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I'm like, Bailey, I didn't ask a lot out of you this week. And I. I'm. This has been important to me, but also I want to, like, give you guys an opportunity to, like, create your brands and, you know, we'll get the camera crews and everything in. I'll give you guys the assets. So for me, it was like. It felt like I was being disrespected in the sense that I'm like, I really showed up for you this week and all I'm asking is two hours of your time. And I know I was running late, but the response was. Your response was like you were just annoyed that you had to be there anyway.

But you didn't tell me. I had to go out of my way to ask you about changing the time. So if this is what this is new information. I didn't. You told everyone else except for me. So then I had to call you and be like, hey, like, are we still doing this time? And you said, no, we're going to do this time instead.

Welcome to the real White House. I am Danielle, your hostess with a hostess.

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Can y' all hear anything that's going on here?

Oh, I don't know if they can.

Hear, cuz the mics aren't hooked up to this.

They aren't, but. Oh, yeah. So then it would have to be a lot closer, huh?

They can still hear.

Y' all can hear. But what.

Welcome that we're recording the podcast.

The podcast. So here's how the. Here's our last topic was great. We talked about, like, social media, staying consistent. Talked about your meeting with Randy Jackson went well. We talked about your music career. But the only way to become the best is to start putting content out there. Oh, I know, like, there. This here's what I'll tell you. You can be just the good artist and you'll, like, think like you were saying, there's so many massive singers, but now it's like, with any business, you have to be. That's just your skill. That's your trade. That's where you're gonna have impact and reach is with song. But you have to acquire so many other skills in order to be great in this game anymore. Like, it's not enough to be just. Just an artist. Right? It's like it doesn't matter, like, how good you are and. And you're just like in such a cool window where you have so much like, the. The world, the World's yours. You know, you have so much opportunity right now, and you're young and getting going, and so I think that's why we have this urgency of, like, trying to get you to go hustle, because it's like, you got a window. Let's do it.

Yeah.

So anyways, welcome to the real White House. We will be sharing this podcast every Wednesday, and then we're going to be sharing the date your wife podcast every Friday. So sometimes our topics are a little spicy and sometimes they're pre chill.

Our topic symbol respect. Oh, R E, S, P, C, E, P. However, R E S P E, C, T. Bailey, tell us a parable of the two shoes.

Oh, fuck. Nah.

What happened?

He gave me a parable, and he comes up into my room yesterday because my. My emotions are struggling my mental right now. But he comes up and he's like.

Here are your two Converse.

You see these shoes? Let me give you a parable.

Speak in English and not in whatever troll language that is.

He holds up my fucking Converse and he goes. He goes, you need to put. Basically, long story short, you need to put both shoes on. There was this person long, long ago who walked around the shoes and didn't put their feet in it. That's you. You need to put both feet in the shoes.

Not one.

And I was like, he was really proud of it. He thought he was motherfucking king of writing psalms or. What did he write? I don't know.

I like it. King of David.

No, no, the.

So what did you. What. What were the two things that were represented by the parable of the two shoes?

It was doing my laundry and cleaning. No, it was cleaning my room and then doing the. I need to do artist wise and work wise, which I already do that. I just don't clean my room. So he was like, your life problems will be gone if you clean your room. And I was like, I don't know about that one, Slayer. I don't know. Maybe for you, but not for me.

Here's. Here's how I'll tell you. It went down. Okay, so I know you saw Saturday.

You were there for the parents.

So I came home Saturday and I was real fired up. Yeah, I could tell everybody saw. But let me tell. Okay, but let me tell you why I was so fired up. Because everyone was like, this came out of the blue, and I'm like, oh, this pot's been stirring for a while, I bet. So here's. Here's what I felt like. Bailey, I'm just going to talk to you straight. So this all last week, I was like, team Bailey Kay. Like, I was like, hey, babe, like, what can we. Like, I spent an hour talking to Thomas. I'm like, what if we do a blog? Like, let's get her name out there. Like, what are we gonna do? Then I hear you rant for two hours about somebody at the studio that's driving you crazy. And I'm like, yeah, fire. I'm like, team Bailey, right? So I feel like. I'm like, okay. I'm, like, feeling like I'm showing up for you. And I'm like, I'm gonna pay for your blog. I got you hyped up. And the one thing I said is, I'm like, Saturday, I would love to do a shoot with the family for, like, a couple hours max, and we'll get some fun B roll and stuff, whatever. So I. Ruby's wanting Ruby time, right? And so I'm like, oh, okay, I'll take you the mall, Ruby. But I'm gonna have to push the. The shoot, like, 45 minutes. I'm like, but I don't think it's that big of a deal. So I'm, like, driving to the mall. I've already reached out to the camera people. They're like, yeah, no problem. Dad's like, no problem. It's great. I reach out to you.

I was like, it's perfect.

You didn't reach out to me.

I put. So I put it in the group chat, and then your response was like. Like, you were so annoyed. Like, you were put. I was like, do you have. So I even called you, and I was like, I called you, actually. Oh, I don't remember. But anyways, I even called you, and I was like, it's just two hours. Like, so I think I. I was more, like, when I came home and the whole incident that you saw, it was like, I'm like, I'm like, baby, I didn't ask a lot out of you this week. And I. I. I'm. This has been important to me, but also, I want to, like, give you guys an opportunity to, like, create your brands. And, you know, we'll get the camera crews and everything in. I'll give you guys the assets. So for me, it was like, it felt like I was being disrespected in the sense that I'm like, I really showed up for you this week, and all I'm asking is two hours of your time. And I know I was running late, but the response was. Your response was like, you were just Annoyed that you had to be there anyway.

But you didn't tell me. I had to go out of my way to ask you about changing the time. So if this is what this is new information. I didn't know you told everyone else except for me. So then I had to call you and be like, hey, like, are we still doing this time? And you said, no, we're going to do this time time instead. And I was like, well, I committed to you two hours. And this was. It was frustrating because of the fact that recently at the beginning of the month, I had to get an entire new vocal coach to fit around your guys's schedule because you guys decided. Or actually, this was in December. You guys decided to change things around and whatever. Not. And I had to change vocal coaches, long story short, for. To fit your schedule. And then you end up switching it again. Right as I switched vocal coaches after you switched the time frame. I had to switch. I had to switch a time frame with my vocal coach because you guys. No, on the weekdays, because. Yes, because I got a new vocal coach, went out of my way so that it would work so we could. I would be there for Tuesdays, and I got a vocal coach that would do Mondays. And then literally less than two weeks later, you're like, sorry, slay, we're actually gonna do Mondays now instead. And I'm like, I just went out of my way to completely do a new ass, like, whole person, and, like, go. And like, yeah.

So you were feeling like your time.

Well, I was just. Yeah, And I was feeling like it's like, well, doesn't matter what I have going on because you guys have priority. It's like. And then it's also kind of frustrating because whenever things get stressy with the podcast, you guys are like, oh, well, do you guys even want to do this?

Do you guys want to do this?

You always say this. Don't even with me. You always like, do you guys even want to do this? I'm like, do you even want to do it? Because it's your podcast. You guys started it, so why are you pushing it on me? That's why I felt frustrated, because I felt like everything was like. Like just I had to rearrange all my stuff and, like, everything was being blamed.

What if it wasn't necessarily the podcast? But it was just like, for me, like, I said, it was more of like, I didn't ask for anything from you this whole week, and I, like, really supported you. And now I'm getting my. My head chewed off because I said, hey, can we push 45 minutes? And now you're like. You're just, like, so annoyed. And I. And now I understand because you're feeling like you don't have a lot of time, what time you had. But I just was like, bailey, I didn't see you all week. Like, you're with your boyfriend every night, or like, I just didn't. I don't even see you anymore, and I feel like I show up as much as I can to support you. So I feeling, like, very disrespected now. When I came home and you were wearing my pink Chanel bag, that's when I lost my shit. Okay? It wasn't a proud mom moment, but it did happen because it was another area where I was like, she didn't ask. And even if you did ask, it would be a hard pass. Like, hey.

Oh, the thing. No, I remember. Yeah. I remember watching you walk in.

I was like, okay, I had it for two weeks, and you didn't notice.

But here's the thing, dad. Why did you, like, lose your shit? And I was like, why did I lose my shit? And then I was like. It was because, for the. I finally gave up on you keeping your room clean. I was like, I don't care, but you won't even do your laundry. So then you come in and take some of my clothes half the time, and I'm like, okay, this is drawing the line now.

Like, I'm like, do get that one.

Yeah. I was like, you can't not do your laundry and then come take my clothes, and then I'll tell you. So then. Then when I was like, and now you're taking my Chanel bag, I was like, no. And it was, like, leading up to the fact that you were, like, annoyed that you even had to be there. It was just, like, the perfect. It was just. I just. It was a perfect storm.

Yep.

But me and dad, we were talking about today, and it was like, we want the biggest rule. I don't really care if you keep your room clean. I really don't. And for me, it's like, respect with everybody. I want you guys to feel respected, but in turn, I want to feel respected. It's not even the actual, like, act itself. It's like, if you feel disrespected, then the respect doesn't. Mutual ways. Right? And so it's like, how can you feel seen and heard and. And respected? And it's just like. That's why I was like, okay, well, why did you feel disrespected and you said, because I switched times into this, and it was like, almost like the camel that broke the. Or the straw back for you was because you had already rearranged all your stuff, and then all of a sudden, you were like, oh, now you're canceling on me again.

Yeah.

So now that makes sense. I think in most, like, collisions happen just from, like, miscommunication. Like, it's like, if Bailey, you're like, hey, I feel like. So you and I have talked about that. Like, fuck. All these times keep changing. All these things keep happening. Like, can we just be consistent? And then, like, I was. I remember feeling frustrated about that, like, back when we were trying to figure out the times. But then, like, it's like, yeah, just being able to communicate. Like, I think that most people don't communicate what they're truly feeling.

Yeah.

And so, like, it's like, mom's. Like, mom's feeling pissed because at the end of the day. Yes. Can we say I would probably bet thousands of dollars on. On a gambling chip. If it were to be family plans and Bailey being upset with the family plans, I could probably gamble on that and win a lot of money. So I understand that. And also at the same time, like, yeah, like, mom being on your team and then it feeling like you're not on her team, or you just feeling like, hey, you don't respect my time at the same time. So you're both sitting with a misunderstanding.

Yeah.

And it's like, heard, boom. Here's what happens. And then I'm like, how do we avoid. How do you avoid the boom and still get the, like, the reward from. You know what I mean? Like, not collide, but then be able to communicate through it and be like, okay, here's where I'm at.

Right.

And that requires a lot of maturity and a lot of different things in that. So, like, I get that that's probably impossible with people because I've yet to see anyone do it. So, like, including myself.

Right?

Yeah.

I think, though, for, like. For me, as, like, a parent, there are certain things where I'm like, hey, you don't have to like my answers, but you do have to respect them. And if you can respect somebody, even if you don't agree in it, you're like, fine. It is what it is. So, like, even, like, I'm using the purse. A dumb example, but an example that happened this week. It's like, hey, it's not even necessarily about the purse. It's like, I said, no, and you keep Challenging me, which means, like, I feel disrespected, right?

Yeah.

And so it's like, it's. I want to be, like, be able to be a parent and be like, hey, I know you don't agree with my reasoning, but it's a. It's solid. No. And not have to try to, like, explain myself.

But also it's not me trying to challenge. It's me trying to be like, have a reason why. Like, having a reason. Explaining also, like, that you say, this bag is important, but it was like, you didn't notice I had it for two weeks and even when I had it in front of you, so it was like, it's just like. I don't know, it was kind of.

Like back to you. Like, if you don't understand, if there's that respect there, you can be like, hey, Mom, I think that's really stupid and lame, and you have a gazillion bags. But, you know, you have to respect. My answer is no. You know, like, yeah. And like. And the funny thing is, is, like, I think it was just like, after, like, all a lot of small events that all of a sudden you're like, wow. And then it, like, for anybody, right? For anybody's going to have, like, you're super annoyed because you've been at work a lot this week. You're really tired. You're like, I really just want to hang out with my boyfriend. And then I am like, throw a wrench in your plan. Like, even if you didn't have big plans, you were like, I just wanted to hang out, you know?

Yeah. So that makes sense. I'm like, that's a good one. I'm like, I like that.

I feel like this just turned into a.

No, it just turned into a. Processing, processing, processing the collisions of the week. That's what we do on this podcast. But no, I. I agree. Like, I mean, it's interesting for me, like, seeing. Because, like, yeah, it's like, I've always. I've always thought, like, parents have the right away to just be like, hey, here's what is like. And you don't really question it. And, like, I think that most kids nowadays do. And, like, I question, like, I'll question Dad sometimes or I'll question you sometimes.

Like, right?

But I also, like, know, like, yeah, if you say, like, fuck, no. I'm like, okay, there's the line. Yeah, cross that shit. So I think it's like a mutual understanding of, like, the role you play and, like, knowing that, like, as the daughter, it's like, yeah, okay, mom, dad are gonna say some stupid ass shit sometimes, and it's gonna be like, I don't understand it, but okay. And I'm gonna do the same thing. Like, I'm gonna say stupid to the parents. They don't understand.

You grew up in, like, a super. I feel like. I feel like your mom was like.

I was like, nuts.

Like, right? And I. That's where I have a hard time because I'm like, I feel like I'm so chill. You're very, like, so chill. I'm like. In fact, to the point where I'm like, hey, I don't. It's not about the rules for me. It's about, like, helping you guys find your lane, helping you find your path. So I'm like, way less attached to, like, you have to clean your room and make your bed my way. I'm like. I'm kind of like, okay, is your room not stinky? And I've like, it might smell a.

Little like weed, but that's another.

But here's even that. I'm like, oh, is that your bong sitting out?

Yeah.

Could you please move that?

Are you me?

Like, most people would walk into their teenagers room. You're not, like, getting your mom would be, like, grounded for a week.

I wouldn't son for like a month, literally.

I was like, could we move the.

Bomb in the garage? Maybe not keep it in the house on Sunday morning. A couple weeks ago, I got a text from both mom and dad because my car reeked of weed. And I can't remember if it was mom or dad, but they both texted me and they're like, hey, just wanted to let you know, like, I was. Your car kind of smells, so I cracked the window for you. So.

Hey, sweetie. I cracked your window because it smelled like a bomb. That's what I see. I literally feel like I'm like, the most, like, chill easygoing because I'm like, I'm not gonna get mad at things that essentially don't matter, but when I feel disrespected, not heard, then I'm like, okay, I don't care.

Like, like, that is the hard piece of doing, like, being a chill parent and then also being, like, respected in the parent, I guess. Because being in a chill parent, you can almost have a friend dynamic.

Yeah.

Then like, a mom and daughter, mom and son dynamic.

Yeah.

And so, like, it's always more like sisters. Yeah. Y' all fight like sisters for sure.

Yeah.

100 don't even know, but you're Right. It's almost like, because I'm so chill. Like, you. Like, I've taken my daughter out for drinks before, like, on a vacation, and I'm like, so chill, and it's, like, fun. And so, yeah, there is this dynamic where it's like. Like, she loses the respect factor of, like, remembering. Like, oh, you're my parent. That's right. You know, so it's like, we can go out and have fun. I can let you pursue your music career. I don't. Like, I, like, see you as my kid, but almost like, I want to point you in the right direction that's right for you. So it's fun. And I love hanging out with my kids, and so. But then sometimes it bites me in the ass, because then I'm like, I'm gonna be a parent today. I' Shit. I have no authority.

Yep. Well, I explained to the guys at Next Gen Academy, too, though, like, the principle of, like, just having your chores done and, like, doing the simplest.

Yeah.

Like, I'm like, you understand this is your freedom we're playing with. Right?

Right.

You do your laundry. You clean your room. We're talking about the bare necessity of living, and you get whatever you want.

Yeah.

So why not do it?

Like, it's different.

It's like, I go to work to get paid. I go and do these chores to get freedom. Like, Right. It's the same concept, but kids will be like, oh, like, I just can't do it. I'm like, well, then you don't want to be.

Then you don't.

Yeah, it's different when someone's telling you to do it versus when you want to do it. Like, once we all move out, then we're like, oh, we actually want to do it because we want a nice, tidy, clean space and some organizing.

I'm really praying that that happens for you. But, you know, I might. It might. Because I was super, super messy. Like, now people. People see me down there, like, think I'm, like, the. I mean, pretty clean. But, like, you were really clean. I know, but when I was, like, in high school, I was. That I was a lot like Bailey. Like, I would do my makeup, and after I was done with my makeup brushes, I was like, oh, there's extra. And I just wipe it on the carpet.

Oh, God.

My mom would come in. She'd be like, what is this? And I was like, oh, I was cleaning my makeup brushes. She's like, on my carpet. And I was like, at least I'm not that bad. I was like, I was too lazy to go get an actual, like. Like, thing. But, like, I get it. And it wasn't until, like, I had my own space that I gained, like, this respect for having my own space and wanting to keep it clean. It became something that I, like, actually valued and cared about.

Yeah.

So I'm. I'm hoping that you come around and even for, like, if you say you move in with your boyfriend or whatever, got, like, he's gonna appreciate you keeping things, like, picked up.

Oh, yeah, he's a clean. He's.

So maybe he's gonna clean for you.

Organized as hell. He literally straight up asked me the other day. He was like, can I ask you a straight question? I was like, yeah. He's like, so, like, when we move in together, are you gonna be this messy? It's like, no. Like, it's different.

No, he's gonna be. He's gonna be the one that's like, immediately, Tuesday, it's your turn to clean this.

But I think it's true. Like, you can't. You can't appreciate every drop of water until you have to carry your own pail.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Like, and then when you're paying for.

It, too, you're like, well, yeah, exactly.

Like, this is your room that I'm living. Like, it's mine, but it's your room.

But it's like, when you're actually paying for it, you. You definitely are like, oh, I gotta keep this.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

I'm very interested to watch the, like, the saga of Bailey moving out. Very excited.

I know. This is what's so funny is, like, Bailey, you're, like, super grounded and mature. But also, I have. So sometimes I forget you're a teenager.

Yeah.

So sometimes when you have moments, I'm like, oh, yeah, she's only 16. She'll be 17 next month. But I'll be like, I think you are very mature. And people see that. And so same thing with Parker, too. And then I. You have a moment. I'm like, oh, yeah, you're 24. Oh, yeah, you're 17. You know what I mean? Like, okay. And almost. It's not like the standard goes down, but the realistic expectations is like, you guys are actually doing further ahead for your ages. Good job. You know, that's how I feel.

Like, I'm like, sometimes I feel like I'm doing great, and then sometimes I'm like, oh, shit.

Yeah.

Like, I am not doing.

But you know what? It's important to allow yourself, that grace to be like, you know what? I don't I'm not. I don't need to be. Or like, a 40 year old is.

Yeah.

Or you know what? Like, I know Bailey has this a lot too, and it's conflicting because it's like you see yourself and you see your career, but at the same time, you're kind of like, I want to be a teenager.

Yeah.

You know, I call it having the human experience. Like, even now, like, I think that moms and women and entrepreneurs, like, there's so much guilt in things. And I'm like, hey, why don't you just say you had a human moment? You know what I mean? Like, if you allow yourself that grace, you're not going to sit in a space of guilt. Do you guys ever feel guilty for doing something that you're like, oh, like, and it actually, like, holds you back from getting back on track?

Yep, I have that. I had that, like, with waking up at the wrong time. Like, yeah, like, I need to wake up earlier just because of more time in the day.

I'm gonna ask you a really direct question.

Yeah.

You guys both have these little vape pens that I don't even. Like, it's like, every hour, is it something that you feel guilty for or desire to quit or not care or. There's some days that you're like, I should really knock this shit off. Like, how does that.

Full honesty. I'm like, I feel. I mean, I feel guilty about it.

A little bit, right?

Yeah, yeah.

Nicotine, not V. I'm like, no, I feel a little bit bit guilty for it, for sure. But then I, like. I mean, for the most part, I don't care to, like, I don't know. Like, I run this story of, like, I'm under so much stress and I work so hard that, like, if that's my one weakness, like, whatever. Like, I'm like, I watch all these other entrepreneurs have their vices, and, like, they all, like, seem to be doing just fine. And so I'm like, oh, I'm fine. But then, yeah, like, when it comes into conversation, like, I want to be a good example for young guys, that's not really the best example to be putting out there. So, I mean, do I hide it? No. Like, I'm open about it, but do I openly just share about it? Absolutely not. Because, like, I don't want parents thinking, oh, I'm gonna tell your kid that.

Because it will reflect bad on your coaching and ability.

Yeah, it'll reflect bad on my business.

You don't feel bad about it, but they might. They Might judge you for.

Yes.

Also, you're like an adult ass. Whole male. Like. Like, what you do on your, like, free time's. What you do on your free time affect your coaching ability.

Agreed. Except for I had a kid.

This might affect your reach. Like, if that parent's like, oh, he's. He's just a big druggie. And you're like, you have no idea what I. You're judging me based off of seeing me vape a couple times. You have no idea the impact that I could actually make. That's their story.

And some of the parents do know. And, like. But, like, the worst thing that I ever had happen in the academy that I will not allow to happen ever again is I'm open about it in the sense of, like. I'm like, hey, I'm not saying to do this shit. I also run my own business. I live on my own. I pay for my own bills. Like, I'm on my own cadence. So, like, we are not the same. Remember that. Like, but at the same time, you cannot go use the excuse. Well. Because Coach Parker does.

Yeah.

I'm allowed to do it, right? No, no, no. That is not the case. And so I had that happen once in the academy, and I had to, like, I got on the next group call and I reamed everyone. I was like, we are not the same. Don't think we're the same. Like, blah, blah. And, like, I had to actually kick. I actually kicked that guy out because I was like, dude, I told you, like, if I'm gonna be open and honest about my worst shit and give you guys a space to do the same right, then you can't be. You use it against you parents saying, oh, this is why I do it. Because, yeah, no, like, I do not promote sex. I do not promote drugs. I do not promote any of the hookup culture. Like, I'm very traditional my shit. But, yes, I'm fucking human.

And, like, I think that's what's hard too. Like, I. There's. Sometimes I'll share stuff with dad, and I'm like, can I share this much, or will he use it against me later?

Yep.

Off of his own feeling guilty.

That's how I feel about you used to. At least about you guys was sharing.

I don't.

You should. That I network that I would use it against you later.

Yeah. Like, I used to feel like. Like. And I. Okay, wait, how do I explain this? Like, I used to feel like if I shared things with just like. Like, the fam. Then they would Know like if I share deeper things that I'm not. If I'm not 100 sure on where I stand with the feeling I'm feeling or the things I'm doing, I like and I shared them. I felt like they were used against me because I wasn't certain on them. And like that's or like even a characteristic of myself, I was certain on them.

Like give me an example.

Sexuality was a big one for a lot of years. Was like I was not sure on where I identified as along the spectrum of it. And so then that was used against me sometimes or that was used like in like digs or arguing arguments or even just like things like for me or like I less so that specific topic. That topic is not you. I'm just saying that's an example that was more dad. But I'm saying a general idea of that idea like, of like certain things, whether it's like music, whether it's mental health related, whether it's how I'm feeling. I think it's like a relation with a human being or whatever it is. But like that what I've learned from my own being is sometimes you. And this isn't like a blame this sometimes you share. Like as humans there's a limit to sharing too much information. And even I noticed that with doesn't matter if you guys are so close. Like there's some things like where you only should be green thing.

Yep.

There's only certain things. Certain things you should only share surface level. Like sexual assault stuff. I only share surface level because there's no need to share a deeper level. And plus I don't. You don't like that is for me to know and God to know. That's the only thing.

Right.

Or like other situations in life. So it's like there are no, it's just sometimes it's actually better and I feel like it's created a better dynamic for our relationship is me being certain only sharing the things I'm certain on. And then if I need help with things I'm uncertain on or sharing. Does that make sense?

Yeah, I. Well, what I can tell you for me is I'm always scared if. If I am this truthful with somebody, how are they going to receive it? Is it going to hurt them? Right. So for me it's a balance of if I share my whole truth, is it going to hurt them? And for me I'm like, okay, well then sometimes I. I not like there were some experiences with dad this last year where I was like, I have to share all this, and I am risking hurting him, but I have to share the whole truth.

Right?

Right. And then there's times that you're like, okay, I. Maybe I don't want to share the whole truth, and I'm just going to share part of the truth.

Right, Right.

And it's just scary. It's a vulnerable place to. To share the whole truth. Because then you're like, am I going to be judged whether it's from your parents, maybe it's from yourself. You're like, I can't believe I'm actually having these thoughts. Right. And I think in. In the end, it's like, it's. It can be like a scale. Like I said, a scary, vulnerable place. But back to, like, my topic with you, Parker, is like, it's like, you'll find. You might find your. Your vice, what you said. And it's. It's not a problem if it doesn't control you or consume you. And you're like, hey, like you said, I have all these other things where, like, I work out, I do this, I run. You know what I mean? So it's like, I can stress about this one little piece of my life, or I can give myself credit for 90% of the other shit that I'm doing pretty damn good right now.

Yeah.

So I see a lot. Like I said, I see a lot of like. Like women or people who harp on this 10 of. It's not perfection. And it actually causes them to not, like, move ahead in the game because they're like. They're focused on this 10. And you're like, why don't you give yourself credit for this? The all the other cool that you're doing.

Yeah. Cause then the 10 becomes your 90.

Yeah. It literally. Then you're like, oh, you're missing. You're missing the whole point. Do you want to say hi in the podcast, Isla? So this was an interesting podcast because my normally my. You want to say hi? Say hi. This is Isla. She is.

Why are you acting shy?

She's not shy now is. You want to have your YouTube channel.

She's my third baby girl. And this is an interesting podcast because normally we have a nanny in the afternoon, and my baby's napping, and I was like, you can leave early. And then my baby just happens to wake up early, but she's had a little bit of a cold, so Garrett's actually taking care of the baby right now. But things happen how they're supposed to happen, so maybe this was just supposed to be A dialogue between. Between us three. And we got. We got Isla, who is not shy at all. Don't let her fool you.

Yeah, she's.

Yep. She's very good at pretending to be shy.

I love.

Until the camera goes away for a second.

I don't remember if you were shy.

When you were not shy. Yeah, I loved the camera.

Yeah.

Still to this day, if I want to hit a vocal right, Thomas will start recording me with his.

Because the pressure.

Yes.

Okay.

I'm gonna post this on Instagram, so you better hit this. No, right. And bamboo.

Yeah. Pressure produces diamonds.

Yep.

I like it.

And that's. That's. That's pretty much it. Yeah. I think that, like, with all of it, it's just being able to exemplify what you're good at and then have forgiveness of what you screw up. Because at the end of the day, we're all trying to learn, Bailey, how.

How can I get you to screw up more? Not screw it more. How can I get you. How can I get you to just get yourself out there more? Like, with music? Like, what holds you back? Like, what holds you back?

I mean, shit, I saw where your.

Brain went with that, and I was.

Like, if you want to give me five bucks a post, I'll post seven times a day.

How would I pay five grand a month for your music then? Could you post every single day? What if. What if you didn't have that? You're 18 and mom and dad don't pay for that anymore, and you have to invest in your own music. You better believe you're going to be posting.

That is something you better believe you're.

Going to be posting.

You know, I'm in a weird stage of life right now, but, like, seriously.

If you were paying for the studio, say you still worked at the studio and you paid for it, would you. Would you stay pay for it, or would you not stay at the studio and just go build your own business?

You would not stay.

You wouldn't stay at the studio, but you'd still need money.

You wouldn't. Come on, five grand.

No, not that, but I would for, like. Like. Like, if I needed it for vocal recording, that's fair.

I could.

The hardest thing is for successful parents is letting their kids fail. The hardest thing for successful parents also is not wanting to give them money and help them. And you're the only rich parents I.

Know who are not giving their kids jack shit after they're 18, which is like, crazy, dude.

When I turned 18, my mom was like, hey, do you Want to move out? I'm like, no, I'm good. She's all cool. We got you an apartment, and we got you a job, and all you got to do is sign up for college. And I was like, I don't want to go to college. And they were like. They literally, like, had this master plan, and I got kicked out. And I was like, I can't afford it. And they're like, like, we'll pay half your rent for the first six months. And I was like, this sounds really well thought out.

Yep. I think it's a push that's needed. I don't know. I, like. I mean, I lived with you guys when I was 19, but even then.

Like, I look at. Like, for a second, I felt like dad. Like, I loved having time with you because we didn't get to raise you.

Yeah.

But I also felt like he. The more he gave you. That wasn't helping.

No. The more I got lazy as.

Yeah, you got, like, gear and people, and not to be rude. Not to be rude, but people. The office would be like, parker's kind of lazy. And I was like, he's not.

He's just.

He's too comfortable.

Yep.

So he's just kind of collecting a paycheck. And the funny thing is, I'm like, when you would tell me how much you're making, I'm like, you're only making, like, what was like, 2500amonth?

I'm like, nothing? Yeah.

Dude, that's got to be painful. Like, wouldn't it be? Like. And I'm sure you're not, like, happy with that.

No. And I had no drive to get anything more. And then I was like, well, Dad's paying for it, so.

Like, the best thing dad did was he fired you. And I was like, fired me?

And he took everything from me. He literally fired me. And he left me with the apartment. He left me with the car. And he said, figure it out or you're fucked and you'll be homeless.

I was like, but what happened? What happened then?

I figured it out.

You drop your ego, and it's really sucky, and then you start to pick up momentum. And then people your age are like, how'd you do that? And you're like, I had nothing. I had nothing to lose and everything to gain. Literally.

That was, like, the start of how I built everything else. Like, even when next gen, I had nothing. I was like, I have rent due in a week, and I got to figure this shit out, and Dad's not gonna bail me Out. So go. Okay. Here we go.

Yeah.

Like.

Yeah.

Well, when he finally put his, like, foot down, because I was like. I had to tell him. I was like, you're not. You can't save him.

Yep.

I was like, he won't. Like, he.

I actually don't talk dad much at all. I'm like. I literally just, like, barely talk to him. And I'm like, hey, dad, here's how I'm doing. And then when I have a problem, like, I told him that, like, on Saturday, I was like, oh, I got this problem with, like, coaching, energy, all that stuff. And then he comes today. What happened to your nail?

My nail broke. The tip of my nail broke. Look at it. It's not pointy. It broke.

You can leave bigger scars now.

Oh, my gosh.

Oh, that was a little dark. Sorry.

I was like, I don't want to know.

The other day, I said, they're sharp enough to.

Oh, my bad. My bad.

Well, I didn't need to hear that.

But even with dad, like, Dad's sitting here, and he's like, hey. So, like, he's trying to give me solutions on the problem. I already solved it. So I was like, oh, here I'm doing this, this, and this. And he's like, oh, so solved it.

But doesn't that feel good? Like, doesn't. You're like, I don't need you. I mean, there was even a place when I was. When I. Well, place when dad and I were first married. And there was so freeing to feel like I'm in this marriage because I want to be here, not because I need to. But that came off the wake of me believing in myself and launching my brand. Then it was like, I'm in this relationship because I want to be here. So it's just a powerful place to be. And I'm really excited for bailey to turn 18 because I know how powerful she is, and it's hard. It's hard for me to. It's hard for parents to feel like you're going to watch your kids fail, but what you're really doing is giving them a chance to succeed.

Yep.

All right. That felt like a good end.

Oh, that was a good one. That was a good one.

All right, guys, I think my nail.

Is in my ear.

Gross. Thanks for tuning in to another episode of the Real White House. We're just four crazy entrepreneurs. I say four because these guys are on their way, and we're just here to share our story and how we built it. And maybe you like us. Maybe you don't we don't care. We're just putting out there and see if it catches. We're just gonna throw it at the wall and see if it sticks.

And thank you, hoes, so much for watching. If you want to go look at my music.

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