Meet Garrett & Danielle | Date Your Wife | Ep 001

That's all just like smoothness. Geesh. Okay, so we're recording again. We're good to go. I think he needs to move that camera up, Daniel.

Oh, my God.

One more thing. Okay. This camera's head on with me. It's cutting off the top of my head.

He has a thing about his pocket. He's got a good side.

Like, move it up. Move up the angle a little bit. Can we do that? I want. You got to remember you were testing this. With you?

Yeah, with us.

Not a 6 foot 2, complete muscle bound surfing superstar. A God. Basically a demigod.

I know why you hired Daniel now.

Oh, okay. All right. It looks fantastic. It's perfect. Okay, for real, we're going this time. For real, for real. Daniel, I just did that to see. Just to fuck around with you. Okay. Okay. All right, here we go. We're recording. You're gonna have to edit over top of this. All right. And three, two, one. Off we go. My friends, my friends, it is with honor and it is with great excitement that I come to you here on the inaugural episode of date your wife, the podcast. This right here is my wife currently on video looking at herself like she's FaceTiming me. Can we talk about this as we get started into the show? Why it is that you actually look at yourself when you're FaceTiming me instead of looking at me?

I think it's a girl thing. Like, literally you'll be like. It's not like you're like, oh, look at me. You're like, you're like.

You got to get right up on that microphone. You can't be afraid of it. Yeah. Wow. Not that much. This show has just gone. This show has just gotten out of control already as my wife attempted to put the microphone in her mouth. We're not supposed to go to R rated already adult film before we get started here. Okay, come Back to the FaceTiming thing, though. Why do you. Why do you look at yourself?

Girls have a moral detailed eye and we are like, oh, is that my eyelash? Is that my nose? That's bad lighting. I'm gonna blame it on Instagram for blaming us to take so many fucking selfies.

Why does. Let's look at this also as we kind of dive into the show. Let me get to the point. Before we even start going off on a complete divergent path, I want you to notice a couple things here. You got me. I'm your host. I've got my co host, who's just as important, not more important, Than me, which is Danielle. Danielle's right. Oh, wrong camera angle. There she is. Danielle is right here. Danielle, let me talk about this show. Why are we doing this show? Date your wife. I bought this domain two years ago for almost $4,000.

You know what? It's funny, because the last couple years, I've been telling. Not telling. Well, I have been telling you. I've been like, you know, we need to do something together. You give me so much shit about not putting you on my Instagram, and I'm like, do you want to go on a model shoot with me?

I actually do these days.

I. Well, you have. You've stepped up your game. I mean, clearly, look at this suit we've got going on.

The suit looks fantastic. We like to thank David August for the great work he did there. Now, come back to you, though. Why? Why are we doing this show?

Well, I just feel like I enjoy watching videos of people. I like to see a more real side of them. I think The Instagram and YouTube used to be more real, more raw, more unedited, and this is kind of like live. So I feel like it's a good way for people to gain some perspective on us. And we've gone through a lot, so I just feel like this is, like, the next chapter. I've always felt like once we came together and got on the same page that things would 10x what both of us could do individually in our businesses. And I just knew that this is something that I think people will like.

Okay, so we came to this show with an intention. Like, a few years ago, I told Danielle that we were going to end up training together. We were going to end up doing events together, we were going to speak together. We're gonna do all kinds of fun things together. The problem was is that our life wasn't actually on the same page. As a couple, we struggle with a lot of the same topics and conversations that a lot of you may struggle with who are listening to this show, which is the idea of sex. Sex is my favorite one of the four topics we'll talk about on this show. Sex. The second one is the idea of money. Making money, keeping money, growing money. The idea of running businesses together. Third was the topic of children and parenting. And the fourth is that of just communication in general, being able to talk to one another. Now, let's go back to the beginning here. Danielle, we've been married. Tell them a little bit about our story, our history here, because you have a different version than I do. Let's start back with how you and I actually met and how you couldn't keep your eyes and hands off me in the beginning.

How we met. We're going that far back.

We're going that far back. I think we need to go that far back just to give people a sense of who we are. That's part of the purpose of this pilot show, is just give you an idea.

So let's go that far back.

Let's do it.

Let's do it.

I want to go that far back. Off you go.

Well, we met at a Mormon fireside in Orem, Utah, and I was 18. I moved. I basically didn't really have any plans for college. And it kind of went down like this. My parents were like, hey, do you want to go to college? And I was like, no, not really. And they're like, we think you should. We'll pay for your room and board. And I was like, I definitely was considering college. Thank you so much. So I went to college.

But at this point, you weren't considering anything to do with, like, hair school?

Well, I know I didn't. I was kind of like, I just graduated high school. I think, like, it's weird for people to think that an 18 year old is supposed to have it figured out. Like, I didn't see the point of going to college if I didn't know what I wanted to go to college for. Like, I thought, oh, I have a social scene here. Like, why would I go to college?

So.

But then when they offered to help room and board, I was like, okay, that sounds fun. So I went to college and I didn't know what I was going for. I was just doing generals. But I actually met Garrett at a Mormon fireside, which is basically like a. What is that? Like a seminar?

It's like going to church. It's like going to church on Sunday for, like, all the young people. They go to it and the young people try to hook up.

But when you're 18, it's literally has nothing to do with church. It's like sizing up. It's like just trying to figure out who's there, what they're wearing, who are the cute guys, who are the cute girls, like, whatever. So I met Garrett. He was coming out of the event, you could say, and he was just so. I just remember thinking you were super loud. Like, I don't know how to describe it. I just was like, he has crazy hair. I was like, he has really crazy hair. Like, bleached out, super spiky. Like, I don't even know Was it like. Was that during the Eminem phase?

No, this was just. This was just the fantastic hair phase. We got into bleaching our hair completely. I don't know why. I think it was a post divorce thing. Because what you're. The part you don't understand is that I, Danielle was a young lady, 18. I was 25 and divorced. I was done. My first marriage was over. My son, who's now almost 18, are 19 years old, was from that relationship. And then Danielle and I met. I'm 25, I'm divorced with it, with a child. And There's Danielle, who's 18, straight out of high school. So if you. If you don't know much about relationships, it's not exactly the foundation for a tremendous amount of success. Having a failed marriage, guy hooking up with a rookie in the game of dating Danielle. But, Danielle, let's get serious about this. 18. Why do you take me serious at 18?

I didn't take you seriously.

You didn't take me serious.

I literally remember just thinking, you got.

To talk on your microphone.

Okay, sorry.

There you go. You hear the difference there? Yeah, you gotta move that microphone. Don't be afraid. Just talk straight into the microphone.

I just remember thinking, well, my first impression was like, this guy is like super loud. And what is he? And like, who is he? Not what is he?

What is he? Is this even a guy? Is this like a fucking dog? Like, who is this guy? Okay, keep going.

I just remember you came up with some of your guy friends somehow. You got one of my roommates phone numbers.

I asked her for it.

Oh, that was smooth.

Yeah, it was a smooth move. I just asked her voice, give me your number.

Did you give that guy our number? Because, like, then if you gave. If a girl gave her number, it was basically like you gave the whole group out your number. That's how it worked.

I was. I knew what I was doing. I was inadvertently trying to find you.

I don't even know if you saw me. Like, I'm actually the type of person that I'm not, like, in a group, I kind of hide back. I'm like the person you notice later. So I. That's kind of how my first impression of Garrett, and that's how we met. And then he actually came over. I swear. You just randomly showed up at my apartment.

I did. I just showed up with my cousin. My cousin had actually claimed you.

That's weird.

My cousin had said you were. You know, I'm going to. I'm gonna take this one. Referencing you he dibs.

He's like, dibs.

Yeah, he dibs. He dibs you. And we were, you know, at that point, I was like, whoa, are we gonna have a relationship or not? And, you know, we'd known each other a whole 12 seconds. I saw that you were beautiful, and I hadn't even noticed you before because you were quiet and you were in the background, and I was loud. This is why you were attracted to me. This is why I was attracted to you. And then we continue to date for the next two years. We break up, like, nine times. So ultimately, why did you marry me?

I don't think I took it serious, though, to be honest with you. Like, I remember. This is a funny story. I remember I had been dating Garrett for probably three or four weeks, and I'm like, he's fun. There's something about him. Like, at first, I didn't think. I literally didn't think I'd ever go out with you more than once, and then I ended up really liking you. I'm like, he's fun. He's down to earth. He's super cool. And I remember I had a girl came up to me in my apartment complex, and she's like, you're dating Garrett White? And I'm like, yeah. And she's like, oh, he's such a nice guy. He's such a great guy. Has he told you about his son? And I was like, oh, no, that's the wrong. No, I'm dating a different Garrett White. Thank you so much. I'm 18.

I had not said anything about my son at the time. Continue.

So I'm like, no, no, no. She's like, yeah, Garrett White. And I swear that bitch was saying that, like, just to really dagger it in. Like, she knew, like, maybe she had a crush on you. I don't know.

Could have been.

Could have been. But I was like, oh. And I didn't know her that well, so I was like, oh, okay, I'm gonna. We'll see. Whatever. Let's hear this ghost.

Okay, so. So then what happens? I mean, we end. Let's. Let's fast forward. Let's fast forward this story.

Okay, the fast forward.

Fast forward the story. We get married.

We get married.

So why do you decide to marry.

Me hanging like that? I have to tell.

Oh, did you tell the rest of the story? All right, well, finish. Finish a story about the baby show.

Up at his apartment. I didn't know how to bring it up. I casually am like, you have a son? And he's like, yeah, And I was like, oh, my God. But I literally was like, you know what? This. This is just a casual relationship. He's fun, but I'm def. Well, we're not getting married. I just think he's fun. And then fast forward. We dated for two years. Bam, got married.

Bam, just like that. Married. Bam. Bam, just like that. We got married. Now, here's the deal. We broke up a whole bunch when we were together, but we couldn't get away from the natural attraction between one another. I think it's because we're both crazy. And inside of it, we were attracted like crazy to the crazy inside of one another. Now, we did not exactly get off on a strong foot here. We're gonna touch on each one of these topics. Sex. We're then going to touch on the topic of money, and we're going to talk about the topic of parenting and kids. And then we're going to talk about the topic of communication. But we're just going to brush across them because we've got 20 minutes to get these done. So let's talk about this first idea of sex, though, because you're young. I'm divorced. Coming into marriage.

That's our first topic.

Yeah, but we're not going to go deep into it. We're just going to talk about the frame that you came from with the topic of sex. Like, you're a young girl, young lady, young woman. I don't even know how to fucking describe it. You're 20 years old. We get married, and, you know, here we are, it's time to have sex. Because in the culture we came from, which is very common to traditional Christian culture, we were raised to not have sex until you got married. So we wait, we get married. But talk to me about this whole sex topic as a general idea of what it's been for you. And then we're gonna talk about how it's not like, hey, yo, I really like this position. That's fantastic. Thanks, babe. I like when you do that. I'm not talking about that. I'm like, just from the time you were 20 and we first got married to now you're 34, almost 35. Like, describe the importance of that sexual topic and why it's part of one of the four topics we'll be discussing here on the show.

God, why do you just throw me on the mask?

I threw you right under the sex bus. You're right under the bus with the big word sex on the side of it. You went right under the wheels. Go.

I will say that Sex was, like, a hard topic for us for a while because there was a phase in our relationship where we were not connected, connecting. And I know from a woman's perspective, if you're not attracted to your man, you don't want to have sex. And I think that men can look at women differently, and they. They're cool to have sex. They want sex more often. And for women, it's such a vulnerable state. And then also being raised Mormon, not. We didn't have sex before we got married. Like, there were so many factors that kind of played. Played into the whole conversation of sex. And I don't know specifically what you want me to share.

I think you just shared it. Here's the flat matter. When we got married, we had two stories. She thought sex was gonna be great. It wasn't. I thought sex.

I didn't know that foreplay was gonna be better than sex. Like, nobody told me that.

It's true. Well, that's what happens when you're. I mean, maybe that actually speaks to the quality of a man you're married to. I'm just very good at foreplay and not so good at sex. I know.

I guess nobody. I don't know. Like, I didn't know.

Now, sex. Sex is a topic. Was something that almost ended our relationship. It was something that we had a very, very intense time trying to navigate the waters. We went to sex therapy. We've had a lot of conversations. Been together 14 years, married 15 years, coming up here. This year, 2018, be year number 15. We're actually planning on getting pregnant again.

Why do you keep announcing it?

Well, just putting it out to the universe. Putting it out of the universe. It's not that we. I don't know why we. Why is it that a guy can say we are getting pregnant when nothing about a baby being a me will be happening?

I mean, you put in some effort.

I put in some effort. It's not. It's not as much effort as you're gonna put in. But you want to have another baby?

You.

I'm asking you. I know. I want to have another baby. I'm just asking you. I mean, I'm not having any babies.

No, no, no. I. I love kids. I love my kids. I love babies. I don't love being pregnant. I don't have bad pregnancies, but I just. I don't think any girl loves being pregnant. Like, there's always this fear of, like, I hope that goes back.

Like what? Like, it goes back. Like. Oh, you hope your body goes back? Oh, I thought you meant you hope the baby goes back in. I was like, what the hell? You just said you love babies.

Like, you're, like, looking down at the.

End and you're like, oh, you're wondering if the body's gonna go back.

You're like, I can't see shit.

Okay, it's gone. You're ready to do this again, though?

I don't know.

We have a special trip to Cabo. Plan just to make a baby.

Well, we'll see.

What do you mean, we'll see? Are you gonna get pregnant? Yes or no?

I'll do my best.

You get pregnant?

You got pregnant.

You okay?

Are your swimmers gonna swing?

Listen, my guys are ready to swim any day.

You're getting older. I don't know.

Listen, they're ready to swim. I'm not gonna lie. They're ready to swim. But the question is, you're fully ready for this.

It's like ripping off a band aid. You just have to do it.

You just have to do it. But you told me that you actually like pushing babies out.

Oh, yeah, I know.

Talk about this for a second, because this will move us into our parenting. We'll just skip. We'll skip money. We'll come back to that in a second. Let's go to our second. So one of our first topics we're diving into here in a big way is going to be the topic of sex. Now, there are some shows out there with couples, and they get on. They talk about positions, and you should have sex every day for 365 days. We're not going to talk really about a lot of the. We're not going to talk a lot about that. We're going to talk more about the psychology, although I'm certain we'll get into some of the tactics. Will you be willing to get into.

The tactics of sex if we pop this puppy open?

So if you have a glass of wine or a glass of champagne, you'll talk about sex in a more deep weather.

I brought this bottle of champagne.

Was this so that we could talk about sex tonight? That you brought this champagne?

I brought this bottle of champagne because this is. This is our first show.

It is our first show, and I.

Wanted to kick it off.

You've had no dinner. If you drink one glass of champagne, you're gonna ruin the rest of the show. You should probably just hold onto that for a second. We'll come back to that towards the end of the show. Okay, cool. So babies. You like pushing babies out of your body? You said you didn't actually say it on the show, but I've heard you say this before. There's a high with this.

There is this euphoric high. Literally, like in the hospital. I know you would think, not necessarily pushing. Pushing is. It's not that fun. But like, when the baby comes out and you're not, like, for me, it's just like, wow, I did it. I made a baby. Like, it's not. It's like most, most women.

I did it. I made a baby.

I'm just gonna. Can I be really honest and.

No, I'd like you to lie. Yes. Tell the truth.

I don't know if some women feel like this or if they don't.

Okay.

Like, it's. I love my babies. I connect more to my babies when they're like three months old or six weeks old in the hospital. I'm like, it's a little stranger.

Oh.

Like, it kind of weirds me out. Like, I'm not like, instantly. I'm. I'm not one of those girls. It's like, oh, like, I'm not right at the beginning.

You're not? No. So the baby's on your belly. You're right afterwards, you're like, yeah, it's kind of weird. Shit.

I have a baby. Like, I don't.

I don't know. It's like I pass out when the.

Babies are born this high. Like, I did it. I don't know how to describe it. The only thing I could describe it, like, when I've had kids, when I was talking to you because Garrett's done like tons of ultra marathons. Triathlons. What? World championship Ironman, all this stuff. And I'm like, you know when you're so tired and you just, you literally have like, given it your all and you just are like, I can't do anymore. And then you just, you go, you make it even further and you finish the race. I was like, that is what I could describe, like, having a baby. It's like. Except for it's a nine month race. So you think your triathlon's fun. Good luck, buddy. Good luck.

It's like a nine month. It's like a nine month Ironman. It's like a nine month ultra. You run for nine months and then you spend nine months recovering.

Yeah.

So we're going to have another baby. That is the intention, at least. I mean, I bought a stroller and a baby carrier for Christmas. And yet we're not even pregnant yet. How'd you feel about this? You were actually Sick that day.

I got the flu. Really bad cold and flu over the holidays, so it was rough.

So you. But you weren't very. You weren't. Like, when I gave this to you, I was expecting a much bigger response, but I didn't get. I actually got a response where I was like, she. Maybe I shouldn't have done this.

I know. I. You and gifts. Sometimes I'm like, oh. Like, I don't know how to respond, but I was really sick.

Like, you don't like the gift or like, I just am a shitty gift giver?

No, Like, I. I sometimes don't know how to respond. Like, part of me is like, he's so sweet. He bought me, like, the Rachel Zoe stroller. Like, that's, like, top of the line.

Like, it's like the Lamborghini of strollers.

I envision myself putting. Pushing that stroller. It's so amazing. And then I'm like, what if. What if it doesn't work?

It's like, it's a possibility.

But you know what? I just know it's gonna work. I know that sounds weird, but literally, like, the week. The week I try to get pregnant, I've been pregnant three times. I miscarried one, and we have two kids. The week the. Literally, I'm like, we should try. I get pregnant. So I guess we're meant to have babies. So, I mean, I'm not that old. I'm 34.

Nope, not that old.

I feel like it's not gonna be tough.

You're okay with giving your age out, but most women are not okay with this. Why are you okay with this?

I'm only 34. I think that's pretty young.

But even Girls in their 30s sometimes get freaked out about this and they don't talk about their age. But you don't seem to have a problem with it. Why?

I actually feel more comfortable in my 30s than I did in my 20s. Like, more confident, more sexy, More like, more me. I feel like me. So I'm cool with saying I'm 34. I don't think that's very old.

Okay, so let's. Let's look at this idea. Then we have making babies sex. We have growing babies, being pregnant, and then we have actually raising children. It's gonna be one of our topics, too, with raising kids. And in the parenting conversation, talk a little bit about why this is a crucial conversation for you as a mother, as a wife, this idea of parenting. We're not gonna dive deep into it, though. We'll be sharing our philosophies here on the show. But what are your thoughts here?

One of the biggest topics that I could probably share with being a mom is like the mommy guilt. And I don't care if you're a working mom or you're not a working mom, there's always so much pressure to do things 100% perfect. But who's to say what is 100% perfect? And I don't know, that's like something for me. Like I just, I'm always feeling like I could be a better mom and a better parent.

But.

But at the same time, I also know leading by example is super important. And I just try to be patient and lead by example and show love. I mean, there's a lot of things in parenting where I'm like, my kids don't listen very well. They're such little shits. They have no respect for this stuff around the house. But I'm like, oh, it's cause I do too much for them, you know what I mean? So there's stuff like that I'm constantly beating myself up about. But in the end my kids know I love them and I try to lead by example, but I don't know, that's like one area where I'm like, I don't claim to be a pro. I just, I'm doing the best I can.

We have, we have struggled with this guy. I mean, obviously, like I have A son who's 19, almost 19, didn't have a relationship with him until he was 16. Now we have a, we're starting to have a very good relationship. We got our 10 year old, we got our 6 year old and we have the one who may be in the oven.

Do you think it would be a boy or a girl?

I think it's a girl because of the ring. The ring told us that it was a girl back in the day, which we'll share about the ring, not today, we'll share about another time. All right, so let's continue down this path of parenting. Overall, we're not going to be here to give you tons of strategies. So much we're going to share from our experiences, the things we fucked up, the things we know don't work at all, and then some of the things that we've seen work because there's a lot of brilliant things inside of the way that our children operate and the way that our kids experience themselves on a day to day basis. I mean, my 10 year old will stand up on a stage with a microphone and speak in front of 2000 people and not even hesitate. And my 18 year old created an entire presentation, stood up on stage in front of 700 strangers and smashed it in 15 minutes. Our kids are driven to do things that are different. My mom made a comment to me one time. She said, I think you might be screwing your kids up. And I said, I appreciate that, but I think that all parents screw their kids up perfectly. How you feel about this? That all parents screw up their kids perfectly?

I think if a kid ends up even remotely screwed up based on whoever decides what is screwed up, like, the parents always take on a lot of that guilt. And I think if you kind of go into it, like thinking like, I'm doing the best I can, then you kind of let your kids, you teach your kids how to take accountability and then you don't feel guilty. And guilt's a crazy thing.

It sounds like guilt and parenting is going to be your number one topic.

I know.

Can we count on this?

It's tough. I think it's tough to be a working mom. And even when I'm not working and I cut back and I'm with my kids, there's just. It's hard for me. Like, I'm not gonna lie, it's hard. I think there. I don't know if men feel it as much, but I just always feel like I'm like, I could be better.

You know, men for sure feel it. Businessmen feel this like crazy.

But you know what I'll say with women, we have like this internal clock. Like, like I'll be at work and I'll literally be like, it's three o', clock, the kids are out of school. And like, it's just like. I notice a lot of women do this, whereas men could be just like focused on work. Whereas women, if we have kids, I just feel like we always have this like internal clock. And so it's hard to 100%. Like, I feel like men can be like, clock in, clock out, clock in, clock out. And women are always like multitaskers and they just balancing a lot of things, things and emotions in our brains.

This is 100% accurate. I would say that men can completely do this. Some men may not be able to, but I am one of those men that can unplug. I have to consciously think about plugging in during the day. Otherwise it's just like, hey, I'll see you at six o'. Clock. So we're going to talk about parenting. We're going to talk about sex, which obviously leads to parenting. I guess if you're not using protection. And in our case, our attempting to have baby number three, which would be number four for me, but three for me and Danielle. So we're going to talk about sex, we're going to talk about parenting. We're also going to talk about money. Now, you and I were not raised at all in the same game with the topic of money. I was raised in a situation with almost nothing and there was no idea that I could make more than 50, 60,000 a year. I was not raised by entrepreneurs or salespeople. My mom did not work. My dad was a full time traveling salesman, but worked on salary, not commission and was gone all the time. I had no real topic of money. When Danielle met me, my idea of going out big time was going to Chili's.

Well, I mean, we lived in a college town, so Chili's. Chili's was nice.

Yeah. But even when we got older, like, the idea, like, I didn't go to a restaurant with a server until I was a senior in high school.

I don't think I realized how you were raised and your mindset around money until, honestly, we were married because we met in college. And when you, when you meet in college, you're like, hey, do you want to have a bowl of cereal tonight? I'm like, yeah, I want to have a bowl of cereal.

Yeah. I mean, that's college. That's what you do in college.

Burritos and cereal, Arby's and get five for five.

Yeah, I do. Yes. Arby's. Five for five was a, was how we survived our dating lives. Okay, cool. So you were raised in a very different situation economically.

I was raised, like, I would say I was like upper to middle class. My parents are both entrepreneurs and my mom had a finer taste for things. I would say, like, I always felt like we had nice home, nice clothes, but we weren't like overly, overly wealthy, I would say, but very well taken care of. But it was interesting. I, it wasn't like I remember growing up and not. My parents didn't just like, give me money or give me things. I remember thinking my dad was like, I beg dad, can I have 30 bucks? And he's like, how are you going to work for 30 bucks? Like, they definitely. My parents weren't raised with a lot and they kind of produced well for themselves by working. And they're both very hard workers. And so when I would, when I'd ask my parents for money, even if they had it, they'd say, well, Danielle, how do you want to work for that 30 bucks. I'm like, dad, give me 30 bucks. You know, my mom was a little more generous. She was like, oh, Dave, give her some money and it's fine. But I definitely was taught that if you want to earn money, you have to work. My parents, I remember a crucial conversation in high school and my mom said to me, you can either work or you can be a part of sports. And I said, well, if I'm a part of sports, will you pay me to be a part of sports?

She said, no, will you pay me. Will you pay me to be a professional athlete?

Of course.

I'm laughing. Yet this is what our daughters did.

No, because I was just thinking like, well, I want some spending money, you know what I mean? And if you're gonna make me work on top of being in sports and I can pick one or the other, well, that's a silly question. Of course I'm gonna work. So I was, I mean, I wasn't really that athletic, so it wasn't really that big of a choice.

I think you're more athletic than you give yourself permission.

No, I think so. I think later as an adult when I had kids and I actually had to work out and things like that to lose the baby weight, I was like, wow, this is fun. I like, I like doing this. Physical activities.

Were you just talking like the girl on Schitt's Creek?

Yeah, that's a few. My point of me saying this was basically like, I've had a job since I was 14. So although we were raised in a nice, like middle to upper class, I've always had a job. Like, I've always worked. And my parents would always tell me, you're our little worker bee. And I don't, I don't know why that is. I just like keeping busy. I like working and that's how I am.

So we come from very different places economically. Like, my vision for prosperity was not. I mean, I thought I was going to be a professional football player. I didn't work out and ended up finnum College and then kind of washed out through the arena leagues. And then here I was trying to figure stuff out. So I didn't actually. I got inspired by money, driven by what I had seen Danielle's experience. Experience be with how she was raised. You know, we were raised in a small, little tiny house. And I show up to the house. So her very first time to meet her parents in this 10, 11,000 square foot home, and I'm like, holy shit. You know, Mercedes in the driveway, lived.

In A modest home.

Lived in a modest 11,000 square foot house with like, you know, Mercedes all over the driveway. I came from a place that was, you know, used vehicles that were 10 years old in a small neighborhood with. In high school. We lived in a double manufactured home that had like two pieces they rolled into off of a trailer. I remember him dropping it off the trailer.

When I met you, you were like, I want a manufactured home and a Durango. And I was like, what's a Durango?

It's a sweet ass car. The Dodge Durango.

I didn't know what a Dodge Durango was.

Well, I did and it was amazing. The Dodge Durango and the double wide manufactured house was my vision for success. How did you decide to marry me knowing that that was my vision for success?

You know what's so funny? It's a good thing I fell in love.

I had bleached out hair, I wore. I wore Jinko's pants.

I fell in love with you before I really saw. Like I. Like I said, we lived in college town. So how we went out and what you always like took me out though is one thing I'll say I loved about you is like when you'd have guys like ask you out and they're like, hey, do you wanna like meet at a Starbucks and I might buy you a cup of coffee? Like, you were like, hey, can I take you out to dinner? And I was like, oh, he's a nice guy. You would get the door for me every time we'd go out. Like, you had this very like gentleman's way about you. Which regardless if you have money or not, like you had this class about you. And so like I said, it was a good thing that I kind of fell in love with you before I realized what I was really stepping into. Cause I remember we had been dating for almost a year. We went to your family's house in this tiny Utah called Brigham City. And I am not kidding you, it was like Christmas Eve night. We jumped in the back of a pickup truck, sat on some hay barrels and rode to Walmart. I was like, oh my God. Like, I didn't.

You loved it?

I was like, you loved it. No, I was like, I mean, who.

Doesn'T want to get into a pickup truck with hay bales and ride to Walmart?

I felt like at midnight, Schitt's Creek.

You were at Schitt's Creek. You were at Garrett Schitt's. Garrett White Schitt Street.

I know, but we were like trucking along and I was freezing. Yeah. And I. Cause that was a moment. Like, you have moments in life where.

You'Re like, oh, you're.

Were you having a moment where I was like.

You were like, what the hell am I doing?

That was the moment.

You had a moment. Are we already married, though?

No, but we were.

We were dating and I was. You still chose in after we went to Walmart in a goddamn pickup truck with hay bales.

It's a good at midnight. I know.

To go Christmas shopping.

Yeah, that's the.

We went Christmas shopping.

Shopping. I was like, it's Christmas Eve and we're riding on hay barrels. Why is your Christmas shopping not done? And why are we on hay barrels?

You know why?

It was a moment.

I went to go buy sweats for everyone. Do you remember this? You remember when I went and bought sweats for everybody? Come on, don't deny it. I went and bought sweats for everybody.

I saw beneath those hay barrels.

You saw beneath them? What was underneath them?

I saw through them. Not beneath them.

Oh, you saw through them. I was like, what did you see beneath him? Like some dead people.

Like, what did you see through the hay barrels?

You saw through them? The hay barrels or hay bales?

I saw you.

Okay.

I saw you under the hay barrels.

You saw me under the hay barrels? Okay. Congratulations. All right, so I saw you. We've hit 32 minutes in our show, and my wife is starting to fall off the cliff. We're going to go to our last topic here, which is communication. Now, you and I, from the beginning, have had pretty powerful communication as a couple. We'd sit around and talk. We always talked really well.

That's why I. Like I said, like, I connected with you is because we always had good communication. And I'm actually not. I'm not one to talk, which was weird for me. Like, sure, I'm cool to just, like, sit. And you always wanted to talk. And I think I was able to connect with you and that's why I liked you, is because I was like, wow, this guy. Actually, at the time, I didn't know a connecting man. I just was like, this guy is cool, you know? And I think that our communication really sealed the deal in the beginning because we really got to know each other. Just hanging out and talking and just being in that space.

So we have communication. Although may have started out as a good topic for us, we're going to kind of paint. We're going to paint some truth here for you. As we kind of wrap up today's episode, the Only reason that this show would make any sense is if we had completely fucked up being married for a long time. Like, the idea of marriage and being together almost came to a culmination of divorce multiple times to the point of Danielle building her entire hair empire and launching it so that she could economically leave me. And me making a series of very stupid decisions from all kinds of chaotic ways of operating as a husband. I had no idea how to be the man in a relationship. I didn't know how to be a married man. And we were fast approaching the idea of just tapping out, considering dating other people, being done as a couple. And so you can hear all of what we're sharing right now, and we've kind of gone back and giving a little backdrop on it. But this show is actually born out of a lot of pain. And part of our desire here in sharing the show is to bring, for the very first time to the table the power of what it is to be a couple in rebuilding and restoring your relationship. And so, Danielle, let's kind of end on this final thought. You know, it's been a number of years since you've. Since you've been willing to. I mean, I talked to you about being a speaker with me and training with me and sharing ideas and concepts and being here, part of a show, even like this. I got this domain two years ago, dateyourwife.com and here we are two years later, sharing and speaking and being in this place. Why do you feel it's actually part like. It's like you want to do this. It's not like I'm forcing you to do this. Why are you knowing that? We're gonna talk about some really sensitive shit, knowing over every weekend show, we're gonna bring up, like, painful things. We're gonna talk about fun things. We're gonna talk about exciting things. We're gonna talk about things that worked, things that didn't work. Why are you ultimately ready at this point in your world, in our relationship to actually go online and actually talk about the shit show that became an amazing relationship?

I think that finally I'm feeling, like, some stability in our relationship. I think there were so many years where I. I think there was always a lot of love between us, but we are so different that it. I just didn't know if it was gonna work out. Like, we were both fighting, and we both wanted it to work out, but I didn't. I don't know. It's hard to hash the past if you're not in a good space. Like, it's hard to bring up painful things when you haven't fully healed from those things. And I feel, like I said, I feel like our relationship is in a. In a. Probably the best space it's been in since we've been married. Even stronger. Like, there's a lot of respect with one another. There's a lot of love. There's a lot of, like, hey, we're gonna fight, we're gonna argue, but that doesn't mean, like, it. I'm out. This doesn't mean, like, my. Our marriage is over. Like, it just means, like, we figure out our differences and we move on. So I think that this will bring a lot of strength to couples because we're not claiming to be experts. We're not claiming to know it all work. We're just wanting to share our experiences because I think that people don't put the work into great things. They're not willing. They'll put work into work and businesses and that kind of thing, but they're so quick to call it quits. And I just think that if you can build something for yourself and you're super successful, why couldn't you do that with somebody else? It could be ten times more powerful.

So we're going to bring a topic to the table that is going to be sensitive at times. It's going to be intense, going to be funny. We're going to interact with you guys as listeners and watchers and viewers of this particular or those who are even reading the text version.

Do you remember. Sorry to cut you off. Do you remember, like, four years ago when we moved to California? And like I said, we've always had good communication. And I remember we were sitting in a car, and we always have been very playful, and, like, I was like, man, if you could just record us, like, this shit would be so funny. Like, not even that, but it was like, we were real. We were funny. And I was like. Like, I think I felt it back then, like, four years ago. And it's just, like, been taunting me. And. And like I said, now we're in a good space where I'm like, I think this is gonna be good.

I know it's gonna be good. It's gonna be fantastic. Do you want. Do you want to open up that bottle of champagne?

I was going to.

As our final. As our final kind of hoorah here for the show. So, like, dateyourwife.com as I'm opening up this, one of the keys that Danielle and I found to putting our relationship back Together. And this is not just a show for those who may feel like your relationship is about to burn to the ground, although it's for you, too. And it may not be for your relationship could be on fire right now, and you just want to make it more intense and take it to a different level.

Maybe you just think we're a good.

Time or you just enjoy listening to your show and making fun of us on itunes. I don't know. Either way, like, inside of whatever drives you to be here. The one thing that I'm going to tell you is that dating is what restored our relationship. Like, we were not in a good place at all. Knocking on the door of just being done and getting divorced and going on regular weekly date nights, which is what inspired this entire game. And every week, we're going to talk about a specific date night, give you some options, give you some examples. We're going to talk about some topics to discuss. We're going to have weekly discussions as an entire community here around date your wife. We're going to discuss this about why dating is so important. We're going to give activities and stretches and the network that we're going to build around this to allow couples to find fire. And as I open up this champagne, we've got this, like, very, very technical piece here. I'm going to. Did you want to do it? I've already done it. It's already done.

I was like, just so. I was worried it was gonna, like, hit one of these.

No, I couldn't shoot it. That's why I have the paper towel holding this up. Okay, so we've got this champagne that we' to actually. Cheers. The first inaugural episode. This episode is far more than just the launch or the pilot of this.

Is like, cheers to the next chapter.

Talk about this, though. Talk about two things. Dating.

No.

And why dating changed our world. Because we started dating even when we were in a complete shit show.

Like, this sounds really creepy, but I remember thinking, not creepy. It's probably not creepy.

It's actually kind of weird.

I remember when our relationship wasn't good, I kept. I'm a very visionary person. And I kept, like, seeing insights to who we could become and, like, what we could do together. And it was far stronger than what we could do alone. And it sounds strange, but a lot of times when I was like, fuck it, I'm out. Like, I was like, no. Like, you know, you've seen. You've seen where this can go. You've seen who can help. You've seen what it can do for you. You've seen what it can do for your family.

No, And I. I think many times you actually. You actually were clearer.

I think I.

You were clearer about that than I was. I was. I was quitting faster than you were a lot of times. Like, your vision you're speaking of, this actually was true, that you seem to, like, see this from a different place than I did.

Yeah, I think I just. I couldn't give up. Like, I'm like, you didn't give up and I didn't give up. And. But. But even then, I was like, I. I know what I saw. I know what I felt like. I'm not. No, Like, I was like, no, like this. I know where this goes. We're gonna make it happen. So cheers.

Cheers.

Cheers. Cheers to the next chat.

Cheers to. We can't see your face from that camera angle.

I know this mic.

You need to, like, slide over.

I needed to, like, put it on her face. You do?

Well, yeah, but kind of turn her over here a little bit so I can see it. So little cheers, cheers. Little kiss, kiss. And we're excited to be with you guys every single week here. As we roll out this show, we realize it's going to get better as we go. It's the first time Danielle and I have done a show together. Up until last year, we had never spoke on stage together. This is kind of my thing. And anytime that you have a host and co host, you know, Danielle and I get along really, really well. But learning the new studio format and all the rest is going to be a learning process. We're excited for you to grow with us. We're excited to have you part of this show and part of this journey with us in date your wife, the podcast, as well as all of the resources available at date you wife. I just burped from the. I just burped from the champagne. Did you hear that?

Oh, gee.

It was coming. I barely even had neither. There's so much fucking. There's so much, like, carbonation inside the champagne. Anyways, thank you so much for being here for episode number one. And we're gonna have more details, more ideas coming at this as we continue to roll forward. We're gonna roll into our first topic here in episode. Episode number two, which is going to be the topic of sex.

How often are we sharing this podcast?

Once a week, Every single week. Next week, we're talking about sex.

Okay. Okay.

And the week after that, we're gonna talk about money.

So this was just like our intern.

This is just like, hey, how are ya?

Okay.

Welcome to the show.

Welcome to the show.

Welcome to the show. Any final thoughts you have for everybody? Maybe the ladies listening to the show?

The final note that I would leave you guys with is this. This will be a really good podcast for both male and females. Like, I think we're gonna really touch base and be able to. Like, Garrett's very masculine. I'm very feminine. But, like, then you're very in touch with your feelings, and I can be very masculine. And, like, it's. I think that a lot of people will be able to relate to this, and if not, it'll be a good time.

There you go. That brings us to the end and conclusion of episode number one of our pilot here at the Date your wife podcast. Thanks so much for being here, my friends, and we look forward to seeing you next week as we dive into our first of four topics, that of sex. The week after that, money. The week after that, we move into parenting. And the week after that, we move into communication. Welcome and thank you so much for being here in the first episode.