How To Stop Jerking Off When You Are Sleeping (Half-Asleep)
Samir Gardner argues that half-asleep masturbation is a conscious choice, not an involuntary reflex. He debunks the idea that bodies need nocturnal releases, noting semen is naturally reabsorbed. Redirecting sexual energy away from porn and social media frees motivation to pursue real relationships instead.
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How to stop jerking off whilst you're half asleep. A lot of people think that this is a situation that you cannot take control over and that they do it even though they don't want to. But that's completely false. Let me actually explain what is actually happening based on the people I've been able to coach and my own personal experience. So what is truly happening if we look at it in insights? You're basically half awake, right? And half awake means you're obviously conscious and you're doing it, right? And in the middle of doing it, you're like, oh, I'm half asleep, so I can do it. So that's the first thing, you gotta realize that it's like actually you want to do it, okay? But the second thing, you do what we call license to misbehave. You blame something else in order to do a behavior you wanted to do in the first place. Yeah, be honest, right? Obviously, maybe you still wanna, you know, jerk off. and maybe you really, really want to jerk off for whatever reason. Maybe you think it's gonna give you a ton of pleasure, right? Maybe you think it's gonna give you that relief that you've been looking for after all of these days of not doing it. You might have these false beliefs that you're attached to jerking off, and then in the middle of the night, a literal time where it's like you can literally blame the fact that you're not as awake as you, as in the day to be able to do it, right? The same way, for example, you might have heard of that example of someone who drinks alcohol, right? And let's say that this guy always liked this one girl, but he was so shy of telling that girl like, you know, I love you, you know, I want to be in a relationship with you. But then when he goes to the party and he's drinking, now he goes up to the girl and he's like, actually, you know, I love you, right? And then if the girl rejects him, he's not going to feel bad because the girl is going to blame the alcohol, right? She's gonna be like, "Ah, you're just under the influence of alcohol," whatever. Or if it works, then he's gonna be happy. He's gonna be like, "Wow, it worked," right? If the girl says, "Really? Okay, let's be in a relationship," whatever, right? But the point is that guy used the fact that he was under the influence of alcohol in order to say, in order to do what he wanted to do in the first place. Same exact thing is happening here. So all of this is just a question of like the value that you give to choking off and you, creating a false excuse in order to remove the responsibility to get whatever benefit you're trying to get from jerking off. So look, you can literally just like stop this bomb by telling yourself, look, I'm just like using this as an excuse, literally, right? That's what I did, that's what many other people did. Because really think about it, if you had no control over it, imagine that you do this every day when you're home, right, in your bed. But then one day you go to a friend's house, would you just end up doing it in the middle of the night? And let's say you guys are all sleeping the same bedroom on different beds? Obviously not, right? So it's not like you have no control over it. And for people that are like, oh, but you know, I need to get a release because if I don't, then whatever, right? Because if I don't, then, you know, I'm going to explode basically. Well, first, your body literally reabsorbs the semen that is not expelled. So that means that it is constantly doing it. It is a natural self-cleansing mechanism that you have within you. Second thing, you have what we call natural emissions, which are basically wet dreams, or they don't have to be dreams where you literally expel that semen during your sleep. So it's not like you have to worry about that. And to add on top of that, to give you more value, your desire to jerk off, right, it's just a desire to jerk off that is based on the value you see in it, not on biology. You have a real desire to be with the opposite sex, which is based on biology. And that desire, if you want to use it to your advantage, can definitely be something that is positive for you, obviously. Because if you really want to be in a relationship, right, you really want to procreate basically, and you're not, well, you're gonna find a way. This is what happens with human beings in general when they're not distracted or when they don't just like, you know, go and hide behind PMO or video games, whatever. When human beings, all they have is no distractions and they just gotta face the challenge and the fact that they don't have what they want to have, will literally do anything it takes to get to that. It is not rocket science. If you really think, okay, the only thing I can do to satisfy that quote unquote desire of mine is to find a woman, and you don't have a woman right now, you're gonna be so creative, man. You're gonna be so creative. You're gonna be willing to take risk. You're gonna be willing to go out of your comfort zone. You're gonna be willing to level up 10 times faster in order to get there. And that's the power of it. So even if, let's say for example, for whatever reasons you really, really, really, really, really want to be in a relationship, what's gonna happen is if you don't distract yourself with porn, masturbation, video games, social media, endless entertainment, or anything that just takes away your focus basically and energy, you're gonna start thinking of anything that you think can help you be in a relationship, for example, to procreate, and you're gonna start working towards that because it feels almost as if it's your only option, and also you're internally motivated to go towards it because that is your desire. It's like, imagine that, for example, you had to pay rent tomorrow and you had no money. Well, it's not like you're just gonna sit there and be like, "Huh, I cannot do nothing." And let's say, for example, no one could help you. Like, no one was gonna just give you like $1,000 out of nowhere. Man, you're gonna be like so creative. You're gonna be like, okay, so I can actually do this. I can go there and maybe ask for money and then pay it back a few days later. Or I can just work at that job for like 2 days. I can work like 24-hour shift, whatever, right? You're gonna literally think of ways. So you're gonna be like, oh yeah, I can sell that thing. Oh yeah, I can do that and this and that, right? And you're just gonna be so creative and driven to find an answer to that problem that it's like, it's impossible that you're not gonna achieve it, literally. Because you're just going to be so fast when it comes to making that $1,000 by the actions that you're going to be taking. That's like you're going to get there very fast. And same exact thing with the desire that you have that we're born with to be with the opposite sex in order to reproduce. So I hope this video was helpful. If you want to learn how to go more in depth on quitting PMO overall and lust, then I have a free private community that you can join. The link is in the description. And also, if you want to be coached by me one-on-one so that you can quit forever, I also have a link in the description so that you can book a call with me personally. Anyway, Samir Gardner Gardner, peace.
