go to the gym, yeah, I feel more stress. Because I'll be literally thinking about the stressful situation of squatting and maybe hurting myself. But you see what I mean, right? It's not because those activities relieve your stress by making you more relaxed, right? Because mentally you associate stress relief with activities you choose. Okay, that's the thing. It's a placebo. Because with porn and these activities, the moment you say, fuck it, I'm going to do something else rather than think of this stressful situation, or think of this painful situation, or think of the fact that I don't have a partner yet and I'm frustrated, or I'm lonely, I don't have any friends. Fuck it, I don't want to keep thinking about this situation I have in my life. And you say, you know what, let me get a distraction. Now, the distraction is not the object itself. This cannot provide a distraction. I mean, even if you put the video, I'll put again the video, which I, let's say I put this video of an hamster, right? It's not because I see, I don't even know if it's hamster, but it's not because I see an hamster that now I'm distracted because I could still look at the hamster with my own eyes and mentally think of something else, right? You do this all the time, right? For example, you might be in class and you might be looking at whatever presentation they have, but then you start thinking about something else. It's really that simple. So it's not, for example, the class giving you the stress relief, the relief from your loneliness, relief from whatever. It's not the video on the screen. It's not like literally the 2D video. It's you. It's you saying, you know what, let me detach from that stress. Let me stop thinking about this. Let me stop thinking about this painful event that happens to me. Let me stop thinking about this anxiety that I have based on that situation. Let me start thinking about that person I was frustrated about. For example, many people do this. They're frustrated against someone. They're like, no, why did this guy do this to me? Whatever. And then they just go and do something else. They're like, you know what? Let me stop thinking that way. Let me stop being frustrated. Then they just say, you know what? They stop being frustrated. They go do something else. Or maybe, for example, it's maybe all that they do is, I mean, they could do anything. They could just start thinking about something. Maybe they could just keep on going with that emotion because they want to. Maybe they see value in doing that. For example, being frustrated, they think, if I keep on being frustrated, I'll be more motivated, whatever. It's the exact moment you let go of that stress. So you relieve the stress before even watching porn masturbate. That's what happens. And why it doesn't relieve it. Just imagine someone walks up on you, watch you masturbate and watch porn. Would you feel stressed? Yeah, watch porn to relieve your stress and masturbation. Let's say that was your intention. And then someone walks up on you, would you feel stressed, anxious, whatever? It just shows that you don't relieve stress on a chemical level or simply by being relaxed. Or because if that was the case, if it was just because you were in your bed, and that porn releases dopamine, which makes you feel better, then guess what? You would not feel stressed. You would feel still happy and whatever good when you would be watching porn. But if someone walks up on you, it's different. It's not like you actually feel stress. So we see that because it's mentally, right? The moment you mentally realize that there was someone in front of you and decided to focus on that mentally, and you thought that it was stressful, 'cause maybe, okay, maybe it wasn't even, maybe it was just your door opening and there was no one. Now you let go of the stress and you go back to your porn video, for example, and you start mentally fantasizing of it, right? So you see, you decide to think of that new stressful situation. That's what makes you stressed, right? It's that your mind is like what you decide to focus on, what kind of thoughts do you have, right? Not thoughts as in like, oh, thoughts that appear out of nowhere. But what do you fantasize on? Like, if you fantasize and you just think, think, think, think, think, think about something else, then obviously you're not thinking about the stressful situation. But then if someone walks up on you, you might choose to just start being focused on that because you don't want to get caught, for example. And you're going to feel stress. You're going to feel your heart beating. That's why this story of the heroin consumer, right? You might have Either you heard it from me or from a book. But the thing is, there was a guy that— and this is if you know the book The Freedom Model, they talk about something. It was one of the authors that actually happened to. There was a guy that literally had heroin. He was a heroin user. And one day he was feeling kind of stressed out. He was feeling bad, was feeling unhappy, whatever. And he decided to take the heroin, right, to feel better. And he felt good. Like, he felt better, he felt relaxed, removed the stress, all of those things. But now the thing is, his mom didn't know that he was consuming heroin, and she found the bag of needles of heroin next to him. I mean, because he was at his mom's house and he found the bag of needles on the floor. She was like, what? And she walks up on him with a bag of needles while he's feeling so relaxed, while he's feeling like on top of the world, feeling a lot of pleasure because of the quote unquote drug. But now his mom walks up on him and guess what? He starts feeling so stressed out that for a whole week he doesn't even meet any family members. Even if he was under the influence of the drug, right? And even if he relieved the stress and felt more relaxed, it felt better and felt on top of the world. The moment that there was a situation in front of him that he deemed as stressful where that could represent harm or loss and chose to mentally focus on it, he felt stressed, very stressed. It's not chemicals inside of his body that he literally injected. The point is, is a video. Masturbation is your own body. Getting stimulated, right? It's not— you don't relieve stress on a physical or chemical level. You relieve stress in your mind. So that means that mind— I'm not saying like the brain here, my bad, right? But the mind, I mean like, you know, what you don't see in a sense, your consciousness, your thoughts, right? So how it works with others, okay? Loneliness is your thoughts because objectively, loneliness is just you don't have anyone around you, right? If I give you $1 million right now, even if you are at the loneliest time of your life, you could feel like very happy just because of mentally you would know that you'd be able to do other things, right? It's just like your mental knowing, right? Frustration, same thing, okay? Frustration is like, yeah, you might be frustrated, but it's still in the mind because if someone, for example, walks up, when he walks, you're frustrated. And let's say it's, let's say a customer, right? Let's say that you're very, very frustrated. Or let's say it's your dream woman, for example. Like your dream partner comes in whilst you're very, very frustrated. You're not just gonna still feel like so frustrated just because it's in your body and on a chemical level you feel frustrated and your brain is taking over. You're probably gonna say, you know what, let me stop. I'm feeling frustrated because I want to talk with this girl and I want to be able to be more polite and I want to look more happy. So maybe potentially I could attract them, you see? So it's up to your mind, right? It really works that way, guys. It's really that simple, okay? And it's nothing physical or chemical. Depression is, we watch it, depression is purely, I mean, obviously just maybe cases of chemical imbalance. But other than that, it's really just like a mental assessment of the situation, I mean, of the living, usually of the living, I mean, of someone's life where he thinks that maybe he's out of control and that he cannot really change anything. And that if he tries to change anything about his situation, that it's going to be worse. So he's like, it's all in the mind. It's all like a mental assessment. right? So that he starts feeling worse because based on his own mental assessment, right? It's not because let's say you put two people in the same situation, right? Viktor Frankl said this, and I have it in the videos. I don't know exactly where, but Viktor Frankl was a guy that went into Auschwitz camps who wrote the book Man's Search for Meaning, said that you could put people, because he was literally in the concentration camps, said you could put people in the worst conditions known to man, yet they can still choose to feel happy. That's what he saw with other people. Okay? They still chose to feel happy even in the worst conditions where literally the family members were getting killed, that they were going to die, but they still could choose however they feel. That's one freedom you cannot never take away from people is how they choose to react and feel, right? Because it all goes in the mind. and then it's processed based on how you want to feel, right? Because for example, if two people getting rejected by a woman, right? For example, a guy goes up to a woman and gets rejected. One guy might be like, oh, because I'm ugly. Now he starts feeling bad because there's mental repetition that he doesn't want to be ugly and he feels bad because of that and he feels depression, for example. Example, right? And then we have another guy, for example, who gets rejected and then he's like, "Oh, I only got rejected because the woman is kind of shy and maybe she has actually a partner and she didn't really know how to talk to me." The guy doesn't care. Not doesn't care as in that's his personality. It's just that based on the situation, it's like, it's cool. Okay, "I mean, I shot, I shoot my shot. I actually went out there. I feel good." Same exact rejection, two different reactions, right? And that happens, I mean, in your daily life if you look at it, right? It's not physical, chemical, it's simply a state of mind. If you don't put your focus on that emotion or on the situation that's associated with that emotion, the negative emotion will be released. So ask yourself and reflect, so special about PMO when it comes to having relief from negative emotions? And I want you to be honest, right? You can say because PMO is a drug and it's like euphoria and it's like the best thing in the world and it's like seeing a woman's nude body is like the best thing in the world, whatever, right? You can be honest. And is it PMO doing the relief or is it you? Are there beneficial distractions for your negative emotions that are easy and a net gain? Just ask yourself these questions, okay? And really reflect on that. Don't skip to the next video here of debunking every single benefits part 2. Reflect on that. We can also go over them to a coaching call, but it's good that you have answers for these and you'll be able to really understand why even, you know, want to watch porn. All right, guys, debunking every single benefits part 2. So ingrained in our culture, okay? We watch movies ever since we were kids that showed sex scenes. Being this euphoric thing, right? I'm not trying to devalue sex to the point where it's like you don't even want to have sex, right? That's not my point. I'm just saying that, and you see this portrayed as more than just the physical act of sex, right? Obviously, sex is something that God gave us to do within marriage based on your belief, based on mine, whatever. Now, the thing is, if you feel this euphoria, then obviously you would feel better. Obviously you want to have sex for it, right? And when sex is talked about, it's talked about as if it was magical, right? And yes, there's people that experience it and don't even like it. For example, there's also asexuals who don't even see the point in having sex, right? And I'm not saying that you should be like that. I'm just saying that it's important to know that it's really just like you can mold it in the sense that you can choose if you want If you want to pedestalize it, if you want to keep it as it's union between two people giving them love, you can see it as it's just physical sensations. You can see it as something that seems weird, whatever. You can choose whatever, right? It's based on your belief, right? But there's always a mainstream belief and usually a mainstream belief. The problem with mainstream belief is that most of the time they're influenced by ideas that that they can make profit from. Okay? It's just business most of the time, right? So you think, oh, I'm going to feel the best and relieve all of my emotion if I indulge in sex. Same with alcohol. Alcohol is known to be associated with a sentence of drinking your sorrows, right? In movies, we see the guy that lost a family member drink. We see the guy who goes through pain and drink, right? Or even if it's apparent or you're in your environment and that act according to that exact belief that is mainstream in society. right? That's another problem we have is like if something is mainstream and then on top of that, your environment acts based on that belief, then what happens is you just want it, right? I mean, you just think this is the objective truth. That's the problem, right? So that's what happens, right? But alcohol doesn't necessarily give you relief from your pain. I mean, I can go in depth about this where like alcohol literally, some people would drink alcohol and feel on top of the world and will feel happy and excited. Some people drink alcohol and feel aggressive, they feel more sexual. Some people drink alcohol and feel sad, depressed, deprived, mourning, right? So why does the same alcohol provide different effects? It's because alcohol doesn't do that. Alcohol provides a physical sensation that people choose to interpret as happiness or to make them aggressive or to make them sad based on the situation they choose. And that will be the most appropriate, right? That's essentially what happens. And that's the thing, guys. And people believe that alcohol relieves stress, but what if that guy who drinks alcohol goes driving and a police car pulls over? He now feels stressed out. That's what happens. There's no proof in studies that alcohol relieves stress actually. Because stress is cognitive. It's in the mind at the end of the day. Now, it's just our expectation that makes us ourselves do the stress relief. That's another thing that we need to be aware of. Okay? So there are expectations of wanting to believe something make us believe that thing, right? It's just something we're not really aware of nowadays. But it's like, imagine that, for example, you know that you're going to get on a trip, right? Let's say that you know that you're going to fly to Paris tomorrow, right? You're going to fly to France and you're going to feel excited. You don't feel excited when you're in France. Maybe in France you feel less excited. You're just like, oh nice, okay, that's cool. That's cool. And you're pretty neutral about it, but you feel excited beforehand, right? And that's your expectations, right? And it can be linked to, I mean, we'll do a video debunking dopamine, but it's like you anticipate that, for example, and you expect it, right? So you feel, for example, stress relief from whatever is happening in your life because you know that tomorrow you'll be able, you know, maybe the trip gets canceled and doesn't happen, right? That's what happens, okay? Marijuana, right? If you read, for example, the book, there's multiple books, right? There's the Freedom Model, The Call of Forensicology, there's Addiction is a Disorder of Choice, Addiction is a Choice, there's Brainwashed by Sally Patel. Now the thing is marijuana, right? In the 20th century, in the 1900s, marijuana was a bit rare and a bit taboo, okay? And it causes psychosis at that meaning that when people get mentally insane. Yet in the 1940s, people learned to interpret their fates differently. The reactions to weed went from terror to pleasure and relaxation because of how marijuana was now marketed. Same thing with Japan, what happened with Japan, right? And depression overall. And there is literally no research or proof that marijuana will relieve your stress on a pharmacological level that will make you feel better, basically. Just imagine you smoke weed feeling relaxed, but it's legal and a police officer comes to you. What do you think? What do you think is going to happen? Are you just going to feel chill like nothing is happening or are you going to feel stressed out? Marijuana is empty by nature because Back then, the effect it had on people was not pleasure, was not relaxation, it was terror, right? When they were consuming it. And it just changed because of how the cultural knowledge of society decided that, based on marketing, wanted to sell weed, that actually this is a substance that can change your life. That's what happened, right? Now, PMO, porn masturbation, won't change the content of your thoughts. It won't make you have different thoughts. It doesn't now make you think that the rejection from that girl was actually good. It doesn't make any event that happens to you suddenly better. It doesn't do that. You probably know, but it doesn't do, okay? I'm just saying again, all it can provide is a distraction, which people do with better things such as movie, reading, socializing, sports, exercising. Now, the thing is, even then, even then, distraction is false in that sense, okay? And the reason why I say it's false is simply because the distraction is not because of PMO. It's that you attach the distraction to PMO. So you distract your own self. The only way to be distracted is not by, again, watching a video, which I've said multiple times, it's by literally mentally being focused on something else, right? So if you, for example, something bad happens to you, and you don't think about it, you think about the book that you want to read, you'll suddenly feel better because if you're focused on that thought, right? So the thing is, people, when they masturbate or they watch porn, they decide to engage, for example, in the fantasy, right? Or decide to engage in something else like thoughts, whatever, however they want to think or feel, right? And that's a distraction, right? Because they think about something else than what is happening in front of them. So people do this with anything in life. I mean, bro, people go on a walk, people go read, people go exercise, people go and sleep. I mean, sleep is actually one that is actually a distraction because you cannot think, right? People go and socialize, they play sports, movies, whatever, right? And how will this happen? Okay. Stress comes from the thoughts that you, I mean, the thought that you might lose something or get harmed, right? Which I already explained. It's based on your own interpretation in your mind. Imagine that you get told that you won the lottery. Wouldn't you feel happy? I mean, on top of the world, really, from all of your life's problems. Well, what if one week later we tell you that was an error and you didn't win the lottery and that you spent $1 million already that you now need to pay back without you having that money? Wouldn't you now feel stressed, anxious, and frustrated? Guys, it's not the event itself. It's your interpretation of that event. It's not because an event happened that, oh, now you're going to have this forever. It's really just based on your own mind. So look, the truth is it's not the thing or the event itself in your interpretation. You were happy because you interpreted that you actually won the lottery and that you'll get all of these benefits. You thought, it's not that you had, it's that you thought. But then the moment you interpret that you'll lose what you just gained and you'll have to pay way more back, that you basically got scammed and you will lose your money, now you'll probably interpret that differently and choose to feel a certain emotion like stress, pain, frustration. It's like, imagine a friend invites you over. He's like, we're going to have a blast tonight. There's going to be many people that come. You're going to meet new people. You're going to meet women, whatever. And then you feel excited. You're like, let's go, man. You feel happy, you feel relieved, whatever, because you look forward to it. but then last minute he says, "Plans are canceled." Now you feel different, right? It's just based on your supposition. But maybe also plans are canceled, now you're like, "Okay, cool. So now I can meet up with another party that I actually wanted to go to," whatever. Or maybe, "Oh, I'll be able to go to the gym and I haven't went today." And you feel happy, right? And you like that, right? And that's what happens. And it's cognitive, okay? You are the one who creates the emotions. Just how you felt happy because you thought you won the lottery, you interpreted what happens to you as something to feel happy about, right? Maybe if you knew in your mind that it was actually fake, it was just an error, then you wouldn't feel happy. Even if they tell you that you receive $1 million, even if 1 million people tell you that you receive $1 million, you wouldn't feel happy because you knew that it was fake. If they gave you monopoly money, right? And that you knew it. If you didn't know, then you will feel maybe happy, but if you knew then you'd feel, you'll think differently. So your mind gave you the signals to your brain to feel happy. You were not happy because the money you won caused you to be happy. You had to interpret it because you could have won that lottery and said, I don't really care about the money that much, for example, and not feel happy, but maybe a bit neutral instead. It's really like that. It's not like money is universally attractive. It's just what it means to you. Now, you are always in control. You can also reason the situation in front of you. Let's say you feel stressed because you'll have a presentation to do tomorrow in front of others. You might think at first, this is going to be painful. I'll probably fail. And because of that, I'll feel more stress. That might be one of your reasoning. Or you can change to go from that reasoning to, oh, what if I go through that presentation, I'll be able to be more confident. And even if I fail, I will learn and gain respect with others. Now you feel completely differently based on your own mental interpretation and reasoning. That's what happens. And reflect, because I want you to reflect on this quote. This is my favorite quote of all time from Viktor Frankl, the guy that went into the concentration camps and wrote the book Man's Social Meaning. Everything can be taken from a man but one thing, the last of human freedom, to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances. Circumstances to choose one's own way. What are the moments in your life where you reacted in a very negative way to an event that you now react very positively to? It can be anything, right? It can be when, for example, let's say, for example, you were late to something, right? Maybe back then it was like the end of your life. It was like, man, "If I'm late, then that means this and that means that and this is bad for me." But then maybe you change with time. You were like, "Actually, okay, I'm late. It's cool. I mean, I'm a pretty busy man." And you reason to think differently basically. And you can do that with anything. I mean, that's how life works. Now we're going to debunk loneliness. I know you guys really wanted a video debunking loneliness, so let's debunk loneliness. All right guys, so debunking loneliness. This is going to be very helpful for you guys. So how is porn connected to loneliness? I want you to answer this. Do you watch porn every single time you're lonely or you're just tired of being lonely, hence why you want to distract yourself from that emotional pain you feel? Okay, it's just a learned connection because it's porn. It's not like you're going to go and take drugs because you're lonely, right? That's what I'm saying here because it's not like you're going to go and pay a prostitute because you're lonely, even though a prostitute is literally a real human being, right? Because you know that these things cannot give it to you. But with porn, the thing is, because in the past you've been using it as a way to distract yourself, now you attach that kind of value of relieving your loneliness to porn, right? But that's why you need to sometimes just uncover the past, okay? To really see how you've been just using it from an emotional standpoint and you've been falsely associating porn with all of these benefits. So imagine this, imagine you're lonely, you have zero friends, you live in the middle of nowhere, but you receive $1 million out of nowhere. Would you feel lonely and just ruminate or would you just feel happy? Just ask yourself this, okay? Because most people will be like, I feel better, right? I feel good. It doesn't matter if I'm lonely or not. right? That's one thing. And you feel bitter, you know, your mind switches from the focus of I'm lonely, this is painful, I feel empty, to wow, I have $1 million in front of me, I can do this and that. The thing is with PMO, you don't watch because you see other women having sex on the screen and you feel less lonely. It doesn't work like that because it's not like you look at a video of people eating food and you're like, wow, my hunger is relieved, right? It doesn't work like that, okay? Because imagine you were watching a kid cartoon show, would it relieve your loneliness because of the other characters in that show? I mean, if it was homosexual porn, gay porn, would you feel your loneliness being relieved? The truth is, if you actually focus on the video, you're going to relieve your loneliness, right? You see, it's not about women, for example. Instead, it's just that you believe that PMO is kind of like pleasurable, euphoric. It relieves your emotions, whilst in reality it's just a lifeless object which you put benefits onto. It's a lifeless object. It's all a mental fantasy. You could just think about a woman showing you love and that would distract you from your thoughts of loneliness. When you daydream, for example, you let go of those thoughts of being like, oh no, I'm lonely, I have nothing to do, this is boring, whatever. And instead you start daydreaming. So you just literally immerse in your thoughts about, I mean, you're thinking about something else, right? So you don't feel lonely because you let you feel something else. Okay, now think about it. It's not the loneliness what you're trying to face with female. It's the meaning you give to being lonely. For example, it's bad for my health, it makes me depressed, I don't like it, I need to be with a woman because a woman is going to show me love, right? Because you're not taking drugs, paying prostitutes, drinking excessively when you're lonely because you know that those things won't do anything and make it even worse, right? Even if it's a prostitute who is literally a human being, compared to a piano, which is a lifeless object. You still don't, or maybe really think about paying one since you think it will bring you zero value to your life. And the thing is, porn is the same. Masturbation is the same. It's just a pure distraction that it's not even porn or masturbation giving you the distraction. It's you distracting your own self by deciding to mentally focus on your own fantasy. You distract your own self and Boom, when you finished your PMO session, nothing happens. Nothing happens, nothing changed. It didn't make you feel better in any shape or form. All you did was think about something more intensively for a few minutes. Nothing changed about your loneliness. You still have the feeling of being lonely, maybe even more, and nothing changed. Yeah, okay, you can distract yourself with your own fantasy. Cool. But first of all, nothing's going to change. Second of all, your fantasy is what's doing the distraction, not PMO. You can literally stop watching porn and masturbating. And if let's say you couldn't masturbate or watch porn, right? And you were lonely. Let's say that you physically couldn't. What's going to happen is just maybe you're going to start thinking about a fantasy or maybe you're going to start thinking about you being a woman or maybe you're going to find a way to just be with a woman, right? It's just that human beings adapt to things that they put, I mean, the situation in front of, right? Because loneliness is also relative. Some people spend 10 hours alone and feel so lonely. Some people spend 1 month lonely and feel the same loneliness. There's the mental and physical. The mental is loneliness is bad. I can't do this. It's bad for my health. I shouldn't live like that. And the physical is like there's no one around you, but the mental is is subjective, right? It's not tangible. This is tangible. Like, no one is around you, right? You are in your own mind. You are in control. So if you don't think those things, then loneliness is not that big of a deal. And on top of that, it's easy to solve physically. Your mind rules your brain. If you thought that being a lone wolf is the best thing for you, then you will be comfortable to just be lonely, right? Because the thing is also physically, okay, Let's say that, for example, you're lonely, okay? And you live, let's say, in a place where there's not many people. You don't have any friends. Now, the thing is, at the end of the day, you're not in the middle of a field, right? You're not like in a prison. And even in prison, people find a way. I mean, obviously they have this social circle, but you know deep down that, for example, you can go to go to church or go to a mosque and depending on your religion and still somewhat find other people you can talk to. Yeah, maybe you're not going to be like these people, but physically you're going to solve your loneliness. And that's pretty much how it works. When I, for example, was very lonely, I just had to find a solution because I didn't want to be lonely forever. And my solution was to just go train at the martial arts gym more, right? That was literally my solution. So I started going a bit more often and I made friends over time. Not at first, but over time, right? So that was what I did. Okay, so the thing is, when it comes to more time, you have more time. I mean, you have more time to think and do something you find valuable. For example. Okay, so the thing is, it can be working, it can be exercising, it can be reading. And sometimes PMO, if you see it as something you want to do, right? So the key lies in debunking the value of PMO, especially pleasure and relief, because PMO doesn't even bring you those things. And actually do something to bring a real social life, which is way more simple than you think. Okay, that's the thing. You can actually do those things, right? PMO, the thing is just debunk the PMO and it's going to be cool. You don't have to overthink it. And the market of the industry, because that's the thing, it's not that you believe in the marketing right now because obviously if you see an ad about a girl saying, "You're lonely, come and watch porn." It's not the problem. The problem is you used to think and emotionally attach that feeling of being lonely means that you need to watch porn. And with all of this advertisement around porn, that you used to believe back then. And because you still kind of make the same emotional decision, it's like the same thing that happens, right? Then you don't change that. The point is, she shows you, because they show you these ads, come whether someone is near you. And since you repeated watching porn so many times, you start associating porn with loneliness. The same way that someone watches anime all day and is so indulged in the series that they start mentally fantasizing that they want to be like them and be like the characters and live in their environment, right? But for porn, it's just marketing. A drug dealer could tell you that taking drugs will relieve your loneliness, but you know it won't because you see through the marketing. Just be aware of that, okay? Just want you to be aware because that's what they do. They put a lifeless video on you, right? You don't watch movies to relieve your loneliness. You watch movies because sometimes you want a distraction, right? It's not because of loneliness, it's because you want to be distracted. And you can be distracted in so many ways. I mean, man, you can be distracted. And because the thing is, being distracted doesn't depend on an object, doesn't depend on, for example, a book. It depends on you, right? You decide to mentally focus on something else. It's not that you focus on the object and the object takes control of you, is that you decide to focus on something else. Okay? So that's the thing. Porn is not special in that sense. Just ask yourself, why do you fear loneliness? And be honest, right? Do you feel like your fantasy of a woman giving you love, for example, to be something that relieve your loneliness? Because porn can't make you feel better. It's a lifeless object. Is watching a video of people eating food relieving or making you feel better? Is playing video games relieving your loneliness even if there's actual real people next to the screen? Or do you just get bored and you don't see much the point of playing video games? Anymore. Okay? So a really simple question. Now that we know that PMO has zero connection with loneliness, how can you actually have more of a social life? Most of the time we know what to do and the answers are in front of us, but we're scared to change. So the next question is, what is it holding you back from doing that thing that can actually bring you in a social life, an actual social life? And remember, we're not doing this to escape from porn, but to actually solve your real loneliness. Okay? Because porn has never been able to solve your loneliness. You've been able to live your life not solving your loneliness just by being a bit distracted throughout the day. So really reflect on these questions. And if you have any questions, if you want a personalized video on that, I can definitely help you with that. This is something I literally had no friends for almost 2 years. So I relate a lot to such problems. So just let me know. And if you have any questions, message me on WhatsApp. All right guys, so debunking pleasure. Let's get it. So you think, okay, this, okay, it's important first of all to not force yourself to believe what I'm about to say here or to force that view into PMO. Instead, I want you to just make it simple by, you know, seek to understand, okay? Just simply seek to understand. First question, okay, do you feel pleasure at all time? Do you feel pleasure with every jar of porn? Imagine someone puts porn in front of your face when you don't want to watch it. Is it pleasurable? Or if you want to watch porn, but the only genre available would be homosexual porn or a girl violently dominating a man cage, for example. I'm saying these genres, if you, for example, don't like them, right? Any genres you can think of that you would be disgusted by, would it be pleasurable for you to watch? Ask yourself that, okay? Just ask yourself. And it's not to say, oh, look, because you have a different taste, so it's not pleasurable. It's just to really just make you aware that we do this with anything in life. There's things in life which, for example, the best example I can give you is you might like a certain type of food that someone else might find disgusting, right? Or you might like a kind of movie that you might love it and it might be amazing, but another guy might feel this I mean, might just not like it, right? And the point I'm trying to make here is when we don't like something, what happens is it's not that like, oh my God, we just look at it and we don't like it. It's just that we don't even want to look at it, right? And even if we do, we don't have really a reaction. It's not to say that you should have the same exact reaction when it comes to PMO, but you'll see it's way more simple than that, okay? Because porn is simply a lifeless video with pixels. Moving images and colors. How's that inherently pleasurable? How is that inherently pleasurable? Okay, I'm not saying necessarily like the black screen, right? But a phone with a video, how's it inherently pleasurable? Right? Because I can give you a 1980s movie and you might find it bad to look at. I mean, you might not like looking at it, right? So that's what you got to ask yourself. Okay. K-pop can give you the same pixels, images, and colors. A show for kids can give you the same exact thing, but you don't associate pleasure with those queens, right? I mean, if you don't like those things. You can watch a movie and you don't find much interest in, let's say, a new movie about two guys falling in love, and you won't find it really pleasurable. Yeah, maybe at first you might actually find it really pleasurable if someone told you that Oh, this movie is so good. But then you realize, oh, it's two guys. And then you're like, no, fuck that, right? Just like, imagine, okay, that you're about to watch a porn video and the first few minutes of that porn video, it's like a man and you think, you know, he's gonna have sex with a woman, for example. And you're like getting so hyped up. You all do feeling that pleasure, that relief. Just obviously it comes from you, but like you all do feel it. And then you realize it's actually two 2 men about to have sex, it's like boom, you just stop watching. I mean, yeah, maybe you can continue if you want to, but most of the time you just stop watching it. You completely get rid of the arousal, you completely get rid of the pleasure because it's up to your mind. Yeah, because you thought that it was going to be a woman, it was pleasurable. But now that you thought that there was not going to be a woman, no pleasure, right? So because pleasure is in the mind, okay, research shows that there's no pleasure center in your brain. For something to be pleasurable, you need to interpret it as something pleasurable in your mind first. And if you don't interpret it as pleasurable, then there will be no pleasure. For example, the girl cutting your wrist, the guy going extra hard at the gym, the anorexic girl vomiting, they do find pleasure in those things because in their own mind, they give pleasure to those. And most of the time, pleasure is linked to benefits, right? Like we do something that is going to give you some benefits in the short term, meaning like immediate benefits, like feeling better, and you find that pleasurable, right? Most of the time, your mind is you, okay? When I say your mind, I don't mean something separate from you, okay? Yeah, we say, oh look, you can look at your thoughts, you're not your thoughts, whatever. But it's like you own them, right? It comes from you. It doesn't come from another entity, okay? Your mind is you, your consciousness. Imagine you didn't have a consciousness. Imagine you didn't have those thoughts, right? Imagine you didn't have any thoughts. What would you be? Just a piece of meat running around on autopilot, living on instinct. Wouldn't make sense, right? There's a study on music, right? And if you read, for example, a book like Feed the Model or other books related to that topic, like Cult of Pharmacology, these are books that talks about studies where, for example, music has been shown to activate a very similar effect to that of drug, sex, and food. Yet music is literally sound and waves in the air. Nothing is physical about it. When you listen to your favorite music, you might feel on top of the world, but music has no connection with biological survival or reproduction. And it's not even a drug. It's literally like sound waves that are going in the air, right? And some music you might love and derive so much pleasure from it, yet some other form of music you might hate, right? It's just the personal meaning you have to music. And what I realized with music, it's kind of like the fantasy thing with PMO. Listen to music, I mean, at least for me personally, I would try to kind of think of something that would make me feel better by listening to the music, right? It wasn't the music making me feel better, it was me thinking of something that I love. For example, it might be something like, oh, me in the future achieving some goals and feeling so good and feeling like, I don't know, like a woman being in a relationship with me, whatever, right? All of those things relate to what I actually want. So I was thinking about those things. That's what makes people feel confident, right? It's just that they kind of visualize that whilst they're listening to music, right? Because if you're listening to music and you're distracted, someone else is talking to you, you're not going to feel the same way, right? It's really that simple, guys. It's not the music itself that provides the pleasure. It's your own mind. It's like the fantasy you have whilst you're listening to music. Okay? And look at your favorite fantasy. Okay? And imagine that in the middle of it, of you actually doing that fantasy in real life or with PMO, that the ones you were engaging with were actually your old friends, right? From school who switched their gender, for example, right? And let's say it was your favorite fantasy and you just realized that, right? Let's say, obviously it's a scenario, I know most of you guys don't have casual sex and I don't either. So it's not like a scenario that you wanna imagine, but let's say it was PMO and then there's a video, but it's actually trans. Someone from your school back then that used to be a man and you just realize that even if you feel a huge amount of pleasure right beforehand, you might not feel purely disgusted, right? It's really up to you. And so this shows that how you think about something affects how you judge it. That showed that if people ate a protein that was labeled with soy protein, they didn't like the taste as much even if there was no soy protein. Or when they gave Coca-Cola in a Pepsi brand, they liked it more. Or when wine is presented in fancy bottles, they feel more pleasure drinking it. And vegans, they don't get pleasure from getting forced to eat meat. Even if meat is biologically something that you need to eat, they don't care. I used to be vegan and meat was not something that I even wanted to taste for a single second and any animal products at all because I was convinced of my beliefs that this was the right way and this was the most beneficial way for me to live back then. It was like my absolute vision back then. So working hard as an example, there are many people who would like to work hard all day, every day, more than resting. Now we call them workaholics, but they try to put a problem that they now need to solve. But these people weren't born like that. I mean, they just learned to like it with information. They maybe hanged out with entrepreneurs or maybe they watch videos about entrepreneurship and they like the lifestyle. And they told them about how it was beneficial to work hard, how people will respect them more for it, how they will just respect their own selves more, whatever. All of these benefits, maybe they looked up to someone, right? Now they just derive pleasure from working more than resting or even engaging in activities such as parties and events. It's not even discipline. They just like it. And pleasure isn't always there. Studies show on rats that Those that got an hit of cocaine that was forced on them overdosed and died 38% more. And those that didn't or that were not forced, died way less. Those that basically did it with their own will. Because the random hits of cocaine, they didn't like it, but the hits of cocaine that they were working for, they actually liked it because it was their intention. Okay, that's what's crazy. Who doesn't have any negative or positive quality? It's a lifeless object, just like a can doesn't really have any inherent qualities. But the moment you fill up with the drink metaphorically, which you give so much personal meaning. So let's say it's your favorite drink that gets poured right in that can. Now it feels appealing, but that's in your mind, not because of the can, right? That's what we need to understand. It's not the freaking video, okay, or the screen with pixels that, that provides dopamine. It's just what it represents for you, okay, from you, for you, right? And there's also, if you read the Code for Astrology, cocaine, uh, cocaine against Ritalin, these two drugs literally have very, very, very, very similar, um, effects on the body and brain, right? But people will get hooked on cocaine, but on Ritalin they will use it as medicine, okay? But because Ritalin was known as a drug to help people with attention deficit, to calm them down basically, right? And cocaine was known as this evil and addictive substance. They literally almost never get hooked or feel pleasure from Ritalin, but from cocaine, it was completely euphoria and addiction, right? This just goes to show, right? And if you wanna read more about it, there's a book on this, right? Now, PMO, porn masturbation. Again, they don't have anything on you, neither can it destroy you or help you. It only does the moment it enters your mind and you reason the effects based on your beliefs and perception. It is also cultivated taste because PMO is empty, okay? It's a lifeless object and masturbation is merely physical sensation ending sometimes with ejaculation, okay? People gotta realize that it's really just all that. It's really just that. And it's a question of do you wanna do that or not, right? And I'm not trying to shame you into or coerce you into feeling one way or the other, but I'm just telling you, okay, objectively, that's what it is. When you don't put all of that fantasy. Because the thing is, with fantasy and seeing pleasure in porn, it's like a skilled habit that you've learned over the time, right? Because in the beginning, you don't really, you're not really good with that, right? You need to fantasize and it's hard because it really goes in depth, whatever, right? So it kind of becomes that thing that is like, How can I say? It becomes that thing that is something that you need to learn over and over again, right? You need to learn and you need to basically learn how to put that fantasy and pleasure into porn because in the beginning there's none of that. But then you learn it, right? And you can unlearn that, right? Just like any skills. I mean, I'm not saying that you're not going to be able to, but I'm saying that you can stop doing that skill and at some point you kind of forget how to do that skill. Like it's really that simple, guys. Okay, so oysters and coffees, for example, right? This is a perfect example because both you probably didn't like the taste at first, right? Imagine just drinking a black coffee at 15 years old or 18, whatever age you started, or eating oysters for the first time. We usually don't give it much personal meaning. I mean, oyster is just like, it's a seafood, it's pretty, it just tastes pretty empty, right? Coffee kind of has this taste that most people don't like at first, right? But then oysters starts becoming more pleasurable because now you associate them maybe with highly nutritive qualities or fancy events with loved ones or going to the restaurant or a special occasion, right? Then it starts becoming more pleasurable when you actually want to eat it, right? Coffee is the same, but then you might associate the high blood pressure you feel with energy, focus, happens, right? I drink coffee all the time, so I like to associate high blood pressure with those things. I don't really care. So for example, marijuana, research shows that they don't even feel pleasure or high the first time that people smoke, right? They don't feel that, right? Just like the study I talked about where 150 young males took opiates for the first time and only 3 of them wanted to repeat the experience, right? They didn't like it, okay? All of them almost didn't like it, okay? Especially marijuana. By then it wasn't known, okay? But with the new culture of like music, movies, television, books, they're full of references which explains what to expect when using it. When back then it would create senses of anxiety and psychosis and not pleasure, okay? It just shows it's because of cultural knowledge that how everything changed, not because of the substance yourself, okay? Cultural knowledge, because I mean, many of our friends in school told us that masturbation is so pleasurable, right? And obviously they learned it from maybe the media, they learned it maybe from other people, whatever. And it made us expect masturbation to be pleasurable. Now the thing is also, at first, maybe you didn't even like masturbation. Now imagine if I told you that it was painful, disgusting, would you really have that same experience over and over again? Because the reality is even if we expect it to be pleasurable, most of the first tries of masturbation just felt empty, weird, shocking, not pleasurable. That's the reality, okay? And with the advent of media, more young kids who don't even hit puberty get to watch experts on PMO. They watch videos on YouTube where they look up to that YouTuber and they get told indirectly that it's such a good thing. For example, Logan Paul, for example, like talks about it frequently. And once you become aware of where this, beliefs of PMO being euphoria and a huge amount of pleasure, you start to realize that you can just let go of social fake pleasure to PMO, okay? And the thing is, pleasure's in the mind. If you visualize something you love, let's say the video game you played a few months ago and had a huge amount of fun, isn't that a pleasurable feeling? Well, nothing happened, you still feel good and pleasure. If it's inherently pleasurable, then why do some people watch it 3 times in a row and feel pleasurable Some people feel disgusted after one. It's just based on your own goddamn mind. That's the thing. I can watch it 8 times or more and feel pleasure the same way I can watch it once and feel pleasure, right? And because it's not about porn, it's not about masturbation, it's just about my own mind. I can fantasize for the next hour and feel, quote unquote, pleasure by wanting to feel pleasure. Or I can do it for 5 minutes. It's going to be the same exact thing. Or I can do it not at all and still feel a lot of pleasure from anything. That's the thing, okay, from anything, because anything can be pleasurable. Think of the burning spicy food that you might enjoy. I like spicy food, right? Even though it's burning and it makes me almost cry sometimes, I like it, right? And you can still derive a lot of pleasure from it if you interpret it as pleasurable. Think of the guys that watch videos of cartoon porn, yet find a huge amount of pleasure, or going to the gym and doing such a hard workout and even finding pleasure from it. If pleasure was just a chemical reaction in your brain, then why don't you feel pleasure at any time and with anything that society says is pleasurable? Why doesn't pleasure get delivered to you just like eating a chicken would give you protein? It doesn't because it's dependent on you, on your own mind, okay? Ask yourself, okay, pleasure doesn't happen to you, you create it if you reason you should. Ask yourself, what else could you find pleasurable? Not as a substitute, but just what else in life could could be pleasurable because NoFap and the porn industry has been telling us over and over again, it's like you get such a high hit of dopamine that it's going to be hard for you to find anything pleasurable again, which obviously is just a pure lie, right? Then the biggest lie we've been fed is that we watch it too much and because of that, we're not going to find it pleasurable. And the thing is porn is a lifeless object that you gave personal meaning to because of information. And when the new information you can effortlessly remove the personal meaning and just see porn as a lifeless object, right? It's really that simple, guys. And when you reflect on that question, right, like what else could you find pleasurable in life? Because there are many things, but when we're so indulged in this NoFap stream and this porn industry, I mean, in this porn being so pleasurable, we don't even think about what other things could be pleasurable. And because of that, we never find anything. And then we think porn is the greatest thing on earth, right? Anyway, in the next video, we're gonna talk about debunking dopamine. All right guys, so debunking dopamine, okay? So dopamine, it's an anticipation. What dopamine is, is the anticipation in order to get a reward, meaning it's motivation to get a reward. You get dopamine before you do the activity because you think you will get a reward. This is very obvious. Important to understand. If you want to pause this and really understand this, let me read this, because, you know, we think dopamine just happens when you watch porn, and we're not really aware. So we think it actually happens, and we get such a huge rush of dopamine, when in reality it's just us, right? It's just us that think we will get a reward, okay? Imagine this, okay? How do you feel the days before getting the gifts on Christmas, if you celebrate Christmas, right? Anticipation. I mean, you're motivated to wake up earlier because you want the reward. Or let's take your birthday, for example, right? You feel this rush, which is a rush of dopamine. And imagine you have a goal, okay? Most people have a goal, let's say start a business, and they look at the reward of it, it would give them freedom, millions, impact, retirement, parents. And because of that, they feel anticipation motivated, right? At sometimes, not like all the time, right? Or they feel, when they tell their friends about it and feel motivated and anticipation because they're like, look, I'm gonna be able to do this. But when it comes to actually doing the work to get there, they might feel a bit empty because they realize that the reward won't happen overnight. Meaning that, yeah, the work to get there, it's not dopamine because, except if you actually anticipate the work, that's the thing. If you can actually anticipate the work and love the work to the point where it's like you wanna do it and you release dopamine in order to do it, right? Because imagine there was no reward, okay? Imagine that you will start a business, but you couldn't get the rewards, right? No money, no impact, no legacy, no retiring your parents, not providing for your future wife or family, or that the Christmas gifts were actually empty and you got told about it since your parents don't have the money this year. Would you still feel motivated or anticipated to do the business work or wake up early to get the gifts? No, because there's no reward anymore. Dopamine won't be released. Really that simple, guys. Dopamine is just like, motivating you in order to get the reward. That's how simple it is. It's like hunting, right? It's like if you see something, if you want food for your whole tribe and there's, I don't know, a moose in front of you, then it makes sense. You're going to feel that rush of dopamine so that you can be motivated to kill that moose and get the food, right? It's not that watching porn gives you that dopamine because it's a screen with pixels, moving colors and images. Imagine you show it to a kid that doesn't know anything about porn. Would he feel a rush of dopamine or more so like shock? And imagine the porn was actually giving dopamine, then would it give you dopamine if you watch homosexual porn? Of course not, because you don't perceive the reward or value indulging in that kind of porn, okay? Because it's all about the benefits. So what happens is you release dopamine because you might think that porn will give you rewards such as stress relief, for you, to give you familiarity, emotional pain relief, sexual relief, or it might be some emotions you're trying to feel, right? These could be examples. When you feel good, you don't really feel motivated to watch porn because, I mean, you only do it when you feel bad. Because look, okay, which shows that it's not a biological need like food, and that's why you derive dopamine because you see so many women on the screen. No, but because you perceive porn to make you feel better, happier in that moment by giving you a relief. Pleasure, escape, sexual relief, right? And that's the thing, okay? That's just about the benefits at the end of the day. The moment you decide to watch porn, masturbate, you release dopamine in order to motivate you to PMO so that you can get the solution to your problems, whether that be pain, boredom, loneliness, sexual dissatisfaction, a lack of emotion in your life, whatever. Or maybe a belief like, oh, I'm going to get prostate cancer, right? And you want to get a relief from that. Thought, right? And that's what makes you release the dopamine, knowing that you'll get a reward, okay? Relief, happier, pleasure, feel happy, whatever, right? It's all in the mind, okay? Because look at, there's a thing called My Strange Addiction. These guys anticipate doing things that we will probably never do in our lifetime, okay? Yet they release dopamine because they believe that it will give them reward, okay? Because look, I mean, some of them, One guy, for example, was getting pleasure and dopamine from basically just putting, sometimes it's disgusting, but it's like, for example, one guy was smelling tuna cans. One guy was basically having sex with his car, and he anticipated that. One guy has a doll, like I talked about in the videos. Because the thing is, you expect porn to give you that reward, but in reality, you're giving yourself the reward. Porn, and then you realize that it's actually an empty promise. Porn promised you the reward of not feeling lonely by watching the videos, and you realize that it was an empty promise because, I mean, you released dopamine for it, but you didn't feel less lonely. Okay? You thought that you felt less lonely whilst watching, but it's just that you were distracting your own selves, right? Not because of PMO. But the thing is, distracting yourself with fantasy, putting all of your mental effort into that fantasy, that you obviously couldn't think and ruminate on the thought that being lonely is painful. Okay? And the thing is, the mind gives the signal to the body and brain to release dopamine. So if there is no reward perceived, or if you choose to not indulge in it, then no dopamine will be released, even if porn is in front of you. Because your mind, AKA yourself, you're on your own mind, you're the consciousness, you're in control at all times. Because if it was truly the brain releasing dopamine, then you will watch without porn without thinking and releasing dopamine, or you would watch a genre of porn that disgusts you, like homosexual porn, you're a dominating man and release dopamine uncontrollably, which doesn't happen. It doesn't even happen with food. Even if there is a jar of food that might be the most suitable for survival, for reproduction, for health, or just overall something that is filled with fats and sugar and sodium, you might not even derive dopamine. I mean, if you put an hamburger in front of me from McDonald's, to be honest, I'm not really going to like it. I'm not really feeling any anticipation because I don't really want to do it. I just see it as something that could not give me any form of benefits. So I don't anticipate it. Right. And I see eating healthy as something that I actually anticipate. Okay. Like if you tell me, look, I just cooked you 12 eggs, I will be like, wow, I'm going to anticipate that because I'm going to think, 12 eggs is going to give me testosterone, it's going to help me build muscle, it's going to make me more healthy, going to give me more fertility, whatever. Okay? The thing is, if food, okay, like sugar, fats, release dopamine, then you would eat it without stopping and consistently get dopamine. But that doesn't happen because it's not the food itself which gives dopamine, but the anticipation of the reward that the food will give you. Like a tribe won't anticipate food as much if they have plenty of food and they're full. But if they're starving and they see a moose that they can kill to feed the whole tribe so that they can survive, like a reward, then they might feel motivated to, and I mean, basically release dopamine in order to get that reward. And the truth is they will release the dopamine, but they might fail to kill the moose and be left with no food. It's based on the perceived reward, not on the actual reward. Okay? You see what I mean? It's not the thing itself because the thing is, you might believe dopamine to watch porn because you think that it will relieve your loneliness. And then you never got that before, basically, right? You never got that loneliness relief because porn has no connection with loneliness. That's it. I mean, you watch it and then you feel more lonely because whatever, you probably feel shame after you watch porn because you think that you need to feel shame, whatever. So that's the thing. It never relieves your loneliness, yet you might feel like it would. When in reality you're just, it's the fantasy and then you say, no, it's because of porn. Why do we try to find, okay, the thing is there's no perfect video. What matters to you is not the pixels, right, on a screen or a different woman having sex because it's all about the fantasy. Now obviously it's a fantasy, you can't fulfill it with porn, right? But you think it can, but it never did. So it's your personal preference. There are many people that just watch one video because they see more value in doing that than scrolling, right? There are many people. There are also many people that stops after a certain genre of porn and they'll never look at a certain genre of porn even if they sit in front of them, right? So that's what basically happens because it's based on you, right? Yeah, you scroll and you think, oh, it's because of dopamine, it's because there's so many women I can reproduce with. Bullshit. It's just that you're trying to find a video that will be more close to your fantasy. And to be honest, it never happens. And even if you watch something that's so close to your fantasy, you know, the thing is, it's not going to— because a fantasy is like basically like the perfect scenario for you, right? You're fully in control, but you're not fully in control of the video. And, you know, that's what happens. If you watch the same video over and over again, would you be bored at one point? Okay, because obviously humans would like to see something different. Think of other things you anticipate in life, like you might release dopamine for a trip, an event, a gift. Okay, so that's the thing. I mean, because dopamine acts also to strengthen the neural pathways, right? One of the reasons why we don't like something after we do it over and over again, like, we don't really derive the same anticipation, we don't really derive the same motivation to do that thing if we did it over and over again. Like, for example, doing the same gym workout over and over again compared to trying something new. Is because the thing is you anticipate something new because you wanna strengthen your pathways because it's something new, right? It's like something you never did before. So you need to strengthen your pathways if you wanna do it again. So you might anticipate a trip to Bahamas, for example, to go into the Bahamas. But if you go 10 times in a row, then it's like, it's not something that you really need to anticipate or be motivated by because you already know what it's like going there. If you go to a different place in the Bahamas, now you're gonna anticipate that probably because you never really been there, right? Because dopamine acts also to really strengthen those neural pathways so that it becomes easier next time you go to just adapt to that place and you know about that place, right? That's why, because if you watch the same video over and over again, I mean, also it's just a question of being bored. Obviously, I mean, you're not going to do the same routine every single day for the rest of your life. I mean, I believe you can, and I like having the same routine, but at one point you start to change things up, right? Because it's just you get bored. It's not because of dopamine and there's so many women on one screen and all of those things that, oh, look, it's why I'm scrolling. No, it's just that at one point you get bored. I mean, I ask people all the time, if porn was really about sex, Could you watch the same video for the next 6 months? And they say no, they can't, right? Let's say every day for the next 6 months and they'll say no, right? It gets boring. It's normal. It's not about sex, it's not about biology. It's not like having sex with one partner over and over again, maybe a few times a week or whatever, every day in your marriage. It's not about that because it's not actually fulfilling your sexual needs. It's not actually two people coming together and there's beauty in this and there's love, there's connection, there's intimacy. It's not that. It's literally just a video which you put your own fantasy to and you repeat, right? It's really all about that, right? So in the next video, we're gonna debunk urges. I know you guys like that, so stay tuned. All right guys, so the benefits of not PMOing, no masturbation, no porn, no orgasm, whatever. Obviously I'm not saying like, not do those things if you're married, for example, when I'm talking about orgasm, whatever, right? It's not semen retention, okay? It's not the benefits of semen retention. Yes, it can be part of it if, for example, you're not married or you're not in a relationship, whatever, okay? But let me just get this clear, okay? Let's say that PMO actually gave you an insane amount of pleasure. You could realize that not indulging in sexual pleasure could be way more pleasurable day to day. For example, the priest who finds enjoyment day to day being pure, helping others, feeling closer to God, waking up with pure intentions. Or the guy that waits until marriage and let's say he's 30 years old and still doesn't want to indulge in any sexual behaviors, whether that be porn or masturbation, for example, right? Or even casual sex. So it's really just, it's something that people can do effortlessly, but we've been brought up in such an oversexualized society that we think that Everyone needs to masturbate if they don't have sex or have casual sex if they're not married, for example, right? But for us, okay, the thing is we see it as a sacrifice we make for future goal, like being in relationship, the day of judgment, making more money. Now the thing is, okay, it's long-term against short-term. The problem with long-term goal is that you haven't achieved them yet, okay? And sometimes you feel frustrated and disappointed. But to give you like the most basic example, When people are in a relationship, they most of the time stop watching porn, not because of the fact that they're having sex. Most of the time they're not even having sex because, for example, they're in relationship, right? They're not even married yet. Or for example, if they know that they're gonna be with a future partner that, I mean, let's say that they meet a future partner, for example, right? They know that they're not gonna watch porn or masturbate because they know that they might get married soon, for example, right? right? So it's like this mental knowing, right? It's like, okay, I have this goal, I'm going to live an happier life because I have this goal. But the moment the relationship doesn't work, now they go back to it. Not because of sexual frustration, because obviously, like, literally they were not having sex, right? But because of this thought that porn can give you a huge amount of pleasure. It's euphoria, it relieves you sexually, it's a substitute for having a partner. All of those false benefits that we attach to it, right? And since you link those goals with quitting PMO, that's the problem I saw, right? It's like if you link the goal of building a business and getting $1 million to quitting PMO and you're not there yet, then you might feel frustrated, right? But it's the same thing for relationships. If for example, a girl rejects you, which you thought that you're gonna be married to, now boom, like it doesn't work. Or for example, I was talking with someone and he was in relationship and he wanted to have a better sex life, right? And that was his only goal, his only reason for quitting PMO. But the thing is, he didn't even enjoy PMO, right? So it's like, I mean, didn't even enjoy sex. So it's like, you know, it's like if you don't enjoy something and you're doing it for that reason, and let's say you don't even learn to enjoy that thing that you want to do it for, then it's like, you know, you're doing it for Basically no reason. Like you're just doing for the future goal, but that future goal might not even happen yet or at all. Okay, so you might reason, well, I don't have those things, right, the value you want. So let me do something that gives you value. PMO. Now obviously you can debunk PMO to the point where it's like drugs, right? It's like you won't even take it in the worst conditions in your life. That's really easy to do, right? It's always a choice at the end of the day. But what helps people is when they enjoy the process. You think the athletes, they don't want to play their sports, that they're forced to do it? No, I mean, they enjoy it. So, you know, a part of it, they enjoy their competition, they enjoy learning, for example, right? And enjoy the process to get there, okay? What are the benefits you'll get from stopping PMO in the short term? Because most people, they're like, you know, if I quit, I'm going to be able to get married. If I quit, I'm going to be able to achieve that goal and then that goal and then this. But it's like, that's the future, right? That's the future. That's what you're getting right now. Because it's like, imagine a fat guy goes to the gym and he forces himself and it's hard and he pushes himself and he's like, one day I'm going to have a better physique. Yeah, okay, might be motivated by the idea of getting better physique. I'm not saying otherwise. But the moment where he sees no results, the moment where there's not much progress and that he hates going to the gym, he hates lifting the weights, he hates doing the cardio, then yeah, of course he might give up. It's not even here. We're not even about we're not even talking about giving up. We're just talking about making the choice, right? This guy might make the choice of not go, I mean, not go to the gym anymore because he doesn't see the point. He doesn't even enjoy it. He got to push himself through it in order to get to a future goal. But the guy that actually enjoys, the guy that enjoys walking will always be the guy that is there just for the destination, okay? So if you actually enjoy doing something, what's going to happen is, I mean, that's what you'll want to do. It's that simple, guys. Okay? Just ask yourself, how would you feel day to day? Okay? Because the guy that goes to the gym and actually enjoys going to the gym, regardless of his physique, he just likes lifting the weights. He's going to go far, right? Because he's always going to show up because he wants to do that thing in the first place. He doesn't just do it for a future goal that might not even mean much to him. Okay? So how would you feel differently day to day? What other things would it allow you to do day to day? Why would you feel happier? Why is it going to be more enjoyable every day to be more, to be pure before marriage? Why is it going to make you feel better even in times of loneliness and pain? Answer these questions in depth or with me on a coaching call. I mean, I highly recommend you just to answer it right now. And what is your life going to look like without PMOing? Even if you answered already, I want you to be clear on those things. And be aware, don't just force yourself to feel those benefits. Don't be like, oh, I'm going to be more driven. And then day to day you think too much about like, oh, am I feeling more driven? Oh, let me create that feeling. No. Okay. Because you'll see it's just going to happen. It's going to be there regardless of if you think it's going to happen or not. But worrying about like, oh, am I getting the benefit? It's just useless. Okay. It's like you're not even enjoying the process and the benefits are going to be there. Instead, just be aware for a few days. How do you feel? Is it better? Are you happier? Or are you actually getting benefits? And just analyze. We got caught up in thinking, I need to feel like this or that. But you'll be surprised that if you keep an open mind and maybe even you might not enjoy the choice of not watching porn, which I highly doubt. Because when you have more time, when you face challenges and you don't just hide in your bathroom to do that thing, right? Like, life is just beautiful. I don't want to say, but it's just beautiful because it feels like you're becoming a new man, right? You're becoming a new self that is gonna just be way different and way better, right? I'm not even talking about like a future thing, just talking about like day to day. You're embracing someone new and it's just beautiful in my opinion, right? And it's better like that because you actually, you know, you become convinced of your choice when you actually experience it, okay? So really just Take your time, go on the workbook and do that thing, okay? And it's really gonna be very helpful for you. And if you have any questions about that, send me on WhatsApp and I'll get back to you. All right guys, debunking fetishes. So I know you guys want this and this is gonna be very helpful if you wanna just live your life without these lustful ideas that you feel like you can bring to future relationships. Or current relationships. So what happens with PMO? A fetish is lifeless, right? It's a lifeless object, right? It's in your mind, it's abstract, it's nothing physical. It's not like you have cancer and then it affects you and then you cannot get rid of it and that you need to do a cure, whatever, right? It's all in the mind. So you don't need to worry about it. Now the thing is, we constantly give meaning to lifeless things, obviously, right? Just like I gave you the example of my controller, I gave it meaning. That's why I got mad because I wanna use it for whatever value I think it's gonna bring me. Because if I think that I have a better lighting because I'm able to control this, then I'm gonna be able to make better videos. And better videos means I'm gonna be able to help more people. I'm gonna be able to get more people to coach, whatever, right? And you see, and then I'm gonna be able to leave a legacy. You see, it's like all about the value, right? Just like we saw in the reasons why and the vision, all of those things. Now the first question is, Do you need to get rid of your fetishes or do you want to get rid of your fetishes? Don't lie to yourself. Okay? This program is about being honest and answering questions with honesty because that's what's going to actually help you. Right? And if you feel like you need to, there's no problem. Right? We're going to see why and we're going to be able to debunk why. Right? You can ask yourself, okay, if you need to debunk your fetishes, ask yourself why. Usually it comes from from exterior ideas that makes us want to feel like we need to do those things. But if you want to get rid of your fetishes, it's gonna be way more simple and you can actually go from need to want pretty easily, okay? So most common fetishes is, for example, receiving oral sex. We most oftentimes don't want to bring it in our future relationship. Maybe we do, right? And obviously there's kind of like a belief thing of like, oh, if I get rejected from being able to accomplish such a fetish, then that means I'm a loser, for example. That might be a way to think. And that's why you're scared of changing that preference or whatever. Most of the time, the thing is we're not obsessed with the physical act. That's what we need to understand. We're not obsessed with the physical act because most of the time we never even experienced it. Whatever fantasy, fetish you have, you probably never experienced it. You just saw it on a video and you created fantasy around it, right? So the thing is, it's what it means to us in our fantasy. For me, for example, a blowjob back then meant receiving deep love, feeling masculine, linked to confidence. Because when I used to listen, for example, to rap music, they will say like, oh, I'm receiving whatever, like a blowjob, or for example, through the media, they were talking about it, they were portraying it as something so powerful. And it's like, look, she's doing this taboo thing for me. So that means that I'm the G, right? And that's how I wanted to feel, right? If you look back at what were the desires I had, it was feeling deep love connection. Intimacy and obviously confidence, masculinity, all of those things, right? So for me, that's what it meant. It's not the physical sensations because man, I mean, if it's really just the physical sensations, then even if a man does it to you, you'd like it, right? Obviously, I know you're not going to do it with a man, but I'm just saying, there's these stories with people that go to Thailand, for example, and they want to be a little degenerate. They want to go and have casual sex. And women over there are just like very, very like they want the money, right? So they're willing to do anything. And one guy was quote unquote receiving oral sex from one woman and he did it. And then what happened is he realized that it was actually a man. It was just like a man dressed up as a woman. And he just threw up. He did enjoy it when he was receiving it, maybe, but when he realized mentally that it wasn't about physical sensations, it was about the meaning that it gave to him. And I still feel bad for this man, but obviously choices can come with consequences, but whatever. You see what I mean? Okay? What are things that you Most of the time, the fantasy is based on what things you want in life, whether it's emotional connection, whether it's validation, love, maybe it's feeling superior, whatever, pain. I don't know. It depends on you. What we need to know, fetishes are not ingrained inside of us and can be unlearned. You only like the blowjob fantasy for what it means to you. It's not the physical sensation that you think you'll get, or it's not that you're wired differently inside of your brain and that there's a certain part of your brain that says that it likes blowjob. It doesn't work like that. It's all purely in the mind. It's not tangible. It's abstract. It's in the mind, okay? It's not because everyone likes something that it's part of our biology, right? Because look, a lot of people just listen to rap music nowadays. A lot of people listen to these YouTubers nowadays. And obviously, it creates this effect where everyone has kind of like the same preference. And for example, blowjobs. And then everyone talks about it. To their peers. So guess what? That's what happens because even if you look at women and many men that, for example, sleep around with women, they'll often report that the women that do watch porn usually have these different fetishes. For example, they want to be, I don't know, for example, they want to be around, they want to be doing things that they saw in porn. It becomes their fetish. To, right? But the women that don't watch porn, usually they just want deep connection when they have sex, right? Obviously, I'm not having casual sex, so I cannot tell 100%. Don't believe me 100%. Make your own research. But it's like, that's what people report, okay? Because obviously, the women that watch porn might like to do blowjobs, but the women that don't might not even know what a blowjob is, so they don't do it, right? So they don't like it. It's really that simple, guys. It's not because everyone likes something. It's not because tomorrow every man and woman watch porn that everyone is going to like a blowjob and that means that it's based on biology. No, it's just based on how they've been influenced and how they gain new knowledge that maybe it means much more than just the physical act, right? So that's what happens, right? This is the hype that they have around Switch Fetish. Right? Just like there's these LGBTQ movement, whatever, how you say the thing, like you think people are born that way? No, they learn to like those things or else there wouldn't be an increase of them, right? There wouldn't be an increase. They would just, you know, if they were born that way, then it would just be like a small percentage of the population, right? But now it's being more and more, you know, increased and more and more people are changing their quote-unquote preference because it's based on their fantasy, right? It's not based on the biological act, okay? Your fantasy about a blowjob doesn't mean you're masculine. And this is a big thing I had to understand. It's like, first, it's just a fantasy. You could think of anything related to masculinity and you will feel masculine. Think about saving a woman from danger. I was on the subway the other day and there was like a man talking to a woman and I tried protecting the woman. Because the man was trying to do something weird, right? And I was dumb because I didn't realize, I think the man actually knew the woman. So I tried protecting, but for me it was like, I'm doing this masculine thing, right? And this is natural. Sometimes I just think about like, oh, I imagine that there's a guy that starts talking to a woman and starts touching her and then you come, I come in and then I just protect the woman, whatever. And I feel masculine that way, right? It's just like you can say it's a fantasy because it hasn't happened yet and it's maybe not going to happen and it's not happening in front of me, but it's something that I would want to happen that would make me feel masculine, for example. So it's just that, a fantasy. But that doesn't mean that it's inherently something that makes you masculine because some people might see it as like oh, you're saving a woman from danger, and then they might see it as something that is just extremely risky, for example, and don't see it as masculine. They just see it as something risky. So it's based on you. It's really subjective, guys. But the thing is, you can feel masculine in any way. It's just like saying that your fantasy or thinking about sex is making you feel masculine, is making you feel like you have a lot of sass or libido. It's like saying, I'm smoking a cigarette, and I'm feeling cool because I'm smoking a cigarette. Obviously you're not feeling cool because of the cigarette. You're feeling cool because you allow yourself to feel cool because you want to feel cool. And then the cigarette is like a sign for you to feel cool, right? That's the thing, guys. It's not that you feel cool because of the cigarette, because feeling cool is purely in the mind. A cigarette is physical. Like you're actually consuming it, right? You're smoking. Yeah, and also just think about, you know, this is why it's important to have an up here vision. Think about the woman you want to be in a relationship with and the kids you want, the vision. Would it be more beneficial? And I'm not saying this in a shameful way, but would it be more beneficial day to day to attract and become that guy if you don't constantly fantasize? If you become a guy that doesn't look at women with lust and instead looks at them with love and is more masculine in his own way, more masculine based on his religion, more masculine in terms of his actions, or is it more masculine to just think about sex and those things? Right. And I'm not saying that thinking about sex or thinking about receiving a blowjob is inherently bad. Right. Obviously, there is morality. There's your morality, which I cannot force upon you. I cannot tell you to follow or not follow. It's up to you. Obviously, follow your morality. But I don't want you to feel shame for for doing such a thing such as accidentally thinking of a blowjob because you used to think about it often, right? It's easy to just brush off these thoughts because they're just habitual thoughts, okay? Positive effect, okay? First, you don't have to get rid of your preferences. If you want to change it, look at why. Look at why you want to change it. You shouldn't feel like you need or should. And also, don't worry about like, oh, I still think about this fetish, for example. Right? Because first of all, if you worry and you make your life about this, then again, you're not really going out there and experiencing life and seeing if living life without that fetish is actually better. You just worry, right? And it's just thoughts, it's habitual thoughts, right? There's a video and talk about this towards the end of this course. But habitual thoughts, it's like you've repeated those thoughts so often, so they might appear out of nowhere. Just like also sometimes you have random thoughts, like you might think of jumping off a balcony, but it doesn't mean you're going to jump off the balcony because it's just a thought. Imagine there's someone right on the line of a subway and you see the subway coming and you think, oh, what if I push that guy? It's not that you want to push that guy necessarily. It's just like you think about it. So you can see it that way. And you can brush these thoughts off. You can even think about pushing the guy, but it doesn't mean you're going to push him. You see? Your thoughts are not going to be defining your actions. Your preference can define your actions in a sense that it can make you want to do it in that nature, right? Now ask yourself, what would happen? How would your life look like if you didn't have this preference? This is very important. Answer this in depth if you have the workbook. To give you an example, sure, blowjobs seems cool when I get married, but I don't feel like I need them because I debunked the perceived benefits I was getting out of it. Instead, I want to make my life, for example, when I get married, I want to prioritize feeling love. And then you maybe research why feeling love is something that is amazing, for example, right? And you research why feeling love, building connection, having kids is better, right? Because for me, for example, or let's just take people in general, right? For some people, having casual sex is 10 times better than having kids. As for some other people, having kids is 10 times better than having casual sex, right? Just based on belief, not biology, based on beliefs, based on, uh, the perceived benefits. Me personally, if you told me I have sex with like 1,000 women, um, and you're not gonna have any kids, and let's say, let's say, let's say morality aside, right, that you could do it, right, that, you know, your religion allowed you to, right? Even though that's not the case. If there was, let's say, 1,000 women you could have sex with, right, with no shame, no morality, or I have 5 children and I have 1 woman, I would personally choose 5 children and 1 woman, right? And I want to give you this example or cross your morality. Obviously, that's not the goal, right? But I'm just saying, right, this is based on my preference. Many people will choose 1,000, obviously, okay? But it's just based on what I want. Based on my vision, based on what I value the most, based on the personal meaning I give to those things. So that's it. And then you can think, I will connect more with my future partner. I won't be needy of such thing. I will be more masculine, not obsessing over preference. I'll be more focused on my goals, which also will make me a better future partner, more attractive to me. It doesn't mean that you need to feel disgusted or force yourself to hate it. Because again, I said I can learn to like, I can still like those things, right? I can still like a woman's body yet not fantasize over it, right? It doesn't mean you need to feel disgusted, but just be open to the fact that it's not wired in you biologically. It's something you learn to like and you can unlike if you see a better option or see no reason in obsessing over it. I mean, both the combination of seeing a better option and see no reason obsessing over it is best because better option in a sense of here, I will connect more with a future partner. I won't be needing such thing. It's like saying, do you want to quit your job? For this question, excuse me, it's like saying, how do you quit your job? You don't quit your job. It's like, do you want to quit your job first of all, right? And if so, why do you want to change your job? And do you have a better option? Do you have a better option? I mean, are you going to go get a job that is better? AKA this, for example, here. So it's really that simple, guys. And what we need to know is fetishes have no power over us. They have no power. It's just something that you own. And just like anything you own in life, you can get rid of. You essentially have an object and you decided to give it power. You can look at that exact fantasy, that representation of porn, mindfully, and you'll see nothing happens. That's the mindful PMO experiment if you want to do it once, whatever. It's like you just go on the porn sites and you see just like, um, maybe just do it by the end of the course to make it more, uh, easier for you. But the thing is, you go and even if it's like the perfect video for you, which doesn't exist, but let's say that was the case, you wouldn't even feel aroused or pleasure or a relief. Because if you're mindful, meaning that you don't think, you don't put fantasy upon that because it's really just like a lifeless video. It's really just a lifeless object at the end of the day. Just like a car. A car is made out of metals and different materials. The car isn't powerful. You're not obsessed over it. It's not alive. It's lifeless. The car doesn't force you to use it. You use it if you feel like you want to use it for benefits, like going to work faster, going on a trip, having fun, whatever. You see what I mean? A lot of people nowadays, they have this problem with like, I'm not married and I'm waiting for marriage, right? And this is something I do as well, right? So I totally relate to those things. Now the thing is, there's difference between having a real relationship, then there's this, okay? I want to give you this example of a man that literally married this doll, okay? A doll, okay? We see the doll, for us, it would be like, that's useless. It's like, why would I have sex with a doll? I mean, why would I marry or give love to a doll or give any form of personal meaning to it, right? But the thing is, what we need to understand is the overall, the doll, the guy gives it personal meaning. Maybe for him it means that he cannot get rejected By the doll, he can do whatever he wants with her, right? That's his belief, right? His belief may be it's better than a real life partner because I'm able to do whatever I want. I'm able to— sorry for laughing, but it's just like, you see what I mean, right? It's just like it gives it so much personal meaning, okay? And for him, marrying a doll is actually something that he wants to do. He actually wants to do that. He doesn't have a real partner who can actually satisfy his emotional needs objectively or give him love or give him whatever, or that has a mind. Doesn't have that, right? So you see it. But the thing is, okay, If you, for example, wait for sex before marriage, what we need to understand here is that just like this guy gives so much personal meaning to the doll, we can also give personal meaning to waiting for sex, to waiting to be married before having sex and actually enjoy that and actually enjoy that just like the same way he enjoys the doll, which doesn't give him any form of value whatsoever. It's empty. It's just, a doll made out of plastic with some clothing. It doesn't have any value, right? And the thing is, we can learn to actually have sex, right? And it's actually tangible. This is not tangible, okay? Daily life behaviors, okay? You change your preference at any time based on getting knowledge. For example, you probably used to want to be with a girl that just looks beautiful. Back then, that was your preference. Now you might want to be with a girl that is more traditional and feminine, that, for example, believes in God, and looks don't matter as much to you anymore. You always change based on the information, right? Maybe you started learning about your faith and you're like, okay, this is way more important than the looks, for example, right? Same thing with fetishes. You might want threesomes, blowjobs, and I'm not forcing you to remove them, but instead just know that you can change your preference by simply looking at why you want those things in the first place. It's not because you fantasize about something that you'll necessarily do that thing in the first place. We think of atrocities, yes, yet we don't do them in our daily lives. Just like I said, jumping off a balcony, pushing someone off a subway, those things, right? And the thing is, real sex is waiting for sex, okay? You might be in a relationship right now, so you think, might not be in a relationship right now, right? So you might think, I'm going to engage in the fantasy instead. Now, first of all, I just want you to realize, I don't want you to force these ideas upon you, But just realize the fantasy won't help you get in a relationship. You probably not. It will make you more distracted because you look at women close, but if you don't think about it, you actually be more focused on your goals and do what is overall more attractive to women, okay? Because I'm just trying to make you more aware of those things. It's like you can fantasize if you want, right? It's up to you. It's based on your morality. It's based on your choices. But I'm just saying that there's benefits also to not fantasizing if you were open to it. right? Like, you'll be able to be more focused on your goals, which will be more attractive to women because you're not constantly taking. You're someone who seems more pure. You're someone who can lead other people more, whatever, because you're literally, you know, you don't have this idea of lust and you can help other people with that, for example. Or you seem more mature because you don't just think about sex 24/7. And you can do like what is overall attractive to women, right? You choose the fantasy based on based on what your needs are in that day. For example, when I used to be bullied, my fantasy is that the day I would take revenge in aggressive way. It's not just for porn, it's just for life in general. It's like I would fantasize over that. It would be my fantasy. And most people still have their fantasy based on what they want. I have a video on this in this course and also talk a bit about it in my book. Sorry for talking fast. In the past, but a bit about it in my book where we choose our fantasy based on what kind of needs. So for example, a lot of people watch porn and never really became aware, and if they actually became aware that they want to watch porn, for example, for emotional support, because when they were younger, when they were watching porn compulsively, for example, I mean, not compulsively, but often the reason why is because they thought that porn is going to actually give them emotional support. And because they never really became aware that they watch porn literally for those reasons, then they still think that porn is going to give them that, which obviously porn cannot do those things because it's a lifeless object. And you give yourself the love yourself just by thinking of receiving love and you receive, you feel some form of love, even though it's not even real love. So that's what happens. Most people, they meet a woman, okay? For example, what they want in their lives is love, right? So a lot of people meet a woman one day and then they're like, "Oh, look, you know what? Porn." They don't even want to watch porn at all. They don't even think about it, right? But then that woman, apparently now it doesn't work out, the relationship doesn't work out. And now they're like, ah man, but I want love. I'm not going to get love anytime soon. I thought that would work with that woman. And they're like unconsciously because of how they used to consume porn and thought that porn would give them love. Now they're like, let me get that love through porn. That's what happens. And just a fantasy based on an emotional need most of the time, because most people want validation from women. They want this and that. They want attention. It's not to say that it's a bad thing to want those things. It's just that most of the time in our childhood, for example, when we're lonely, we don't have any friends, and then we desire to have friends. And then porn is marketed in a way that it will make you feel more connected and have that emotional support. Now it's like you attach that value to porn and you never really look at why. It's the same thing as if you were attaching stress relief to porn, when in reality stress relief happens because of you, not because of porn itself, not because of a lifeless object, okay? Reflect for a moment. Is the woman you want to be with going to be more attracted to you if you don't fantasize, if you don't put sex on a pedestal and instead love maybe, right? I'm not saying again to just force yourself to believe these things, right? And it can also be for you. Don't make everything about women in the sense that yes, obviously you want to be with a woman, but the reason why you want to be with a woman is also for personal reasons. Like, for example, you want to feel love, or maybe you want to have kids, right? And the thing is, if you do everything for a woman and then it doesn't work out when you're with a woman, it's also good to look at the benefits that you're going to get for yourself, right? So that might be, for example, day to day, you feel closer to God and you love that feeling. Maybe day to day, it's that you're going to be more own pain driven and going out there to live your life, for example. And you're actually, if you feel better day to day, maybe you feel more productive, maybe you feel all of those things. And you just look at what kind of benefits you can get from that, from just waiting for sex, waiting for not having these lustful ideas, not having this porn and masturbation, right? How can it be actually active? Okay? Now, waiting for sex, you can choose any fantasy. It's normal to think about things that you want. You can think of love being in relationship with a partner, for example. Because that's the thing, we think lustful ideas or sexual fantasies are the things that are going to make us feel better based on what we want emotionally. But the thing is, I mean, you can be with a relationship, you can think of being in relationship with the future partner, you can think of impressing your future partner with your physique or your vision, you can think of being a leader. And women in your community being attracted to you. You can think of all of those things, right? When I would listen to music back then, I would think of, for example, women being impressed by me. I know it sounds very, very, very, very, very egotistical, but because I wanted to feel that kind of attention. Now, obviously music cannot give it to me. I'm giving it to my own self, and I can do it also without music. I can do it without anything. I can just sit there and be walking and be like thinking of a scenario where a woman is impressed by me and I'll start feeling some form of love, right? I can do that to myself. It's not the walk you're giving to me, it's myself, right? Whatever is meaningful to you will definitely by your own will allow you to create a feeling of being motivated, masculine, full of testosterone, right? For me, for example, I would think of being with a partner on top of a mountain talking about how we would have many kids and plan our future. And that would motivate me a lot, man. I mean, it will make me feel masculine. It wouldn't make me feel accomplish, right? It will make me feel validated, whatever, what I want, right? Love, attention, whatever, right? You can think of sex, but it's not because of biology that it's happening. It's just a preference that, but we can look at other options at any time, okay? Because we think it's just normal. We think, for example, oral sex or anal to be socially acceptable as fetish, right? But other fetishes, and you know which one, you know, that are are considered more deviant, right? They're not acceptable just because society told us that we are weird for it, right? But for other societies, they might be very normal and people think they're normal. And then once they want to get rid of that fetish, for example, it's easier for them because they think they're still normal, right? So that's what happens. Okay. And when things become taboo, that's a problem because now you think that you're taboo, that you're deviant, right? When in reality you're not. At all, okay? And now you adopt the belief that you're someone that does taboo things and you never look at why you even want that fetish in the first place. So morality aside, it's just fantasy. It's a lifeless object that doesn't exist. You haven't lost control. You can easily move on from it. It's no different than the fantasy of normal sex, blowjobs, anal. It's not because you cross your morals that something is wrong with you. You are not a monster. Fantasy is in your mind. So just ask yourself, what does that fantasy mean to you? Ask yourself, what does that fantasy mean to you in depth? It can be in the coaching calls, actually in the workbook, there's a question about what is your perfect jar of porn and why? What does it mean to you? This is very important. So why do we cross the most? I mean, sometimes we're not fully convinced of our models. Let's just face the truth. It's like sometimes we don't trust 100%. We might have doubts. So we can sometimes use that as an excuse to kind of say, oh, you know what, let me watch porn. And even if it crossed my morals, because you see more benefits in that kind of genre, that porn, you think that porn, for example, if you watch a genre that is like, let's say, very violent, you think that based on how it's marketed and based on your own belief and your own preferences, you think, look, this is the next level. Like this is something that can give me love, for example, you might think that based on how you used to watch porn in the past and the value attached to it. So you're like, you know what, this seems like something I need to do and something that's going to be very, very pleasurable, for example, or very, very, that it's going to give me that feeling of love for a few minutes. And that's why sometimes we're willing to cross those morals. But if you're like, let's say for example, you're so convinced of your morals that you're not willing to cross anything. I know many people like that, that they could do things that are borderline to their morals, but they won't cross it. They will never cross it. I'm not saying that it's going to be the case with you and that you're wrong for crossing it and that you don't believe in God. I'm not saying those things, right? I'm just saying that it's really sometimes just a reasoning that we do. Porn used to have a lot of value to you, man. Sometimes we see it as medication, right? It's like saying, it's like imagine that something is forbidden in your faith, right? That is outside of your morals. You won't cross that. Like, let's say taking drugs, right? But then one day you get into, I don't know, like injured or something really bad happens to you. And then you're like, oh, maybe maybe if I take that drug, it's going to help me. Then you start reasoning, you're like, oh, I actually need to take that drug. It's going to cross your morals, right? It's literally a drug, but you think it's going to help you get whatever value. Okay, so that's what happens, right? So yes, it's going to cross your morals, but it's like you think that you need it. And for porn, it might be you think because of addiction, you think because of biological urge, you think it's because of— most of the time it's just because of the value. It's not because of addiction urges, it's just because of so much value that we place on porn. We think it's replacing real sex and we don't have sex and we feel frustrated about that. Or maybe it's that you think, life has been hard on you and you can cross your morals now because you want to take a break, whatever. It's based on your beliefs. And the lies system is based because of the concept of addiction urges, brain changes. We say, oh look, I want to follow my morals, but I'm addicted, man. I have urges. My brain changed, right? And that's what basically happens there. Now we think, okay? And that's the thing, okay? We think, for example, that the fantasy alongside masturbation is more powerful than sex. That's the porn industry marketing. It's thinking of your favorite supercar better than driving it. Fantasy requires a lot of work and brings you inherently nothing. It's a net negative. Would you want to just think about your favorite supercar and fantasize about it all day, every day, or have that supercar? Or would it just be better if you just go and live your life and not have to just constantly think about that supercar? And instead just maybe one day you'll get that supercar, maybe not. Which one is better for you? Do you want to just think about it? Fantasy requires a lot of work. And brings you inherently nothing. It's a net negative. Because I'm not saying this to shame you again, but I'm just saying that what does it bring you? Like, objectively, like, oh, you might feel motivated, you say. But it's like, okay, you feel motivated because of you, because of what you desire, not on your own personal preference, right? You can get motivated because of thinking of your favorite supercar. You can get motivated by thinking of retiring your parents, right? You can get motivated by anything, right? So it really just goes down to why do you value, it's not like the thoughts, right? But why do you value that lifeless fetish so much, right? And I know I'm talking in a way that seems like, oh look, you're wrong, you're doing this the wrong way, whatever. But I just want you, this is not about being passive aggressive. This is about just making you aware of different things, okay? But going in the outside world, will you will make you move your life forward faster. You'll have more time. It's a net positive, right? Compared to just thinking about whatever fetish you have, right? And the beauty about this is the less you think about it, the neuroplasticity, what happens with neuroplasticity is that you start kind of like not thinking about it. It's harder for you to think about it like this, right? It becomes something that you need a lot of mental effort to think about more and more. It's like when people try to, for example, meditate, right? For some people, meditating becomes something that they can do like this, right? Just shutting off their thoughts. But for some other people, it requires a lot of work. And that's what happens. It's like you literally require a lot of work to just fantasize when you stop doing it frequently, for example, right? So the world offers you so much of it, offers you adversity, accomplishments, challenges, experiences, growth. It's like playing GTA 5. It's cool, but then you realize that you could be doing the same things in real life. You can own the apartment, you can drive the supercars, you can get on missions with friends, you can race, you can meet new people, you can own guns, you can change your style, you can make money, you can ride a bike, you can have an office, you can have a boat, you can have all of those things in real life, right? And you can go out there and ride a bicycle. You can go out there and drive a car. Car, you can go out there and whatever, like run. You can do so many things, man. Life has so much to offer, right? Don't believe in the lie. We live in a capitalist society where they make you believe that you'll never fully be happy, that you'll always be needing something, right? That's what happens with porn. It's a business, right? It's a product. It's like, obviously they will make you think that porn is going to be the gateway to happiness. And it's like buying a supercar. It's like, yeah, that supercar is not going to bring you happiness. You know this, but you might think it does. A lot of people think it does, right? It's the same thing with porn. It's like if you think it does, then it's false because how can a car made out of plastic give you happiness? Most of the time you don't even feel happy after you've driven the car a few times, right? So it shows, okay? It's just that they're very good at marketing their products. And we reason sometimes that life is dull, hard, sometimes meaningless, but the thrill is in the chase, not the kid. Okay? Follow your vision and accept that life comes with challenges and adversity and you can learn to love that. Porn and NoFap also told us that we will never be truly happy again because we experienced this apparent euphoria of porn, that your brain needs to be wired differently. Pure bullshit, man. Pure bullshit. People let go of drugs and live normal lives. People stop drinking alcohol and feel better. They're more happy. I stopped watching porn. I stopped masturbating. I stopped doing all of those things. And life has just gotten way more happier the day I left. Like, the day I left, not like 5 years from now, the day I left. Okay? So this is just a lie that they have to make you think that you need the recovery or make you think that, oh, look, when you feel unhappy, here's the euphoria of porn. You can watch it again. But you see, it's just purely a lie. Okay? So I want you to reflect, think back at when you used to consume porn and think of the drives that you would never want to engage in, but that some people do. Reflect on this and then come back to it. All right, guys, so debunking a result. This is going to be very interesting because no one, no one ever talked about this. So do we really need to get turned on? The belief everyone has nowadays is that you'll just start thinking about sex obsessively when you hit puberty. But is it truly the hormones who start producing thoughts in your mind without you having control over them? Or think about how nowadays people from the age of 5 to like 8 years old who obsess over sex, watch porn, and masturbate. Is it about puberty now or is it about something else? Because think about it, if certain tribes, third world regions, nudist beach, live with constant nudity, does that mean they're aroused for 24 hours every single day? Think about it. Think about it for a second, okay? The self-fulfilling prophecy is we get told by people we look up to, okay? Especially people we look up to, right? Or people we want to be like or people we want to be with. So for example, friends, right? That's how we start watching porn in the first place. I mean, at least for me. Or masturbate, I mean, for me at least, right? Because the thing is, we basically, okay, that a man who is an LT will have a high libido. These are experts and authorities, for example, that will say this, right? And a high libido means that you think about sex often. That's what we get told. We also get told that if you don't think about sex often, then that means you have less testosterone and overall manhood, right? Or we get told that sexual behaviors, you know, from artists, for example, and from movies are linked to testosterone, power, validation, affection, love. And we link all of that to porn, for example, or to masturbation, or to any sexual behaviors that you can think of. Okay? And that's what happens. So we link those things, but even though they have no connection whatsoever, because, okay, sexual behaviors can be linked to testosterone. Okay, cool. But there's many other things, first of all, you can do for testosterone that you don't do. But also it's like porn, masturbation, how has it boosted your testosterone, or how has been thinking about sex boosted your testosterone in any shape or form. It's not a sign because a hormone, or for example, a genitals cannot just produce thoughts in your mind and make you fantasize 24/7. That doesn't work like that. So what is the fast way to prove to yourself that you have a strong libido and testosterone? You can get your health check and see your testosterone level. But since you have been thinking about— you have been told that thinking about sex often is a sign that you're a man, you end up turning yourself on to prove to yourself that you have testosterone and strong libido. That's what happens. Because think about it, in order to think about sex, you need to want to think about sex. You don't get sexually aroused out of nowhere. Because if that was the case, then you'd be aroused during sports, when you're speaking in front of a class, at random times where you usually don't even get aroused. But there are many situations when you choose to not be aroused. You need to choose. And it's not like it just pops out of nowhere, then you choose to not get aroused. It's just that you don't even think about it because even if let's say there's a woman involved, you don't do it, right? It's not gonna get aroused the same way that you feel hunger because both are separate. I mean, one is a survival need and one is a desire. So it's like you can choose to have the desire. There's asexuals, for example, who don't have a disease. They just have a different perception. They never even acted, but they have a different perception around porn, masturbation, sexual behaviors in the first place. So what happens is they don't even really see the porn point. Now, I'm not saying that she needs to be an asexual. I don't really think it's going to be any very beneficial with the kind of goals that I know you guys have. But it's just like if you, for example, look at it, it's like, okay, I mean, same thing for priests, right? It's not like they're just fantasizing 24/7. Obviously you cannot prove that. But I'm saying that even for you, there's probably days, many days where you don't even think about sex, right? Let's say when you're busy, If you're busy, you're still hungry, right? If you're busy, you still need to breathe. If you're busy and let's say you eat food that causes you to vomit, you're still going to vomit, right? It's not about something that gets forced upon you. More so it's something that you choose to actively think on. And that's how you get aroused, by actively thinking on it. So to be erect, you need a fantasy or physical touch coupled with the the mind or the fantasy, right? The arousal. And it requires a lot of mental effort because you need to literally visualize it. So it doesn't happen to you, rather you choose to do it, okay? Because, okay, even if you're in the middle of your fantasy and someone random walks up on you and starts talking with you, you're not just gonna be still thinking about the fantasy and your arousal is just gonna go down, right? And it's just gonna go and get to zero basically. So the thing is we have a sexual hour, okay? You have the capacity and the ability