Baby Isla | Date Your Wife | EP 080

Hey everybody, it's your boy, Garrett J. White, the founder of Wake up Warrior and welcome to the date your wife podcast. I'm here sitting outside in the weather of coldness. It's not actually that warm right now. It's July and we had a baby. We had a baby. Ladies and gentlemen, we've gone off live here with the show. If you notice, there's been some repeats here quite a bit the last couple months because my wife, my wife had a baby she had to push out of her. I'm sitting looking at this beautiful child right now. Was born 6, 4, 6, 6ft, 6 pounds, 6 ounces. She was 19 inches long and they actually took her three weeks early. Three weeks early. She was born on July 3rd, the day before the 4th of July. And then we were home on the 4th of July with her. And I've got my wife here, my co hostess with the mostess here who is recovering from said labor. She even got herself a spray tan today and her fingernails did while I watched daughter and change some poopy diapers. And you can't really talk on his recording if you got your finger sitting in the. The mouth of the baby. But I'm gonna hold the phone over to you and let's come to you here for a little first off, give me. What's this describe in one word? It is describe in one word. Actually, no, use the a, an animal to describe how you feel about this baby. Like if you were to describe your feelings as an animal, what animal would you be?

No, I'm not going to describe it as an animal.

But let's try one more time. What animal would you be?

I'm not going to be an animal.

You don't have to be an animal. Your emotions would be an animal. If you had a feeling that was an animal with the, the energy you're having around this baby, what would that, what would the animal be?

This is a stupid thing. I'm not an animal. I got nothing.

You got nothing. All right, well, I don't. Sure, I don't know. Honeybee, walrus, koala bear, three very interesting animals. Okay, so we are, we're here on the topic of new babies. New baby time is this one just.

Like our update of what's going on. So I'll give you guys a quick update and then I don't know if we want that to be the whole topic of the show. But yes, I. If you listen to some of our other pot. Oh, where you going? Some of our other podcasts, we were kind of Giving, like, some baby updates. And my pregnancy was pretty easy till, like, towards the end and. And they found a DVT in my leg, which is a blood clot. And then I started to get preeclampsia and high blood pressure, and they were like, okay, like, you're. The baby looks good, but we're worried about mom now. So, like, I literally went in for a doctor's appointment, and he's like, congratulations, you're headed to the hospital for a baby. And I was like, okay. So, I mean, I was ready. I actually, before I knew anything was going on or wrong, I always had this intuitive feeling that she would probably come a little bit earlier. And it was funny because I had a baby shower. Like, the Saturday. Let's see. I went into the hospital on a Tuesday, and the Saturday before, I had a baby shower. And I remember thinking, like, when my friend was planning it, I was. Before I knew anything was wrong, I was like, ooh, I don't know if I had plan it. Then she's like, you think you're gonna have the baby that early? I'm like, I don't know, but something kind of was telling me. Maybe. But anyways, despite everything that happened.

No.

Oh, he's barking. Despite every. Nope.

Hold on. I'm, like, taking a break. Put my dog in the house for barking. You don't get to bark. Nope. We interrupt this podcast to put our dog in the house to stop barking in the house. All right, so let's continue without the barking dog back on the couch. Okay.

Oh, yes.

You're giving the update about the baby shower was, like, it might have been too early.

Yeah. So, no, I went to the hospital. They ended up inducing me, but because I'm on blood thinners, like, it kind of all comes down to timing and all this good stuff. So, long story short, I have never had a baby natural, and I was considering going. Trying to go natural with this one. But when they induce you, obviously they have to give you what's called Pitocin that induces labor. And I've heard, like, now I've heard, now I've experienced contractions are, like, way more intense when you're on Pitocin. So. But I hate epidurals, because with my first two babies, I think I just had bad epidurals. Honestly, like, they went clear up to my chest. They made me feel, like, panicky. They made me have, like, a panic attack. They were like, the baby's heart rate's going up. Like, so I just had a really bad experience with epidurals. And I was like, okay, well, screw it. I'm just gonna see if I can go as long as I can. Even being induced and oh my God. I. My anesthesiologist came in and she's like, so I'm for a C section, so do you want an epidural right now? And I was like, it's manageable. Within like an hour and a half, I was dying. I was like, oh my God, when is she coming in? And crazy enough like they gave me an epidural. Let's see. They gave me an epidural probably around like 1:45. And I had her by 3:30. So had I known it was going to go that quickly, I maybe would have held off, but I had no idea. I mean, you just don't know. So anyways, despite being induced and kind of feeling like it was a scary situation, she came out totally healthy. Great. And the cutest thing. Thing ever. They put her on my chest and she has like 2 inches of like toe head white blonde hair. And it's funny because I named a hairline out of. I actually named her first. And then I had to come up with a name of my hand tied hairline within like 48 hours. And I was like, you know what? I think Isla sounds like a cool name. Let's do that. So everyone's like, oh, you named your. You named her after your hairline, but it was actually the other way around. So anyways, it was just kind of ironic that she came out with like this super amazing hair. Like you don't see a blonde baby with this much hair. Like it's not like sparse, it's like super thick, platinum blonde. It's so cute. And she's like so teeny and has this full head of hair. So anyways, things are going good. I'm feeling pretty good. I've slowly been out and about. I did go get a spray tan today because I was like, maybe it'll look like the postpartum body look thinner. What do you think?

It looks great. And I like your band aid that you had on your arm from the, from the scab that you wouldn't stop itching over the past six weeks and would bleed like you had been cut with a ninja sword. Because of her blood thinners, which she's still on right now, we're still dealing with the blood thinner side of things. But I'm gonna come. I'm back to pregnancy because there's some things I'm gonna talk about that went down Number one, I want to celebrate the fact that I did not pass out. That's right. For all those out there that were hoping I would pass out again after just like I did. Relationship number two here with baby number two with Ruby. No, no, no, no, no, my friends. No passing out. Head here. Not only was there not passing out, I'm going to be honest, I stood there holding her left leg during the actual delivery like a champion. It was like I was a professional leg holder. It's like I actually went to college to learn the skill of leg holding. I mean, I held it like a champion. But the funny part is, though, is that Daniel doesn't even realize or remember that I was holding the left leg. That's how good I am at what I do. I didn't even. She didn't even know I was in the room yet there I was holding the left leg. As the most intense, fierce pushing I have ever seen from my wife. Cuz here's the deal. She had the epidural, last two babies. And all I remember from the pregnancy is my wife. Like, first we. There was no scheduling of this. She was over by like three or four days on both children. It was like middle of the night for like five straight nights in a row. Oh, my God, I'm having this baby. We got to go to the hospital. Oh, my God, I'm having this baby. I'm going to go to the hospital. I'm like, I'm panicky and I'm like, I don't know if we're going to go. I don't know if we didn't go, but I'm like, I've never seen that.

Like, I went into like, labor and I'm like, I think it's time. And we went in.

All right. My wife. Anyways, let me tell the story. You're. You're messing up my great story. We're not off anyways, so that both of those surgeries are. Both of those. Those babies, though. She had the epidural and all I remember was her. She does. Danielle is horrible with medication. Like she's one person in the world. You can be like, oh, my God, I'm so tired. Oh my God, I'm so tired. Drink some Diet Coke. All of a sudden she's like, oh, my God, I'm so lit up. I'm like, you had a shot of Diet Coke. What's wrong with you? She's like, oh, I've got such a headache. Or she's like, I just came out of like, you know, breast Augmentation surgery or I've came, like, you know, I had my left leg cut off and reattached, and they're like, here's some Percocet. She's like, no, I'll just. I'll take some butter. Can you just put some butter on toast? And that'll be good. Like, she literally doesn't respond. Like, she responds so positively to medication that an Advil or tylenol works, like 3 oxycontin for me. So she doesn't take the medication this time, though, which is super weird for me because, number one, we're scheduled going into this, which is totally new. It's, like, super weird. We go to the. We go to the doctor because they're.

Like, go ahead and go. Which. That was kind of. I was actually so nervous having it scheduled. Like, I had the worst anxiety. And so when we showed up for that doctor's appointment, I had a feeling they were gonna send me in early, but I didn't know it was gonna be that day. And he was like, all right, well, go home and grab your bag and go to the hospital. I was like, what? But it was almost kind of nicer because it's like. Like the night before surgery when you're, like, super nervous. That's kind of how I was feeling. But, like times 10, because I had really bad anxiety towards the end of my pregnancy. So it was kind of nice that we went in and he's like, go ahead and go in. I was like, oh, thank God.

For those that don't know how we actually landed up because we didn't do a show on it. Danielle had. Danielle had a series of doctors. She had a hematologist, she had a cardiologist. She had a high risk OB gyn, and she had a regular obgyn. And then anyone else in the mix, that was it. And then just an amazingly hot husband. So, like, these, like, these are the four factors. And then me, right? So we go to the high risk doctor, and he's been watching her heart rate and her heart rate or heart blood pressure and her blood pressure in the baby and make sure everything's okay. And he comes out and he's super nice guy, super small guy, walks out and he sits down and he goes, okay, so your blood pressure is still high. You do have preeclampsia. And I think it's best that you go to the hospital now. And I look over at my daughter and I look over at my wife, and they both have the same look. It's like the Shocked, white face. Look where they're both like, this is happening now. I'm sitting there like, like, right now. And he's like, yeah, like, right now. And I was like, like, now. He's like, yeah, like, right now. And Danielle's like, can I get my nails done? We're like, no, no, not right now. You can't get your nails done. Although we did find out you could get your blowout and nails done. We were there waiting at the hospital. You should have gone and done that.

Monitor me. They. So I went in, and I had taken my blood thinner that morning. And with. If my doctor kept saying, listen, like, if you want to do an epidural, no anesthesiologist will touch you until, like, 24 hours, until that blood thinner is out of your system. So I had taken my Lovenox from my blood thinner in the morning. And then he's like, I'm like, so you want me to go in? I'm like, I took my blood thinner this morning. He's like, it doesn't matter. He wanted them to monitor me because my blood pressure was so high and just monitor the baby the whole time. So. Which I could understand. And then my doctor came in that night, and he's like, so we can induce you right now, but, like, you'll be fine till the morning. He's like, you don't want to have this baby in the middle of the night. I don't want to deliver a baby in the middle of the night. And I was like, I like your thought process. So I. And then he sold me on, like, an egg burrito. So I decided just to wait till the morning.

And then I followed through on the one instruction that came through, which was the breakfast burritos, which I did. Which the bacon backfired for Danielle through the entire Pitocin contractions. I'll let her tell you about the bacon, but I'm not gonna lie. If you ever have a baby at the Mission hospital in or breakfast burrito that the doctors rave about is, in fact, as good, if not better, than any doctor's recommendation for said burrito that has at the hospital, which you'd think, like, why the hell would I go to a hospital for a great egg breakfast burrito? But you would. I'm thinking. I'm thinking about just going there tomorrow just to get a breakfast burrito. You probably can. You go there like, hey, why are you here? I'm like, I'm here for a breakfast burrito. Do you have anyone you're visiting in the Hospital. My wife had a bit. My wife had a baby here. We had a baby here two weeks ago. But I love the burrito. Can I come? You know what I'm gonna do? I'm gonna actually do that and video it and see what happens.

I can make you that.

I bet you're secure. No, you cannot. You know, you cannot. You cannot make it. You cannot make me. That burrito. It's not the same. You don't understand. You. It's a part of the experience of actually getting the burrito is going to the basement floor at the mission hospital.

As soon as they gave me the pitocin and the contraction started kicking in, I literally was like, oh, dear Lord, here comes the bacon. So the whole time, like, it was great when I was eating it and it was. I didn't. Only ate half, but the whole time I'm in labor, I'm like, dear Lord, why did I eat that egg burrito? I was really hating it.

And the whole time you're asking, I'm saying, dear Lord, why didn't I get two of those burritos? So we're sitting there and this birth is happening, but this was a new experience for me because I had never actually seen, like, I don't hardly remember the birth of my son right from my first marriage with my ex wife, Christy. She's an amazing woman. I love my son. I don't really remember it. Like, I was like 22. I was just freaking out. I had. I remember I had to wear, like, surgical gown. He was five weeks early. He was born five pounds, like three ounces. He went home under five. No, it wasn't C section. It was regular bread labor. And he went. She went early. And then he was born. Like, he went. We took him home, like 4 pounds 10 ounce or something. Like under 5 pounds was crazy. So I. But I don't really remember it right. And then Bailey. I don't really remember Bailey either. Like, I don't really remember her pregnancy or the labor part of it either. I. For some reason, I don't. Rubies. I remember because I passed out, hit my head on the fucking metal thing and then woke up, and I'm laying in a bed next to my wife, and I'm like, really? You just passed out in the middle of the night? You. What's wrong with you? So I don't really remember that one so much, except for I passed out, but this one was incredible. What I do remember is Danielle, like, dry heaven. She can't vomit, which is the weirdest thing in the world. Like, she's only human being on the planet. I know who gets constipated with her vomit. Like, she doesn't vomit. She'll, like, literally. She'll literally hold on to, like, the throw up and somehow she'll poop it out. Like, I don't understand how she does this, but she does.

I think it's core strength. I'm gonna give my. I'm serious. Like, I can't throw up. It's like. And people are like, did you have a traumatic experience and you're little? I'm like, I don't know. Like, I tried to gag myself. Like, this doesn't happen a lot, but sometimes I drink too much and I'm hungover and I'm like, trying to make myself throw up and nothing comes out. I am the worst sick person ever.

Now what she has is a superpower, right? So everybody has a superpower sometimes. Takes a lot of years to figure out what your superpower is. Would you like to know what my wife's superpower is? She can turn vomit into the shits, into diarrhea. I don't know how she does it. She's like, she, like, I refuse to throw up, but I will diarrhea right now. I will, Like, I will. I will like the champion that I am. Like, you know what, though? It's a fact. You need to own your talent. You don't throw up, but you push it out. I. No, listen, it's not even in the same place how. The fact that you can take it, you can reverse engineer that. Instead of it coming out your throat, it comes out your butt. All right, we're going to ship this. So anyways, Danielle, we're not. This. We're shifting this. So I'm sitting there during this pregnancy, though, and it's. It's very different for me because I'm watching my wife naturally go through contractions. I mean, obviously not. Actually there were Pitocin and they were, like, inducing her. But, like, I've never seen her without pain. Like, I'd never seen her without an epidural. I had never seen her not vomiting because she's always, like, literally sounds like it's. I mean, it's horrible. This is why I passed out. I don't know if I passed off on the needle or if I pass from having to hear somebody. So, like, this is going on, but, like, this is this labor. This labor was, you know exactly what I'm talking about, though. But this labor is the only time I didn't hear Even one time I didn't hear this because the epidural only worked up to mid thigh.

So true. So they gave me the. She gave me the epidural and then they turned off the pitocin. And she's like, how are your contractions? I was like, oh, my God, they're so much better. And she's like, yeah, I turned off the pitocin so you could. Your body could, like, relax a little bit. I'm like, okay. So I felt great. I was like, man, this epidural is great. I'm not sick. The contractions, I can feel them, but they're manageable. Then she's like, okay, I'm going to turn back on the pitocin. I'm like, great. And as soon as she turned it back on, I'm like, oh, shit. Like, I'm only numb up to, like, my high thighs. So that backfired. And then all of a sudden, within 15 minutes, because she's like, you need to push your button. Because there's this button on the side of the bed that if you want more pitocin, you push the button.

No, you want more. You want more epidural?

All right. Yeah, more epidural. You push the button. And I was like, oh, can I do that? She's like, yes, push the button. So I push the button. And then right after I push the button, I was like, oh, the baby is coming out. And she's like, are you sure? And I'm like, yes.

No, no, no, no. She wasn't in the room.

Oh, no, no, no. She. I was okay. Cuz all sudden I was like, I need to push right now. And what's crazy is they had checked me right before they gave me the epidural. I was only, like, dilated to like a six. And I'm like, oh, shit, this is gonna take another six hours. So it was funny because all of a sudden, as soon as they kicked that Pitocin back on, I was like, oh, I need to push right now. And then I had pushed my button for the epidural, but like I said, it takes actually 15 minutes once you push the button to have effect, which, well, by then I'm already pushing. And so the doctor comes in and he's like, making jokes, and I'm literally, like, mentally going somewhere else. And he's like, looking at me, like, not even a smile. And I wanted to be like, I can feel everything and you can fuck off. That's kind of what I think, because I've never experienced like that, like, I felt like I was, like, pretty much having natural childbirth. So anyways, I. Yeah. So then it came time to push the baby out. Two pushes. She came out. She was cute. They hand her to me. A lot has changed since. Yeah, well, like, with my other two kids, they literally whisk them off. They. I don't even know what they do. Like, I'm literally just sitting there, and all of a sudden, they bring them back. They have a little beanie on, and they're all swaddled up, and I'm like, oh, my baby. It was so different because now they do what's called skin to skin. So they immediately, as soon as they pull the baby out, they pull your gown down, and they put the baby right on your chest. And to be honest, like, I think I'm kind of in shock because every time, like, when I think back to delivering a baby, I get, like, super emotional, and I'm like, oh, my God. It's such a cool experience. But in the moment when they set your baby on you, at least for me, it just takes me a minute to, like, wrap my head around everything, and I'm like, oh, my God, there's. There's a baby. And then the other thing is, the baby is, like, super purple, which I never seen the baby right out, and I'm like, oh, she's purple. She breathing? Is she okay? And they're like, she's fine. So. But, I mean, it went well. And, like, I don't know, I. I actually thought out of all three of my deliveries, this is probably the best. Even though I was in a lot of pain, I think I managed pain better than manage being nauseous, because as you heard from Garrett, it doesn't go over well with me.

So our last baby was, like, almost nine years ago. And at least at this hospital, they had. They made a massive policy change, like, eight years ago, and there was a huge initiative that they put in play about making sure that the babies and the parents were far more connected than what was happening. So what I remember, like, I go back to, like, my. My son who was born, like, five weeks early. You know, he's 20 now. I go back to Bailey. I go back to Ruby. Like, all I remember is the baby comes out. They take the baby. There's, like, all kinds of panic going on. Mom does not hold the baby. The doctor holds the baby. The nurse is holding the baby. They're quickly wiping the baby completely off, so. Wiping all the white stuff off the baby. They're wiping the baby completely down. And Then I'm like, snipping the umbilical cord. I didn't get a snippet with Ruby. They made me sit in the corner.

Did you snip it with her?

Oh, yeah.

They made it wrong because I remember them.

No, I didn't snip it wrong.

Well, I remember them.

No, they clamped the belly thing wrong.

Okay. Because I was like, what?

No, no, I didn't snip it wrong. They clamped.

I was kind of delirious, but I remember them saying, like, you need to redo this. I don't know what it was.

The doctor hid the clamp they put on the umbilical cord right on her belly button. It was actually clamping under her stomach skin. So there was one that was clamping her skin and the umbilical cord. And the nurse caught it and said, doctor, you do another one. So he did a second one. And then they came back like 10 minutes later, and they. After they put her on her chest and they undid the other one that was on her belly. So anyways, like. So this, like, this is like the. The normal process. Baby's gone. And I remember going. Getting to. To bathe the baby for the first time with the nurses in, like, the nursing unit. And at nighttime you would get to go. You would hand the baby off to the nursing unit. I remember waking up like five times through the night and going. And seeing the baby in the nursing thing, having to look through the glass. They would let you come in and maybe if you were lucky to hold the baby. Now there's no nursery. It's over. Like, the game's totally different. Like, they take the baby out. And this is what shocked me. Like, I was not prepared for this. Nobody had taught me that I was need to be prepared for this. Nobody mentally set the frame on me. Yeah, well, I. This is what I'm gonna talk about. Like, Dr. James pulls the baby out, starts wrapping the wrong way with the umbilical cord, realizes it unwraps the other direction, gets her out of the umbilical cord. Then immediately, like, just holds her. She starts crying. And then he says, congratulations, dad. Do you want to. He said, kiss her. He didn't ask me if I wanted to. He's like, kiss her. And he holds Isla right next. Now Isla's covered in the baby fluid and the white cream and, like, the matted hair with the like. Like the whole thing, the bill. Like, I'm. I'm like, I'm the left leg holder. Like, I'm holding down the Left leg. Like, nobody prepared me for the kiss. I didn't know this was coming. I'm like, am I. I like, no. There was a moment where I'm sitting there. I'm like, I. Like, there was like a half a second, like, oh, shit. Okay, this is happening. I'm supposed to kiss her. So I lean over and I kiss her on the head. Then immediately, they take Isla and they place her on Danielle's naked chest. Like, right between her breasts. Like, right on her chest. And Danielle's holding the baby, having her go through her own thing. Then the doctor goes to town, and they're doing their thing. They're taking care of Danielle. They're stitching her up. They're doing everything, which she didn't, like, tear big, nothing. It was, like, amazing. But I was not. Like, you said that. That was a totally new thing. Like, totally new thing. And to sit and look at my daughter lying on my wife's chest was, like, amazing. And getting to kiss her right away was amazing. Like, it was so much more intimate, so much more spiritual, so much more connected than any of the other three children that I have had.

Pushing out a smaller baby does make a difference, ladies. Like, my other two, it was. I couldn't sit for weeks, and now it's been, like, 10 days. And I'm like, yeah, I feel great. And Garrett's like, can we have sex? I was like, no. He's like, really? I mean, we could lay naked together. I'm like, where does that lead? You can't.

You know exactly where that leads.

Where does that lead? For me, nowhere. You're going to. Never mind. I won't say.

I told her, listen, there's a lot of things we can do that do not involve a wounded vagina.

All I thought of was, like, giant milking boobs. And I was like, no, you could put on.

Anyways, we'll keep going.

You know what? That's another thing.

Like, hold on, let me finish. One thing about, like, the birthing process, because so if we. If we back up to, like, what was going on before, like, there was a moment. So I'm sitting on the side in the chair, right? My daughter, who's 12, is there, and she's watching this whole thing, it's going to change her life forever. She's videoing the whole thing from her cell phone. She sat Lotus position. And, like, normally, they do not let them stay in there. I guess, like, only one person, the father or. And that's it. But, no, that's what they told me. They said they only let one. The doctor and the mate, the primary nurse and the secondary nurse all looked at each other in non verbal cues and told me afterwards they looked at Bailey, she looked like she was okay. They're like, is she not going to be a problem?

You, my mom and Bailey?

Yeah. They just let her stay in there though. Yeah, normally they don't let the young kids in there. So anyways, Bailey's videoing, she's doing a good job and she's like, yeah, she's 12, looks like she's 16. She's like hanging out in there. But here was one of the most amazing things that I didn't get to experience. When Danielle was on the major epidurals with the other two babies, which was the push, like Danielle would go to like deep pain and then she would come back to complete presence. When she was on the epidural, she was like, she was a numbed for like 20 hours. Like it was horrible to witness. Like she was so sick, so jacked up from the medication. Like it was horrible. So I'd watch her go through these moments of a minute to a minute and a half of like pure excruciating pain. And then all of a sudden she would like have like this euphoric piece on the other end of the pain. And I watched her go back and forth, which for some of you may be doing this and you've done this like before, maybe natural childbirth, I don't know. Like it was, it was like, maybe that's normal for you. But that was not normal for me. It was very intense. But the most intense piece was I'm sitting there and she's like, I've got the left leg. Like I've only got one, one job. That's it. Like, Gary, you got one job. Hold the ankle, hold the knee, don't pass out. The nurse standing to my left says, bend your knees. I was like, really? Yeah, bend your knees. Your legs are locked out. Bend your knees. You're gonna be fine. I was like, are you sure? Yeah. So I'm sitting there in like this three quarter squat. I'm like, I'm not sure how long I should be sitting in this three quarter squat while I'm holding the left leg. Now I'm holding the left leg. I'm looking down, I'm seeing what's going on down there. The doctor's there. Bailey, my daughter's doing the video. My mother in law is sitting in the corner doing cheerleading hands. I'm looking over the other nurse there's another nurse holding a leg. I'm holding a leg. Another nurse is holding her hands, and Danielle is sitting there. And all of a sudden, the moment comes, and he says, I'm massaging the perineum, which I don't even know what the perineum is, but it's something going on inside of her, even. She's massaging. And then he says, push. And you push, and you give a. And you give, like, the most intense, primal. Eyes shut. Push. And it's like. And, like, the baby head comes out, and I look down, and Isla's head's sitting there, and Danielle thinks she's done. It's like. It's like. It's like, you know, if you were. You're, like, halfway taking a. I mean, Dr. James then says, okay, let's go one more. And Danielle's like, I can't. I can't. And all of a sudden, out of nowhere, arguably the most inspiring five seconds of my marriage to this woman. And all of a sudden, she goes to this deep, most intense, primal, like, soul level. Like, it was insane. It didn't sound like that at all, but it was like. It was amazing. And I'm sitting there watching her, and all of a sudden, the baby goes. Shoots right out.

Didn't she shoot out?

She shot right out on the second one, and Dr. James grabbed her, and he's just like, boom. And then the kissing happened, and then on your chest happened and all the rest of this. But, like, you're sitting in that moment, like, you don't even know. I'm holding the left leg. I have a crucial role in this. I donated the sperm. I'm holding the left leg, and I didn't pass out, which means I'm like, literally, if we were, like, grading me on the scale of. Did you smash it? Did you not. I totally smashed my part. Talk to me about what's going on for you, though, when you're pushing.

Honestly, like, as soon as I could feel her coming out, I. It's. It's weird. You go to another place. I felt like my eyes were, like, rolled in the back of my head, and, like, things went dark. And then all of a sudden, there was a baby. So I don't know. I mean, it was painful as shit. I'm not even gonna lie. Like, when I was. My other two babies, I was so numb, I couldn't feel anything. I'm like, am I pushing? I don't know. With this one, I was like, holy. My insides just got turned outside. Like, it was really Aggressive. Like, I'm glad there was only two pushes because I might have just, like, passed out if there was more than that. But she came out, and I definitely feel like she was worth it.

So.

That'S the baby update, and she's here. And I've had a pretty smooth recovery. I've been up and about, and things. Things seem. I feel pretty good other than, like, I'll try to, like, lift things. I'm like, oh, nope, no strength yet. So just trying to remind myself to take it easy because I have a. I love, like, the newborn phase and, like, the snuggly phase, but I also love staying busy, and I love staying active, and I just. I love to go, go, go. So I'm trying to, like, enjoy. Oh, don't make her fuss. I'm trying to enjoy, like, the snuggly baby phase because I know it goes so fast, but. And just kind of, like, listen to my body, but also, like, I kind of go insane if I'm. If I'm kind of just sitting around all day. So I just kind of do some work on my phone, snuggle the baby, hang out with my other two kids, and things are good. I don't really experience a ton of postpartum. I get so uncomfortable towards the end of my pregnancies. I'm, like, just excited that I am getting more comfortable. Oh, here. I didn't take your hair.

No.

Careful, careful.

Finish up. I got her.

So anyway, she is. She seems like a pretty good baby. I mean, she.

She will.

I don't know. She just sleeps and poops and hangs out, so I don't know.

I'm.

I think I'm pretty chill with newborns. I mean, I've had a few traumatic experiences, like, where I forget how it takes so damn long to get out of the house. And the other day. This is kind of funny. The other day, Garrett had hooked these adapters onto my stroller so I could hook it onto my car or my stroller. Problem is, no, the adapter is on my car seat to hook it onto my stroller. But the problem is I went to go put it into the base inside of my car, and it wouldn't go in. And I couldn't figure it out. And I'm, like, super frustrated. I'm sitting there for, like, 15 minutes trying to find, like, the little clippies, and I'm like, oh, my God. Why? How does this go in? I'm like, oh, my. I'm like. I'm just getting, like, super frustrated, and I'm like sweating. I'm not even like doing anything but like just trying to figure out this damn car seat. I'm like sweating and I'm like trying to hold a newborn. Then I have my 8 year old holder. Then I ended up like taking the car seat and just like throwing it. I'm like, screw it, I'm done. I did, I threw it. I'm pretty sure that's why the little umbrella thing broke. But I was like, oh. And then I was like, okay, I have to go pick up a prescription. I need to figure out this stupid car seat. So then I pick it back up, I push 95 buttons and then it popped out and it worked. It was great. So. But other than that, I, I do love the newborn phase. I just, I think they're just so cute and snuggly and I know it's like such a short phase, so I try to just like soak it all in. And Ruby looked at me and she's like, are you gonna have another baby? I'm like, oh, maybe. But then I'm like, no. Like if you would ask me towards the end of my pregnancy, I'm like, hell no, I'm not having another baby. But now that she's out, I'm like, oh, maybe one more. So I don't know. What do you think?

Are you gonna have another?

I don't know. Like I. I was kind of saying.

I have this weird feeling you're going to.

I kept saying like, oh my God, like I'll get a surrogate, I don't care. But I don't know if I could do a surrogate. Like there's, there's quite a bit of bonding that goes on when, even though it's painful and scary, like when you are pregnant. And so I don't know. I don't. I actually feel like I don't have bad pregnancies. This was the only one, like towards the last few months. But my other ones, despite them not being too bad too, I remember thinking the same, same thing. Like the last few months are rough for me. Like I'm a petite person and it's almost like my body's like, wow, you're done. And it's just, it's rough for me. Like I get super bad anxiety and like, I just feel like I can't breathe. But I know that's like, everyone's like, oh, you're pregnant, that's normal. I'm like, I don't know. I feel like it's rough. So. But once.

What do you Predict. Are we having another baby?

I don't know, it's too early to say. But she's pretty damn cute.

So that's, that's a bad, that's a horrible prediction. What do you think?

I don't like to commit. Like let's just, I mean let's not like close the door, don't go get snipped on me or anything but like I can't commit to closing the door. But I can't commit to having a baby. But I, the thing is with me is like I don't commit to a lot because if I commit I'm like 120 in, I'm like, oh, this will go down. So I, some people will be like, oh, you can't commit. And I'm like, well that's because when I commit, you know, I'm 100 going to follow through. So anyway.

So here's my prediction. She told me when she was before, before baby Isla came out, she said I'm done. I said, okay, you want me to go get snipped? And she hesitated and she said, and then she told me the surrogate story, which I don't have a problem with doing that. If we do it, that's great. But here's what I think is gonna happen. You ready? Mark my words.

No.

Yep, mark my words. So we have a 12 year old and 8 year old that are close together. They're bonded, they're super connected. This little one, Isla is going to be too distant from Ruby and Bailey by the time that by, by the time isla is about 6, Bailey will be 18 and graduating from high school. She's going to be like zero fucks given. Ruby will be 15 years old in high school, she will be zero fucks given. Which means Danielle is going to want a secondary friend for Isla. So because of how much she's watched our 12 and 8 year old bond, which means my prediction is Danielle has another baby at 40. 40, 40. That'd be four years from now actually. That's true, I guarantee you. Listen, I'm going to put this out there. This show is going to be right here and people are going to be like, oh my God. And I'm like, no, go back and listen to the show. 2019 July and I will predict that my wife has another baby at 40 and we have a second, we have a fourth child together that is like the two pack couplet exactly like we had Bailey and Ruby we have in Isla and a fill in the blank. Just guess right now, what would the name be Go.

Isla and Samantha.

Samantha and Isla. You don't like Samantha? All right. Isla and I don't have anything. Island. I don't have anything anyways. And she never figures out the name until. Actually, she always figures out the name. Never have any opinion about name. I don't care anything about the name because, like, I know my wife is, like a bit of a witch. So, like, she plugs into the universe and universe tells her what's going on. And I just. I'm like, yep, that's probably it. Let's do this. So I'm telling you right now, my wife's gonna have a baby at 40. And my daughter. I let. I know, but my daughter. Dude, our friend Salmon again, had a baby at 41.

My, my. Everyone keeps asking me, like, oh, is this pregnancy harder because you're older? And I'm like, I'm 36. Six. So I feel pretty young still. But I don't know. Honestly, my mom had six kids, nine pregnancies, and her last child was at 41. She's like, that was a super easy pregnancy for me. And then she had two other pregnancies in her twenties that were her hardest pregnancies. So I don't. She's like, I don't know if it's eight.

You're for sure committing right now to another.

No, I'm not. I'm just. I'm just saying, like, I don't know, maybe. Maybe I'm not going to close the door. Stay tuned.

You know what they say, though, in your 40s, you're the most sexual when you're a woman.

Oh, my God. Four more weeks, babe. Hang in there.

Four more weeks until it is go time. We've got to make sure that the asset is protected.

What is the asset?

You know what the asset is. I don't know. The asset is the baby maker and the baby maker.

Oh, it's fine.

All right. Anyways, we are wrapping up the show, my friends. We're going to be actually live in our new studio this next episode. We'll be live in our new studio and you'll get to see baby Isla because we're going to bring her to the episode with us. She'll be. She'll be manageable for the next, like, six to nine months. After that, she'll be a complete nightmare, throwing crackers everywhere and wanting to chew on and throw and chew on everything. So. But until then, she'll be a quiet little, little nugget sitting inside of a baby seat. Hope you guys have a great week.

Want to see what she looks like?

Hold on.

So if you want to see her and her cute little hair, you can go to my Instagram. No, it's not DQW signing. It's just Danielle K. White. But I. I've been joking around because I have, like, a family page, but she's just so cute. I've been saying, like, for the next six months, just, like, plan on baby photos. So, anyways, thanks for tuning in. Just wanted to give you guys an update on baby Isla. Born July 3, 6 pounds, 6 ounces. Doing good, doing healthy, and we are excited to be new parents. Despite Garrett feeling very sexually frustrated.

Sexual frustration is beyond that. It's now sexual isolation, my friends. That's all we got for we're out. BeTheManChallenge.com I know that we've been talking about worrybook.com forever, but bemanchallenge.com is the new entry point for Wake up Warrior. If you're listening to the show, you're a man and you connect at all with what I am saying and. Or you're a woman who connects with what we say and you have a man that you'd like to play inside of this game of having it all, being a man who shows up not only in making the money in business, but also inside of babies and life and dating, etc. Well, send him to betheman.com. thanks so much for being here. We'll be back next week, but we'll be live in our new studio. We're coming at you with video of baby Isla and ourselves. This is Gary Jay White and Danielle K. White, co host of Date your wife podcast, signing off, saying love and like, good morning, good afternoon and good night. No, that's actually my Warrior on Fire podcast. We're not going to use that intro. We're out. We'll see you guys next week.