Unfiltered Marriage Talk: Raising Adult Kids, Dog Chaos & Why Connection Matters

Hello and welcome to another episode of the Date youe Wife podcast. I am here with my co host, my husband, my partner in crime, and we do not have a guest on today. But sometimes I like doing the ones with just you and I. Sometimes they get spicy. Sometimes they go nowhere. Sometimes they go somewhere.

They always go somewhere.

What do you want to talk about?

Everything. So we're going to talk about the fact that we have a third dog and a child who's facing the consequences of buying a dog.

No, she wants. She got a. My daughter just turned 18 and moved out to her own apartment and decided, literally, we came home from vacation and she had a dog. Mind you, she told me today, she goes, why did I get a dog? I don't even like dogs. I was like, I also thought it was weird. You can barely take care of yourself. I wanted her to get an apartment because I wanted her to, like, be responsible and, like, have to, like, do laundry and basic adulting.

And she took more upon herself to get a dog that is very high energy. A Pitbull lab mix. High energy has to run everywhere. This dog has already broken two mirrors on the suv.

Yeah.

Or two windows broke out of her crate and opened the doors to the deck. She's a mafia dog.

I'm like, if you're gonna get a dog, like, get like a freaking. A Yorkie. Like, I got that. Poops are as big as a Tootsie Roll. Come on.

Yeah, a little tiny one. She got a beast from the east. We had a pit bull before with that last six months.

It was horrible. I was like, who?

So aggressive. Not in like an attacking. Except for the time.

No, they just have so much energy. Like, they're. Everyone's like, they're so sweet. I'm like, they are, but they are true pit bulls. Like, they do have that flat kind of kill switch. And like, it's like the lights go out and you're like, whoa.

We saw that happen in our living room with. When our. When our pitbull Zeus attacked the bunny rabbit in your mom's lap.

We saved it, though. We saved the bunny. No animals were harmed during this movement.

Almost harmed now. Not to mention our weenie dogs that devoured the guinea pigs.

Oh, man. We should stop. Why do we bring more chaos into our lives? Like, I know.

I try to stop it.

People that don't have kids and have one dog and act like it's stressful. I'm like, you're cute.

That's our other son right now.

Yeah. Yeah. Then they went and Got a puppy. It was Easter yesterday and we had four dogs over here. And like my sister was in town and my, like, we had like 20 people here, a boat, four dogs, the Easter bunny, some guinea pigs.

Maybe my son's packing in and out a crate into the house to put the dog in because I sent a message. Everybody said, listen, you bring dogs to my house on Easter, they're not my problem. You need to bring crates and crate these dogs. I don't want to hear them. I don't want nothing. That didn't work. They brought crates. I'm watching pack in and out the crate and I look at him just laughing. I was like, remember when me and, me and Carter told you at the gym don't get a dog?

Yeah.

For like three straight months, we told you this. You see that sorrow on your face, that heaviness in your life right now? Yeah. You did this to yourself.

I will say Coco, because I've got a little three pound Yorkie. She's like, not like, she's so easy. So much easier than a big dog to take care of. And she's cuddly and she's cute. And again, if she poops, her poops are the size.

How much is that dog?

Like five grand.

Five grand for a little dog?

Yeah.

Are the little dogs more expensive than the big dogs?

Well, yeah, but I went to like a Yorkie breeder and had her like flown in like Bailey just went to the random local pet yard and picked out a pit bull.

Carter told me that he knows a guy that, that does like 5 to 600,000amonth in dogs. Breeding dogs, small dogs. He also told me that he has to jerk the dog off to get the sperm out.

No.

So what he says then he asked Parker if Parker would take that job on for 500,000amonth.

Got weird.

I don't know if this is accurate. I doubt it's accurate, but maybe I don't know that the dogs. Because the way they crossbreed these dogs, they have to get the semen out of the dog. And then they artificially inseminate the other dogs. They say they don't have them actually like having sex. I didn't know this Carter could be making all this up. I've not verified anything. I've not asked Chat GPT. I'm gonna ask chatgpt right now.

Can we change the subject?

Well, it's a curious topic that nobody wants to know except for me right now, because I'm wondering if this is accurate or not. I mean, I can't imagine that was, like, something here. We're gonna find out. We're gonna do the voice and we're gonna find out. Here we go. Hey, Chad. Jpt. My. My friend Carter, chat GPT. My friend Carter told me that there are certain breeding of dogs where the breeder has to actually masturbate the dog to get the semen out so they can artificially inseminate the female dogs. Is this accurate or is he full of.

Hey, yeah, that's actually true in certain breeding practices my guidelines won't let me talk about.

So informational. I needed to know that.

Okay, chat GBG just verified this is true.

So what My next question is, what kind of weirdo is doing this?

Carter's not a liar. He lives by the code. I just verified it with chatgpt. She can't even go into detail because it's an erotically topical something explains a.

Lot about dog breeders.

Do you know that I. Isla, we sit and watch our daughter, like, get on Voice ChatGPT. And she'll sit for like 40 minutes and just have total conversation with ChatGPT. ChatGPT knows her nicknames now, like what to call her. Isla Bear and does all the things I've sat here watching yelling at ChatGPT because Chad GPT couldn't say her name right. Kept calling her Isla.

Isla. I don't know.

Isla.

You know what? Maybe that's good. Versus like, putting them like in front of an iPad for hours. You could be like, here, have a conversation with ChatGPT on the drive, you know, and then they feel like they have a little buddy.

Isn't it funny? We just verified that's actually a real thing.

That's gross.

I mean, I don't know why I'm believing ChatGPT, but I. I'm believing ChatGPT. I don't know if this. This is going to be a problem for connection with people.

Yeah, the whole. What?

Well, where it's going. The entire porn industry is now turning their advertising dollars and all of their tech dollars. Like the porn. Porn industry is what innovated online technology. They're one of the biggest promoters and pushers of getting content online back 30 years. 40 years ago, they were the heavy first investors. All the guys that were pushing the tech and making the innovations happen were for por. But now if porn so readily available everywhere that they've started shifting their gears. And now a bunch of guys I know in the tech world and the AI world have said there's this huge influx of billions of dollars now being pushed into the innovation of sex bots. That's a real thing, AI Sex bots.

It's just the world is getting weird.

It's getting dark as shit.

Right?

Well, imagine this. You got lonely dudes, okay? There's this whole.

Probably bring them to functions. Like, you know how you can, like, hire yourself, like a hot date.

Escorts.

Yeah. You know, Is that what they're called?

Hookers?

So now it'll be acceptable. You'll be like, oh, he has the. He has the Rolls Royce model of the. The sex bot.

I only get one thought when I think about the sex bot. It's not appropriate. But I'm gonna tell you anyways.

I don't know if I want to hear it.

I think about this, man. You're like, do you know how much trust you have to have to put your penis into a machine? What if your ex wife or girlfriend figured out how to backcode this shit and just. I see it every time. Like. Like a guillotine that just goes gone.

Yeah.

You know, Lorena Baba is. Yeah, you do?

Yes. Tell us if she, like, cut her guy's thing off and, like.

And then what did she do with it?

Jar or something?

No, she ran down the street with it and then threw it in the bushes.

Oh, what didn't you do when he was sleeping too?

I don't know. I don't know. He probably was. He had done something. I don't know. He did, but that's intense. So there's a whole world, though. The reason I bring this up is because one of the greatest issues that marriages face when sex is dysfunctional is the drive to pornography by men. And my new sales teams that came on board, I'm training them on how to sell and deal with our guys who buy the Warrior book, which are doing like 50, 75 a day right now. So we're having all these amazing conversations with men. And the crazy part that shifted for us in our advertising was it used to always be you could ma. You could advertise in men for last 13 years about having more sex and making more money, get paid, get laid. These were the two topics, right? The guys were driven by. There's been a shift in the last six to nine months in our advertising spend. And what we're seeing is the ads that are now being responded to the most, like 10 to 1, where we're getting conversions and guys stepping into. Wake Up Warrior is coming through. Lonely, lost, scared and alone. This is the feeling.

But isn't that, like, the premise of wake where you're Trying to wake men up and have purpose in their life for sure.

But the hook used to be sex and money. Now it's like shifting into dudes feeling desperately alone. Theodore Roosevelt once said, the credit belongs to the man. Who was actually in the arena, Whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause. The man in the arena. Seven thousand men, one city, one day, one mission. May 17, 2025, at the Maverick Center Aren in Salt Lake City, Utah. You are the man in the arena. You wake up every day to the weight of the trifecta. Your wife, your kids, and your business. You fight battles most men don't understand. The war for your body, staying strong, energized and unbreakable while stress and time, that works against you. The war for your being, finding the certainty in God, your purpose, and the reason for you to keep pushing forward. The war for balance, navigating marriage and sex and intimacy and fatherhood while trying not to lose yourself in the process. Process. The war for business. Making money, keeping money, growing money and leading your empire while everything else tries to pull you under. This isn't a game. This is war. And that desperately alone, though, is what. It's a cesspool, right? So if I'm not having sex in marriage, then I end up. I have to solve it somewhere. So, like, I was teaching my guys and they didn't believe me, my new sales team, and I was like, listen, let me tell you how it's going to go down. I got on the phones, I showed them, I said, if you talk to a guy who's in a dysfunctional sexual relationship with his wife, he 100% is going to porn. Like, 100% of the time. The problem with the porn loop for dudes, I don't know how it is for women, but for guys, particularly when you're married, it creates this weird trap of guilt and shame, but also, at the same time, easy release to the point that you'll actually stop wanting to have sex with your wife, even if you could. Because there's.

Because it's easier.

Not just because it's easier, because there's not anything now.

There's too much guilt towards your wife.

Well, there was times in our marriage where, like, I actually didn't want to have sex, even though it would come up because I didn't know how long it was going to be before we had sex again. So it was almost like, easier to not have sex knowing I could because I didn't know how long I was going to be in the desert with it. And I'm not blaming you for that. That was 100% how I showed up. But that was my thought process. Like, porn never says no, and you always get off. And interesting enough, you can actually feel not weird energy of not being wanted.

So why would you be in a relationship like that or be married?

This explains the question that we've all been asking, which is, I don't know. So you got dudes are getting divorced and women are divorcing men, and marriages are ending. And then you have on top of this, an entire group of dudes who. Of men and women who are staying together who are miserable.

I think, though, that it comes down to people being, like, scared to have the conversation of what their needs are. We did that podcast last week where. With the meet and Diane. No, no, no, no.

Oh, Matt. And no, not Angie.

Whitney.

Whitney. Yeah, Whitney.

And they were, like, talking about how they. It's more of, like, negotiating instead of, like, like, fighting. They, like, negotiate what their needs are. So it's like. I think a lot of times it's. It can be scary to say, hey, this is what I need in a relationship, and then vice versa. Okay, well, then this is what I need. So I think it's like, people, it's like. And he brought up another I was listening to podcast this morning on my. On my run. He's like, we've been raised in where it's like, people think it's like, it's not going to be, like, the 1950s, and it's not going to be this big feminist movement. So essentially, the people that are married right now, we're rewriting the married game. We're rewriting what it looks like to not just, like, stay married like our parents did, then have the kids go off, then realize we hate each other and then get divorced or whatever. Or it's like, I'm married, and I actually want to be happily married or at least have connection with my partner, you know, so that it's not just like, you're in it because you're stuck. And, like, that's kind of how our parents were, like, literally, like, like, half the time. Like, I know my parents app and love each other.

Why are they married?

But, yeah, but you're like. But, like, literally, do you guys actually care for one another? Like, like, is this relationship working? Not to say. Not to say there's not some love there. Like, over time, you're gonna have love for a person. You grow a Family with them. You're gonna have love for this person. But at what cost are you willing to create your relationship and your marriage to be something more than just sticking it out?

You know, it's rough too, because if you look at the. If you look at my mom and your mom, very hypercritical of their men. Like, very hypercritical. Both very aggressive women, but both were women your mom played. Went into the professional world. Entrepreneurism on her own. My mom didn't. My mom, like, taught for a little bit and then most of them just stayed home. My mom should have been the producer, My dad should have been the stay at home dad.

But our parents were both raised in the environment of the mom stays home and cooks and cleans and does that, and then she supports her man, and then she becomes resentful because maybe that's not her calling.

Well, I was watching this meme on Instagram, like just a few days ago, and it was a girl, she was like in her mid-20s, late 20s, and she's like, let me talk about how the modern game with man works. And I was like, all right, well, I'll listen. Let me see what you have to say. She goes, men go work. Then men expect their women to stay home to take care of the children and take care of the home and still work and pay half the bills. This is literally becoming how it is too. But it's weird. It's like this past expectation. Dudes still think you should take care of all the kids, you should take care of my sexual needs, and you should get a job and you should pay half the bills, and I'm just gonna work.

I think that women put that on themselves, though. It comes with, like, the whole feminist movement because they're like, okay, well, I want to do the mom thing, but, oh, there's power to the working woman and whatnot. And so then they take on all these responsibilities themselves. I mean, it's. And you know, and I kind of do that to myself. But the reality is, I say this all the time on podcasts. I'm like, if. I don't think I could be a full time stay at home mom. Like, it's. It's very stressful. It's hard. There's a lot of, like, guilt involved in it. And you're trying to, like, create these little humans, and then if they don't do it your way, then there's more guilt. But it's not really your fault because they're their own little humans. Like, it's hard to be a mom. Like our. Our. I don't think I could be a full time mom.

That's why websites like Ashley Madison exist.

What is that?

You don't know what actually Madison is. Let's see what Chat GPT has say I know what it is. Let's see what chat I think I've heard. What are you gonna find out? Chad's gonna tell you. Chad's already told us that there are breeders of jerk dogs.

Is that a cheating website for.

You're gonna find out.

Stay at home moms. What is this?

Hey Chat chatgpt. Can you share a little bit of an explanation of what Ashley Madison the website is and why women become desperate Housewives at times and may use the site?

Ashley Madison is a website designed for people seeking extramarital affairs. It markets itself as a platform for discreet encounters. As for why some women might turn to it, it's often related to feelings of dissatisfaction in their marriages like emotional neglect or boredom. It's important to remember that every situation is unique and complex.

Thank you Chad GPT for being on the podcast.

You're welcome. Happy to be here. Thanks for having me.

We lied. We do have a guest today.

Come back to you with a few more questions. Just to verify things for Danielle on the show and the rest of our listeners. Thank you again.

Sounds great. I'm here whenever you need me.

Thanks babe.

No problem babe.

Anytime she call her babe.

You can't call.

I told John give me an AI bot. She's gonna welcome me every morning when I come down.

Hey babe.

She's gonna tell me everything I wanna hear while you're sleeping. Yeah, she'll come up with my mom.

You're the man. Kill it today.

Exactly.

We appreciate everything you do for our family. Smack you on the ass on the way out.

Smacking on the ass out to them. Now go build go's glutes. Smack.

By the way, I'll be naked and waiting for you in the bedroom when you get home with your wife.

So Ashley Madison is an entire website built for desperate housewives. I don't think I understood that reality. Meaning you would see women in their 30s and 40s with wealthy men, kids, families. And they were stay at home moms. And that's what they did. And they did the tennis and they did the mimosas by 10 o' clock in the morning and they were doing things and they would have affairs.

I think it's because there's no purpose.

There'S no problem notice.

I mean. I mean like kids. Don't get me wrong, like Kids are a purpose, but it's got to be. I always say you have to have a purpose beyond just your children. Your children are their own human beings. They are not yours. They are gifts from God that you got blessed with. And so it's like. Like, I think women should have something out. I'm not saying they have to have work, but they have to have something purpose. A purpose beyond their husband and kids. Yes, exactly. Where it's like, something that they are passionate about doing that does. I don't care if they make money at it or not. It's a charity, whatever it is. I just think that we can't put all of our purpose on our children, and that can be dangerous and lead to depression.

Well, you. You've brought this up just in the last, like, couple months, too, because, like, you don't have to push, but you want to push on the hair side. And the word that kept coming up for you was, I'm so fucking bored.

I'm not like, yes. I mean, I do get bored sometimes. Sometimes I'm like, my life's great. And then sometimes I'm like, ah. I love projects, though. Like, I love, like, being like, okay, this year, this is what we're gonna tackle. Like, I have to have an end goal. Like, I just. I've always been that way. And I don't. Yeah. I don't know. Like.

Well, imagine. Imagine being a situation you're in. You and I. I got 100 extra pounds on body. I'm a fat guy, got man tits. I'm working all the time. I'm not really emotionally showing up for you. I'm not seeing you.

Are you paying the bills?

We're paying the bills for sure.

Okay.

Right. We live here. Everything's paid for. You got American Express card you can use and do whatever you want. They're. They're fairly big. They bounce more than yours.

Okay.

And I don't see you. I don't spend time with you. I don't connect with you. How many people have we had on the show that were in those environments and had affairs and. Or got divorced?

I would just confront you. I'd be like, hey, like, this is not what I expect of you. I expect more of you. I don't need these man titties. And I. You need to get your ass in the gym.

That's a clip. Don't need these man titties. Said every woman on the planet.

You know what, though? I. Here's the. Here's the thing.

There's nothing attractive about man Titties.

But here's the thing. I know I could produce on my own. There's a lot of women who. They are genuinely, like, scared, like, they cannot produce. And that could be a very vulnerable place where you tolerate a lot, including man titties, when you.

So the mantra is, if you do not have the capacity to produce your way out of a situation, you will tolerate hairy back, man titty.

But you know what? That's one of the reasons why I started my brand. Because at the time, I mean, I'd always worked and made decent money doing hair, and it was a creative outlet for me, but I didn't really, like, turn into kind of more of a producer mindset until, like, I didn't know if we were going to be together. And I remember you had had an emotional affair and we were losing everything. And I remember thinking, like, I will never be in this situation again. And. And so that pushed me to, like, think as more than just the artist and try to be the entrepreneur, because I just didn't want to be in a situation in my marriage where I felt stuck. And there are a lot of women, unfortunately, that are like, I. Not only do they. They feel stuck, but they don't. They don't actually have the desire to go out and produce. So they tolerate a lot because they're like, hey, my life's good. I can go on trips and I can go shopping and I can do all these things. And they don't. They could go out and produce, but they would rather just kind of have a okay relationship and live the lifestyle. And we know a lot of people that are like that, and they don't. It's not like they don't. Like, they seem happy, but what. They're looking for a B in their relationship. They're. They're living a B. I'm looking for an A in my relationship. So for me, it's like, I know the standard I expect on myself in work, with my children, with you in a relationship. And I feel like when you've had moments of, like, you know, you reach the A status, are you. Why would you drop down to a B status? And so when you have that, like, standard and you know what it's like to have a good marriage and you know what it's like to be connected, you're not going to tolerate any less in your life.

Well, what's hard, too, is the fact that what's an A status becomes a B status over time.

We know a lot of B couples.

But what I'm saying Is what we consider an A now. Give it a few years and a status. If you stay, the same becomes evolved.

Yeah.

So no matter where it is, every paradise or every peak that you climb to has newness to it. And then when it's not new, it becomes normal. When it's normal, it gets dumb.

Mm.

Like, even. Even. Look at, like, the topic of sex, the topic of money, these two things. If you don't have great sex in your marriage, you. The only thing you're thinking of is, like, just for a guy, you're like, man, if I can just have some sex, that would be great. If you don't have money, you're like, if I could just get enough to pay my bills, Then you start having regular sex, and you have money to pay your bills, and it's not enough. Now it has to be, like, connected sex, or it has to be wild sex, or it's gotta be fun sex. It can't just be orgasm. And with money, it's like, more money, more creation, more opportunity, more than what we currently have. Like, as hard as people imagine, we feel like we took a step down coming into the environment we are now to go up.

Yeah.

It's hard for people to imagine that when they'll go to our world, they're like, that's not really a step down. I was like, in our world, to us, with what we're used to and what we're accustomed to and what we are creating, we knew we had to take a little bit of a step down to go higher.

And also, both of us kind of got to this plateau with our businesses and, like, just where we were at. And it's scary. Like, you get to a plateau sometimes you have to kind of start over. And I feel like in a lot of ways, this year, you and I, like, I mean, I let go my entire teams. Just sold my salon. I'm getting ready to, like, possibly open, like, a franchise. Like, we had to literally, where. Where we were at only got us there.

Yep.

Until where we need to go, we have to almost not take a step down, but you got to, like, pump the brakes for a minute to accelerate.

Well, business with business, for example, goes from 0 to 3 million, has certain needs. That business from 3 to 8 to 10 million has different needs. The business from 10 to 15 to 18 million has different needs. The business From 18 million to 25 to 30 million has different needs. And those are fundamentally different companies. So even though you might be selling some of the same products, the business has to be broken and remade. Because the systems and process at the 1 to 3 will not support the third 25 to 40.

Right.

Like you can't. It's not just one plus one. Marriage is no different. You start to grow. This is a challenge. You're growth minded. I'm growth minded. It is very difficult for growth minded people to stay together. Really Much easier to have a doormat with a growth minded person. Those people at least can go because one person's always leading. When you have two people that are growing, this means that in principle and theory, you and I are having to recreate a connection with each other for who we've become every three to six months.

I'd say that's pretty normal for couples. I think the biggest challenge that we have is because we're a growth mindset. Like sometimes you'll do something and it'll remind me of Garrett three years ago, who is different from Garrett today, you know, and so it's hard to like, when you're evolving like that, to not get like triggered on past shit.

Yeah. Well, again, you're trapping people into who they were and this happens. This is easier to do with people you don't see very often. If you don't see somebody for three, five years, the only point of reference you have is for who they were five years ago. So you don't actually know who they are right now, but your experiences, you've grown and then you meet someone that you haven't seen in five years and that your last point of reference is that when you knew that person, like high school friends.

Yeah.

Is like senior year, high school football. And that's all, remember change.

You're like, I haven't seen you for five years and you still look the exact same, exact same.

Doing the same shit the same way, the same patterns, the same routines.

Especially, like, for me, like, it's like, I feel like I take very good care of myself and I like always joke around. I'm like, I have fake lashes, I have fake lips, I have fake hair, I have fake boobs. I'm like, I've got, I've got a lot of fake, fake things going on. I do the Botox, I do the fillers. I'm like, my hair sucks. If I, if you took off all of this and I didn't take care of myself and then you put on another £40 on me, I would not look like this.

No.

I would not look like this.

No.

And so it's interesting that like when, like, I don't know, for some people, they just don't take care of themselves. And so the body's naturally going to like, look older and. And like, it is what it is.

Well, and it's also the energy too. Like you can get around people where I. What's been interesting for me recently, the last six months has been the fact that I have been around people who I looked up to as mentors and people who were like, top of their game. But I've not spent any time with these people in the last five to seven years. Then I get to spend time with them behind closed doors or I get to spend time with them at events recently. And it's like there's two awarenesses. One, the power of who I am now and two, the reality of where they're not right. Like, they're still crushing. But in my world, with what I do, I'm like, I'd pass you. And I know it quickly. Like in conversation with someone, you can tell. That's why it's so difficult, why the programs inside a warrior work so well with levels. Because you have to be around people that you respect. And in marriage, you and I didn't have a lot of respect for each other for a while. We had love, we had desire to be together, I think. But there wasn't respect.

I think there wasn't respect. There wasn't trust either, which is like.

I don't know if you can have respect without trust. I don't know if you can have trust without respect. Let's ask ChatGPT.

Okay.

Let's see what she has to say about this. I think she's got an opinion on this trust. Let's see. She. Let's find out. Hey, ChatGPT. In a monogamous relationship with two people who are choosing to be together. Oh, there you are. Hi, ChatGPT. So in a monogamous relationship, when two people are choosing to be together, what role does the game of respect and trust play in keeping that marriage together? Knowing that love is not going to be enough.

Hey. Respect and trust are crucial in a monogamous relationship. They create a solid foundation that goes beyond just love. When both partners respect each other, they feel valued and heard, which helps build trust. Trust ensures you can rely on each other, making the relationship more resilient through challenges.

There you go.

She's full of lots of answers.

I thought you'd say she's full of shit.

She's full of shit. I've told her that she's very responsible. You know, an interesting statistic the guys own up. OpenAI chatgpt. They said they spend millions and millions of dollars are lost every month from people saying thank you and please to ChatGPT.

Millions of dollars are lost, lost in.

Bandwidth time because people are treating a chatgpt like a human. So they're saying things like, thank you so much, please could you do this instead of just telling it to do things. Like I do it, I talk to it like I'm talking to a person.

So why would they lose money?

Because it takes data and it takes time in order to process that request.

I think that it's a smart. It's smart though. Like it likes when you talk nice to it.

Does it like when you talk dirty? Have you tried talking dirty Chat gbt?

I just rarely upgraded to chat GPT. I had the free version. I finally was like, okay, it's sticking around. I'll pay the 20 bucks a month.

Have you tried talking dirty to her?

I. I don't try to do that.

You want to try?

No. You're gonna violate your robot. She's not going to trust you.

Hey, I have possibly an appropriate question for you. Can my wife talk dirty to you?

It's important to keep things respectful and appropriate. If you have any relationship related questions or need advice, I'm here to help.

So does that mean that she can't talk dirty to you?

Right. It's best to keep our conversations focused on helpful topics. If there's anything else you'd like to discuss, I'm here.

Did you hear her tone got real stern?

Did your tone get more stern with me on this question?

I just want to make sure we're on the same page. Let me know if there's anything specific you'd like to talk about.

Thanks, Chat. Well, she's not hearing that dirty talk.

That's good. And I know you're not gonna go dirty talk with your chat.

No, there's like all kinds of filters on it. We've already tried it. Like shuts you down. They're like, no, no, no. Terms of violation. Da da da.

It's good to know that you've tested that.

We were just sitting around a bunch of guys.

We a bunch of guys.

We're testing limits at chat gp, see how far she'd go. Talking wise. She shuts it down.

She doesn't come out of the phone.

And that's weird. No, that's probably. You're going to probably push a button on the side of your phone. We get like a 3D dimensional person. We already doing audio conversations that just text, so it's working. So listen I think at the end of this, for this shorter episode, I think the real topic here that we've been discussing throughout the whole thing is this ability for men and women to grow together. Like, it requires a Herculean effort and it is so much easier to just quit.

I really think, though, like, this generation of marriages, you talk to people who have been married 10, 15, 20 years. Like, I really feel like we're redefining what a relationship looks like. It's a modern day and age where the woman might be working, but then she also is a sport. And the guy can't just go out and hunt and come home and expect to have sex. He like. And the old. The crazy thing is we're just evolving as humans.

Yeah.

And although you might have your role where you go up, make money, pat yourself on the back, get, have sex like you still want words of affirmation and validation and praise and love and connection. And the same goes for the woman. She wants to feel like her needs are being met and validated. And it all comes down to communication. And I think that we naturally have, like, the feminine and the masculine roles. And I think, like, for me, like, I. I really do like being a mom, but I also enjoy work and having a passion and purpose. And so it's literally rewriting what a healthy relationship looks like instead of being stuck in this little box. And then, like I said, being married for 20 years and being like, oh, fucking get a trophy.

And.

And you know, I did it. But you're not, like, truthfully connected. Like, I have to believe that there's. There's something more to being married than just like, having a partner for life.

There we go. So marriage requires work. And some of that work, gentlemen, is getting rid of the man titties. So. And that's just not. It's not negotiable. Nothing attractive about it. When you can slap your wife with.

Your tits, is that how we're ending the show is the worst.

All right, my friends, listen. To bring this shorter episode to a close. You got. We had a guest. ChatGPT was here with us. We appreciate you being here. Also, as always, we get huge feedback every single week. Everywhere we travel, people talk to us about the date. You WI podcast because you have been willing to share it up with other couples. Listen. We talk about topics here that are, well, not appropriate for ChatGPT at times, and they open up the dialogue of conversation. The number of hundreds of couples we found who have been able to find deep, powerful conversation with each other, which led to transformation came from listening to the show and being willing to listen to us go through our shit here, talking about hard topics that give you permission to do the same. So your best way you can support the show is share this show up with other couples and individuals that you know could get value from real, raw conversations. On top is also we have the man in the Arena Tour event coming up. If you haven't checked that out, maninarinatour.com this event itself is a men's only conference happening May 17th in Salt Lake City, Utah at the Maverick Center. We'd love to have you there. Thousands of men come together dressed in black man in arena T shirts, ready to rock it out and get committed to being better husbands, better fathers, better in their physical bodies, connected to God and make him more money. So you want to close the show?

That's it. All right, you guys, you heard it. If you found value in this, go back and watch some of the other episodes. I feel like this was kind of a shorter one. This was just like a sneak peek of just having real conversations inside of being married. We've been married for 21 years. We have five kids, 14 dogs and three gerbils. No, we only have. We do have five kids. So. But we've both been navigating, you know, having that. That a marriage, whatever it looks like. Whatever it looks like for you, while also pursuing family, success, business and purpose. So go back, listen to some of our other shows, share them up with some of your friends, and we'll see you guys on another episode of the Date youe Write podcast.