A porn-recovery coach responds to the OnlyFans founder's death by arguing the platform exploits both creators and consumers by selling desire as status and power. He warns men that porn reshapes values and erodes agency, calling for moral conviction and personal responsibility to reclaim control over sexuality and build a purposeful life.
The founder of OnlyFans recently passed away, and I want to talk about this and approach this in a completely different way. Of course, this is sad news, and as someone that is against such platforms, is against such industries where people profit from other people's desires, and there's obviously a lot of marketing, there's a lot of sinful things that are involved in such businesses, in such industries, I want you to really think about it. OnlyFans is not just a platform, it's a promise made to the creators as well as the consumers. Now, I'm a porn recovery coach. Over the past few years, I've talked to countless men that spent money on the platform itself, and I'm not going to be here throwing the blame on the platform because we don't want to give this external locus of control and we don't want to outsource our personal responsibility to something else. But of course, we must acknowledge the influence, the evil that such platforms as propagated. OnlyFans makes this promise, and you could argue this empty promise, first to the creators, to the women, and even the men that go on these platforms, that you're going to be able to finally achieve your dreams. We sadly obviously live in a society where people's desires are put on a pedestal. I'm not just talking about innate desires like, okay, you want to reproduce, you want to have a shelter, but the desire and the values that we get from the society that we live in, from the environment, and sometimes the digital environment like social media, that influence what we desire. And then OnlyFans kind of positioned itself as, look, if you want to get all of these things that are the most important things to get in life, such as status, such as money, such as power, well, look, you can have it. Just do this easy, effortless thing of show your body. And I'm not gonna go into a tangent, but this is also the issue living in a society where there is no objective morality. Because what's the harm in just showing your body from a physical perspective? There's, there's no harm. You could even argue, and of course it's debatable, that on the mental side, you can say that everything is subjective if you do not have objective morality, if you don't, for example, follow God. Now, why is it that the creators, uh, the, the woman or the man that put themselves out there and do make a good amount of money for some of them. Why is it that they have success? It's because there's also the consumers. Now, the consumers, they get told in an oversexualized day and age where sex, intimacy is not just, oh, you're reproducing, or, oh, you're getting closer to someone. No, it's if I am able to sleep with that woman, then it means so many different things that matters to us. Okay, it means that you are now masculine, you are now worthy, you're valuable. Sex sells because of that. And so OnlyFans is now also positioning itself as, look, you can get closer to someone, therefore the experience is going to be more real, therefore you're going to actually maybe get the real feeling as if you're actually having intimacy. And as a byproduct, you're getting everything that you think intimacy will give you, such as connection, maybe even to feel valued because the woman is showing you some form of appreciation and you're like, wow, she's so beautiful. You obviously put her on a pedestal. So this is how OnlyFans works. The point of this video is you need to rethink and listen to me carefully because this can literally change your life. It did for me. It will change your life if you actually apply this. You need to rethink about your morals, your values, and what actually matters to you. Let's say you're a man of faith. Let's simplify it. You believe in God. The issue I see with the people I talk to that struggle with lust is that sometimes they are not really sure about their morals and values. They're not really sure that this is the truth. They do not have that conviction. And that goes for anything, not just like faith. It can be business. Let's say you have a business or career and you want to get to the highest levels so that you can be financially free and retire your parents and so on. If in the back of your mind you think, yeah, I really want those things and I'll be willing to sacrifice a lot for that, but you really doubt, you're like, I'm not sure I can even get there. Maybe this is useless. And then what happens is you start giving up on that. Because you do not have conviction. Some of you watching this, you know, for example, that lust is bad, that porn is bad, that OnlyFans masturbation is bad. It's morally bad, and it also offers no benefits, no objective benefits whatsoever. But you need to ask yourself, do I have conviction in whatever I believe, in whatever I want to follow? It's so easy nowadays to just follow someone on social media, and then he says certain things or everyone around you, they believe a certain thing, and as a byproduct, you decide to follow that. You decide to follow the crowd. It's so easy. And that's what happens, for example, with porn. We see that people know, okay, porn is wrong, but in the back of their minds, they're like, everyone watches it. So yes, it's bad, it's objectively bad, but it's not that bad. It's excusable. It's even normal nowadays because we do not have that full conviction. We do not have that firm, that full strong old conviction that, okay, no, I am going to follow this. I'm going to believe in this no matter what. And this can be dangerous because at the end of the day, those who stand for nothing fall for anything. Rethink your morals, your values, what actually matters to you, because you don't want your desires to become your god.
