In this motivational monologue, Samir Gardner recounts his transformation from a socially isolated, depressed, and porn‑addicted young man to a focused, disciplined individual who now pursues marriage, fitness, writing, and coaching. He attributes his turnaround to quitting pornography and masturbation—what he calls "semen retention"—and eliminating other distractions such as excessive music and idle scrolling. By removing these habits, Gardner says he became more willing to take risks, follow a purpose larger than himself, and develop traits (physical fitness, perseverance, creative output) that make him inherently more attractive to both men and women. He illustrates the claim with concrete examples: moving into his own apartment, writing a book, completing a marathon, and helping a former student overcome a similar PMO (porn‑masturbation‑orgasm) habit. Gardner argues that the core mechanism is not mystical energy but a shift in behavior that leads to heightened focus, drive, and willingness to endure discomfort. He warns that most people remain stuck because they choose easy distractions over uncomfortable action. The video concludes with a promotional call‑to‑action, offering limited‑time one‑on‑one coaching slots to help viewers quit porn, align with their faith, and become role models for future families.
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Simulate attention will literally attract everything for you. Let me explain, and this is gonna change your life forever if you understand how to do this by the end of this video, okay? What you need to understand is I've been the type of guy who literally, okay, I'm gonna tell you like literally the worst of the worst, okay? I used to be the guy that literally go in school and no woman, I'm not even exaggerating when I say this, right? I'm not like trying to be like, you know, exaggerating like, oh, no woman like me, but genuinely, No woman, not even looking at me, no woman ever said they found me attractive, right? And so I isolated myself for like years, okay? And I felt, you know, bad. I felt depressed. I felt like committing suicide many times, right? Because I literally wanted to be in relationships, but I couldn't, right? And at that time, I was very, very needy for like sex because I was watching so much porn, right? And I wasn't getting any of it, right? Now, okay, now obviously my goal right now is to be married. I don't even care about dates. I don't even care about, you know, having that raise, whatever, I just wanna be married, right? I spend all of my day working, pretty much, right? And going to the gym. So I don't really meet too many people. But when I do meet women, okay, it's always some form of, there's always some form of attraction, okay? And I blame this on semen retention for one reason, okay? Now I don't mean semen retention as in like, oh, you know, I'm someone that transmutes that sexual energy, okay? I don't see it that way, okay? Because for me, this concept of instant attraction, I'm gonna be honest, to me it's just like a pure, like, abstract kind of concept that doesn't really exist, right? That rather that it is something that can actually happen, but like, it's way more simple than that, right? Than just like, oh, some random energy out of nowhere bursts into you and that forces you to work out. I don't believe in that because there's many people that don't watch porn, they don't have sex, and still like, you know, feel, you know, they're still like not doing anything with their lives, right? But because this is the thing I'm gonna explain to you, okay? When I, for example, meet a woman, you know, I mean the opposite sex, and they see me, what happens is they see how I do things differently. I'm willing to take risks. I'm willing to follow something bigger than me, right? That most people are not doing, if that makes sense, right? Most people are not actually going out there and risking and doing different things that most, that basically other people do, okay? So what happens is you literally go from the guy that does everything like everyone else to the guy that forms his own path. Now that doesn't mean, okay, let me explain to you something. That doesn't mean that you need to go and be a billionaire, that you need to go and have a family of 15 kids, that you need to be the biggest man in the room, whatever. But it's more so about what's going on here and how that reflects to your reality, right? Because for example, I managed to move out, right? This is my apartment. I have one of my family members living with me, but this is literally my apartment, right? I've been able to do this even though I didn't have any money at first, right? Because I was willing to take the risk. Now, the reason why I cannot blame it on semen retention is just that once I remove those distractions from my life, porn, masturbation, and even, you know, right now it's like, you know, music is not even something I wanna indulge in because I just am so focused and so driven every day that's like, it's my only option. It's my only option to put in the work in order to get where I want to be. Whether that be so I wanna be married, whether that be so I can build, for example, this book, right? That took me months, right? Like most people will be like, writing a book isn't possible. I used to believe the same exact thing. I used to believe like, I should write a book. And then I was like, you know what? Let me take that risk. Let me just go and do it. I don't even care about the result. And now, you know, it's almost the final product now, right? You know, obviously it might not launch soon by the time this video, but it's in the process, right? And what I can tell you is like, okay, for example, there was someone, I mean, there are people that know me that seen this book, whether it's women or men, and they're just impressed because, and obviously the book, right, for me, it's like, You know, obviously it took a lot of work in order to make this book. It took a lot of like learning, a lot of mistakes, whatever, right? A lot of correction. But what I can tell you is I was willing to take that risk, right? And I see it with other people I coach. For example, one of my recent students, right? And this is one of the things I teach, but like you've always wanted to pursue a form of passion related to a heart, right? To a heart, like his whole life. And he never did because he was stuck with this PMO thing, right? But then I made him realize, obviously with the process of quitting porn, masturbation, everything, that he can actually, let you start that. Let you start that passion. And now he's gonna start. So guess what? Instead of being that guy who just walks and he's like, yeah, so in life, I go to school and yeah, I mean, I like to listen to music. That's boring, right? But if you're the guy that, oh yeah, I'm pursuing this, 'kind of art,' you know, 'I love creativity because I do this.' Now that's like actually attractive. I mean, it's just 1 1 2, okay? That's what you need to understand. And that's what allows, you know, for example, me, when I get like— when I meet people, whether it's men or women, they become 'attractive' because they see, okay, this guy is willing to do more. Obviously my side of things is more like helping people quit porn, and they're impressed by that. Or even like when they see my commitment in terms of like going to the gym or anything, right? Like I ran a marathon like not too long ago, for example, right? Like I'm willing to take those risks, you know? Running the marathon, bro, I hate running, right? This is like the last thing I wanna do is running, okay? But I ran it because I wanted to. I wanted to because it feels like my only option in a good sense. It feels like, I put myself in a room and all I can do is this, and all I really want to do is this, right? So that's what allows you to do, right? Because you're so focused and driven that you're willing to do anything. And that changes everything because a few months from now, you start becoming that person who literally has built projects around the things that he actually like, who has made a ton of progress around the things that is meaningful to him, whether that be, for example, your relationship with God, right? You know a lot about, for example, your religion, right? Or whether that be you becoming that handyman, right? Becoming that man who is strong physically because you've been doing like a lot of exercise, right? You've been going, let's say, to the military, or maybe you've been going to the gym, maybe you've been doing martial arts because you're willing to take those risks, you're willing to be in uncomfortable situations in order to grow more. That's what the family finally allows you to do, right? Not saying that it's impossible if you don't— if you're not like the most successful when it comes to seeing retention, I'm just saying that it helps tremendously, okay? And maybe also you become that kind of guy that's like overall, you build your physique, you do all of those things because that's the problem nowadays, okay? It's like, okay, you see everyone wrote a book. These are all books, right? Now, with all of these books, there's someone who wrote it, right? That's what you need to understand. Now the thing is, Most people have such great ideas in their mind, right? But they're never willing to take action. They're never willing to be uncomfortable. I mean, bro, it's like they have so many options. I mean, they can go watch porn, they can go and, you know, they can go out, they can go party, they can go and watch YouTube videos, they can go and scroll on Instagram, they can go and do so many things that it's like, why take risk, right? But once you removed all of that stuff, man, and you just focus and you're so driven and hungry, like you're gonna take action. You're gonna do these meaningful, like for example, these books, like they needed to take action in order to complete them and change the lives of millions of people. And that's exactly the same thing you can do, if that makes sense. I'm not trying to be like this motivational speaker by any means, but I am telling you, most people don't put in the work. That's why sometimes you see literally 17-year-olds who are, for example, very jacked at the gym, or for example, very rich, because they just put in constant work in terms of like they take action. Most of us nowadays, we procrastinate on taking action for like years, right? Even me, I'm very like culpable of this, right? I'll be like, I have an idea in terms of like what I wanna do in life, and then I'll be like, okay, I need to take that action today. And then I don't do it today. I'm like, you know, I'll just do it tomorrow. I don't do it tomorrow. And then I don't do it the day after. I don't do it the day after. And then I realize it's been 6 months that I haven't done it. And then I finally do it, right? But if you take action, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. I'm not saying as in like you burn yourself out, but I'm just saying like in terms of like what you want to do, right? Whether that be arts, whether that be like a sport, whether that be fitness, whether that be your overall understanding of your religion. Like, you just actually followed and you don't just become that lazy guy who scrolls 6 hours a day, watches porn, masturbates many hours a day. Your life is gonna change forever. I mean, it's normal. I mean, if you're driven and hungry, you're willing to take those uncomfortable actions. And those uncomfortable actions might not bring you the result immediately, but they for sure will. And even if you fail, there will be a learning lesson so that you'll just be overall becoming a new man. That's how I've been able to transform my life dramatically in the past months, okay? So look, if you want to really master this forever, okay, I have a few more spots for this month of October, okay, to help you really be free forever, okay? And forever, literally in 14 to 28 days to quit porn, masturbation, and lust forever so you can be closer to God so that in the future you can become that husband, that father that has a family that people look up to, that people come to when they need help, that become a role model, that don't look at women with lust. If you wanna achieve that, then you can click the link, the first link in the description down below, and can book a call with me one-on-one. We'll see if you will be a fit. If you're not a fit, then I can just send you some information so that you can go along on your journey and try to quit by yourself, okay? But anyways, this is Samir Gardner Gardner, and I'm out, peace.
